as it turns out, the internet isn’t the best place for the secret journal you don’t want your roommate to see. but for the other party involved, it certainly makes for some fascinating reading.
who would’ve thought? it figures
September 3rd, 2007 · 155 comments
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Tags: a matter of taste · attire · blog · dishes · rhetorical question · roommates · sponges
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#1 Freddie
Frankly, I think it’s more passive aggressive to read something you know your roommate means to keep private (and yeah, I know, nothing’s private on the web) than it is to do the bitching in private. And screen capping it is definitely more PA than writing it.
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:22 am rating: 0
#2 MeMe
So….let me get this straight. Either the roommate knew about the blog and the author MEANT for her to read it (definitely passive-aggressive), or the roommate did some digging and found the authors blog (which would be a little psycho IMHO)? If it is the latter, I have had it happen and it sucks ASS to have someone come across your blog that you don’t want to.
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:56 am rating: 0
#3 ian
You have to blog as if you don’t care who reads it, otherwise you’re self-censoring and the writing will suffer. As long as you’re not being libelous, just publish and be damned.
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:22 am rating: 0
#4 Kai
If this is MySpace (which it looks like it is) then there is a way to make your blog private (so only you can read it) or for preferred readers (a few people on your friend’s list). Supposedly, you have control over who views your blog, so if you don’t want your roomie seeing it, or your mom, or employer, make it private. You can even make your whole account private. If she made it public and her roommate found it, then, she has to accept the consequences of that. It’s just a bad idea to put things you don’t want others to see on the internet unless you can somehow make it private, and even then, probably someone can view it.
So, nothing that would suggest you’re a terrorist, threaten your relationship with your S/O, or put your employment in question should be online. The only way to post your work rants and confessions of bitter feelings is to make sure they’re private and/or anonymous. And vague enough someone couldn’t figure it out. People put a lot of personal information on MySpace, even if the roommate never knew about her account if she found her way to it it’s fairly easy to figure it out.
Be cautious out there, kiddies.
Judicious Kai
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:26 am rating: 0
#5 Kai
Ahaha ian and I just posted comments at the same time, saying the opposite thing! …It was funny to me.
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:28 am rating: 0
#6 GVI
This is awesome, i love the whole blog rant/venting/not really talking to the roomie effect, i have done that. Hmmm am i guilty of being PA??
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:29 am rating: 0
#7 marla
Not cool for you to publish a private journal entry, if that’s what this is.
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:42 am rating: 0
#8 The Gentle Sherpa
Privacy debate aside, I think the blog’s author sounds like a horrible, mopey, depressing pain-in-the-ass to be around. Can one be judged by the contents of their blog alone? The answer is probably somewhere on this website. Team ‘Friends Only’.
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:45 am rating: 0
#9 Vampira
Do I not deserve the extra “s”? Awesome.
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:50 am rating: 0
#10 aqua
For the people who think that it was wrong to look at a private journal, it seems that the only reason that the roommates found the blog is because it was on the internet (and therefore very public). Word to the wise… don’t put anything on the internet that you aren’t willing to say in real life.
Sep 4, 2007 at 2:18 am rating: 0
#11 KW
Anyone who posts anything on a journal accessible to the whole internet, and then is surprised when someone finds it, should seriously rethink her posting behavior. (And just saying “if you know me offline, please don’t read this” is never going to stop the people you least want reading it. It just isn’t.)
If it’s restricted/friends-only, you shouldn’t be surprised when someone reposts it, either, but then it’s because that someone is a jerk.
Team tl;dr.
Sep 4, 2007 at 2:25 am rating: 0
#12 Phil
hey. seems like xanga to me. I dont know, i would never ever post something like that on the internet. passive aggressiveness can turn you pretty crazy and i think that talking to the person concerned is the best solution. i bet it is not fake. it seems pretty real.
Sep 4, 2007 at 4:14 am rating: 0
#13 blondie
gold! absolute gold! whats dumber - searching for your room-mates blog and discovering they actually hate you, or writing that stuff under your regular screen name?
Sep 4, 2007 at 6:04 am rating: 0
#14 Quoibina
That peanut butter caked sponge was fucking delicious.
