“this isn’t quite a note,” writes andrea in california. “actually, it’s not a note at all.” but passive-aggressive? yessir. she explains, “my dad’s job is to take out the trash. it’s probably his only chore. but for some reason, it never seems to get taken care of.” so, andrea’s mom took action. sort of.
after this, andrea says it only took her dad three days to acknowledge the trash and take it out.
221 responses so far ↓
#1
Juliet
I like the passive aggressive action on the part of Andrea’s mother and the passive aggressive response of her father. I can’t seem to choose a team. It’s annoying to not have someone do a basic chore, but also annoying to have someone decide it’s time for you to do a chore.
I haven’t picked a team yet.
Sep 22, 2007 at 7:19 pm rating: +6
#2
GVI
Thats alot of hot chocolate.
Sep 22, 2007 at 7:45 pm rating: +2
#3
Canthz_B
I like Dad waiting three days to act on it.
Talk about P-A, dude said “If you can get this much done without me you might just as well take it outside woman!”
Sep 22, 2007 at 8:01 pm rating: +1
#4
GVI
Makes alot of sense, she got hands her damn self.
Sep 22, 2007 at 8:04 pm rating: 0
#5
morpho aurora
i keep seeing references to “it’s his job” or “it’s her turn” and of course, the weekly chore charts.
come on, if you see something needs to be done, just go ahead and do it. quit whining about others not doing their fair share. just grow up and handle whatever needs to be taken care of.
Sep 22, 2007 at 8:16 pm rating: +3
#6
Lara
I think it’s actually a Quaker on those boxes, making it oatmeal or grain of some kind. I’m sensing a “regularity issue” in this house.
Also, awesome site! I’ve been lurking for a while, and loving it.
Sep 22, 2007 at 8:16 pm rating: +3
#7
Trickster
Yay for not choosing a side!
I like both of their actions I must admit, but dad really should not have let the situation gone out of control. Aint momma happy aint nobody happy.
Sep 22, 2007 at 8:23 pm rating: +6
#8
Canthz_B
#6 Lara, that’s alot of whole grain. Perhaps Daddy’s in the crapper and does not have time to take out the trash.
Sep 22, 2007 at 8:31 pm rating: 0
#9
Wade
I think I see a towel and some dryer sheets in the bag.
Sep 22, 2007 at 8:34 pm rating: 0
#10
Canthz_B
And tampons!
Sep 22, 2007 at 8:40 pm rating: 0
#11
Canthz_B
And is that Illumination’s manuscript I spy?
Sep 22, 2007 at 8:44 pm rating: 0
#12
Wade
Are those trash cans white enamel?
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:05 pm rating: 0
#13
hools
I suggest recycling those boxes, oh trash-taker-outers of the world.
Nothing snarky to add. This is something I would do if my housemate was an irresponsible dolt who didn’t follow through on their agreements and responsibilities.
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:13 pm rating: +1
#14
Wade
And where is andrea in all this? She can snap a photo but not help dear ole dad with the trash?
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:15 pm rating: +1
#15
pry
team andrea’s mom. if that’s his only chore, then do it.
at least he doesn’t have to clean out the litter boxes.
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:18 pm rating: 0
#16
Jay
Wade (#14) That’s what I’m saying! These kids today. No initiative. Heh.
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:27 pm rating: 0
#17
Canthz_B
If mom would feed the man more than granola bars maybe he’d have the energy to do chores after he gets home from the office.
Team put your feet up and rest Dad, thanks for the roof over my head.
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:29 pm rating: 0
#18
Canthz_B
Oh, Andrea’s Mom, if you take out the trash often enough you may be able to talk Hubby into a cabinet make-over for your 1970’s kitchen.
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:36 pm rating: 0
#19
A.Thought
6 and 17: I laughed out loud!
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:41 pm rating: 0
#20
Trickster
Canthz B: the man can´t feed himself?
Andrea, please enlighten me, does your daddy not have arms?
Oh and: team put your feet up and rest Mom, thanks for the roof over my head and all those years of doing all the work both in the house and outside and not getting any credit for it.
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:44 pm rating: 0
#21
A.Thought
Funny…seems Mom left enough space to rollerskate!
)
She must not be too pissed off.
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:48 pm rating: 0
#22
Canthz_B
Someone in that house does the shopping (Mom?) and clearly has a thing for Quakers.
As far as Dad’s two arms, I count at least four other arms about.
Since it is well documented, and lamented, by women that men are paid more I stand by my assertion that Dad is the major (if not the sole) bread-winner.
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:50 pm rating: 0
#23
Canthz_B
If the outdoor trash is too far from the back door, Mom could always use a golf cart! LOL
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:51 pm rating: 0
#24
LC
LOVES IT!
If this “dad” is like mine, he lets mom do everything else around the house and STILL bitches about and /or avoids doing the ONE thing that’s asked of him…
@Canthz B #17: What year do you live in? In my family, BOTH parents put the roof over our heads…
TEAM FED-UP, OVERWORKED MOMMA!
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:54 pm rating: 0
#25
LC
And Canthz, Dad making the most money (being the “breadwinner”) does not mean he has the hardest job. Most moms still do all the peripheral shit (kids activities, cleaning, bill paying) in addition to their 9-5’s…or at least this was the way it was in my and my friends’ familes…
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:56 pm rating: 0
#26
Canthz_B
I oubt very much that this is his only chore. I doubt that mom cuts the grass or cleans the gutters for example…have you never heard of hyperbole?
Sep 22, 2007 at 9:58 pm rating: 0
#27
Trickster
Oh man, it is such a fine thing that I got to choose my partner, that way I got someone who believes in doing equal shares and paying equally, for for those who don’t, well they don’t have to live like that but can go do their own thing.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:02 pm rating: 0
#28
Canthz_B
I cannot speak to the socio-economic status of recent posters.
I speak only to the note as given us by the PAN God.
The note states that this is the only household task assigned to Dad. This suggests to me that Mom is a housewife…otherwise there are a heap more complaints I would expect from Mom.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:02 pm rating: 0
#29
Canthz_B
I too believe in equal work sharing in the home, but we are talking about the family in the note not our own situations.
I don’t make the rules at their address, but I suggest they live by them or change them.
I suppose this woman chose her partner as well Trickster. She chose him and now must deal with him, warts and all.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:05 pm rating: 0
#30
Trickster
I don’t see how a man having the chore of taking out trash suggests that the woman is a housewife?
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:15 pm rating: 0
#31
Canthz_B
That having been said Trickster, I was home from work before my wife and cooked our meals for dinner. Our son did the dishes. Almost all other housework (this does not encompass yardwork) was done by my wife. Not because it was “her job”, but because she was old fashioned that way. Said it she wanted to be a good homemaker for me and would not allow me to do domestic work.
