Tant pis, mon amie

November 7th, 2008 · 165 comments

Writes our anonymous submitter: “Amie and I were friends since junior high. We had plans to go out for my 22nd birthday, but she canceled the day of. I said it was cool and that we should reschedule, and then I never heard from her again…until four years later, when she requested me as a friend on Facebook. I rejected her. She friend-requested me again, and I rejected her…again.”

Amie, however, didn’t seem to get the message.

I heard about your wedding and I just wanted to say congrats and that I was really excited for you, thats all. I don't know why you wont accept the facebook-friend invite.

Adds our submitter: “For the record, my response was, ‘Thanks for the congrats!’”

related: You were warned never to push Carrie to the limits.

FILED UNDER: Facebook · frenemies · mean girls · weddings and bridezillas · xoxo


165 responses so far ↓

  • #1   Joyful

    Ok, now I really want to know why she didn’t talk to you for four years.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:19 am   rating: 48  small thumbs up

    • #1.1   Le Bard

      With passive-aggressivity like that, who needs her as a friend? Rejecting 2 friend requests without giving a reason…and rather than messaging Amie to explain anything, she submits it to PAN…

      Sounds like A.S. is more of an A.S.S.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 4:47 am   rating: 79  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.2   Cowgirlgraphics

      I think you need to explore your passive-aggressive nature before submitting …. it’s OK to report on others, but not on yourself.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:26 pm   rating: 21  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #2   Al

    So you never tried contacting her for 4 years, either?

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:27 am   rating: 107  small thumbs up

     
  • #3   Becky

    I’ve been known to do that. (not talk to people for years) Social anxiety kind of thing. Totally unforgivable. Amie should have apologized.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:29 am   rating: 24  small thumbs up

     
  • #4   Non-amie

    I don’t quite understand: who is the P.A. here, Amie or the anonymous submitter? My vote is for the A.S.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:31 am   rating: 75  small thumbs up

    • #4.1   JD

      Yeah, I didn’t understand who was the passive aggressive on this one, but I’m also voting for the submitter.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 2:50 am   rating: 20  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.2   Goldie

      It’s a tie. The two dramatic characters were made for each other. Is there a Frenemy category on facebook?
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jHjFxJVeCQs

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:26 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #5   Erin

    I agree- it’s the A.S. You can, BTW, accept someone as a friend and allow them to see your profile in a very very limited way.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:33 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

    • #5.1   Canthz_B bang

      Like when we guys say we’ll only put the tip in?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:18 am   rating: 30  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.2   Goldie

      CB, you were misled. Though you were indeed able to access it in a limited limited way, that wasn’t a profile.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:28 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.3   Canthz_B bang

      I never settle for limitations, Goldie. She gives me an inch, and I’ll take a…wouldn’t you like to know?! :-P

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:51 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.4   Goldie

      OMG, SIX????

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:34 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.5   Canthz_B bang

      I knew you were curious. ;-)

      Nov 7, 2008 at 2:01 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #6   dude

    i agree. the a. s. is the p.a. all the way.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:01 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

     
  • #7   Furu

    I agree with the submitter. I have all these people from high school who barely talked to me requesting to friend me, and I get so confused. Luckily, none of them ever seem to notice or care that I don’t confirm the request. Some people just want to pad out their friend count, and this person seems particularly desperate to do so.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:10 am   rating: 24  small thumbs up

    • #7.1   Helenasia

      The worst is when someone makes a friend suggestion for you to add someone from your high school. You dont wanna be friends with them, they dont wanna be friends with you, but someone you know and they know thinks you guys should catch up. WTF???!!
      I kept in touch with the people I wanted to.

      Nov 8, 2008 at 3:58 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.2   BurstingAtTheSeams

      Wow, such drama…

      And this is why I don’t have Facebook or MySpace… just regular friends that call on the phone to hang out.

      Nov 9, 2008 at 9:44 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.3   Clumber

      Yea for Team “I don’t have Facebook or MySpace”! Same here. If I wanted to stay friends with folks from high school or college… I would have stayed friends with them. And this kind of odd drama would be exactly why I didn’t stay friends with either an Amie or Anon.

      I also find the posting of it a tad odd… as it does seem like Anon is calling herself out more than Amie. Power to the variety, though!

      Nov 10, 2008 at 12:50 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #8   Canthz_B bang

    Amie has some balls!
    She talks to someone who is, at the very least, aware of Submitter’s wedding (maybe even attended?), but hasn’t talked to submitter in four years?
    What kind of “Don’t tell Submitter you and I are still friends” bullshit is that?

