tant pis, mon amie

November 7th, 2008 · 159 comments

writes our anonymous submitter: “amie and i were friends since junior high. we had plans to go out for my 22nd birthday, but she canceled the day of. i said it was cool and that we should reschedule, and then i never heard from her again…until four years later, when she requested me as a friend on facebook. i rejected her. she friend-requested me again, and i rejected her…again.”

amie, however, didn’t seem to get the message.

take the hint, mon amie

adds our submitter: “for the record, my response was ‘thanks for the congrats!’”

related: you were warned never to push carrie to the limits.

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159 responses so far ↓

  • #1   Joyful

    Ok, now I really want to know why she didn’t talk to you for four years.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:19 am   rating: +31  

    • #1.1   Le Bard

      With passive-aggressivity like that, who needs her as a friend? Rejecting 2 friend requests without giving a reason…and rather than messaging Amie to explain anything, she submits it to PAN…

      Sounds like A.S. is more of an A.S.S.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 4:47 am   rating: +56  

       
    • #1.2   Cowgirlgraphics

      I think you need to explore your passive-aggressive nature before submitting …. it’s OK to report on others, but not on yourself.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:26 pm   rating: +11  

       
     
  • #2   Al

    So you never tried contacting her for 4 years, either?

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:27 am   rating: +78  

     
  • #3   Becky

    I’ve been known to do that. (not talk to people for years) Social anxiety kind of thing. Totally unforgivable. Amie should have apologized.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:29 am   rating: +16  

     
  • #4   Non-amie

    I don’t quite understand: who is the P.A. here, Amie or the anonymous submitter? My vote is for the A.S.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:31 am   rating: +61  

    • #4.1   JD

      Yeah, I didn’t understand who was the passive aggressive on this one, but I’m also voting for the submitter.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 2:50 am   rating: +15  

       
    • #4.2   Goldie

      It’s a tie. The two dramatic characters were made for each other. Is there a Frenemy category on facebook?
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jHjFxJVeCQs

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:26 am   rating: +3  

       
     
  • #5   Erin

    I agree- it’s the A.S. You can, BTW, accept someone as a friend and allow them to see your profile in a very very limited way.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:33 am   rating: +2  

    • #5.1   Canthz_B

      Like when we guys say we’ll only put the tip in?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:18 am   rating: +23  

       
    • #5.2   Goldie

      CB, you were misled. Though you were indeed able to access it in a limited limited way, that wasn’t a profile.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:28 am   rating: +1  

       
    • #5.3   Canthz_B

      I never settle for limitations, Goldie. She gives me an inch, and I’ll take a…wouldn’t you like to know?! :-P

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:51 am   rating: +4  

       
    • #5.4   Goldie

      OMG, SIX????

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:34 pm   rating: 0  

       
    • #5.5   Canthz_B

      I knew you were curious. ;-)

      Nov 7, 2008 at 2:01 pm   rating: +1  

       
     
  • #6   dude

    i agree. the a. s. is the p.a. all the way.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:01 am   rating: +2  

     
  • #7   Furu

    I agree with the submitter. I have all these people from high school who barely talked to me requesting to friend me, and I get so confused. Luckily, none of them ever seem to notice or care that I don’t confirm the request. Some people just want to pad out their friend count, and this person seems particularly desperate to do so.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:10 am   rating: +10  

    • #7.1   Helenasia

      The worst is when someone makes a friend suggestion for you to add someone from your high school. You dont wanna be friends with them, they dont wanna be friends with you, but someone you know and they know thinks you guys should catch up. WTF???!!
      I kept in touch with the people I wanted to.

      Nov 8, 2008 at 3:58 pm   rating: +3  

       
    • #7.2   BurstingAtTheSeams

      Wow, such drama…

      And this is why I don’t have Facebook or MySpace… just regular friends that call on the phone to hang out.

      Nov 9, 2008 at 9:44 pm   rating: +4  

       
    • #7.3   Clumber

      Yea for Team “I don’t have Facebook or MySpace”! Same here. If I wanted to stay friends with folks from high school or college… I would have stayed friends with them. And this kind of odd drama would be exactly why I didn’t stay friends with either an Amie or Anon.

      I also find the posting of it a tad odd… as it does seem like Anon is calling herself out more than Amie. Power to the variety, though!

      Nov 10, 2008 at 12:50 pm   rating: +1  

       
     
  • #8   Canthz_B

    Amie has some balls!
    She talks to someone who is, at the very least, aware of Submitter’s wedding (maybe even attended?), but hasn’t talked to submitter in four years?
    What kind of “Don’t tell Submitter you and I are still friends” bullshit is that?

