Dear Grandma: Thanks, I guess.

July 8th, 2009 · 253 comments

Writes our anonymous submitter: “This was sent to my six-year-old step daughter by her grandma. The birthday present in question was a pack of writing paper and $5 American. We live in Canada.”

(The “did you get…” pretense combined with the oh-so-subtle post script is so classic “passive-aggressive grandma” that I cannot even handle it. Bonus points for the repurposed note paper!)

Thanks, I guess.

Meanwhile, Toni spotted this grandma’s thank-you note on a closed booth at a flea market in Lakewood, Ohio.

Ever-gracious Grandma

related: But…but…I didn’t forget!

FILED UNDER: birthday · Canada · Grandma · martyr complex · Ohio · old folks · p.s. · thanks (but not really) · xoxo


253 responses so far ↓

  • #1   tinkerbell2

    I don’t often say this, but team Grandma – ungrateful little shit. Also, I love her notepaper – very retro/Olde English.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:15 am   rating: 24  small thumbs up

    • #1.1   park rose

      I don’t know, tinkerbell2. The recipient is only 6 years old. Has she even started going to school yet? Or if she has, she is probably only in the first grade, or not far from it. Her writing skills wouldn’t be up to much.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 8:30 am   rating: 45  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.2   N/A

      Team grandma on the first note too. Can’t stand ungrateful little ingrates who can’t even be bothered to write thank you notes. How about teaching your kid to be gracious there mom? It doesn’t matter how crap you think the gift is, it’s just common decency to thank the giver.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 8:31 am   rating: 22  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.3   T imo® bang

      Grandma should have addressed the mom directly instead of indirectly through the kid.
      I can foretell from this note that Grandma is going to die alone in pool of her own urine is a state run care facility.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 9:18 am   rating: 105  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.4   MAMARILLA2 bang

      At 6 yrs old the one who should have written the thank you note was the mother…and she should have had the darling draw a thank you picture to send with. Reality is, though, G-ma should have called and spoken with the little angel herself, this is after all, not the stone age. Send a text if you can/must. IM, something…

      Jul 8, 2009 at 9:42 am   rating: 41  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.5   Neeners

      Not trying to excuse rudeness but most kids I know are little ingrates. It comes with the kid manual and normative human development I think. Maybe the grandma’s are going through a stage too.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 9:50 am   rating: 10  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.6   Katt

      For the 1st note: Both parties are in the wrong. The grandmother clearly sent the writing paper with the intent of the 6-year-old writing letters to her (grandma). Giving someone a gift that is meant to ultimately benefit the giver is just tacky, really tacky. As for the money, the grandma couldn’t have sent Canadian money if she lives in the US, but the mother of the 6-year-old COULD have exchanged it for Canadian dollars. Either way, the grandma’s ultimate intent was probably for the money to pay for postage for the letters she wanted written to her! Again, tacky. As for grandma’s note: I assure you from my only personal experiences those kinds of notes can cause a lot of damage. Just to name a couple damage points: First, it shows the 6-year-old that it is acceptable to demand a thank you, but it’s really not. This can lead to the 6-year-old feeling disappointed in her life a LOT. Secondly, bad form on the grandmother for not remembering it’s the thought that counts.
      As for the Mom and 6-year-old: yes, the should’ve sent some sort of thank you for the gift, regardless. As a bonus, they could’ve found their own way of being P-A. Example: Dear Grandma, Thank u for my present. I’m typing this 2 u on the computer because u won’t b able 2 read my writing 4 3 or 4 more years. That’s what Mommy said. She said we can keep the paper in the closet until I’m 9. We drove a really long way 2 the place where u can exchange your kind of money for our kind of money. Mommy wasn’t happy about it, but we got it. I’m putting the money in my moose bank to save for an iPhone. Love, Little Susie.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:42 am   rating: 136  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.7   Canaduck

      As someone who was coached practically since birth on the importance of writing thank you notes, I really sympathize with Grandma here because I KNOW how absolutely necessary they are to basic etiquette.

