Sometimes, a little complaining is necessary.
(Submitted by Jeremiah in Little Rock, Arkansas.)
Martyr complex much?
July 19th, 2007 · 79 comments
FILED UNDER: Arkansas · cleaning · dishes · dogs · martyr complex · money · roommates · shit
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79 responses so far ↓
#1
Dave Ward
Good thing Josh doesn’t complain.
Jul 19, 2007 at 11:43 pm rating: 90
#2
Ingrid
That is an awful lot of not complaining, but it seems like he has the roommates from hell.
Jul 20, 2007 at 12:28 am rating: 90
#3
Dave/Bellingham
If only not complaining were an Olympic event.
But seriously those roommates sound f’ing awful. Why the hell weren’t you complaining before, Josh? Especially the pee thing, yikes.
Jul 20, 2007 at 12:48 am rating: 90
#4
Rachel
It sounds to me like even with the defecating and chewing, the puppies are more well-behaved than the roommates.
Jul 20, 2007 at 1:02 am rating: 90
#5
tellos
…. ouch … I think he should complain a bit..though… it might help…
Jul 20, 2007 at 1:11 am rating: 90
#6
Jason G.
Let me just fix that up for you right quick, Jeremiah:
There! That’s better. And also one of the kinder ways I can think of to explain how a man could grow up to be less continent than PUPPIES.
Jul 20, 2007 at 1:19 am rating: 90
#7
the anatomist
hmmm…
When you get a puppy you expect a little damage. It goes with the territory. Maybe Josh should move his $10,000 rug until the puppies are housetrained?
Josh should also kick out his lameass rooomies and get some new ones in before he goes mental with a chainsaw or something.
Jul 20, 2007 at 1:36 am rating: 90
#8
caitlin
It sounds like Josh is well-off enough to live without roomies? Maybe a $10,000 rug could be exchanged for, say, his own apartment?
Jul 20, 2007 at 2:19 am rating: 90
#9
P
I think this passive-aggressive note should go on a website for incompetent human beings. I also agree with Caitlin though. I also think I should stop before this turns into passive aggressive comment
Jul 20, 2007 at 2:22 am rating: 90
#10
..........................................
Those people should be kicked out. It’s so terrible that I wonder if the note is made up so as to get on this blog?
Jul 20, 2007 at 2:56 am rating: 90
#11
Nattie
His housemates do ALL THAT, and he’s worried about a bit of dog shit? Methinks he needs to get his priorities sorted.
Jul 20, 2007 at 3:34 am rating: 90
#12
Andy
$10,000 rug, hire maids to clean. Numerous puppies. Wild parties with white-trash likelies. Random sex in random beds.
You know what? Is Paris Hilton one of the offending roomies? Oooooh!
Jul 20, 2007 at 3:56 am rating: 90
#13
Simster
I am pretty sure that it is the accumulation of ‘not complaining’ such as the extensive list above that results in eventual mass homicide.
If I were the room mates, I would take this as a sign that he is about to snap and start planning to move out before they wake up to him weilding a long, pointy knife and screaming “I’M NOT COMPLAINING!”
Jul 20, 2007 at 4:14 am rating: 90
#14
Brown
Joshy-boy needs to kick the roommates out, and play The Pogues Modern World (http://www.utterlyrics.com/p/pogues/lyrics/modern-world.html) over and over as they vacate the premises…or maybe just this part “get the fuck out fast”
Jul 20, 2007 at 5:11 am rating: 90
#15
jeneria
I honestly expected this to be a letter from a parent to the kids. Who else would put up with this kind of treatment? Kick the damn roommates out. Clearly money’s not an issue if the writer can afford $800 a month in utilities.
Jul 20, 2007 at 5:12 am rating: 90
#16
Rich C
Where does a person get a $10,000 rug?