Sep 4, 2007 at 6:55 am rating: 0
#15 sb
hai guyz itz xanga
but the google isn’t being helpful.
Sep 4, 2007 at 7:47 am rating: 0
#16 Andy
“Bullshit and I are not tight. We do not do lunch.”
Okay, that’s awesome. I just hope that’s not someone’s nickname.
I have to say, if you were just posting to your blog to vent (or whine about how much harder life is for you, and how superficial people are, while you are enlightened), then make damn sure your venting targets can’t see said post. Otherwise, it was as good as covering the place with post-its.
I especially like how in this screen-shot, they quick muted their speakers (and probably are using a Mac). Don’t know why I like this, but I do.
The poster has great potential for turning into a perfect drama-queen lunch theft victim whiner at work when done with college. Wait! She’s working now, so she probably already is.
Get thee to her workplace and findeth some notes! Whee!
Sep 4, 2007 at 7:51 am rating: 0
#17 Jeff
All’s fair on the internet. If you post it, it’s fair game. If you post it private and someone broadcasts it, too bad. You shouldn’t have posted it in the first place. It’s like posting nude pictures of yourself on a “private” page and being surprised and angry when they show up all over. Shouldn’t have done it in the first place!
This has to be the most P-A post ever on here. She’s writing a letter directly to this roommate, but instead of posting it conspicuously in the apt, she puts it on her blog, obviously hoping (IMHO) said roommate would come across it/hear about it from mutual acquaintances.
And Gentle Sherpa: She was currently listening to Alanis Morrissette, Of COURSE she’s a mopey, depressing, pain-in-the-ass. It just makes sense.
Sep 4, 2007 at 8:31 am rating: 0
#18 joobs
Whine. Whine. Whine, whine, whine, whiney whine. There is just nothing good in this chick’s life. Whine, whinety whine whine. And she hates peanut butter.
Sep 4, 2007 at 8:36 am rating: 0
#19 Sair
Totally agree that you shouldn’t ever write anything ANYWHERE on t’internet if you wouldn’t be happy having it read by someone (anyone) you know - two words people: Public. Domain.
I think the whole poster/author/reasons for finding and sending to PAN is a bit vague - personally I’d like to know more. Who sent the rant in question to PAN? Was it the roomate the author is ranting about, or someone who knows the roomate? Or even someone who doesn’t know anything about any of them?!
And if this is a blog (private or otherwise), just how up-her-own-arse (hey, I’m a Brit) does this girl sound? Not only because she’s a whingey cow who wants to eat/work at a communal table and for those around to her to just KNOW she expects to be left in silence, but also because she has all this ‘I want to insult myself in front of others without anyone saying anything in response’ bullshit. WTF? Attention seeker anyone? I bet if her roommates all completely ignored her (which she makes it sound like she wants them to do), she’d be bitching about that before long too…
Team Grow-The-Fuck-Up!
Sep 4, 2007 at 8:49 am rating: 0
#20 Sair
Oh joobs, you’re my hero…
Team whine whinety whine!
Sep 4, 2007 at 8:50 am rating: 0
#21 Leshka
“Do I not deserve the extra “sâ€? Awesome.”
But don’t you leave off the last for savings?
Sorry, I’ll go to work now…
Sep 4, 2007 at 8:56 am rating: 0
#22 theblackscorpio
It’s “Looking at THEIR website”, not “there”, even if the page is a location =_=
Team Foreigners for the correct use of sound-alike words.
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:01 am rating: 0
#23 BoggyWoggy
This one is sooooo good!
I think it should be submitted to Rantasaurus Rex. If you don’t read that site, you should!
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:05 am rating: 0
#24 claw71
Dear Diary,
My roomie is a big jerk who leaves crust on the plates and consistently deprives me of the extra “s” to which I believe I am entitled. Now I’m going to press publish so the whole world can feel my pain. And to make sure everybody knows what a drama queen I strive to be I will attach a sound file. Nothing captures self-righteous angst like a little Alanis.
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:08 am rating: 0
#25 claw71
For the record, if you want that extra “s”, Jes, you’ve got to earn it. If you like I can attach a John Houseman sound file from those old Smith Barney commercials.
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:10 am rating: 0
#26 claw71
You’re killing Anthony Grosso with your peanut butter.