      However, in my eyes, this is just over-the-top passive-aggressive and bitchy. And yes, I know that it’s important to thank people regardless of their gifts, but COME ON, who gives their 6 year old such an obnoxiously terrible gift (5 bucks that they can’t even use and writing paper?) and then bitches when she doesn’t receive praise and accolades? Get over yourself, Grandma.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:57 am   rating: 71  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.8   Pishposh

      What happened to “giving is its own reward?”

      Jul 8, 2009 at 1:16 pm   rating: 27  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.9   lilmegz

      Katt i couldn’t even get through your whole post without saying this, although i have a feeling i agree with most of it. My question is why do you think the mother can exchange the American money for Canadian money but the grandma couldn’t have? do american banks not have an exchange rate for other countrys? she really could have just exchanged it herself at an American bank? as a Canadian living in American i am often bewildered by these little things Americans feel somewhat above? maybe I’m not using the right words but i think you know what i am getting at. when i lived in Vancouver Americans always expected us to automatically use their currency? go to a f-ing bank and get it exchanged yourself, i’m not a bank. i also think it is more considerate as the gift giver to go that extra mile. my grandma send me American money for my b-day and i would never expect her to have to have money which was a gift i gave her exchanged just because it’s American.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:20 pm   rating: 27  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.10   fluffy8u

      For my high school graduation, my grandmother (who lives 4 states away) sent me a Barbie jewelry box. Mind you I was 17, didn’t even play with Barbies when I was 5. To make some use of it, I spray painted it black, ripped out the dancing Barbie inside, and slapped an Black Sabbath sticker on it. My aunt sent me a gaudy gold bracelet with the word “love” hanging on it. She left the price sticker on it, $1.50.

      Thanks aunty and grandma, who the last time I saw you said “wow, look who got boobs!” and gave your other grandchildren iPods apparently for doing the dishes “that one time.” So, no, I didn’t send them a thank you note, because, well, I wasn’t thankful for it. Blatant favoritism, cheap gifts that I wouldn’t like anyways, never saying I love you, spitting on me, and telling me that a man will never love me unless I get a real job won’t get you a thank you card. Oh yeah, and that time you called the cops on me because I told you I wasn’t married yet didn’t help either.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:42 pm   rating: 71  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.11   bob

      Oh please. She’s 6.

      I agree that one should send a note but it’s something you do to be polite. It’s not a God-given right. Jesus.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:05 pm   rating: 28  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.12   park rose

      What’s that, bob?
      Jesus’ ammendment to the 10 commandments of etiquette?
      I agree with you, by the way.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:37 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.13   MJWalrus

      Agree. But the genius of this note is that the PAness of this note is that it isn’t meant for the daughter. It is meant for the step-mother. I imagine there is already some issues between mom and grandma. I mean, paper as a present for a kid? That is PA for “you never visit or call, you stole away my son to another country, so the least you can do is help my grandchild write me a letter.”
      Also, grandma should get the benefit of a doubt. She’s probably old.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 9:11 pm   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.14   Clumber

      fluffy8u @ 1.10… ok, I tried to let it go, but I must know how/why/WTF they called the cops on you because you weren’t married? I mean, in most places I am not allowed to get married… but I was not aware of places where you are required to be married and such is enforced by the police… How does that thought process even work…”I am so disappointed in my unmarried sure to be a barren spinster grandchild/neice… I’m calling in da’ FUZZ on her ass….” ????????

      Jul 9, 2009 at 10:47 am   rating: 12  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.15   Snippy

      Better yet, just buy her some depilatory cream.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 1:03 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.16   fluffy8u

      Lol, I was wondering when one of you was going to ask that. My grandmother is a very mean and vendictive woman and a hick. Don’t forget she’s a hick.

      What happened was she asked me if I was married yet or soon to be. She’ll ask this question every time my name comes up in conversation with anybody. After she asks me she’ll say, “y’know, I was married at 14. But being as ugly as you, I expected at at least 18, you’d find someone stupid enough to take the bait” (to her, bait=virginity). What do you say to that?

      So the next time she asked, I told her that I was gay and was going to have a commitment ceremony with a girl named Laurie and together, we were all set to adopt a South African child. Wrong answer.