    Then again, maybe she was released after serving four years on a seven year sentence, in which case I too give her credit for good behavior.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:16 am   rating: 31  small thumbs up

     
  • #9   Nini

    I just love the irony of that girl’s name being “Amie”…

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:39 am   rating: 27  small thumbs up

     
  • #10   Jonathan

    I once made a date with a girl, and she canceled the afternoon of and promised to reschedule. She never did, and because I was insecure I decided to hate her for a while instead of just calling her myself…

    Fast forward two years, it was graduation time and I was feeling nostalgic for lots of old friends. So I message her on facebook. We’re no longer living in the same city, but we’ve been having a fantastic time with each other whenever we can get around to visiting the other’s city. It was totally worth it.

    The anonymous submitter here is being passive aggressive, and Amie is just being friendly after what may have been an entirely accidental snub. It doesn’t hurt to swallow your false pride once in a while.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 3:55 am   rating: 79  small thumbs up

    • #10.1   Joe bang

      I once made a date with a girl, only to have her cancel the day of. I said it was cool, and we should reschedule. Later, when I tried to make a another attempt at a date, she turned me down again.

      Her loss.

      I’m sorry, your story was positive, wasn’t it? I’m glad things worked out better for you!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:03 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.2   Canthz_B bang

      OMG! You two need to go on Dr. Fucking Phil

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:48 am   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.3   fantasy bang

      Does Dr. Phil do face book? I mean could he

      make himself “look” any better?

      *for that matter, does dr. phil give a fuck?*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:53 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.4   Timo bang

      Oh that was such a touching story Jonathan Livingston Seagull it was like a very special afterschool special. :roll:

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:54 am   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.5   Canthz_B bang

      Shit! Now I’m almost outta Kleenex!! :cry:

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:12 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.6   claw71 bang

      I once had a date planned with a girl and she canceled on the day of. She said she’d call me back but she never did. I was angry but too proud to call her so I broke into her house late one night and killed her whole family. Then I jerked off on her goldfish and carved her name in my thigh.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:24 pm   rating: 54  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.7   Goldie

      I once canceled on a guy the day of. And I will tell you why. I never wanted to date the guy to begin with, because I found him physically repulsive. He was half my height, and his hands were kinda slimy. But he wouldn’t let me tell him no to his face. So there’s your answer, AS. Either Amie doesn’t swing that way, or she thinks you’re fugly. Chew on that. No wait, munch on that. There, that’s better.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:41 pm   rating: 16  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.8   Goldie

      You guys are all just pissed at Jonathan because he told you it does not hurt to swallow. Well it doesn’t! You should try that sometime!

      Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends and Influence Ppl”, p.183

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:45 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.9   Timo bang

      Jonathan knows so well about swallowing, so does his mom and dad.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 2:05 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.10   secondsout bang

      Goldie, did it hurt when Claw carved his name into your leg?

      Nov 8, 2008 at 2:59 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.11   Goldie

      Nope, he gave me vicodin first to kill the pain. I felt sorry for the goldfish, though. Poor Pete, he was traumatized for life, darting back and forth around his fish tank, hitting his head against the walls. We had to flush him down the toilet to end his misery.

      Nov 8, 2008 at 5:17 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #11   fantasy bang

    Facebook is nothing but lies and drama wars.

    Yep, I make 100k a year and I only spent 6 months at college.

    They should rename facebook, call it “My brag book of lies!”

    The submitter was probably pissed that Amie did not say how wonderful she looked in her pictures and what a great catch she got for a husband.

    *truth is, she works at wal mart, has gained fifty pounds and her new husband is a loser that sits home smokes dope and sleeps all day. She gets home after a long day selling crap and has to cook the ramen noodles for dinner. I suppose she really doesn’t want to let amie know what her real life is, ’cause on face book you can have it as good as you want it. I suspect amie knows too much of her past.*

    Nov 7, 2008 at 4:15 am   rating: 24  small thumbs up

    • #11.1   Joyful

      Wow…

      Nov 7, 2008 at 4:18 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #11.2   tinkerbell2

      I second the ‘wow’. Anyone ever seen ‘Fantasy’ and Amie in the same room?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:22 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #11.3   fantasy bang

      Everyday, right amy? amy? amy d, where did you go?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:42 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #11.4   park rose bang

      Yes I have, and if you’re after some hot dirty lezzie on lezzie action… whooeee… :oops: :mrgreen:

      What’s that fan?
      Pure as the driven snow?
      Thought that was glo…

      PS… she’s gigglebraxing with ‘glo. You never can tell what she’ll get up to next.

