Writes our anonymous submitter: “Amie and I were friends since junior high. We had plans to go out for my 22nd birthday, but she canceled the day of. I said it was cool and that we should reschedule, and then I never heard from her again…until four years later, when she requested me as a friend on Facebook. I rejected her. She friend-requested me again, and I rejected her…again.”
Amie, however, didn’t seem to get the message.
Adds our submitter: “For the record, my response was, ‘Thanks for the congrats!’”
related: You were warned never to push Carrie to the limits.
165 responses so far ↓
#1
Joyful
Ok, now I really want to know why she didn’t talk to you for four years.
Nov 7, 2008 at 2:19 am rating: 48
#2
Al
So you never tried contacting her for 4 years, either?
Nov 7, 2008 at 2:27 am rating: 105
#3
Becky
I’ve been known to do that. (not talk to people for years) Social anxiety kind of thing. Totally unforgivable. Amie should have apologized.
Nov 7, 2008 at 2:29 am rating: 24
#4
Non-amie
I don’t quite understand: who is the P.A. here, Amie or the anonymous submitter? My vote is for the A.S.
Nov 7, 2008 at 2:31 am rating: 75
#5
Erin
I agree- it’s the A.S. You can, BTW, accept someone as a friend and allow them to see your profile in a very very limited way.
Nov 7, 2008 at 2:33 am rating: 3
#6
dude
i agree. the a. s. is the p.a. all the way.
Nov 7, 2008 at 3:01 am rating: 3
#7
Furu
I agree with the submitter. I have all these people from high school who barely talked to me requesting to friend me, and I get so confused. Luckily, none of them ever seem to notice or care that I don’t confirm the request. Some people just want to pad out their friend count, and this person seems particularly desperate to do so.
Nov 7, 2008 at 3:10 am rating: 24
#8
Canthz_B
Amie has some balls!
She talks to someone who is, at the very least, aware of Submitter’s wedding (maybe even attended?), but hasn’t talked to submitter in four years?
What kind of “Don’t tell Submitter you and I are still friends” bullshit is that?
Then again, maybe she was released after serving four years on a seven year sentence, in which case I too give her credit for good behavior.
Nov 7, 2008 at 3:16 am rating: 31
#9
Nini
I just love the irony of that girl’s name being “Amie”…
Nov 7, 2008 at 3:39 am rating: 27
#10
Jonathan
I once made a date with a girl, and she canceled the afternoon of and promised to reschedule. She never did, and because I was insecure I decided to hate her for a while instead of just calling her myself…
Fast forward two years, it was graduation time and I was feeling nostalgic for lots of old friends. So I message her on facebook. We’re no longer living in the same city, but we’ve been having a fantastic time with each other whenever we can get around to visiting the other’s city. It was totally worth it.
The anonymous submitter here is being passive aggressive, and Amie is just being friendly after what may have been an entirely accidental snub. It doesn’t hurt to swallow your false pride once in a while.
Nov 7, 2008 at 3:55 am rating: 79
#11
fantasy
Facebook is nothing but lies and drama wars.
Yep, I make 100k a year and I only spent 6 months at college.
They should rename facebook, call it “My brag book of lies!”
The submitter was probably pissed that Amie did not say how wonderful she looked in her pictures and what a great catch she got for a husband.
*truth is, she works at wal mart, has gained fifty pounds and her new husband is a loser that sits home smokes dope and sleeps all day. She gets home after a long day selling crap and has to cook the ramen noodles for dinner. I suppose she really doesn’t want to let amie know what her real life is, ’cause on face book you can have it as good as you want it. I suspect amie knows too much of her past.*
Nov 7, 2008 at 4:15 am rating: 24
#12
Bec
Something similar happened to me years ago, I was friends with a girl called Amy all through school and when I left I moved in with my boyfriend and she kept talking crap about me to our mutual friends so I completely blanked her, then I got a letter a year or so later to ask me why I thought I couldn’t be friends with her anymore and that she has nothing against me.
There was no reply.
Nov 7, 2008 at 5:19 am rating: 1
#13
Tammy
Fantasy is right about Facebook. I think “lol” stands for, Lots O’ Lying……..
Nov 7, 2008 at 7:02 am rating: 4
#14
Maddy
Grow up honey. People lose touch sometimes for so many reasons. It is worth it to let shit go. I think if you hold grudges about stupid shit, in the end you are the one that loses out.