Not everyone burned their bras in the 70’s, but then I am older than many who post here.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:17 pm rating: 0
#32
Canthz_B
#30, because you prefer to assume facts not in evidence.
Again, if mom works outside of the home, she would not be complaining about him not taking out the trash, but about him not doing half of the chores. This makes it much more logical, though not a certainty b any means, that we are dealing with a housewife.
Question, if mom does everything but the trash and trash is assigned to dad…what the heck does Andrea do besides take pictures? Maybe she could lend a hand to poor overworked Mum??
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:23 pm rating: 0
#33
morpho aurora
since we are being serious at the moment:
i was talking to a therapist yesterday, and she told me two of the biggest conflicts in most marriages are money, and division of responsibilities. obviously, who handles the money and who takes out the trash are hot buttons for most people.
i’m going to repeat what i said earlier: if you see something needs to be done, just do it. don’t worry about whose turn it is. just nut up and do it, even if it’s a nasty job.
as far as stacking the trash up in the middle of the kitchen, didn’t work, did it? dad walked around it for three days. he knew it was there, he just didn’t want to deal with it. if somebody doesn’t want to acknowledge the existense of an issue, they aren’t going to, no matter how many quaker oats boxes you pile in the middle of the kitchen floor. and canthz is right, you have to deal with your partner, warts and all. sometimes that means admitting he’s a toad about taking out the trash. if you love somebody, that should mean you accept that they have faults and flaws, just as you do. learning how to deal with your mate’s flaws is part of what makes a relationship work.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:24 pm rating: +1
#34
Wade
Period.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:28 pm rating: 0
#35
Trickster
Canthz I am just saying, I don’t make your connection. I still don’t see how taking out the trash being his job makes her a housewife? I don’t think it is about who does what, but the assumption.
Just to put some light on it, I don’t think that anyone would assume that you were a househusband if your wife had the chore of taking out the trash.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:28 pm rating: 0
#36
A.Thought
It’s like the suitcase episode on Everybody Loves Raymond.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:30 pm rating: 0
#37
morpho aurora
#36 what suitcase?
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:31 pm rating: 0
#38
Canthz_B
Amen.
No need to B**ch about it.
I had my role to play and she had her’s.
She did not like to answer the door, I thought, because she would come upstairs to get me when someone rang our bell. So I asked her once, “that was nothing, why did I have to come down for that?” She said, “Because you’re the man of the house.”
I never questioned her again. My late wife knew what type of home she wanted and all I had to do to keep her happy was help her make that home.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:31 pm rating: 0
#39
Canthz_B
#35, no…that would make her a kept woman.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:33 pm rating: 0
#40
Canthz_B
#36…xxxxactly!
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:34 pm rating: 0
#41
Canthz_B
Don’t get me wrong, this guy is a class A jerk because he steadfastly refuses to do what would appear from these facts to be the only think he asked to do at home…what’s that 2 or 3 times a week? What a putz.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:36 pm rating: 0
#42
A.Thought
re: #37
There was an episode where Debra left a suitcase at the bottom of the stairs for Raymond to take up. He walked past it for like 3 weeks. (PA or what? on both parts.) When he needed to go on a trip he packed his stuff in a plastic bag and left cheese to rot in the suitcase while he was away. Finally, Debra said she’d step up and be the ONE to get it. Then they physically wrestled over who would take it up.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:37 pm rating: 0
#43
Canthz_B
Think—Thing
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:37 pm rating: 0
#44
Lara
What did they do for those three days when they had stuff to throw away? Did they keep adding to the top of the pile like some sort of garbage-Jenga game?
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:37 pm rating: +1
#45
anna-banana
Canthz…disagree.
Just take out the trash, Dad. That’s just a severe disease called L.A.-Lazy Ass!!! Go see a doctor and get it cured!!!!
T thought that those boxes were Kraft Mac& Cheese in the microwaveable pouches, until I blew-up the pix & saw the Quaker Man.
That Dad must be lowering his cholesterol by the 10s!!!
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:38 pm rating: 0
#46
A.Thought
Garbage Jenga…better than a booger wall!
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:38 pm rating: 0
#47
Canthz_B
Classic household P-A behavior!! That one was hilarious!
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:39 pm rating: 0
#48
Wade
Whether it is black plastic in-out boxes, used feminine hygiene products, illumination’s refuse or an overabundance of oatmeal…how we discard our garbage is a key to identifying and addressing passive-aggression.
Yes, this thesis is proceeding nicely…
:/
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:39 pm rating: 0
#49
morpho aurora
i bet if the chore had involved power tools, dad would have jumped right on it!
there, that’s my sexist comment for the night.
btw, canthz i think the PAN god heard your pleas for mercy. i no longer see the trouble counter:)
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:40 pm rating: 0
#50
Canthz_B
A-B see #41
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:41 pm rating: 0
#51
Wade
Canthz…below the radar once again.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:41 pm rating: 0
#52
anna-banana
And She, oh merciful PAN goddess, also heard our (or rather read them) bithces about the looonnng last letter submission. Hence the title of thise one! Thank you, Kerry (and Terry–hee hee, Morph-A).
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:42 pm rating: 0
#53
Trickster
morpho aurora, who doesn’t jump at the chance to use power tools?
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:42 pm rating: 0
#54
Canthz_B
#49 Thats “Home Improvement” Haarf-Haarf
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:43 pm rating: 0
#55
A.Thought
While we seem to be channeling (pun intended) the TV listings:
Maybe Dad should watch Dirty Jobs and then the household trash job wouldn’t seem too bad by comparison.
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:45 pm rating: 0
#56
morpho aurora
#53 trickster, if if requires AAs i’m happy
if it needs a kick start, i am soo not the girl for that project
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:45 pm rating: 0
#57
Canthz_B
Maybe he should watch “Lonely Housewives” and get a clue!
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:47 pm rating: 0
#58
Canthz_B
That’s IT!…I KNEW he had another function in that house!! LOL
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:48 pm rating: 0
#59
Trickster
few things beat fixing about the house with your power tools, you get those nifty little shelves up in no time! The arwork gets put up in 30min instead of 12 weeks, I loove me my power tools!
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:49 pm rating: 0
#60
Canthz_B
Wow Trickster, my wife went to sleep after!
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:52 pm rating: 0
#61
Canthz_B
Re: counter..Thanks Terry
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:58 pm rating: 0
#62
anna-banana
Sorry, Canthz. Didn’t see your retraction & change in direction!!!