      *balloon animals*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:43 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #11.5   fantasy bang

      I am pure as the driven snow!

      Those children that I showed you? They only live in facebook!

      That is why they are so talented and good looking, it’s all in my mind.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:45 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #11.6   Timo bang

      She doesn’t work at Wal-Mart she cruises the back parking lot of Wal-Mart helping long haul truckers park their loads, if you know what I mean.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:33 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #11.7   fantasy bang

      Timo, I was trying to make it sound better, you know, for facebook.

      I didn’t want to humiliate her completely,thought I would leave that up to Claw!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:45 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #11.8   amy d bang

      You talkin’ to me?

      *looks around*

      You talkin’ to me? I’m the only one here.

      *looks around again*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:26 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #11.9   Timo bang

      I amuse you? How do I amuse you? Am I funny haha?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:26 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #11.10   BurstingAtTheSeams

      To Park Rose of 11.4:

      One of these days, GiggleBraxing will become a hit word on the Interweb. Just wait, I’m telling you.

      Keep on, keep on usin’ it.

      Nov 9, 2008 at 9:48 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #12   Bec

    Something similar happened to me years ago, I was friends with a girl called Amy all through school and when I left I moved in with my boyfriend and she kept talking crap about me to our mutual friends so I completely blanked her, then I got a letter a year or so later to ask me why I thought I couldn’t be friends with her anymore and that she has nothing against me.

    There was no reply.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 5:19 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #12.1   anglophile bang

      Those damn Amys. You can’t trust ‘em.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 7:34 am   rating: 15  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.2   amy d bang

      *picks Glo’s pocket while she is busy posting*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 7:43 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.3   anglophile bang

      *glad she keeps her money in her bra*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:02 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.4   amy d bang

      *checks hands, finds a condom. wonders what Glo was doing with a condom in her pocket*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:12 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.5   anglophile bang

      *checks pocket, wonders where her special balloon animal balloons went*

      *feels sad for all the disappointed children*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:29 am   rating: 20  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.6   amy d bang

      “special balloon animals”

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:32 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.7   park rose bang

      python shaped?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:47 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.8   anglophile bang

      Yes, what of it? I got them from claw. He told me they were extra long balloons.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:49 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.9   fantasy bang

      …..with or without claw?

      *’glo is right, the poor children.*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:50 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.10   park rose bang

      Wallaby damned

      (I know, I know… I’ve used the joke before, and I stole it in the first place. But the newbies are prowling! The newbies are prowling!).

      Nov 7, 2008 at 8:55 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.11   fantasy bang

      *gigglebrax*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:04 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.12   Canthz_B bang

      Why did I think Bec’s VLS (very long sentence) was going to end with, “…and now her body is riddled with cancer and she’s in horrible pain, and she said she really missed me and I was her only real friend ever and she hasn’t had a happy day since I last spoke to her and I feel rotten now so be nicer to people, okay?”?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:55 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.13   Frankie bang

      Hey guys!

      *Tries not to leer at the pink elephant hovering in the corner*

      What’s going on in here?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:32 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #13   Tammy

    Fantasy is right about Facebook. I think “lol” stands for, Lots O’ Lying……..

    Nov 7, 2008 at 7:02 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

    • #13.1   park rose bang

      The Nesting Quatrain

      Gigglebrax, gigglebrax, gigglebrax,
      Gigglebrax, gigglebrax, gigglebrax,
      Gigglebrax, gigglebrax gigglebrax,
      Gigglebrax, gigglebrax, gigglebrax.

      Yes, it is a made-up word for whoever pointed the finger a few threads back, and yes, we’re smarmy with it!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 7:32 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #14   Maddy

    Grow up honey. People lose touch sometimes for so many reasons. It is worth it to let shit go. I think if you hold grudges about stupid shit, in the end you are the one that loses out.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 9:02 am   rating: 20  small thumbs up

    • #14.1   Timo bang

      Wasting time on someone like Amie ( ie instead of y! ) is like throwing time down a well. Ignore her and move on, there are some people that are not worth the time of day and it isn’t about a grudge honey it is about what is more important.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 9:38 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #14.2   VZG

      Not friending someone on Facebook is a grudge? I’m reeeally glad I don’t take a subpar social site that seriously, let me tell you.