Thank you Terry.
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:11 am rating: 0
#27 Jessica
I am certain I have sounded just like her on my blog(s). Still - I think she needs some antidepressant meds. Seriously. I mean Christ, she’s only 18 and she’s whining this hard already? Meds.
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:16 am rating: 0
#28 aliastaken
It looks like LiveJournal, not MySpace.
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:20 am rating: 0
#29 Sorry, who's being holier-than-thou?
So the whole “I’m a better person than you because I have a job” was prompted by the roommate being upset that the writer didn’t leave a note about lunch plans? With this person sounding so anti-social, I’m guessing the roommate didn’t require a note every day but that there had been some unresolved discussion on the topic earlier. I’m not saying that she was required to leave a note, but it’s not like the roommate was asking for her to give up her day to go surfing.
I personally can’t stand it when people act superior because they have a job (or jobs). It’s not as though people with family money (or *gasp* an allowance) are bad human beings. It’s no one’s fault how much money the family they were born into has. And not everyone follows the no-help-from-parents religion. Some people view it as the parents’ role to provide for their children through college. I’m far from saying that those who work their way through life without parental support are bad people. I’m just saying that perhaps the writer should take her own advice and get off her high horse.
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:29 am rating: 0
#30 southern girl
I hope the “s” is enjoying it’s well-deserved vacation, but the holiday weekend is over, so it really should get it’s ass back to reality and join the “j-e-s” before Jess gets more pissed off.
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:32 am rating: 0
#31 Fraulein N
God, I’m glad I’m not 18 anymore. Still, leaving peanut butter-encrusted sponges in the sink is pretty damn gross.
Sep 4, 2007 at 9:58 am rating: 0
#32 lauralaiwc
oh lord, i learned a loooong time ago to be careful what i said on myspace. im an actor, and i can get very opinionated, and i blog chronically, and the combination of the 3 can be LETHAL to your career if you don’t mind it. i dug myself a grave with a bulldozer and had to slowly work my way out of it with a spork.
and, furthermore, i was often (admittedly not always) RIGHT about what i was saying, and many people agreed with me but didnt make their oppinion so public. i became the scapegoat.
my link on my name takes you to my actors page. shameless plug!
moral of the story, unless you want to take the heat for negative anything on myspace, whether or not you are correct, dont post it!!! people react to negativety negatively.
Sep 4, 2007 at 10:18 am rating: 0
#33 Rachel
everyone who lives in this apartment sounds like a spoiled asshole, including the blogger. hey honey, at least mommy and daddy paid for books and tuition. there’s nothing worse than some middle class brat kvetching about how bad she has it next to some upper middle class brats. some people have real problems, princess peanut butter.
Sep 4, 2007 at 10:26 am rating: 0
#34 GVI
This chick said she had a full resume since she was 15, does she live in the 1950’s?, because all the places i used to look for work at that age only hire from 16 yrs and older.
Sep 4, 2007 at 10:33 am rating: 0
#35 Tosha
Not that it matters, but the person who wrote this blog seems to think that she has it rough when it comes to college … “abby gets $2K a quarter”… then she goes on to say that her parents paid for books and tuition and give her $25 a week. Uhm… I’m in college, I pay for books and tuition and do not get $25 a week. Maybe she should have left that out in her little rant.
Sep 4, 2007 at 10:33 am rating: 0
#36 GVI
Oh yeah that is true Tosha, so doesn’t that mean that she is living off her parents to, athough she has all her jobs???
Sep 4, 2007 at 10:36 am rating: 0
#37 Tosha
Exactly GVI. She wouldn’t be in college if not for her parents and she has a weekly allowance… and then, she also has the money from the jobs. Hope she is using it to pay her parents back. But I doubt it since she mentions that she hopes to pay them back “someday”…not now, but later.
I know people like that, owe their parents hundreds and go spend money on more tattoos and piercings because THAT, my friend, is what is important to life.
Sep 4, 2007 at 10:43 am rating: 0
#38 justmindinmine
i wonder if my sponge is a breading ground??
Sep 4, 2007 at 10:50 am rating: 0
#39 Andy
justmindinmine: Breading ground?
That breaded sponge was fucking delicious.