The roomies do sound like the worst possible, but I’m really fixated on the rug……
Jul 20, 2007 at 5:45 am rating: 90
#17
Writer, Rejected
Well ,maybe St. Josh *should* start opening his mouth and asking that things be done a little bit differently around that hell house. (For starters, train those frigging curtain-shitting dogs. How is that even possible?)
Team Open Your Mouth.
Jul 20, 2007 at 5:59 am rating: 90
#18
kelmeister
I thought Josh was a dad, and he was writing this to his kids! HAHAHAHA.
Jul 20, 2007 at 6:00 am rating: 90
#19
The Fresh Cracker
I’m also for team OPEN YOUR MOUTH.
I would’ve done a lot of complaining at the first sign of pee on the floor.
Jul 20, 2007 at 6:00 am rating: 90
#20
Rich
“I know you didn’t ask for puppies” betrays an interesting story from the other side, I bet.
Jul 20, 2007 at 6:09 am rating: 90
#21
little voice
Rich wrote what popped into my mind right from the first. Who owns the puppies? Enquiring minds want to know!
Jul 20, 2007 at 6:59 am rating: 90
#22
PatHMV
To: Josh
From: John & T.J.
Dude, we didn’t complain when we found your limp spine gathering dust bunnies under the sofa, but is it too much for us to ask that you at least take your balls out of the jar where they’ve been festering in the back corner of the fridge for the past 2 years and put them back where they belong?
Thanks!
Jul 20, 2007 at 7:24 am rating: 90
#23
ginger
man alive, kick them roommates out
Jul 20, 2007 at 7:25 am rating: 90
#24
GhostWriter
Josh is the well-off uncle of 20-year-olds John and “T-Money”, who asked to stay with him, “…until they get their money-making scheme off the ground.” Well, it’s been six months, and so far their two-man trained dog act has only succeeded in getting the b!tch pregnant (btw- Uncle Josh offered to spay her six months ago…) In fact, the only money they’ve been able to raise is by turning the place into a pay-per-view party house with a cover charge (smoking outside – sex in the back bedrooms) while Josh is out of town on business.
Josh doesn’t know it yet, but T-Money swapped out the family heirloom rug for a side-of-the-road knock-off and a case of Yukon Jack about three weeks ago. You can stop worrying about cleaning it, Josh.
Final note: Yes, they call their dog act “The Aristocratsâ€
Jul 20, 2007 at 7:30 am rating: 90
#25
Wry Exchange
If the ‘kids’ leave the doors open, Uncle Josh won’t have to worry about the puppies much longer…or any of his belongings.
Jul 20, 2007 at 7:48 am rating: 90
#26
T-Bone
I’m in agreement with those commentators who think that Josh apparently doesn’t need roomies. He has a maid, an $800 utility bill he can afford to pay, a $10,000 “family heirloom” rug and $2,000 curtains.
Josh, quit being such a crybaby. Tell them to move out. Then you can stop your whining.
Jul 20, 2007 at 7:49 am rating: 90
#27
underindecision
I agree – kick the roommates out. If what he’s listing is actually happening…
They pee on the floor?
Good god, kick them out! Grow a pair!
Jul 20, 2007 at 8:18 am rating: 90
#28
kostia
He really had me on his side until the “white trash” comment. Other than that it’s all calm and (assume) factual. Way to blow it.
Jul 20, 2007 at 8:25 am rating: 90
#29
Andy
Wait, I just realized…
Isn’t this note almost part of the plotline of “The Big Lebowski”?
The Dude prevails.
Jul 20, 2007 at 8:30 am rating: 90
#30
jimmyjimmyjimmyjimmykalamahoo! kalamahee! kalamabringachairplease!
umm…he obviously is complaining now
Jul 20, 2007 at 8:35 am rating: 90
#31
Camelai
The way I read it, it seemed to me that Josh is the father of some adult kids who don’t want to move out or, you know, become adults. They sound horrible and disgusting, and Josh should have kicked them out long ago, kids or not.