Nov 7, 2008 at 9:02 am rating: 20
#15
Timo
Les enfants jouent de nouveaux ailleurs. Je voudrais ouvrir une route avec eux pour qu’ils ennuyer.
Nov 7, 2008 at 9:41 am rating: 2
#16
claw71
I don’t think you could find a better example of irony. Submissions like this are priceless.
The passive-aggression is 100% on the part of the submitter. Amie could be a self-centered twit but based on the information I have right here the award for cunt of the year goes to anonymous.
Blowback is a bitch, isn’t it?
Nov 7, 2008 at 9:54 am rating: 35
#17
claw71
How about a little Pure Prarie League?
I can’t see why you keep facebook friending me
You never called me back and and you made me spend my birthday by myself
so I married someone else and you’re alone
and I keep rejecting you because you didn’t phone
Amie what do I have to do
I won’t be facebooking you
hell might freeze over before if I do
I’ll hold this bitter grudge until the end of time
I won’t say a word I’ll let you stew until the day you die
and I dance with glee
I hate you so much I want to burn your home
You were my friend but now I call you ho
(why did you forget about me?)
Amie, I’m still made at you
Ignore is what I plan to do
for a while maybe longer, I’ll hate you…
I won’t be facebook friending you
I won’t be facebook friending you
That’s just what I’m gonna do, I won’t be
facebook friending you….
Nov 7, 2008 at 10:25 am rating: 13
#18
GhostWriter
If you compare final point tallies, Amie wins the game. Do you know how many points you get when you use the letters “XOXO” with a triple-friend-request-score? Anonymous’s only chance now is to challenge Amie’s use of “congrats” as a real expression.
All the world’s a Scrabble board…
– W. Shakespeare
Nov 7, 2008 at 10:26 am rating: 8
#19
claw71
This will seem a bit childish of me but am I the only person who keeps reading “Taint Piss” in this note’s title?
Nov 7, 2008 at 10:52 am rating: 14
#20
biscuit
Now if A.S. was smart, she’d accepted the friend and milked it for another wedding present.
Nov 7, 2008 at 11:11 am rating: 14
#21
Tmarie
Amie’s trying to mend the friendship and Anonymous Submitter is way too bitter and/or shallow to just allow a friending on Facebook?
Team Amie.
Nov 7, 2008 at 11:20 am rating: 5
#22
souldesqueeze
Isn’t it kind of passive-aggressive in itself to reject her friend requests without telling her why?
Nov 7, 2008 at 11:22 am rating: 1
#23
unholyghost2003
As I have told my hubby many times … WOW I really have to dislike someone to not facebook friend them. Honestly, it isn’t like you have to spend a long weekend vacation with each of your facebook friends. If I know you and don’t consider you a total asshat I will confirm you as a facebook friend. A canceled evening out and a lack of communication over the years is not a reason to hate someone so much that you refuse their emails.
If you saw them on the street would you say “hi” if they approached you? or would you pretend they were invisible? Same thing with facebook friending.
Nov 7, 2008 at 11:30 am rating: 6
#24
stoneburner
The shift key there on your keyboard exists for a reason.
Nov 7, 2008 at 11:31 am rating: 1
#25
Harpdevil
What a bizarre happenstance, I wonder what happened on the day she canceled?
Nov 7, 2008 at 12:00 pm rating: 1
#26
Dare
Team They’re Both PA and Deserve eachother.
Facebook, America’s Christmas Letter 365 days a year.
Nov 7, 2008 at 12:31 pm rating: 4
#27
Cowgirlgraphics
A.S. waited in the bar all night for Amie to show … she ended up getting very drunk and going home with some butch lesbian and had a sexual experience she only can fantasize about with the detachable showerhead in the marble tub of her new palacial estate. That kind of luxury only came with her husband, a man of little penis, but lots of money.
Nov 7, 2008 at 12:45 pm rating: 2
#28
secondsout
Well, the picture fits, at least. It’s a jackass.
Nov 7, 2008 at 12:52 pm rating: 3
#29
secondsout
Ahh, facebook – an opportunity for people to avoid making friends and staying in touch the old analog way. I could call this person and say congratulations, or mail a card. Nope, it’s facebook or nothing!