    Then again, maybe she was released after serving four years on a seven year sentence, in which case I too give her credit for good behavior.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:16 am   rating: +27  

     
  • #9   Nini

    I just love the irony of that girl’s name being “Amie”…

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:39 am   rating: +24  

     
  • #10   Jonathan

    I once made a date with a girl, and she canceled the afternoon of and promised to reschedule. She never did, and because I was insecure I decided to hate her for a while instead of just calling her myself…

    Fast forward two years, it was graduation time and I was feeling nostalgic for lots of old friends. So I message her on facebook. We’re no longer living in the same city, but we’ve been having a fantastic time with each other whenever we can get around to visiting the other’s city. It was totally worth it.

    The anonymous submitter here is being passive aggressive, and Amie is just being friendly after what may have been an entirely accidental snub. It doesn’t hurt to swallow your false pride once in a while.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:55 am   rating: +60  

    • #10.1   Joe

      I once made a date with a girl, only to have her cancel the day of. I said it was cool, and we should reschedule. Later, when I tried to make a another attempt at a date, she turned me down again.

      Her loss.

      I’m sorry, your story was positive, wasn’t it? I’m glad things worked out better for you!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:03 am   rating: +3  

       
    • #10.2   Canthz_B

      OMG! You two need to go on Dr. Fucking Phil

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:48 am   rating: +10  

       
    • #10.3   fantasy

      Does Dr. Phil do face book? I mean could he

      make himself “look” any better?

      *for that matter, does dr. phil give a fuck?*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:53 am   rating: +2  

       
    • #10.4   Timo

      Oh that was such a touching story Jonathan Livingston Seagull it was like a very special afterschool special. :roll:

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:54 am   rating: +7  

       
    • #10.5   Canthz_B

      Shit! Now I’m almost outta Kleenex!! :cry:

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:12 am   rating: +4  

       
    • #10.6   claw71

      I once had a date planned with a girl and she canceled on the day of. She said she’d call me back but she never did. I was angry but too proud to call her so I broke into her house late one night and killed her whole family. Then I jerked off on her goldfish and carved her name in my thigh.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:24 pm   rating: +41  

       
    • #10.7   Goldie

      I once canceled on a guy the day of. And I will tell you why. I never wanted to date the guy to begin with, because I found him physically repulsive. He was half my height, and his hands were kinda slimy. But he wouldn’t let me tell him no to his face. So there’s your answer, AS. Either Amie doesn’t swing that way, or she thinks you’re fugly. Chew on that. No wait, munch on that. There, that’s better.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:41 pm   rating: +14  

       
    • #10.8   Goldie

      You guys are all just pissed at Jonathan because he told you it does not hurt to swallow. Well it doesn’t! You should try that sometime!

      Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends and Influence Ppl”, p.183

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:45 pm   rating: +3  

       
    • #10.9   Timo

      Jonathan knows so well about swallowing, so does his mom and dad.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 2:05 pm   rating: +2  

       
    • #10.10   secondsout

      Goldie, did it hurt when Claw carved his name into your leg?

      Nov 8, 2008 at 2:59 pm   rating: +1  

       
    • #10.11   Goldie

      Nope, he gave me vicodin first to kill the pain. I felt sorry for the goldfish, though. Poor Pete, he was traumatized for life, darting back and forth around his fish tank, hitting his head against the walls. We had to flush him down the toilet to end his misery.

      Nov 8, 2008 at 5:17 pm   rating: 0  

       
     
  • #11   fantasy

    Facebook is nothing but lies and drama wars.

    Yep, I make 100k a year and I only spent 6 months at college.

    They should rename facebook, call it “My brag book of lies!”

    The submitter was probably pissed that Amie did not say how wonderful she looked in her pictures and what a great catch she got for a husband.

    *truth is, she works at wal mart, has gained fifty pounds and her new husband is a loser that sits home smokes dope and sleeps all day. She gets home after a long day selling crap and has to cook the ramen noodles for dinner. I suppose she really doesn’t want to let amie know what her real life is, ’cause on face book you can have it as good as you want it. I suspect amie knows too much of her past.*

    Nov 7, 2008 at 4:15 am   rating: +23  

    • #11.1   Joyful

      Wow…

      Nov 7, 2008 at 4:18 am   rating: +2  

       
    • #11.2   tinkerbell2

      I second the ‘wow’. Anyone ever seen ‘Fantasy’ and Amie in the same room?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:22 am   rating: +1  

       
    • #11.3   fantasy

      Everyday, right amy? amy? amy d, where did you go?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:42 am   rating: +3  

       
    • #11.4   park rose

      Yes I have, and if you’re after some hot dirty lezzie on lezzie action… whooeee… :oops: :mrgreen:

      What’s that fan?
      Pure as the driven snow?
      Thought that was glo…

      PS… she’s gigglebraxing with ‘glo. You never can tell what she’ll get up to next.