Ahhh, that was nice. Now I can get back to work.
Sep 4, 2007 at 11:19 am rating: 0
#40 john
My thoughts as I read this:
A wet sponge is a great microbial substrate with whatever random ass it has in it. I’m pretty sure the peanut butter isn’t specifically contributing to that (think about how long a jar of peanut butter can hang around and not go bad thanks to preservatives etc).
OMG WOW A FULL PAGE RESUME. whoopdideedo
Is the poster a man or woman? The Jes thing made me think woman but the being rejected by 500+ women thing made me think man. That shows an impressive amount of determination, however, as most of us give up way before we hit the 500 mark. And also we don’t keep track of the rejections really.
While the Alanis is a nice touch, I was really expecting more modern emo.
Sep 4, 2007 at 11:22 am rating: 0
#41 john
i forgot to add that the random nitpicking about the bacterial “breading” ground is because im a weirdo and a microbiologist, so i nitpick that sort of thing
Sep 4, 2007 at 11:24 am rating: 0
#42 Erin
Hey Jes:
Tough tits. Quit being a whiner.
Sep 4, 2007 at 11:36 am rating: 0
#43 Ivy
(first comment evar!)
I’m pretty sure the “rejected by 500+ girls” thing is about rushing sororities and not getting into any of them. The poor dear.
Sep 4, 2007 at 11:46 am rating: 0
#44 Iris
My favourite part is “They are in a messy scrawl that is paining. And that sucks.”
Sep 4, 2007 at 11:48 am rating: 0
#45 justmindinmine
I wasn’t sure if mine came breaded like JesS’ was
Sep 4, 2007 at 11:49 am rating: 0
#46 Zsa
I hate the internet sometimes. This is the kind of blathering that should be left in your head, not put on (metaphorical) paper. I have days where I think like this, but god knows I would never write it out thinking someone might consider it profound reading material. Do people like this not have friends they can vent to? Do they think everyone in the entire universe cares about their drama? Or do they put it out on the internet to see if anyone cares/loves them?
Team STFU
Sep 4, 2007 at 11:55 am rating: 0
#47 Mishee
wow…. I mean… wow… and she thought this wouldn’t be seen by the roommate somehow? Yeah, right!
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:09 pm rating: 0
#48 Nanna
OMG I have never read a more impressively whiny load of bullshit in my life! Jes needs to get off her OWN damn high horse and ditch HER holier-than-thou attitude. And for the love of Terry, blog private.
And writing a note to your roommate about all the things that are irritating you, with numbered items, but never bringing them up to her face? Beyond PA.
AND: Common areas of the shared living space are not a good place for privacy. You want to be alone? Take your 25 bucks and go to a coffee shop, or go to the park. if you have to share a room, tough. That’s what you get when Mommy and Daddy pay your way through college.
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:16 pm rating: 0
#49 Peggy
I’m still stuck on the fashion=art, and why it all matters so much to the writer.
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:23 pm rating: 0
#50 Amanda
Jess sounds like a whiny emo brat, but having said so, “did [the extra s] go on vacation and forget to leave a note?” made me laugh something fierce.
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:23 pm rating: 0
#51 Amanda
aaaand at #35 Tosha:
From the aside about Pomona and $45K a year, I assumed that she goes to a private school and weeell… most private school kids do seem to have a slightly warped perspective about how much the money they get is worth.
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:26 pm rating: 0
#52 joobs
#46 Zsa–Of course Jes doesn’t have a friend to vent this to! If she did, that friend would be up for sainthood. Would you want to sit and listen to her endless whiiiiiiiining about how special her clothes are and the dirty dishes and how she is misunderstood and deserves no love and is poor and hardworking and I Vant to be Leffft Alone? I think someone would need major therapy and meds after a bull session with her.
Oh, and Jes– here.
ssssSSSSssssSSSSSSSSsssssss
feel free to take as many as you want.
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:42 pm rating: 0
#53 Kai
Well Amanda, I must step in and say I am attending a private school. Not on my parent’s dime. I got here by scholarship and financial aid. I’m paying for my food and books and other expenses through money I’ve saved up for three years while working. (That reminds me- I still haven’t gotten my last paycheck from my previous job- and he said it was sent three weeks ago.) So we’re not all entitled. But still, from what I’ve seen, a good number here are immature and self-absorbed. I guess I’m old (23) and jaded these days.