Jul 20, 2007 at 8:36 am rating: 90
#32
Psipsina
Team Somebody-Made-This-Up-To-Get-On-This-Site.
Jul 20, 2007 at 8:57 am rating: 90
#33
will
Someone’s body is about to get wrapped in a ten thousand dollar rug and put in a trunk.
Jul 20, 2007 at 8:58 am rating: 90
#34
sweavo
Jeebus, sell the rug and use the money to buy some cojones! Or sell the curtains and by a really nice tazer. Taze their asses into submission. Who’s in charge here?
Jul 20, 2007 at 9:09 am rating: 90
#35
shiggy
If I didn’t complain as much as Josh didn’t complain, I think my wife would need to hire an attorney.
Jul 20, 2007 at 9:11 am rating: 90
#36
rupert
“Martyr?” Hardly.
This is the rhetorical equivalent of shock-and-awe.
Jul 20, 2007 at 9:17 am rating: 90
#37
agirlie
LOL #13-I can so see that!
Jul 20, 2007 at 9:30 am rating: 90
#38
Patty O. Furniture
I sure as hell would complain if someone were peeing on my floor!
Jul 20, 2007 at 9:51 am rating: 90
#39
Heather
“I don’t complain when rent is paid three weeks late and then in some arbitrary amount.”
For some reason, I imagine the roommate coming to Josh with, like, $177 worth of nickels in a giant jar.
Jul 20, 2007 at 10:11 am rating: 90
#40
Nigel
Josh is a whinly little bitch who should train his puppies and look for new roommates.
Jul 20, 2007 at 10:38 am rating: 90
#41
D
Oh, for Christ’s sake. I just rolled my eyes so hard I think I may’ve broken something.
Jul 20, 2007 at 11:25 am rating: 90
#42
Jill
I, too, expected this to be a letter from a parent to kids. I can’t believe he would put up with all that and then complain about dog shit on his rug. Martyr is putting it mildly…this guy is a damned doormat.
Jul 20, 2007 at 11:42 am rating: 90
#43
MLA
It has to be parent/uncle/grandpa to ungrateful adult children. HAS to be. Or its a sugar daddy situation. No way its just roommates.
Jul 20, 2007 at 12:30 pm rating: 90
#44
Midge
i just think the part about assuming that the guests are “white trash” is pretty funny.
Jul 20, 2007 at 1:06 pm rating: 90
#45
Kath
Geez, man up and kick them out already, Josh!
Jul 20, 2007 at 2:18 pm rating: 90
#46
BoggyWoggy
If josh has put up with all of this shit for so long, he must be a co-dependent, whiny, wimpy, loser baby. A P-A letter will do absolutely nothing to change this situation.
Instead, he needs to:
1. hire an attorney (ha, just had to throw that in)
2. give away the puppies
3. go to the “balls” doctor and get some installed
Jul 20, 2007 at 3:29 pm rating: 90
#47
Willo the Wisp
Passive-agressives are hilarious, and this is textbook. The “I don’t complain about” stuff… wow. That’s hypocritical, as the writer is indeed complaining about all of those things, and using his non-complaint in the most manipulative way. The roommates are obviously arseholes, but the passive-agressiveness pent up within this person would make me crazy.
Jul 20, 2007 at 4:29 pm rating: 90
#48
Christina
I only wish I could read it!
Jul 20, 2007 at 5:08 pm rating: 90
#49
absolutely
made up for this site.
Jul 20, 2007 at 9:55 pm rating: 90
#50
Deb
Nice. I especially likes how he leaves the, “…or please move out as soon as possible” until the end. Very high road.
Jul 20, 2007 at 11:10 pm rating: 90
#51
ALA
Josh, get off the cross…we need the wood.
As you do so, please replace said cross with a spine, forcibly remove these leeches from your home, change the locks, have the $100,000 rug and $2000 curtains cleaned, and get professional help for your martyr complex.