Power tools…my, my. I’d be happy aiming that spray faucet over the kitchen sink in a certain direction! I wonder how far it would pull out of the unit?
Sep 22, 2007 at 10:59 pm rating: 0
#63
anna-banana
I don’t think that that kitchen is too outdated. Aren’t those granite countertops?
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:02 pm rating: 0
#64
morpho aurora
#62 a-b try one of those shower attachments
looks like an 18 inch rod with small nozzles on it
to be mounted vertically on the shower wall
has a lever for adjusting the strength of the spray
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:02 pm rating: 0
#65
Trickster
TMI!!!
I personally like to do things earlier in the day, so I can chill in the afternoons, enjoy some computer gaming or whatnot
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:03 pm rating: 0
#66
Canthz_B
I saw that thing A-B, wonered why they had a water-pik in the kitchen! LOL
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:04 pm rating: 0
#67
Canthz_B
Hey! There ARE still guys here you know!*Blushing*
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:05 pm rating: 0
#68
morpho aurora
and y’all just assumed i was being bad! i have waist length hair, so i use the thing to make sure i’ve gotten all of the soap out
but i am aware of the possibilities
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:08 pm rating: 0
#69
anna-banana
You COULD initiate your wife into the fun of the water pik/facucet hose thingy.
And you, blush? After some of the things I’ve seen you write, my man? Ha!!!
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:08 pm rating: 0
#70
Canthz_B
I say those things and feel dirty. LOL
Next wife maybe we’ll experiment with the shower massage.
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:12 pm rating: 0
#71
Canthz_B
Hey A-B, I ones penned a poem that begins:
“I can lick it and flick it more wicked than Wilson Pickett…”
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:13 pm rating: 0
#72
anna-banana
Well, it’s good for you to have an ‘outlet’ for your dirty talk!
And what’s up with this ‘next wife’ talk?
You already trading in your second? I know that you didn’t have a choice in losing the 1st, but…..
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:14 pm rating: 0
#73
anna-banana
That’s cool.
Your poem remeinds me BOTH of GW & Claw. They would be so proud!
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:14 pm rating: 0
#74
anna-banana
Oh, and C B? Go defend yourself on the previous post, friend.
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:15 pm rating: 0
#75
Canthz_B
1st glad to be rid of in divorce court, 2nd passed 9/10/2004….I’m, well, just me now in that department.
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:16 pm rating: 0
#76
morpho aurora
ahh poetry – i like limericks
very old one, verryy naughty
on the banks sat the duke of buckingham
he was cooling his balls, he was ducking ‘em
as he watched the stunts
of the cunts in the punts
and the tricks of the pricks
as was fucking ‘em
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:17 pm rating: 0
#77
cityclass
recycle?
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:20 pm rating: +1
#78
morpho aurora
how did all that trash stay so nicely stacked?
it probably didn’t, it probably fell over constantly
wouldn’t it have been easier to just take it out herself?
instead of building a garbage tower, and then picking it up repeatedly and rebuilding
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:24 pm rating: 0
#79
Canthz_B
Thanks A-B, the deed has been done!!!
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:33 pm rating: 0
#80
Canthz_B
Thanks…the nerve of some people
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:47 pm rating: 0
#81
anna-banana
I know!
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:49 pm rating: 0
#82
Canthz_B
More poetry at my blog, but I think not this one.
It’s a bit risqué for that site.
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:50 pm rating: 0
#83
Canthz_B
Is it me or does this trash seem just a bit anti-septic?
Sep 22, 2007 at 11:51 pm rating: 0
#84
anna-banana
It seems a little too bacterial.
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:10 am rating: 0
#85
T-Bone
Good heavens. I used to live with that guy.
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:10 am rating: 0
#86
anna-banana
Who, Brian?
Where is Smith, BTW? We Cali folks sometimes forget that there is a world outside of ourselves…too much Britney & Lindsey occupyning our minds…NOT!!!
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:14 am rating: 0
#87
morpho aurora
ya know, after day one, dear old dad would have found the trash pile in his favorite recliner, if i had anything to do with it
at day three, trash and recliner would have been out at the curb waiting for pick up
huh, guess i am not very passive.
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:14 am rating: 0
#88
Canthz_B
I say tell him you just cannot get into the mood for love-making knowing that there is an Eiffel Tower of trash downstairs…that’ll do it, maybe even for the neighbors!
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:18 am rating: 0
#89
Canthz_B
Something I did not gt to…#
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:25 am rating: 0
#90
Canthz_B
Something I did not get to, #24 asked me what year I live in regarding two income households implying that I was in the 1950’s.
Well LC, I was a sole bread-winner during my 1st marriage from 1985 to 1994…believe it or not “traditional families” still exist…and I took out the trash!
Just to tie up that loose end…I hate loose ends, I have issues! LOL
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:30 am rating: 0
#91
anna-banana
I guess, C B!
Issues…with sluts, non-rent-payers, and albino pythons, well, who knew?
Maybe you are the new Mishee, with GW & Claw being your alter-egos?
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:36 am rating: 0
#92
morpho aurora
#93 a-b but canthz doesn’t have issues about golf carts, roller skates, and contaminated glass ware
sorta evens out, eventually.
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:43 am rating: 0
#93
Canthz_B
Naw, Mishee is about Mishee, and GW and claw are artists/wordsmiths…I’m just a dude with nothing to do but bug out on other peoples misperceptions of life.
I am opinionated and the later it gets the more impatient I get with some types of thinking processes…..I treally am nicer than the response on the other thread, but I got a bit pissed…my bad.
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:50 am rating: 0
#94
Canthz_B
And yes, I am an undercover freak!!
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:51 am rating: 0
#95
morpho aurora
ummm you ain’t undercover any more
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:56 am rating: 0
#96
Canthz_B
Just don’t tell Bubba!! ROTFLMAO
Bad enough to have my ass kicked but I can live without the Scoal-spit punctuation mark! LOL
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:03 am rating: 0
#97
Jaquelyn
My apartment does not have garbage pick up so taking out the garbage consists of hauling a potentially very heavy and fragile bag of gross down three flights of stairs, putting it reluctantly into the trunk of my car, driving approximately two blocks away to the compactor—all the while the heat creates the lovely smell of garbage in my car. I definitely let the bags pile up to avoid having to go through all of this (and we are not allowed to put them outside our doors). I might die of a joyous heart attack if I only had to walk out my front door a few steps away to put the bag on the curb. This dad clearly needs to be grateful for his lot in life. (Nice spin on it, eh?)