      My grandmother, being one of strict Christian/Catholic faith (I have no clue what she is, all I know is that she plays bingo) and a little racist, decided this was too disgusting not to be illegal. So what does she do? She calls the cops (I believe she was drunk at the time, so that could have played into her decision). Did you know that in South Dakota, they take these calls seriously? Neither did I. But the cop looked sadly at me and told my grandmother there was nothing he could do.

      And that’s Fluffy’s brush with the law. Besides that one time in Saratoga, but that’s for another post.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 8:51 pm   rating: 39  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.17   clumber

      fluffy8u, in answer to “What do you say to that” I am afraid my answer would be (at least the 2nd time it happened) something beginning with an F and ending with “uck you!”

      Oddly. both of my grandmothers have been over-the-top thrilled with my same-gender spouse of 13 years… to the point that it makes me suspicious actually… (looks left… looks right… squints….) However, one did basically punch my little sister in the gut and demand to know why there’s no baby there yet… To be fair, Gma had been in the dementia wing of an assisted living home so I know one of the early things to go is impulse control. Still… And my sis is the cool & genius one, even.

      Heck, my other Gma sends my spouse bday cards every year with a $20.

      Your gma and aunt are idiot asshats who will, as someone elsewhere on this very comments section so eloquently put it : die alone in a puddle of their urine. The cops? No idea… at least they weren’t ‘family’. I guess.

      Team Not Playing Your Rude Games, Gma!

      Jul 9, 2009 at 11:41 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.18   oi bang

      fluff am i suppose to believe that?
      gotta sayYou got imagination power!

      Jul 10, 2009 at 12:20 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.19   fluffy8u

      Hee, hee, hee…. thanks. :) A newspaper once said I was “imaginative, smart, and endearing, this author is the one to watch!” Or was it my mother who said that…. Oh well. It was said… I think.

      Jul 10, 2009 at 1:46 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.20   Veronica

      GET OUT OF TOWN! Are you doing OK now, Fluffy? That story has any of mine beat by a MILE- a long county mile!
      I hope you aren’t upset, but I am laughing my ass off while repeating your story to my sister!!
      On topic, I agree with the poster who said “Get Over Yourself Gramdma!”

      Jul 10, 2009 at 12:21 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.21   Erika

      Banks frequently won’t exchange money less than a certain amount, at least they won’t do so in any country where I’ve traveled. If you’re stuck with less than x amount of euros, dollars, pounds, whatever, you’re just SOL. So, Grandma is still in the wrong. $5 U.S. likely can’t be exchanged easily in Canada.

      Jul 15, 2009 at 11:29 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.22   meme

      I live in BC, Canada and I have to say I don’t see the BFD about her sending American money. Its accepted almost everywhere from walmart and grocery stores to the small popcorn business that I work for (and we don’t even have a cash register!)…still its totally something one of my bitchy grandmothers would have said/sent if I didn’t say thank you for the cat print blanket or the shania twain perfume or the commemorative coin that they gave me. *eye roll* maybe the 6 year old girl (or her mom), like me, is just not a good enough liar to say thank you convincingly.

      Jul 18, 2009 at 7:09 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.23   Car RamRod

      This grandmother is why they invented euthenasia…

      Jul 20, 2009 at 2:10 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #2   KatieMB

    I bow to the second Gramma’s P/A-ness, though I am concerned that Gramma’s missed the target audience, since they’re so busy enjoying the spoils of being a bigwig.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:18 am   rating: 16  small thumbs up

    • #2.1   kt

      you frequent stfu parents dont you? :)

      Jul 8, 2009 at 1:54 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.2   KatieMB

      I frequent many places… ;)

      Jul 8, 2009 at 2:17 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.3   Maas

      But Katie, do you remember to bring Grandma everywhere you frequent (or Mother or Mother-in-Law as the case may be)?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:18 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.4   KatieMB

      Of course not, I’m not insane! ;)

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:40 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.5   T imo® bang

      But you brought Nana to the sex club!?!?

      Jul 9, 2009 at 9:51 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.6   Snippy

      Gives a whole new meaning to “team Grandma.”