      *balloon animals*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:43 am   rating: +3  

       
    • #11.5   fantasy

      I am pure as the driven snow!

      Those children that I showed you? They only live in facebook!

      That is why they are so talented and good looking, it’s all in my mind.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:45 am   rating: +3  

       
    • #11.6   Timo

      She doesn’t work at Wal-Mart she cruises the back parking lot of Wal-Mart helping long haul truckers park their loads, if you know what I mean.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:33 am   rating: +4  

       
    • #11.7   fantasy

      Timo, I was trying to make it sound better, you know, for facebook.

      I didn’t want to humiliate her completely,thought I would leave that up to Claw!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:45 am   rating: +3  

       
    • #11.8   amy d

      You talkin’ to me?

      *looks around*

      You talkin’ to me? I’m the only one here.

      *looks around again*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:26 am   rating: +3  

       
    • #11.9   Timo

      I amuse you? How do I amuse you? Am I funny haha?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:26 pm   rating: +2  

       
    • #11.10   BurstingAtTheSeams

      To Park Rose of 11.4:

      One of these days, GiggleBraxing will become a hit word on the Interweb. Just wait, I’m telling you.

      Keep on, keep on usin’ it.

      Nov 9, 2008 at 9:48 pm   rating: 0  

       
     
  • #12   Bec

    Something similar happened to me years ago, I was friends with a girl called Amy all through school and when I left I moved in with my boyfriend and she kept talking crap about me to our mutual friends so I completely blanked her, then I got a letter a year or so later to ask me why I thought I couldn’t be friends with her anymore and that she has nothing against me.

    There was no reply.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 5:19 am   rating: +1  

    • #12.1   anglophile

      Those damn Amys. You can’t trust ‘em.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 7:34 am   rating: +12  

       
    • #12.2   amy d

      *picks Glo’s pocket while she is busy posting*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 7:43 am   rating: +12  

       
    • #12.3   anglophile

      *glad she keeps her money in her bra*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:02 am   rating: +7  

       
    • #12.4   amy d

      *checks hands, finds a condom. wonders what Glo was doing with a condom in her pocket*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:12 am   rating: +6  

       
    • #12.5   anglophile

      *checks pocket, wonders where her special balloon animal balloons went*

      *feels sad for all the disappointed children*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:29 am   rating: +18  

       
    • #12.6   amy d

      “special balloon animals”

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:32 am   rating: +6  

       
    • #12.7   park rose

      python shaped?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:47 am   rating: +3  

       
    • #12.8   anglophile

      Yes, what of it? I got them from claw. He told me they were extra long balloons.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:49 am   rating: +2  

       
    • #12.9   fantasy

      …..with or without claw?

      *’glo is right, the poor children.*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:50 am   rating: +4  

       
    • #12.10   park rose

      Wallaby damned

      (I know, I know… I’ve used the joke before, and I stole it in the first place. But the newbies are prowling! The newbies are prowling!).

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:55 am   rating: +3  

       
    • #12.11   fantasy

      *gigglebrax*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:04 am   rating: +4  

       
    • #12.12   Canthz_B

      Why did I think Bec’s VLS (very long sentence) was going to end with, “…and now her body is riddled with cancer and she’s in horrible pain, and she said she really missed me and I was her only real friend ever and she hasn’t had a happy day since I last spoke to her and I feel rotten now so be nicer to people, okay?”?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:55 am   rating: +3  

       
    • #12.13   Frankie

      Hey guys!

      *Tries not to leer at the pink elephant hovering in the corner*

      What’s going on in here?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:32 pm   rating: 0  

       
     
  • #13   Tammy

    Fantasy is right about Facebook. I think “lol” stands for, Lots O’ Lying……..

    Nov 7, 2008 at 7:02 am   rating: +4  

    • #13.1   park rose

      The Nesting Quatrain

      Gigglebrax, gigglebrax, gigglebrax,
      Gigglebrax, gigglebrax, gigglebrax,
      Gigglebrax, gigglebrax gigglebrax,
      Gigglebrax, gigglebrax, gigglebrax.

      Yes, it is a made-up word for whoever pointed the finger a few threads back, and yes, we’re smarmy with it!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 7:32 am   rating: +6  

       
     
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