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:35 am rating: 0
#98
morpho aurora
jacquelyn, my sympathies
tell your apartment manager to invest in a dumpster. the owner is probably gouging enough rent to afford it
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:38 am rating: 0
#99
lola
This post cracks me up!
I am in college full-time, raise 3 three-year-olds practically by myself, do all the housework and cooking (woman’s work), do all the yardwork and home improvements (man’s work), pay the bills, schedule our engagements, and keep in touch with my family and the in-laws. I do it all. I even initiate sex, believe it or not.
The only thing I don’t do is ride to work 14 days a month, operate a machine while hanging out with friends aka coworkers, ride home, and collect a paycheck. I also don’t get to call home and say I’m going golfing or out with the guys.
So if I ask for him to take out the fucking trash, and he doesn’t? You bet your ass I’m taking a stand and putting the garbage right where he can see AND smell it for as long as it takes.
I can’t stand whiny, lazy men who think that collecting a paycheck makes them exempt from helping an overworked, stressed-out, partner in marriage. There are ways to seek revenge.
Suddenly becoming celibate is fucking delicious!
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:39 am rating: 0
#100
Canthz_B
More frequent, smaller loads would be easier and less smelly. Less time for things to go rancid indoors. Or, a few cents to a local 1q0 year-old just may do the trick. Maybe a buck, less than $5 per week sounds do-able given the stress relief gained. That’s what kids are for.:-)
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:44 am rating: 0
#101
Canthz_B
That’s 1o year old…eyes slowly closing.
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:45 am rating: 0
#102
lola
Canthz, don’t tell me you’re tired!
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:45 am rating: 0
#103
Canthz_B
Lola,but he takes it out and you let him golf, right? Seems like you guys are doing alright and you are handling your handles. You don’t strike me like the type that would do anything that she wqere uncomfortable doing…all of the things you said that you do, you could, if you wanted have him help with…no?
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:50 am rating: 0
#104
Canthz_B
Because quite frankly if all you are getting out of this is finance, you can get that after the divorce too.
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:52 am rating: 0
#105
lola
I do these things because it’s better than the alternative if I asked for help!
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:53 am rating: 0
#106
lola
LOL Canthz, thanks
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:53 am rating: 0
#107
Canthz_B
#107???? Do you mean the old “He’ll just eff it up so i HAVE to do it”?
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:56 am rating: 0
#108
lola
NO – more like, he then gets PO’d and tells me I’m lazy. it’s really the only major problem we have. no money problems, or disagreements about anything other than housework. so, I just got sick of being called lazy and became Super-Wife.
I have a cape and everything.
Sep 23, 2007 at 1:58 am rating: 0
#109
Canthz_B
oooooo sassy!
Just slowly wean him off of his dependancy on you…you did it with the triplets, now do Hubby. You are both adults and three children is a hand full…three of the same birthdate are three handsful.He may not understand, this being your first children and all…no chance to do it once and have the routine down pat when child two comes along, but you must make it clear to him that this will not work for 15 more years. You are in school, I presume you have plans. He is going to have to learn how to pick up some slack and the sooner the better.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:05 am rating: 0
#110
lola
I think I scared everyone away with my awesomeness.
Someone had better come chat with me or I’ll change over to Super-Wife and go do the dishes. Where ARE you???
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:06 am rating: 0
#111
lola
you think THAT’s sassy, just wait! Mike has a matching unitard that says “I’m the bitch”
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:07 am rating: 0
#112
morpho aurora
damn i missed some stuff going to make tea
lola the celibacy thing works
and if the alternative is listening to a grown man whine i’d do it myself too
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:10 am rating: 0
#113
Canthz_B
Male point of view LOLA:
When you gave in and became super-Wife, he said “GOTCHA”!
You let him frustrate you into “I’ll show you who’s lazy” land.
You got played girl…no offense intended…just letting you in on the male mind. No woman wants to feel like a failure at home (chauvanistic statement, but true) and he played on that…and won.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:11 am rating: 0
#114
morpho aurora
lola – get a t shirt that says “BITCH GODDESS”
wear it, and let him know it’s not false advertising
i find that works almost as well as sudden attacks of celibacy
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:14 am rating: 0
#115
lola
Canthz – I know he never set out to get me to be the housebitch (what I really call myself) but he doesn’t understand what taking care of a house entails. He just doesn’t get it AT ALL. It sucks.
He thinks all I have to do is watch the kids, throw a couple Cheerios at them and do the dishes once a day. I’m hardly joking!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:15 am rating: 0
#116
lola
Canthz – you must be reading at more than one site right now, and I can’t tell you how terribly offensive that is. Don’t make me write you a PA Note!!!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:17 am rating: 0
#117
morpho aurora
i don’t know i got mine at the local “adult novelty store”
seriously, try taking a couple of days to go visit family or friends and leave him home with the Trio. if that doesn’t learn him, nothing will.
then again, you may come home to a disaster area.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:19 am rating: 0
#118
Canthz_B
I know, been there, done that.
I had no clue just how fast a two year old was until my 1st wife gave me a “you try it” week when I had a vacation.
My hat goes of to women. I have seen babies shit out and sleepless nights. I have used the “I have to get up in the morning for work, you check on her” excuse.
Your Hubby will never get it unless you have him activly participate in it…as long as super wife exists he will never see what super-wife does.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:20 am rating: 0
#119
lola
M-A: What’s sad is he just lets the house go and feeds the kids junk food so they’re happy as could be! He thinks it’s a piece of cake.
I think Canthz is onto something. Divorce him, make him have a go of it on his own, then let him come crawling back to steal me from my new fling, Raul.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:20 am rating: 0
#120
tweedle
Some of you all are REeally dominating the comments here and it has gotten boring. Think of your feelings for that person in every class you’ve ever taken who monopolizes all discussions, mistaking the rankled silence of his or her classmates for rapt attention. K? Luv ya!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:23 am rating: 0
#121
Canthz_B
#120, I’m lost there…in response to what please.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:23 am rating: 0
#122
lola
Then speak up, fuckknob, and talk about something else. K? Luv ya!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:23 am rating: 0
#123
tweedle
smells like denial?
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:24 am rating: 0
#124
morpho aurora
hmm raul?
y’all know sooner or later someone is gonna pitch a bitch at our late night rambles
i’m waiting to see what form it takes, and how long. i’ve got a bet with myself about who it will be
and oakely is due back anytime now for another sermon we’re all gonna be monkeys again!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:25 am rating: 0
#125
lola
Just cuz you were MIA for a while, no biggie! I gotta get to bed soon anyways.
Now is as good of a time as ever. tweedle dumb here seems to be the comment patrol, so I think that’ll be the end of my therapy session for the evening
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:26 am rating: 0
#126
Canthz_B
Open board Tweedle, have something to say, please speak up, chime in, add ur two cents…no one is excluding you.