      Jul 9, 2009 at 1:04 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.7   KatieMB

      T – I didn’t bring her, she owns the place!

      S – How’d you know Gramma was into threesomes?

      Jul 9, 2009 at 3:31 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.8   Snippy

      Oops! Silly me, I thought she was into pulling a train!

      Jul 9, 2009 at 8:09 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #3   Arielemc

    Team Grandma – Parents, teach your kids to write thank-you notes, regardless of how lame the gift is!

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:30 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

     
  • #4   jessie

    Gotta side with grandma on this one!

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:34 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

    • #4.1   Calamity

      Totally Team Grandma for the first note. As for the second, well, at least she’s got a sense of humor.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:04 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.2   Olivia

      But no sense of grammar…unless she was so livid she had to write “of” twice.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:42 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #5   claw71 bang

    The beauty of the first note is that it’s clearly aimed at mom. Nobody expects a 6 year-old to fire off a thank you note, not even cheap grandmothers who live on a fixed income.

    As for disgruntled grammaw #2, there this word people use when they can’t or don’t want to do something. I’ve been to Lakewood and I know for a fact that they use it there. You’ve all said it at one time or another. Come on, say it with me. It’s just two little letters…

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:36 am   rating: 39  small thumbs up

    • #5.1   RunBarbara bang

      why should i start now? you never take no for an answer….

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:49 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.2   Mishee™ bang

      To claw, no means yes.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:53 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.3   RunBarbara bang

      so does “ouch” and “i’m married”.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:55 am   rating: 26  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.4   claw71 bang

      ouch = foreplay and marriage only means that I don’t have to buy you shit.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:06 pm   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.5   KatieMB

      The note is absolutely directed at Mom: no 6 year old can read cursive, never mind sloppy cursive.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 2:02 pm   rating: 16  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.6   fluffy8u

      I think affairs that you must keep laconic
      Are better bets if little pets get big baguettes.

      If you’re cheating with me, I want a gift so that my mind is so occupied I don’t rat to the wife.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:04 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.7   THX SANDRA bang

      FU?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:13 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.8   THX SANDRA bang

      “As for disgruntled grammaw #2, there this word people use when they can’t or don’t want to do something. I’ve been to Lakewood and I know for a fact that they use it there. You’ve all said it at one time or another. Come on, say it with me. It’s just two little letters…”
      FU?

      Dang no edit, gotta right a note to Casey.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:15 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.9   Snippy

      @5.7 – Actually, I think Fluffy’s initials would be F8U. Nice try, though; keep playing.

      @5.8 – Way to make my comment even stupider. :roll:
      :grin:

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:16 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.10   fluffy8u

      Dang, because of Katie, it looks like my comment makes no sense. It’s pointed @5.4.

      Snippy, does that make your initials SPY? Are you the one who’s investigating idiot UK student recyclers declaring America as the ruler of the world? If you are, there’s no need to continue. We PANers already called Jack Bauer.

      (Yeah, I know it’s a stretch/bad joke, probably more towards the latter)

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:38 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.11   Snippy

      I am not a spy.
      And I am not a P.I.
      Neither one am I.

      Not exactly high-art haiku
      but it’s the best that I can do.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 8:09 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #6   HappyNat

    It is awful that grandma #2 had to spend a weekend with her grandkids. I’m sure she would have been much happier alone and bitter in her apartment wacthing home shopping network all weekend, rather than deal with her pesky family.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:37 am   rating: 42  small thumbs up

    • #6.1   T imo® bang

      curled up on her divan in her leopard print snuggee surrounded by cats.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 9:27 am   rating: 29  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.2   Fresca

      I sure know that’s what I’d want to do rather than hang out with someone’s teenage grandkids!

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:27 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.3   Wordtinker doesnt smith bang

      Ferociously dialing in to HSN in an effort to purchase one of the last 500 coffee cozies for two EZ Pay payments of $4.99

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:27 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.4   Olivia

      Is that $4.99 Canadian or American?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:43 am   rating: 24  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.5   RoxyBlue

      I assumed that the note on the booth was to explain to customers why Grandma #2 had to keep her booth at the flea market closed. She should have dragged the kids along with her to the flea market and forced the kids to serve the customers. lol.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 3:29 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.6   Beth

      Two teenage kids who didn’t get to go with their parents on a nifty vaction-like trip?