Nov 7, 2008 at 12:54 pm rating: 10
#30
BredWell
Okay, like if we are going to have stories about “i once had . . . ” then here is mine: I once hung out with a guy every day for about two months. RIGHT UP until the night before the morning he was supposed to come by and pick me up to give me a ride to school. (School was 10 miles away.) He never showed. Never heard from him until two and a half years later when he shows up to interview for a job at a radio station where I was the “top jock”. I said “hey, LTNS” and he said “hey, yeah” and that was it. I went straight into the manager’s office to tell him the guy was a flake. Never saw him again after that.
Nov 7, 2008 at 1:07 pm rating: 8
#31
BredWell
Afterthought: Do you think that was PA of me??
LOL
Nov 7, 2008 at 1:10 pm rating: 0
#32
TPS
She got ditched on her birthday. That’s cold, man.
Nov 7, 2008 at 1:16 pm rating: 1
#33
TPS
Double post!
Nov 7, 2008 at 1:17 pm rating: 0
#34
Timo
This one time at Band camp I got up in the middle of the night put on a hockey mask and killed all of the kids that couldn’t figure out how to nest their comments. “Friend this motherfuckers” I thought. Then things went loopy and I became unstuck in time and was in the Tralfamadorian zoo with the porn star Montana Wildhack. She had a great rack.
Goodbye Blue Monday’s, it said on the pendant between between her boobs.
Nov 7, 2008 at 1:18 pm rating: 11
#35
olivia
Is it wrong that I’m friends with the Metro Card on Facebook but refuse friendship from my 6th grade camp boyfriend?
Nov 7, 2008 at 1:32 pm rating: 5
#36
Goldie
That one time I was going to get my puppy, Buttmuncher, neutered. The vet canceled on the day of and I didn’t hear from her for another four years. Today, we are living a nighmare. Every evening, damn dog breaks down the door and gets away. Strange stories appear in newspapers about citizens complaining of being humped in their sleep. And there is an abundance of unusually hairy children under the age of three on our local playground. Curse you, vet. Don’t even think about friending me on Facebook. Not a chance. Not after what you did to me, bitch.
Nov 7, 2008 at 2:05 pm rating: 16
#37
bob
I think I read about this situation before in a Dear Abby column.
Nov 7, 2008 at 4:39 pm rating: 0
#38
Aimee
Exactly how many different ways are there to spell “aimee”? It’s insane.
Nov 7, 2008 at 4:43 pm rating: 0
#39
Timo
Wouldn’t that be, “teat me”?
Nov 7, 2008 at 5:41 pm rating: 1
#40
brooke
facebook is for friends. a.s. and amie are clearly no longer friends. i guess i live by the mantra “forgive and forget” and never burn bridges, but i respect those who don’t want flaky “non-friends” in their lives!
Nov 7, 2008 at 5:53 pm rating: 3
#41
fantasy
My God Facebook!
I just went to check it out, signing in was about the only thing I could relate to. That is one password I do not have to protect, what would someone go in and steal my jello mold?
I guess I just don’t understand “social networking”? As an adult I just don’t feel the need to be up my friends ass every minute. I really don’t care how many friends they “collect” or to give them some kind of strange “gifts” like a ham or a jello mold? What in the Hell is that all about?
I am starting to feel that icky feeling I had in middle school at the very first “dance” and all the boys stayed on one side of the gym and the girls were either in the bathroon giggling or doing this hanging onto each other for dear life. I never did get that?
Don’t worry, you will not get a friend invite from me. Please don’t let it hurt your fragile self esteem, I will not be there long. I am on my way to delete my account right now.
It is like visiting another planet. What is everyone thinking?
Nov 7, 2008 at 9:13 pm rating: 8
#42
VZG
Having been on the ignored side of flat-out friend-dumping before, I’m siding with the submitter. It may be passive-aggressive, but I don’t personally feel an obligation to friend someone online who has actively ignored me for months or years (in spite of attempts to get in contact with them).
Also… it’s Facebook. It’s not like that makes or breaks a relationship, people. If snubbing someone by rejecting them as a friend there is the worst thing you ever do, then good on you, you’re not a complete asshole.