At least I hope not.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:26 am rating: 0
#127
tweedle
P.S. short fuse you got, but a good demonstration of just how effective passive aggressiveness is at stirring up trouble.
Let’s hear from some people who haven’t posted 85,00000 times an hour for the last 3 days, maybe? Smooches.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:27 am rating: 0
#128
lola
I’ve got something you can smooch
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:29 am rating: 0
#129
Canthz_B
P-A and cowardly are different things, don’t be coy. If you have a gripe please air it fully.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:29 am rating: 0
#130
Canthz_B
Maybe say something about the note that is original. We get to this spot when we lose inspiration…inspire us on the note Tweedle, that IS why we are here.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:30 am rating: 0
#131
tweedle
Hi Can Thiz Be, thank you, but c’mon guys, get a room! Or use your own blog to go on and on on.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:31 am rating: 0
#132
morpho aurora
and it happened while i was typing in a comment about it
that’s the beauty of the internet
we can all type at the same time and it all shows up
as far as rankled silence, tweedle, did you really think anyone wanted to know exactly when you started your period? or what you saw in the portajohn?
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:33 am rating: 0
#133
tweedle
I’m waiting for my smooch, Lola!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:33 am rating: 0
#134
Canthz_B
I would love to go on and on with your thoughts on the note or any other subject, alas, you have been silent up until now.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:33 am rating: 0
#135
lola
Oh tweedle, you know you’re the only one for me!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:36 am rating: 0
#136
Canthz_B
I say, don’t object to anongoing conversation unless one has a more interesting conversation at the ready!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:36 am rating: 0
#137
lola
I want to know if there are any others in internet land at 1:30AM, waiting for our convo to end so they can go on and on with their own BS… anyone? anyone? Bueller?
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:37 am rating: 0
#138
lola
no hard feelings, tweedle, you have a valid point, and I didn’t mean to ramble. I just didn’t know it was a personal affront to your sensibilities. have a good night, all, I’m headed to the kitchen, from where I’m certain a full garbage can is beckoning me.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:39 am rating: 0
#139
tweedle
I have posted numerous times, over the last couple of monthes. When did quantity surpass quality here? The issue is not that I want to engage in y’alls’ back and forth. I’m saying it’s gotten sort of homogeneous here… kind of eye-glazing to see the same 3-4 people I.M.ing each other endlessly via the comment board.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:39 am rating: 0
#140
Canthz_B
Well, You fucked up a wet dream didn’t you?
I hope your shriveled life feels a bit plumper now.
“How dare people actually have a conversation wthout me having an inteligible thing to contribute? This must end post haste!”
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:39 am rating: 0
#141
morpho aurora
well lola if anyone is out there waiting, they are about to get their chance
y’all
i’m gonna go curl up with a book
smooches
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:39 am rating: 0
#142
Canthz_B
Well Tweedle, that is because the treatment of the note ended and those who do not choose to IM back and forth while waiting for new material have signed off. Either stay and watch, participate or sign off and wait for the next note….OR AGAIN BEST YET
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:43 am rating: 0
#143
Canthz_B
ADD SOMETHING NEW!!!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:44 am rating: 0
#144
tweedle
That’s tellin’ me, people!
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:46 am rating: 0
#145
Canthz_B
No, sadly…that’s just very telling.
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:54 am rating: 0
#146
tweedle
Mustn’t be coy; telling how?
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:55 am rating: 0
#147
Canthz_B
Telling because Tweedle really had nothing to say, even though asked repeated ly to give us a kernnel to hang our wit upon, yet was still infuriated that others were able to communicate and seemed to have formed a sort of community, you know, what the interney is for?. Bringing people from diverse backgrounds and life experiences together so that we may grow together? Well Tweedle is having none of that if she has anything to say about it!
Tweedle can only function within the confines of someone elses P-A ranting, like a mosquito taking small bites from an unsuspecting victim.
Well, any path to personal happiness I suppose. Just not a path I would take if looking for fulfillment.
Sep 23, 2007 at 3:01 am rating: 0
#148
Canthz_B
Interney?..LOL…”internet”
“Kernnel”…”kernel”
Sep 23, 2007 at 3:07 am rating: 0
#149
tweedle
A+, Can thz B –That was good.
Maybe this is too meta, but I have been saying things all the while you’ve just been demanding that i say something. That IS telling.
There is a difference between a community and a steamroller. I’m busy and only ever come here for brief, intelligent, trippy fun.
Just missing the good old days. Old timer I guess.
Sep 23, 2007 at 3:18 am rating: 0
#150
Canthz_B
I steam roll over no one, I express my opinion and any and all are ivited to dispute my logic. It is not incumbent upon me to agree with you but I will when I do.
I have never, like some askes someone to “shut the F up” for example…the more opinions are aired the better…that is the beauty of the medium. Now, if you want a community that agrees with all that you say take your own suggestion and live in the limited world of your own blog.
I prefer an open forum of idea provided they are shared thoughtfully by thoughtful people. Mere reaction does not float my boat.
Now, you broke in and objected to the direction of our conversation, I then asked that you redirect it to the note…show me the post where you did that. No, you engaged in snipng with Lola instead. Pots calling kettles black all round I’d say.
Sep 23, 2007 at 3:28 am rating: 0
#151
Canthz_B
That having been said, any cool observations about this or any other note you may have? I’m listening.
Sep 23, 2007 at 3:31 am rating: 0
#152
morpho aurora
i just have to do this
i checked, and i have commented a lot the last few days.
so, i now apologize to tweedle (and any one else) for making y’all feel steamrollered.
i was playing around, but i didn’t mean to be rude.
Sep 23, 2007 at 3:41 am rating: 0
#153
tweedle
I should have softened my opinion about the drift of y’alls’ steamroller. I should have. It was harsh. But do mean it.
You ‘asked that I redirect it to the note?’
…and if I don’t, will a pod of piranha envelop and club me with fucknobs, heckling me to within a small tolerance of my withered bloodsucking and unfullfilled life?
Ah, community!
Guys. I do have a valid point. Get a blog. By all means keep in touch, IM all you to your hearts’ content. Good on youse!
But in my book, your monopolization of the board here shows a lack of a certain social je ne sais quoi.
I am sure you are all fine people. That’s all i got.
Oh, and Hugz.
Sep 23, 2007 at 3:49 am rating: 0
#154
Canthz_B
Wow, took me 23 postings to go negative on my esteemed fellow poster.
Have a new spot, thanks for your input in that regard.