      Grandma probably would’ve preferred spending the weekend alone. I can only imagine the whining and complaining and arguing she had to put up with from them to have caused that note to come about. I’m going to guess that grandma was thrilled with the notion of spending the weekend with the grandkids until they actually got there and their we-never-get-to-do-anything-this-sucks attitudes kicked in.

      The human race is lucky to make it past the age of 12.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 3:49 pm   rating: 13  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #7   Woman on the Verge bang

    (On the back of Grandma’s notepaper – and yes, 6 year olds in my neighborhood are all tech savvy)

    Dear Gramma,

    Got the stuff. Tweeted my thanx. Rote U on facebook. U would no if U were livin in this century.

    love,

    Wired Kid

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:38 am   rating: 61  small thumbs up

    • #7.1   Jamie

      Woman!

      Careful with the preponderance of “U”s. In Canada we like to drop them willy-nilly into words like “favourite” (as in, not my favourite grandchild).

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:27 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.2   NewMoon

      Re:Wired Kid

      oops wired kid doesn’t use uppercases or punctuation at all u no what i mean its 2 much wrk

      Jul 8, 2009 at 4:59 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.3   Woman on the Verge bang

      NewMoon – the kid is 6 – it’s all about uppercases.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:10 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.4   NewMoon

      WOULDN’T IT B ALL CAPS, THEN?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:27 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.5   mamason bang

      WTF have ball caps got to do with it?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:32 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #8   park rose

    Grandma 2 was trying to make her point by quadrupling her ‘o’s, doubling her prepositions and her emoticons, but if she really wanted to drive home what a burden grandma duty was, she should written as so:

    All I got was this loooong weekend of of
    All I got was this loooooooong weekend of of of of

    grandma duty with with [she may as well go the whole hog with the prepositions] two teenage
    grandma duty with with with with two x two teenage teenage

    kids who did not get to to go along along
    kids who did not get to to to to go along along along along

    [and who do not get along, either... guess who's stuck with them!]

    :x :x :x :x

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:38 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

    • #8.1   claw71 bang

      I want a grandma with a booth at a market
      I want a grandma with yuck face pogs
      I want a grandma with a nasty disposition
      who sees her grand kids as rabid dogs

      I want a grandma with a short fuse and a loooooooooong weekend.

      Get that reference and you get a free python ride.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 8:53 am   rating: 37  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.2   Skatie Kat

      CAKE!!! Do I win a pog?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:33 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.3   Olivia

      I couldn’t help but read that to the tune of Zappa’s “Jewish Princess.”

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:45 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.4   Bunnee

      Yes, Skatie, it is Cake! But I believe that Claw said you get a free python ride. Now put on your assless chaps and get out the Crisco.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:58 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.5   mystic

      Short Skirt, Long Jacket. Can I get a bonus point for song title? Or maybe half a pog? Do they come in halves?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:01 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.6   Woman on the Verge bang

      Damn… I was working and missed my chance to win. This is my favorite Cake song, too!!!!

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:11 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.7   mamason bang

      Happy Birthday is my favorite cake song.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:34 pm   rating: 15  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #9   Girl Friday

    Indy 500 tickets – 40 hours of overtime

    Lap around the track – landing the big customer

    Hospitality Suites, etc. – Blow job for the boss

    Finally getting back at Mom for grounding me when I was supposed to go to the Wham! concert in 1988 – Priceless

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:45 am   rating: 93  small thumbs up

    • #9.1   GK bang

      Yes. What she said.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:21 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #9.2   Ponytail

      Wham broke up in 1986.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:28 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #9.3   MAMARILLA2 bang

      People really went to Wham concerts? *incredulous stare*

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:58 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #9.4   KatieMB

      They’d never admit to it, of course.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:15 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #9.5   Mldjstd

      Which makes those ’88 tickets all that much more price(less), Ponytail.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 8:22 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #9.6   AuntyBron

      I find it frightening that Pony knew when Wham! broke up.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 1:00 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #9.7   Saysh bang

      Aunty Bron – why do you think “ponytail” got their name?