      Nov 8, 2008 at 2:03 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #15   Timo bang

    Les enfants jouent de nouveaux ailleurs. Je voudrais ouvrir une route avec eux pour qu’ils ennuyer.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 9:41 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

    • #15.1   liloleme

      voulez vous crochet avec moi?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:44 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.2   Mishee bang

      I am sorry liloleme, I don’t do activities involving yarns with someone on the first date.

      So not only no crocheting, but also, NO KNITTING!

      Remember, no means no.

      Take back the skeins.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:48 pm   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.3   Canthz_B bang

      It’s okay, Timo. I dated a girl with a hook once.
      She was a great back-scratcher for those hard-to-reach places, but Hell on a hand-job!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 2:21 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.4   Timo bang

      liloleme-
      Crochet, ne. Mais je peux entrer en contact avec vous. C’est si toutes les entrées sont compatibles. Si vous êtes trop jeune alors je vais baiser ta mère.

      CB i have to tell you about this girl I dated with one eye… :lol:

      Nov 7, 2008 at 2:45 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.5   Timo bang

      Je suis désolé, qui a été méchant. Nous vous remercions de l’offre banal.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 3:31 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.6   Goldie

      Ahhhh how romantic. Except for the “i will do your mom” part. Ah, what the hell, being a mom myself, I find that part romantic as well.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 5:03 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #16   claw71 bang

    I don’t think you could find a better example of irony. Submissions like this are priceless.

    The passive-aggression is 100% on the part of the submitter. Amie could be a self-centered twit but based on the information I have right here the award for cunt of the year goes to anonymous.

    Blowback is a bitch, isn’t it?

    Nov 7, 2008 at 9:54 am   rating: 35  small thumbs up

    • #16.1   Canthz_B bang

      Take notes noobs…this is an example of a proper PAN comment!!!

      Bravo, claw.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:02 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.2   claw71 bang

      A brotha’s got to represent. Troublemakers in the hizzie!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:26 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #17   claw71 bang

    How about a little Pure Prarie League?

    I can’t see why you keep facebook friending me
    You never called me back and and you made me spend my birthday by myself
    so I married someone else and you’re alone
    and I keep rejecting you because you didn’t phone

    Amie what do I have to do
    I won’t be facebooking you
    hell might freeze over before if I do

    I’ll hold this bitter grudge until the end of time
    I won’t say a word I’ll let you stew until the day you die
    and I dance with glee
    I hate you so much I want to burn your home
    You were my friend but now I call you ho
    (why did you forget about me?)

    Amie, I’m still made at you
    Ignore is what I plan to do
    for a while maybe longer, I’ll hate you…

    I won’t be facebook friending you
    I won’t be facebook friending you
    That’s just what I’m gonna do, I won’t be
    facebook friending you….

    Nov 7, 2008 at 10:25 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

     
  • #18   GhostWriter bang

    If you compare final point tallies, Amie wins the game. Do you know how many points you get when you use the letters “XOXO” with a triple-friend-request-score? Anonymous’s only chance now is to challenge Amie’s use of “congrats” as a real expression.

    All the world’s a Scrabble board…
    – W. Shakespeare

    Nov 7, 2008 at 10:26 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

    • #18.1   Canthz_B bang

      …and all the Facebook whiners merely squares?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:59 am   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #18.2   AuntyBron

      …and all of the players are missing a few tiles.

      Nov 8, 2008 at 3:27 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #19   claw71 bang

    This will seem a bit childish of me but am I the only person who keeps reading “Taint Piss” in this note’s title?

    Nov 7, 2008 at 10:52 am   rating: 14  small thumbs up

    • #19.1   Timo bang

      Taint piss mons pubis.

      Nah could be me I am just juvenile.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 10:55 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #19.2   Canthz_B bang

      Finally, a support group I can belong to!!

      Yes, the taint piss joke is out there waiting to be discovered and exploited.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:03 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #20   biscuit

    Now if A.S. was smart, she’d accepted the friend and milked it for another wedding present.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 11:11 am   rating: 14  small thumbs up

    • #20.1   fantasy bang

      Amie did send a gift, you know one of those virtual gifts people send out on face book….

      To say the least A.S. was not impressed.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:34 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #21   Tmarie

    Amie’s trying to mend the friendship and Anonymous Submitter is way too bitter and/or shallow to just allow a friending on Facebook?

    Team Amie.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 11:20 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

    • #21.1   fantasy bang

      TeresaMarie??

      Is that you? I haven’t heard from you since you

      didn’t accept me as a friend on myspace!