Sep 23, 2007 at 3:57 am rating: 0
#155
tweedle
Morpho Aurora,
NOW I do feel like a shit. But I mean that in a good way.
Anyway, it’s my turn to clam up a bit.
And needless to say, if youse all ignore my drift here and resume your evil ways, well, that’s just life, isn’t it?
Sep 23, 2007 at 4:03 am rating: 0
#156
lola
Love letter to tweedle:
I truly am sorry that we took over tonight. I looked back and here’s what I saw:
I posted on #101 about the PAN.
A few others asked questions, and we goofed around a bit.
You popped in on post #124 w/ an unnecessarily rude post. That’s 23 posts between 3 people. You know how fast posts can add up, since you were involved with the last 38.
I just wanted to point out that the “boring-ness” was caused by the absence of other posters being online tonight. I have a feeling this wouldn’t even be an issue if everyone weren’t in bed or out partying their asses off! Where are your priorities, people?
I looked back over the last few days and saw that I had a few small spurts of activity, but nothing that required a response like the one I received. I’m sorry I overreacted a bit!
Next time, I’d do better with a “get back on topic, please,” as long as you add the
Sep 23, 2007 at 4:11 am rating: 0
#157
Canthz_B
I will post this one here because I think it’s late enough that no one is here…just re-read the entire string and in some way shape or form the conversation was related to family distribution of labor for at least 85% of the time before it was interrupted. The fact that there were only a few people involved in that conversation does not mean that it was not related to the subject provided.
Sep 23, 2007 at 4:31 am rating: 0
#158
normal
I agree with tweedle.
Sep 23, 2007 at 8:55 am rating: 0
#159
Team Cassandra
ummm….is this a private conversation?
cuz I wouldn’t want to interrupt…
Sep 23, 2007 at 9:12 am rating: 0
#160
Team Cassandra
O good!
This is a private service announcement for Anthony Grosso and Terry:
I did this once – but it was a whole room of stuff moved to the front porch. Sounds bad, I know – I’ve done (like Tori Amos) “many, many, many naughty things”..
Anyhow – I was renting rooms in a house and one of the renters had not paid rent or hydro in 2 months and every time he opened his door the whole house would smell like…gah! I don’t even know what what it might smell like – better than that garbage up there, I bet…That’s really what got me…you could smell it if you walked past his door all the time (and his door was between the kitchen and the bathroom – ugh).
Every time I asked him for money he would have some excuse….
We were on the third month of missed rent and he decided to take a surprise 3 day vacation that started the day before rent day.
He was pretty pissed when he got back and said:”I can’t believe you did this, I was so excited to tell you about how I’m going to get your money in three weeks…”
Then he piled his stuff into his van and I never saw him again…
The End.
Sep 23, 2007 at 9:26 am rating: 0
#161
Team Cassandra
ppps – not “better than the garbage up there” – worse. (oops)
Sep 23, 2007 at 9:28 am rating: 0
#162
Team Cassandra
pppps: I did it!
Its so quiet in here….
Hello – lo – lo – lo – lo….
Is it possible to to steamroll a thread when you’re on it all by yourself…?
Possibly:)
Sep 23, 2007 at 9:49 am rating: 0
#163
Julie
i hope they recycled those boxes
Sep 23, 2007 at 11:26 am rating: 0
#164
Juliet
Lola, I need you to take off one Saturday morning, early (preferably after he got really drunk at the golf course the night before) and leave him with all of our three-year olds. Then he can watch them and throw Cheerios at them while you go and have some you-time.
If he doesn’t have the house clean and the dishes done call him lazy.
I realize he’s your partner and all, and perhaps has redeeming qualities (you haven’t mentioned even one) but I want to punch men like that in the nose. For real. If my fiance called me lazy in seriousness it would start a massive war. Seriously, if you’re doing the bulk of the work, that ain’t cool.
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:13 pm rating: 0
#165
Juliet
All of *your* three year olds… oops.
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:14 pm rating: 0
#166
GVI
T-C you are crazy girl lol, Lola, C-B and M-A why you apologising to Tweeds? I wouldn’t, it was after 1 am and after that time all rules are out the window and you can talk about anything you choose.
ps. They should really recycle all those boxes, think about all the delicious baby seals.
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:56 pm rating: 0
#167
GVI
Dammit i forgot to sign in for that post.
Sep 23, 2007 at 12:59 pm rating: 0
#168
lauralaiwc
there are SO many posts that im not going to bother to read up on them so forgive this, im sure its a duplicate observati0n…
if this is dads only chore, he needs to be shot for just not doing it. if its anything like it used to be in my house growing up, momma cleans house, does dishes, cooks, scrubs toilets and it all goes by unnoticed without any thanks. but when she asks dad to do one fucking chore he pitches a fit.
i think dads nuts need to be wrapped nice and tight at their base with a rubber band until they turn so blue they fall off.
then mom can take THOSE out to the trash .
Sep 23, 2007 at 2:00 pm rating: 0
#169
busy
Nice enough to say if you see a job do it if everyone played by those rules. IF only the mom plays by those rules, though, it really sucks to be the mom.
I know. Sometimes, it sucks to be the mom.
Sep 23, 2007 at 3:40 pm rating: 0
#170
lola
Okay, everything from post #165 onward made me laugh – thanks, everybody, I needed it! Lauralai – that was Oh so visual
Follow up: I kind of had my own garbage-can-in-the-kitchen moment this afternoon. Highly recommended. Thanks, Andrea’s mom!
Sep 23, 2007 at 4:41 pm rating: 0
#171
lola
Thanks for the correction, Juliet. I was thinking, ‘How many 3-yr-olds do YOU have???’
Sep 23, 2007 at 4:42 pm rating: 0
#172
Jaquelyn
I have to say that, although I am limited to the male sex as a companion option by my straightness, I would never choose one that ever dared to call me lazy, did not comprehend that he lives in a thing called a house, which is not to be mistaken for a trash dump or the like, and does not conform to the disgusting stereotypes of men who are incessently lazy. My guy is quite aware of all those things and, without having his and hers chore lists, he sees crap sitting around, he cleans it for his benefit as much as I would if I came across it. As for all you women who think mind tricks work with men, you obviously know not men. Completely over their heads (as seen in the post). The trick is not linking yourself to a lazyass, and trying a little harder for the sort who has common sense. And having children with that lazyass is just poisoning the pool for future generations of women with potential lazyasses.
Sep 23, 2007 at 5:13 pm rating: 0
#173
Joe
Put me on Team Recycling!!!
Maybe if she’d have left a P-A Note, he’d have known what she wanted. Shame on her for thinking he could read minds!!