From re-reading the note, I’m not really sure what the roommate did… wrong. It seems more like the writer of said P-A blog was more put-off by “not being understood”…
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:49 pm rating: 0
#54 claw71
She’s not an emo brat if she’s putting Alanis in her sound track. I think the clique your looking for there is lame-o.
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:53 pm rating: 0
#55 Kai
My fiancée is also a Jessica like the writer of today’s P-A rant, but she is not picky about what I call her. Jes, Jess, Jessie, a whole slew of terms of endearment too embarassing to share- she doesn’t care. Honestly, I think Jes looks more feminine- Jess reminds me of the boy’s name. I’m still not sure what Jess is getting riled up about. She should be happy. I have the most unalterable name ever…. I long for a nickname.
-Kais (stole her s)
Sep 4, 2007 at 12:57 pm rating: 0
#56 emily
im on team “this chick needs meds” i used to bitch about stuff like this..then i got zoloft..magical stuff
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:08 pm rating: 0
#57 cre8tivewmn
What a whiner! So self-righteous while complaining about the same traits in others!
If you post or email anything on the net that someone besides you can see, consider it public. Once it leaves your computer you have no control over where it goes.
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:08 pm rating: 0
#58 Goldie
One thing kept going through my head as I was reading this, how do you blog about your roommate and not have the common sense to lock your freakin post? This shit should not be visible to the general public. If you post something like that on a public site, then you’ve pretty much brought upon yourself everything that follows, such as your post being prominently displayed on PAN.com.
Secondly, I was in complete agreement with Jess on her working-girl woes, until I got to the point where her parents only pay for tuition and books. As a mother of two, both getting dangerously close to college, all I can say is… ha. Ha ha hah. Just tuition and books, and other than that she’s on her own. Hah hah. That is hilarious.
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:11 pm rating: 0
#59 ALA
What did peanut butter ever do to her to incur this level of anti-peanut butter rhetoric? Poor, misunderstood, and maligned sandwich spread.
As for our author…as we say in the South, “bless her heart.” When used correctly, it’s either preceeded or followed by something insulting. In this case, “she’s just not matured yet. bless her heart.” or “bless her heart, she’s the biggest whiner.”
It’s unfortunate that she doesn’t seem like a complete moron…or I could use the new one I got when I was in TX…”bless her heart, she couldn’t poor piss out of a boot if the instructions were on the sole.”
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:21 pm rating: 0
#60 Jen
The comment about WHY she loves clothes makes me want to slap her. I’m shallow and happy. Maybe she should try that.
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:27 pm rating: 0
#61 GVI
She complains about everything under the sun in her rant.
1. Dirty dishes
2. Delicious peanut butter breaded sponges
3. Clothes that are not brand name
4. People who do not drink alcohol
5. Wanting personal time, but wantin to sit in a public area
6. People whos parents want to pay for their kid to go through college
This chick needs a man. lol
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:44 pm rating: 0
#62 Fraulein N
#49 Peggy - Yes, lord I got so caught up in the faux drama of it all I completely forgot about her fashion rant. Dude, who gets that worked up about fucking clothes?
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:46 pm rating: 0
#63 Mishee
GVI you are right, this girl needs a man bad… or a woman, whatever floats her boat…
Maybe she wants a woman but is battling herself internally over her sexuality, and she takes her anger out on her roomies and that’s why these blogs were posted publicly and they encompass everything under the sun, because she is mad cause she likes girls…
Just a thought…
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:51 pm rating: 0
#64 justmindinmine
I think JesS needs a puppy instead of a roommate…complete acceptance and unconditional love.But then again she’d blog about how it sucks for taking so long to poop or being to loud when it eats or maybe she should just live alone with her clothes…..
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:53 pm rating: 0
#65 Nanna
Maybe she is pushing her roommate away because she is in love with her and in denial about it, Mishee?
Sep 4, 2007 at 1:55 pm rating: 0
#66 Mishee
It’s a distinct possibility… from what I hear in stories from the city, lots of girls are saying they like other girls now…
Sep 4, 2007 at 2:03 pm rating: 0
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