      Now you are on face book, cool, I will stalk you

      there.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:31 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #21.2   Canthz_B bang

      That’s why I have no facebook page, fantasy. Who needs some pain in the ass, blast from the past popping up, begging for validation?

      Unless they happen to owe you money, in which case, you’ll never hear from them again. ;-)

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:59 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #22   souldesqueeze

    Isn’t it kind of passive-aggressive in itself to reject her friend requests without telling her why?

    Nov 7, 2008 at 11:22 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #22.1   Canthz_B bang

      You’re absolutely right.
      Here are you tickets to the Oprah Winfrey Show. :roll:

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:31 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #22.2   Mishee bang

      soul- I know that if I had a friend of over 10 years and one night she canceled on me ON MY BIRTHDAY and then I NEVER HEARD FROM HER AGAIN until one day when she messages me on Facebook acting like nothing happened – and then messages over and over and over…

      I’ll tell you now, passive aggressive is the way to go on this one, cause no one needs to put themselves in a situation where they might have assault charges brought against them!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:49 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #22.3   claw71 bang

      You wonder how strong the friendship was if the submitter didn’t think to call Amie and ask if there was something wrong? I think there’s more to the story and since the submitter left that out, I suspect that it makes her look pretty bad.

      I bet Amie called to cancel the birthday plans because her mother died, to which our submitter said “Well, it’s kind of a bummer you’re leaving me hanging but it’s cool, we’ll just reschedule.”

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:08 pm   rating: 19  small thumbs up

       
    • #22.4   Mishee bang

      soul – Why are you thinking that it’s P/A of the submitter to reject the request without telling Amie why?

      I mean, if I flake out on someone on their bday and then don’t contact them for four years like that, and they reject my friend request and few times, odds are I am gonna know why.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:19 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #22.5   VZG

      Being out of contact for four years doesn’t mean she didn’t try to contact her.

      Nov 8, 2008 at 2:18 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #22.6   Juliet

      I’ve turned down friend requests and I’ve had friend requests turned down. You just don’t make a big fuss about it.

      And no, I wouldn’t get into a discussion over why someone turned down my friend requests. Friends should want to be your friend. The lack of response is pretty indicative, don’t you think?

      Nov 8, 2008 at 6:49 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #23   unholyghost2003 bang

    As I have told my hubby many times … WOW I really have to dislike someone to not facebook friend them. Honestly, it isn’t like you have to spend a long weekend vacation with each of your facebook friends. If I know you and don’t consider you a total asshat I will confirm you as a facebook friend. A canceled evening out and a lack of communication over the years is not a reason to hate someone so much that you refuse their emails.
    If you saw them on the street would you say “hi” if they approached you? or would you pretend they were invisible? Same thing with facebook friending.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 11:30 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

    • #23.1   Emily

      this! It’s not like everyone on facebook is your bff.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:40 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #23.2   secondsout bang

      UHG’s Facebook profile features a lot of “friends” who are actually ads for porn websites, apparently.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:56 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #23.3   unholyghost2003 bang

      S’out. those are not friends, those are coworkers.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:59 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #23.4   anglophile bang

      *regularly crosses the street to avoid saying hi to old classmates*

      *doesn’t understand how she ended up with a facebook account*

      *ignores friend requests from old classmates*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 2:45 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #23.5   Wade bang

      It starts with a few friends and family.

      Then the fond discovery of long lost pals and paramours.

      Then the ever escalating accretion of peripheral acquaintances.

      Until, finally reaching the critical mass of superpoke-ers, flair-flingers and application junkies, it morphs from facebook to farcebook.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 4:46 pm   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
    • #23.6   fantasy bang

      and in the end it is still fakebook!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 5:33 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #23.7   VZG

      Really? It’s that important? Is it going to break their heart to not be friended if you’d rather only include people who you actively talk to, and people whose lived you might be interested in being updated on? If I knew someone that fragile — well, yes, I’d probably friend them, just to save their delicate souls. Beyond that, I don’t feel any personal obligation to friending. (And you can be a non-asshole and still disliked, by the way.)

      Nov 8, 2008 at 2:15 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #24   stoneburner

    The shift key there on your keyboard exists for a reason.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 11:31 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #24.1   Canthz_B bang

      to change gears, right?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:35 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #24.2   Timo bang

      not mine, i gots an automatic.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:46 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #24.3   anglophile bang

      to ignore when you register an id?