Sep 23, 2007 at 5:20 pm rating: 0
#174
Trickster
These really long conversations that drift off topic remind me of the old type chat that you could find on the internet in -96.
And I feel both ways about them. As some of you may know, the world consists of other time-zones outside the American ones aswell. This can actually cause trouble for the non-American time-zoners who visit this blog on what is to them evening and night time, and are faced with a new and exciting entry, and over 100 comments to read before posting one of their own.
Not everyone feels they have to post their comment, if 45 others have stated the same thing already. Most of these comments are only fun if read at the time of the actual “chatting”.
On the other hand, if you are part of the “chat” at the actual time, it is very rewarding.
Sep 23, 2007 at 5:21 pm rating: 0
#175
Canthz_B
Off topic comments will n longer be here Trickster, see Troublemakers HQ button at top of page.
As far as time zone discrepancies I’m sure the Pan God(dess) will alter physics when time provides a spare moment.
#176 I just about agree, some women believe that men think like them, or even that we think…silly, huh? LOL
Sep 23, 2007 at 5:33 pm rating: 0
#176
Jaquelyn
Ha, I would agree that at times I do believe men do not think. But I am sure you are not that sort, correct?
There are the men who choose not to think, the ones who cannot think, and the ones which actually find it rewarding to think. I think I found the latter.
Sep 23, 2007 at 8:27 pm rating: 0
#177
Jaquelyn
And in that, I embrace the more male tendency to just say what is on your mind, aka “Please take out the trash,” and not circle around the subject by leaving mountainous piles of stuff I could have spent taking outside instead of spending more time piling it up so tidily as in the picture. So very hard, eh?
Sep 23, 2007 at 8:30 pm rating: 0
#178
Jaquelyn
If I were that guy, I would have noticed immediately if it had been strewn about the kitchen in front of the refridgerator?
Sep 23, 2007 at 8:32 pm rating: 0
#179
Canthz_B
Jaquelyn, we all think…we just know how to play dumb when it suits our baser instincts, i.e. at game time for example.
Sep 23, 2007 at 8:42 pm rating: 0
#180
justmindinmine
If ours gets to where the trash is falling out I just say to my husband ” do you mind getting that trash for me” it seems to work. He doesn’t not do it on purpose, but I know he’s not one for paying attention. Thats where I come in to remind him and ask for what I want. I don’t know, it works for us.
Sep 23, 2007 at 8:59 pm rating: 0
#181
Jaquelyn
Oh, I know every man thinks, it is simply to what degree they do. Thank god I found the one guy who does not enjoy sports. Although his joy found in guns is almost the exact same, only I enjoy it as well. So no complaints.
Team take out the trash yourself to avoid senseless effort.
Sep 23, 2007 at 10:34 pm rating: 0
#182
QueenBee
That looks like a lot of recycling not thrash!
Sep 23, 2007 at 10:37 pm rating: 0
#183
lola
my personal favorite is the stacking of the garbage in the can with a flip top, so that eventually the garbage is propping the lid open at a 90 degree angle.
it’s almost like a game to see who can get the diapers to stack up highest without them tumbling over.
Sep 23, 2007 at 11:22 pm rating: 0
#184
lauralaiwc
lola, #173, my pleasure
im a visual gal.
what are those little quaker boxes? what where they once full of? someone way up there referenced hot chocolate, but i hope to god not. even for oatmeal, thats got to be the family von trap living in there. or maybe they run oaumeal bar stands on the weekend instead of lemonade.
either way, its alot of whatever that is.
save the poor seal babies. or something.
Sep 23, 2007 at 11:28 pm rating: 0
#185
lauralaiwc
oh, something i have found interesting in my experiences with men…women bust their ass in the house making it nice, for him, and we don’t typically get a thanks for it.
but a guy takes out the fucking trash and he expects a grande parade for it. why?
Sep 23, 2007 at 11:29 pm rating: 0
#186
Wade
lauralai – cause the big parade only comes to town once a year.
Sep 23, 2007 at 11:45 pm rating: 0
#187
Olivia
Oh, I do this all the time to my roommate. She won’t take out the trash or the recycling (yet she drinks around 6 cans of Coke/day) so I just pile it up and leave it in front of our door. It still takes her about 2 weeks to take them out each time.
Sep 23, 2007 at 11:58 pm rating: 0
#188
lauralaiwc
beleive me, the parade would be around more often if guys helped out a little bit more. depending on what this euphamism means, of course.
the premier is this friday and im thrilled about it! i didnt know you could make a trailer about a short film, but crushthemovie.net has it. it already took the title for the festival. woo!
anyways…um…yes…uh…recycle your quakers!
Sep 23, 2007 at 11:59 pm rating: 0
#189
lauralaiwc
olivia, put it in front of HER door. i had a roomate that would do that, so i started doing that and it fixed the problem REAL fast. but by then she had pushed all my buttons so i didnt care if i were nice.
she got really pissed, so i dont know how wise of an idea it is, but hell. you know her, i dont.
Sep 24, 2007 at 12:00 am rating: 0
#190
Canthz_B
Lazy assed men…garbage…kids w/cameras…Qyaker oat bars—-now I’m officially on message.
Hope all went well Lauralai.
Sep 24, 2007 at 12:02 am rating: 0
#191
Canthz_B
Er…goes well.
Sep 24, 2007 at 12:05 am rating: 0
#192
Wade
Sometimes a parade is just a parade.
For the record (don’t you hate it when someone starts a sentence like that) I do take out the garbage and recycle…even after a long day at work and a one-hour commute both ways. The Dad in question (see, on topic) can generate enough effort to get off his butt and take out the trash.
While P-A escalation makes for interesting thread topics, it is no good in a relationship.
K, now I really am going to bed. Nite all.
Sep 24, 2007 at 12:08 am rating: +1
#193
lauralaiwc
agreed. i tried p-a-ness in a past relationship and it blew up in my face. i regretted it for a long time but i learned my lesson. open communication works SO much better.
that and having started a marketing/PR job helped. now i know how to make bad stuff sound either less bad or flat-out good yay for spin.
Sep 24, 2007 at 12:11 am rating: 0
#194
Juliet
Jacquelyn, I have the other guy that’s not into sports. I’m so thankful for it.
Sep 24, 2007 at 11:05 am rating: 0
#195
claw71
If my wife decided to handle problems in our relationship in this manner I think I would start banging her sister. That’s the passive aggressive equivalent to a nuclear bomb.
And my darling daughter could kiss her college fund good-bye for submitting this. You can pay for junior college with stripper tips, sweetie. You might improve your earning potential if you lay off the hot chocolate, though.