Jul 21, 2007 at 12:36 am rating: 90
#52
crankylibrarian
1. Team Stab a bitch
2.Then stop cleaning the dog shit. Simple!!
3. No, I didn’t ask for puppies. I asked for a yeti. Santa’s a bitch.
Jul 21, 2007 at 2:32 am rating: 90
#53
sh!thawk
Christina, it says click to enlarge the note. It’s funny so it’s worth it.
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Jul 21, 2007 at 9:12 am rating: 90
#54
Indrid
Man i feel bad for this guy.
Jul 21, 2007 at 9:20 am rating: 90
#55
penny
You know what Josh needs? He needs to do a drive-by slapping. It will make him feel better. Also, if he can afford $2,000 curtains, a maid, and $800 utility bill he really doesn’t need roommates, does he?
Jul 21, 2007 at 11:48 am rating: 90
#56
Strepsi
Josh, you lost me at “sleep with girls in my bed”… WTF?!!! I think the FIRST time that happened was the moment to skip the passive-aggressive note and go for an agressive-aggressive eviction. And the first time I found the door open and unlocked I would’ve CHANGED the locks. The first time.
Jul 21, 2007 at 2:00 pm rating: 90
#57
Walter Sobchak
Man, that rug really really tied the room together, did it not?
Jul 22, 2007 at 6:45 am rating: 90
#58
m
….team white trash?
Jul 22, 2007 at 8:06 pm rating: 90
#59
Lovecarrots
So how come Josh has let it get to this? Setting the dogs aside, how do you get to the point were you have housemates who can’t piss in a lavatory, let alone dogs.
The only, absolutely ONLY reason I can think of why Josh didn’t kick them out years ago is because he’s richer than them and they take him on a guilt trip about being privileged every time he tries to complain about it – well, ok, maybe they’ve got something on him.
Clearly, he hasn’t worked out the difference between a friend and a user although I’m assuming that these guys have generously taken it upon themselves to teach him.
So MESSAGE 1
Josh, take the dogs to the local animal shelter for re-adoption and tell your flat mates to piss off! or to put it another way.
JOSH! GET A SPINE!
Ok. The rest of you guys, what is it with the rug? What does it matter how much the rug is worth? Surely the point is that it belongs to Josh and like everything else in his apartment it’s being trashed by his flat mate’s dogs which they bought without asking, warning etc.
Wouldn’t you feel just a teeny big crap if it was your apartment this was happening to. Oh yes and it’s an HEIRLOOM which means it’s family stuff and he can’t sell it without upsetting everyone else in his family. Badly.
Whether or not he’s written them a whingy note, Josh’s flat mates are clearly a couple of complete bastards who should be drowned in some of the copious quantities of shit their dogs clearly produce.
If you think rich kids are cliquey pricks who never mingle with the rest of us just look at Josh’s flat mates and ask yourself why that might be?
So, MESSAGE 2, you can’t choose where you’re born. Coming from a rich family is not a crime neither is having decent stuff in your house.
I thank you for allowing me this cathartic rant! Toodle-ooo people.
Jul 23, 2007 at 12:53 am rating: 90
#60
Tarn
I’d like to hear the whole story. What is Josh to these moochers? Parent, relative, roomie, landlord?
If I were him I’d have used the time & energy it took to write that note, to move all their stuff into a skip outside & change the locks.
Jul 23, 2007 at 3:27 am rating: 90
#61
PatHMV
A few commenters seem to think these puppies belong to Josh. I don’t think that’s correct. Josh got the puppies, but wants to keep them locked up in his room or somewhere (presumably, a room without $10,000 rugs), and the roommates keep letting the puppies out of that room.
Jul 23, 2007 at 8:24 am rating: 90
#62
PatHMV
Um, I meant a few commenters seem to think these puppies belong to the worthless roommates… oops!
Jul 23, 2007 at 8:24 am rating: 90
#63
Nostalgia
Roommate To-Do List:
1) Print note.