      ;)

      Nov 7, 2008 at 3:17 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #25   Harpdevil

    What a bizarre happenstance, I wonder what happened on the day she canceled?

    Nov 7, 2008 at 12:00 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #26   Dare

    Team They’re Both PA and Deserve eachother.

    Facebook, America’s Christmas Letter 365 days a year.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 12:31 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

    • #26.1   Timo bang

      Be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend, be my friend.

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      I can hear you or see you. Lalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalala
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      Nov 7, 2008 at 12:39 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #27   Cowgirlgraphics

    A.S. waited in the bar all night for Amie to show … she ended up getting very drunk and going home with some butch lesbian and had a sexual experience she only can fantasize about with the detachable showerhead in the marble tub of her new palacial estate. That kind of luxury only came with her husband, a man of little penis, but lots of money.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 12:45 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

    • #27.1   Mishee bang

      I am assuming of course that this lesbian you speak of had her velcroband watch on?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:17 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #27.2   Timo bang

      She did and they sang a karaoke duet of “The Rose”.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:20 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #28   secondsout bang

    Well, the picture fits, at least. It’s a jackass.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 12:52 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

     
  • #29   secondsout bang

    Ahh, facebook – an opportunity for people to avoid making friends and staying in touch the old analog way. I could call this person and say congratulations, or mail a card. Nope, it’s facebook or nothing!

    Nov 7, 2008 at 12:54 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

     
  • #30   BredWell

    Okay, like if we are going to have stories about “i once had . . . ” then here is mine: I once hung out with a guy every day for about two months. RIGHT UP until the night before the morning he was supposed to come by and pick me up to give me a ride to school. (School was 10 miles away.) He never showed. Never heard from him until two and a half years later when he shows up to interview for a job at a radio station where I was the “top jock”. I said “hey, LTNS” and he said “hey, yeah” and that was it. I went straight into the manager’s office to tell him the guy was a flake. Never saw him again after that.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 1:07 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

    • #30.1   Frankie bang

      I’m not going to read this.

      -Frankie

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:16 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #30.2   Mishee bang

      Read what?

      Did you know, my darling Frankie, that you can click on the little square next to the commenter’s name, and it collapses the comment!

      I’m jus’ sayin’…

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:23 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #30.3   Canthz_B bang

      Funny, just the other day I saw a MADTV skit with Kim Coles in it with just about the same story. Kim Coles supposedly stopped a MADTV cast member from getting a job on Living Single.

      Coincidence?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:36 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #30.4   Frankie bang

      ooh. that’s handy mish. thanks!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:45 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #31   BredWell

    Afterthought: Do you think that was PA of me??

    LOL

    Nov 7, 2008 at 1:10 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

    • #31.1   Goldie

      LOL yes it was a pretty douchey move.
      And nest your comments, LMAO

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:57 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #31.2   BredWell

      Is this how I nest my comments?

      <– totally newb

      Nov 10, 2008 at 11:11 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #32   TPS

    She got ditched on her birthday. That’s cold, man.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 1:16 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #33   TPS

    Double post!

    Nov 7, 2008 at 1:17 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
  • #34   Timo bang

    This one time at Band camp I got up in the middle of the night put on a hockey mask and killed all of the kids that couldn’t figure out how to nest their comments. “Friend this motherfuckers” I thought. Then things went loopy and I became unstuck in time and was in the Tralfamadorian zoo with the porn star Montana Wildhack. She had a great rack.
    Goodbye Blue Monday’s, it said on the pendant between between her boobs.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 1:18 pm   rating: 11  small thumbs up

     
  • #35   olivia

    Is it wrong that I’m friends with the Metro Card on Facebook but refuse friendship from my 6th grade camp boyfriend?

    Nov 7, 2008 at 1:32 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

    • #35.1   Canthz_B bang

      Not as wrong as thinking we give a shit. ;-)

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:41 pm   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #35.2   olivia

      I thought you’d be really excited for me, that’s all. Now I’m not going to accept your facebook-friend invite.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 1:52 pm   rating: 13  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #36   Goldie

    That one time I was going to get my puppy, Buttmuncher, neutered. The vet canceled on the day of and I didn’t hear from her for another four years. Today, we are living a nighmare. Every evening, damn dog breaks down the door and gets away. Strange stories appear in newspapers about citizens complaining of being humped in their sleep. And there is an abundance of unusually hairy children under the age of three on our local playground. Curse you, vet. Don’t even think about friending me on Facebook. Not a chance. Not after what you did to me, bitch.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 2:05 pm   rating: 16  small thumbs up

     
  • #37   bob

    I think I read about this situation before in a Dear Abby column.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 4:39 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

    • #37.1   Melisande

      The funny part about this comment is the admission that you read the Dear Abby column.