Nov 8, 2008 at 2:06 am rating: 5
#43
carmina
having been on both sides of similar situations, I can tell you with absolute certainty, the bitch just wanted to look at your wedding pictures.
sometimes curiosity overwhelms the need to save face.
I don’t think anyone on facebook hasn’t been through a “who will add who first” war. At least you can be thankful you won and gained the oh-so petty facebook upper hand.
Nov 8, 2008 at 10:21 am rating: 7
#44
Proo
I once had a friend who was really close to both my boyfriend and I. Friend talked to me every day in some form or another, every few days to BF. Friend and I had a conversation one day about what would happen if me and BF were to break up, since Friend was my friend for years before BF came along, but was now really good mates with both of us, and if that would be weird, etc. Friend assured me that were that to happen, he would absolutely still be there for both of us, regardless of what happened or where blame had to be assigned, there was nothing that could tear us apart, etc. etc.
A few months later, BF and I go through horrific break-up, started by me. Friend calls me 2 WEEKS after the breakup, despite being told by BF on the day, to say sorry, then vanishes and does not respond to invites, msgs, etc.
Friend reappears 8 months later through a FB message to the effect of “Hi. Why aren’t we friends anymore? I’m offended. You should try harder.”
Riiiiiight.
Nov 9, 2008 at 2:07 am rating: 2
#45
Nix
People orbit in and out of your life…that is just how it goes. I agree with the comments suggesting that the PA offender is the submitter.
Nov 10, 2008 at 4:47 pm rating: 1
#46
Nikki
They’re both totally PA. The submitter wouldn’t be, except for that she submitted this. But the other girl…
I get sick of people I was either friends with at one time and we ended clearly NOT FRIENDS (like the girl who was pissed that I grew 5″ and got skinny so she told a teacher I was anorexic) and people I never got along with friending me on Facebook just so they can bolster their ‘friends’ numbers or check up on me and see if I’ve been successful or if I’m a loser. There’s a reason they can’t read my profile. It’s because it’s none of their damn business.
Unless their friend request comes with some sort of note about, “Hey, I’m sorry things ended the way they did. I’d like to patch things up,” I feel no obligation to even respond and get pulled into conflict. Um, no. We’re not friends. REJECT!
Nov 10, 2008 at 6:04 pm rating: 1
#47
Sophie
I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks the A.S. is either a) young and silly, or b) a grumpy bitch.
I recently connected to a whole bunch of people a went to high school with on facebook and I love it! Some of those people I wasn’t good friends with when I was in high school. So what? We still spent 6 years of our lives together!
Nov 12, 2008 at 8:56 am rating: 0
#48
everybodyever
Nothing Amie did was passive-aggressive, at least not that we know of from this screen shot; she straightforwardly asked why her friend request was getting rejected. The submitter’s passive-aggressive for ignoring the girl for four years, refusing to say why she’s refusing the friend request and yet trying to humiliate Amie. At worst, Amie sounds flaky.
Dec 10, 2008 at 1:23 pm rating: 1
#49 desperately seeking closure
[...] related: tant pis, mon amie [...]
Jan 6, 2009 at 10:30 am rating: 0
#50
The_Great_G
How do I change my last name to be a limousine?
Jan 6, 2009 at 3:15 pm rating: 0
#51 facebook: the ultimate nostalgia-killer
[...] tant pis, mon amie extra credit: 30 rock “reunion” [...]
Jan 9, 2009 at 10:00 am rating: 0
#52
girl
so she felt sorry for herself for four years over her 22nd birthday plans, and when this friend gets back in touch with her, she doesn’t even wonder just what happened back then? “you didn’t talk to me for four years; I’m not about to acknowledge you now!” Awesome.
Feb 16, 2009 at 12:25 pm rating: 0
#53
GH4321
OMG to all who want to deciphere whos right or wrong…WHO GIVES A SHIT ? Im on Facebook…weve had reunions from it and yes there were assholes that showed up whom I didnt or still dont give a shit about…THEY DONT PAY MY BILLS! FB should just be about morbid nostalgic couriosity…not the continuation of teenaged angst…GET OVER it if you were “cool” a “dick” or a “geek looser”!!!!!
Mar 4, 2009 at 11:37 am rating: 0
#54 facebook wedding drama
[...] related: tant pis, mon amie [...]
Jul 20, 2009 at 10:31 pm rating: 0
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