2) Take dump on living room floor.
3) Use note as toilet paper.
4) Blame it on puppies.
5) Laugh at Josh while he cleans it up.
Enough is enough, Josh.
Jul 23, 2007 at 5:55 pm rating: 90
#64
eli
that doesn’t seem very passive at all… it’s pretty clear as day. sarcasm is a great way to show people you are angry. passive-aggression is a little more subtle, no?
Jul 23, 2007 at 6:28 pm rating: 90
#65
Trickster
I kicked my roomie out. She used my stuff without asking, which I did not enjoy, and when she broke first an antique cup that she had borrowed without asking and then continued to use the remaining ones (also without asking) I packed all my china away and told her that unfortunately it wasn’t working out and she needed to move.
You respect others things!
1. Roommates, stop behaving like animals!
2. Kick them out already, jeez!
Jul 24, 2007 at 8:21 am rating: 90
#66
David
Ehh, a $10,000 “family heirloom rug” isn’t that unusual. A hand-woven oriental rug is in my family that, had we not torn it up as kids, would be worth about that. It’s worth $3,000 even with the damage.. My grandparents probably paid $100 for it, in Asia, in the 20′s.
Jul 24, 2007 at 8:59 am rating: 90
#67
Olivia
Wait, so all that stuff isn’t common in a roommate?
Damn, mine needs to go right-quick!
lol @ the $10,000 rug. Is he serious?
Jul 24, 2007 at 8:20 pm rating: 90
#68
Kessily
Um, am I the only one to wonder how the heck a dog can shit on a curtain??Is it like a projectile event in that house?
Jul 26, 2007 at 11:30 am rating: 90
#69
Umm
It’s occured to me that the piss on the floor may belong to the puppies, not the roommates…which would only make his roommates *slightly* less nasty.
Jul 26, 2007 at 3:10 pm rating: 90
#70
rob
No, the pee on the floot is clearly from the roommates, not the puppies….otherwise it wouldn’t make sense.
My guess, though, is that it is splashes around the toilet, not just outright taking a leak in the living room or whatever.
Aug 1, 2007 at 7:50 pm rating: 90
#71 kitchen wish list
[...] josh says he doesn’t complain about “picking up the house just a little so that i don’t feel like a complete ass when the maids come.” if you’re lucky enough to have paid household help, do you do the same? [...]
Aug 13, 2007 at 8:04 pm rating: 90
#72
Mishee
WHOA! Until I re-read that note, I thought it was from a Mother to her CHILDREN! WOW!! Great note Josh! I love the repetivness of it… it’s almost like a Poem!
Aug 14, 2007 at 5:20 pm rating: 90
#73
Shane
That’s some explosive or projectile dog sh!t. I’m guessing the dog backs up to the window, does a handstand, and lets it fly. Even if they are floor length curtains, my dog usually lets gravity take her poo straight to the ground.
I’m thinkin Letterman, stupid pet tricks.
Sep 17, 2007 at 12:36 pm rating: 90
#74 it always comes down to the toilet paper
[...] martyr complex much? [...]
Jan 16, 2008 at 10:26 pm rating: 90
#75
lynsay
this guy kinda turns me on.
is that weird.
Mar 14, 2008 at 9:21 am rating: 90
#76
Alie
OH MY GOD, JOSH.
Step 1) Remove head from ass
Step 2) Remove roommates from house
Step 3) Take your $4, 386,628 -or whatever it’s worth- rug to the cleaners.
Step 4) Get laid.
The End.
(Trust me, you’ll thank me. )
Apr 18, 2008 at 4:43 pm rating: 90
#77
bobby
1. Sounds like he IS complaining.
2. There’s no way that rug costs $10,000.
Jul 14, 2008 at 1:15 pm rating: 90
#78 I can feel your teeth clenching from here | PassiveAggressiveNotes.com
[...] I don’t complain. [...]
Mar 22, 2011 at 7:22 am rating: 90
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