      Nov 8, 2008 at 12:02 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #38   Aimee

    Exactly how many different ways are there to spell “aimee”? It’s insane.

    Nov 7, 2008 at 4:43 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

    • #38.1   unholyghost2003 bang

      aeme

      aemi

      e me

      ay’ me

      amy

      emee

      amee

      amie

      aemie

      a’ mie

      Nov 7, 2008 at 4:56 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #38.2   amy d bang

      Are you calling me, Uhg?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 5:18 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #38.3   unholyghost2003 bang

      always

      Nov 7, 2008 at 5:23 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #38.4   Sirius

      eat me (the T is silent)

      Nov 7, 2008 at 5:29 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #38.5   amy d bang

      Well, here I am. What can I do for you?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 5:49 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #38.6   unholyghost2003 bang

      love me?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 6:01 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #38.7   amy d bang

      That goes without saying, Uhg. It’s always been you.

      *wipes tear*

      Nov 7, 2008 at 6:17 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #38.8   anglophile bang

      *knew she couldn’t trust amy*

      Nov 8, 2008 at 12:57 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #38.9   creamy

      option 12: hey me

      Nov 9, 2008 at 4:34 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #39   Timo bang

    Wouldn’t that be, “teat me”? :razz:

    Nov 7, 2008 at 5:41 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #39.1   Goldie

      Dude, you’ve gotta nest! And, no, it would be “eat meat”.

      Nov 7, 2008 at 5:56 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #40   brooke

    facebook is for friends. a.s. and amie are clearly no longer friends. i guess i live by the mantra “forgive and forget” and never burn bridges, but i respect those who don’t want flaky “non-friends” in their lives!

    Nov 7, 2008 at 5:53 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

     
  • #41   fantasy bang

    My God Facebook!

    I just went to check it out, signing in was about the only thing I could relate to. That is one password I do not have to protect, what would someone go in and steal my jello mold?

    I guess I just don’t understand “social networking”? As an adult I just don’t feel the need to be up my friends ass every minute. I really don’t care how many friends they “collect” or to give them some kind of strange “gifts” like a ham or a jello mold? What in the Hell is that all about?

    I am starting to feel that icky feeling I had in middle school at the very first “dance” and all the boys stayed on one side of the gym and the girls were either in the bathroon giggling or doing this hanging onto each other for dear life. I never did get that?

    Don’t worry, you will not get a friend invite from me. Please don’t let it hurt your fragile self esteem, I will not be there long. I am on my way to delete my account right now.

    It is like visiting another planet. What is everyone thinking?

    Nov 7, 2008 at 9:13 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

    • #41.1   park rose bang

      Facebook is evil, fan. Your account will stay in their hands forever and ever and ever :twisted: but, you can be inactive. It can be fun, actually.

      Aww, We do kinda enjoy it when you’re up our asses :D

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:08 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #41.2   kiff

      are you always this incoherent?

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:26 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #41.3   fantasy bang

      Run Rose, Run!!!!!

      The newbies are prowling! The newbies are prowling!

      Before you know it people you have never met will be up your ass!

      Nov 7, 2008 at 11:43 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #41.4   park rose bang

      If you are talking to me, Kiff, then the answer is yes, yes I am.

      Nov 8, 2008 at 12:17 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #41.5   fantasy bang

      Why yes, Kiff, I have to agree with Rose.

      This is Social Networking at it’s finest. :|

      Just without strange imaginary gifts. :|

      Oh yeah, we don’t collect friends either.

      *we just aren’t comfortable about that.*

      Nov 8, 2008 at 1:18 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #41.6   Canthz_B bang

      fantasy, facebook reminds me of when my kids were little and I took them to the playground.
      I knew I was too grown-up to ride the swings, but remembered them fondly from my childhood and hopped on one.
      I realized immediately that what is a fun ride to a kid, is just cheap back and forth to an adult. :-|

      Nov 8, 2008 at 5:40 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #41.7   Ti O

      “Cheap back and forth”

      Nov 8, 2008 at 1:33 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #42   VZG

    Having been on the ignored side of flat-out friend-dumping before, I’m siding with the submitter. It may be passive-aggressive, but I don’t personally feel an obligation to friend someone online who has actively ignored me for months or years (in spite of attempts to get in contact with them).