Sep 24, 2007 at 11:21 am rating: 0
#196
turrboenvy
Yeah, I’m a slacker, so I’ve had these types of tactics thrown at me before. He only lasted three days? You fucking stack that shit in the middle of the floor, I can sure as hell hold out longer than you can. I just wish it didn’t give them so much “I’m the only one who does anything” ammo.
I married the one who figured me out. She never bitches at me directly to do anything, and certainly never pulls any of this crap. She starts doing what I was supposed to do, before I get around to doing it, so I feel bad and practically wrestle the chore away from her.
Sep 24, 2007 at 11:47 am rating: 0
#197
anna-banana
turbo…do you have a brother?
Sep 24, 2007 at 11:58 am rating: 0
#198
ikm
Wow, I can’t believe it was allowed to get so far. I’ve dated slobs but dumped em as soon as I found out. DIVORCE that lazy slob. There are plenty of men out there who aren’t selfish, entitled, lazy asshats. TEAM MOM!
Sep 24, 2007 at 2:01 pm rating: 0
#199
claw71
When you lay the kind of pipe I do, the ladies line up to do the chores.
Sep 24, 2007 at 2:30 pm rating: 0
#200
Jaquelyn
I think women need to stop living for their men. Of course they are great to have around for certain things, but come on! No guy really cares that much about how clean the bookshelf is, so why do it for them when they do not care? Do it for yourself and you will not be disappointed! Problem solved!
Sep 24, 2007 at 2:31 pm rating: 0
#201
Jaquelyn
And if your guys DOES care, then he is most definitely on the flaming side, and you have better things to worry about.
Sep 24, 2007 at 2:35 pm rating: 0
#202
Olivia
Thanks for the advice, lauralaiwc.
I may just have to try that… considering the recycling is STILL waiting to be taken out. It has been there for a month.
Sep 24, 2007 at 2:42 pm rating: 0
#203
ijRoberts
#205 Jaquelyn
Wow.. Interesting theory. So any guy who likes his house clean is gay? (Regardless whether he cleans it himself or has a wife that does it.)Where’d you come up with that gem of a thought, the School for Ignorant Thinking?
Sep 24, 2007 at 6:55 pm rating: 0
#204
Jaquelyn
Despite your intentions of being rude and thinking I am ignorant, no, not every man who cares about things being clean is gay. Men who care about spotlessness are. And women who care about that stuff are compulsive. My guy does not like a trash heap, but he does not ispect dust particles. Another case of jumping the gun on behalf of society.
Sep 24, 2007 at 7:26 pm rating: 0
#205
Andy
Jaquelyn: Yes, I understand your concept. A guy who walks around in an apron and playtex gloves, with a feather duster… well, you get what I’m saying.
The way I figure it, let the dirt grow enough into a new life form, and it’ll leave on its’ own accord. Evolution at work and all that.
Sep 24, 2007 at 9:03 pm rating: 0
#206
Mark
Her’s a new concept………Keep the nagging to yourself and see how fast it gets done. How did I ever get anything done before marriage without being told 50 times? Marriage would be so much better with less talking.
Sep 24, 2007 at 10:12 pm rating: 0
#207
lola
good point, Mark… just curious, was your apartment / house CLEAN before you got married?
I know some major male slobs with apartments that the CDC should study
Sep 24, 2007 at 10:20 pm rating: 0
#208
morpho aurora
that pic makes me glad i was married to someone with OCD. he kept everything very neat and clean. and if he pissed me off, i just rearranged his CDs, and moved stuff around on his desk.
Sep 24, 2007 at 10:24 pm rating: 0
#209
Mark
Considering my “apartment” was a Marine Corps barracks, yes, it was very clean!
Sep 24, 2007 at 10:26 pm rating: 0
#210
lola
not every man has had his ass whipped into shape before marriage, unfortunately
Sep 24, 2007 at 10:34 pm rating: 0
#211
Canthz_B
Hell, my apartment was a shit hole (in retrospect), that’s one of the reasons I was attracted to my wife, she kept things woman-clean and I was used to man-clean.
There is a little bit of Felix Unger in some guys that seems a bit “sweet”.
Sep 24, 2007 at 11:22 pm rating: 0
#212
shari
My stepdaughter kept refusing to do the dishes because she was more concerned with going out with her friends. After two days of telling her to do it, I finally put all of the dirty dishes on her bed while she was out with her pot-smoking friends. She got the hint.
Sep 26, 2007 at 1:23 am rating: 0
#213
Matt
When I first got married, my wife and I were both uni-going slobs (eg, we washed dishes once a week on average). Five years on, I have borderline OCD and my wife is somewhere in between. But I take the opinion that if I want things super-clean, that’s my perogative so I do the extra cleaning and don’t ‘nag’ anyone else to.
The ‘men are messy women are tidy’ generalisation couldn’t be more wrong in my experience. The guys I have lived with have at least kept the house clean enough to not be a health risk, whereas the messiest, slobbiest people I’ve lived with (I’m talking mouldy plates behind the couch, bathroom cleaned once in 12 months) have both been women.
Sep 26, 2007 at 1:56 am rating: 0
#214
ijRoberts
#212 morpho aurora, Yikes! You’d better be careful, it sounds like your husband is gay, according to Jaquelyn.
I’m still not sure how being ’spotless’ equates being gay, though I think Andy’s situation is a bit more stereotypically correct.
So, by your standards, does that mean that any messy women are lesbians?
Sep 26, 2007 at 12:18 pm rating: 0
#215
Matt
> does that mean that any messy women are lesbians?
Judging by the sounds that came out of my messiest ever housemate and her b/f, I’d guess not.
Sep 27, 2007 at 12:56 am rating: 0
#216
hamburke
I’m getting irritated with the guy who says If you see something needs to be done, just do it! That poster can come to my house and see things that need to be done… my husband sure doesn’t as I left him a similar pile today placed more effectively on his computer chair (not the first time either). Worse yet, the reason I ask him to take it out daily is b/c we have a baby and there are diapers in there – ick!
Men wonder why women nag them… Personally, I hate nagging – it’s not fair or fun to the nagger either.
Nov 6, 2007 at 11:37 pm rating: 0
#217
Sundaeg1rl
That’s modern art, right there.
Dec 4, 2007 at 8:01 am rating: 0
#218
rrr
RECYCLE
Feb 18, 2008 at 9:43 am rating: 0
#219 happy reinforcing gender stereotypes day!
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Jun 21, 2009 at 12:47 pm rating: 0
#220
Megan Walker
shame on the woman, most of that stuff should have been recycled!
Oct 9, 2009 at 5:29 pm rating: 0
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