    Also… it’s Facebook. It’s not like that makes or breaks a relationship, people. If snubbing someone by rejecting them as a friend there is the worst thing you ever do, then good on you, you’re not a complete asshole.

    Nov 8, 2008 at 2:06 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

    • #42.1   Sydney

      Yeah, but on that token, Amie may also be thinking “Dude, it’s just Facebook, besides you didn’t call me during the last 4 years either.”

      Nov 8, 2008 at 10:19 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #43   carmina

    having been on both sides of similar situations, I can tell you with absolute certainty, the bitch just wanted to look at your wedding pictures.

    sometimes curiosity overwhelms the need to save face.

    I don’t think anyone on facebook hasn’t been through a “who will add who first” war. At least you can be thankful you won and gained the oh-so petty facebook upper hand.

    Nov 8, 2008 at 10:21 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

    • #43.1   Nikki

      YES! See the pictures, check out the husband, check out the dress, how much you had to spend on it, how the years have treated you…

      Nov 10, 2008 at 6:18 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #44   Proo

    I once had a friend who was really close to both my boyfriend and I. Friend talked to me every day in some form or another, every few days to BF. Friend and I had a conversation one day about what would happen if me and BF were to break up, since Friend was my friend for years before BF came along, but was now really good mates with both of us, and if that would be weird, etc. Friend assured me that were that to happen, he would absolutely still be there for both of us, regardless of what happened or where blame had to be assigned, there was nothing that could tear us apart, etc. etc.

    A few months later, BF and I go through horrific break-up, started by me. Friend calls me 2 WEEKS after the breakup, despite being told by BF on the day, to say sorry, then vanishes and does not respond to invites, msgs, etc.

    Friend reappears 8 months later through a FB message to the effect of “Hi. Why aren’t we friends anymore? I’m offended. You should try harder.”

    Riiiiiight.

    Nov 9, 2008 at 2:07 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

     
  • #45   Nix

    People orbit in and out of your life…that is just how it goes. I agree with the comments suggesting that the PA offender is the submitter.

    Nov 10, 2008 at 4:47 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #46   Nikki

    They’re both totally PA. The submitter wouldn’t be, except for that she submitted this. But the other girl…

    I get sick of people I was either friends with at one time and we ended clearly NOT FRIENDS (like the girl who was pissed that I grew 5″ and got skinny so she told a teacher I was anorexic) and people I never got along with friending me on Facebook just so they can bolster their ‘friends’ numbers or check up on me and see if I’ve been successful or if I’m a loser. There’s a reason they can’t read my profile. It’s because it’s none of their damn business.

    Unless their friend request comes with some sort of note about, “Hey, I’m sorry things ended the way they did. I’d like to patch things up,” I feel no obligation to even respond and get pulled into conflict. Um, no. We’re not friends. REJECT!

    Nov 10, 2008 at 6:04 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #47   Sophie

    I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks the A.S. is either a) young and silly, or b) a grumpy bitch.

    I recently connected to a whole bunch of people a went to high school with on facebook and I love it! Some of those people I wasn’t good friends with when I was in high school. So what? We still spent 6 years of our lives together!

    Nov 12, 2008 at 8:56 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
  • #48   everybodyever

    Nothing Amie did was passive-aggressive, at least not that we know of from this screen shot; she straightforwardly asked why her friend request was getting rejected. The submitter’s passive-aggressive for ignoring the girl for four years, refusing to say why she’s refusing the friend request and yet trying to humiliate Amie. At worst, Amie sounds flaky.

    Dec 10, 2008 at 1:23 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
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  • #50   The_Great_G

    How do I change my last name to be a limousine?

    Jan 6, 2009 at 3:15 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
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  • #52   girl

    so she felt sorry for herself for four years over her 22nd birthday plans, and when this friend gets back in touch with her, she doesn’t even wonder just what happened back then? “you didn’t talk to me for four years; I’m not about to acknowledge you now!” Awesome.

    Feb 16, 2009 at 12:25 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
  • #53   GH4321

    OMG to all who want to deciphere whos right or wrong…WHO GIVES A SHIT ? Im on Facebook…weve had reunions from it and yes there were assholes that showed up whom I didnt or still dont give a shit about…THEY DONT PAY MY BILLS! FB should just be about morbid nostalgic couriosity…not the continuation of teenaged angst…GET OVER it if you were “cool” a “dick” or a “geek looser”!!!!!

    Mar 4, 2009 at 11:37 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
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