      They listen to Wham! while having pony play time. You know.. those buttplugs with the long pony tails…. You KNOW George Michael has one somewhere in one of his closets… Come on..

      Jul 9, 2009 at 1:21 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #9.8   mamason bang

      I happen to know for a fact that he doesn’t keep it in any closet.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 1:30 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #9.9   Saysh bang

      Nicely done mama.. nicely done.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 1:45 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #10   claw71 bang

    Dear Grammie,

    Thank you so much for the K-Mart Trax shoes. Even though they’re too small and both are for the left foot, I like them anyway. Of course even if they were the right size and one of the left shoes was replaced with a right I’d have to buy laces as the shoes you sent didn’t have any. But really, thank you. I don’t know what I’d do if I didn’t have a grandmother like you. I suppose I’d probably stop getting presents that go straight to the garbage, like the Chinese knock off of Play-Doh you bought at Big Lots last Christmas, but no matter what mom and dad say about you I think you’re great.

    Love,

    Princess

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:49 am   rating: 51  small thumbs up

    • #10.1   J

      My daughters got earrings from “grammy” last year. She made such a big deal about them being “real gold.” But because they were “real gold” and also “cheap,” something had to give. And that something was the length of the posts (they were pierced earrings). The posts were so short (I refuse to believe my daughters have chubby lobes) that they could barely be fastened and literally made my daughters’ ears bleed for the 45 minutes or so that I made them wear the damned things to appease her.

      Thanks grammy!!!

      Jul 8, 2009 at 1:20 pm   rating: 12  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.2   TP

      Trying to appease grammy – your first mistake. Don’t you know it’s your job to torture the grandparents to get back at them for all they did to you and your spouse?

      You should have gotten them skull and bone earrings and ponied up for a tattoo on their collarbone just to see the look on grammy’s face when she came to visit.

      Am I the only one looking forward to this when I have kids?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 4:33 pm   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.3   Athena

      Best thing would have been to cooly hand the earrings back to Grandma while informing her that, while the thought is appreciated, they don’t fit. And when she throws a fit and insists on you putting those gold-plated brass (people like her always get scammed) instruments of torture on HER grandchildren…use her behavior as a teaching moment for your children…”Kids, you see how Grandma is acting like a brat? Don’t be like that.”

      Jul 14, 2009 at 5:26 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #11   park rose bang

    Grandma 2 spent a good part of her loooong weekend writing that note in 3 (4?) different colours and also ye olde manual style of bold emphasis.

    Grandma 1 is an outright bitch.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:51 am   rating: 19  small thumbs up

     
  • #12   stickman

    Go Team Grandma #1.
    Yes, a six year old can draw a picture or at least copy the words “Thank you.” Sorry, an email, tweet or facebook thank you is not sufficent. I am a tech savvy gran and I get handwritten notes and pictures, but then I raised my children right and they are passing those values along to their children.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:52 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

    • #12.1   park rose bang

      Her step-grand-daughter.
      $5 USD and they live in Canada.
      The note she sent to her daughter-in-law /son-in-law is ripped.
      And, again, the step grand daughter is only six. Claw’s summation above @ 5 is spot on, I think.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 8:54 am   rating: 17  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.2   park rose bang

      Just to clarify. I know grandma’s note was sent to the step-grand daughter, but aimed at the daughter-in-law or son-in-law I think.

      But, maybe it was from the biological-grandmother, therefore aimed at the grandmother’s own daughter or son. I don’t know. Presumptuous of me.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 9:25 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.3   Girl Friday

      But are you a teacher? Thank you notes are beyond decent parenting.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:08 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.4   MAMARILLA2 bang

      Public school no longer teaches basic civility…That is up to the parent, who no longer has time to interact with their child in such a manner…heavens, they barely teach regular subjects.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:15 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.5   Girl Friday

      How could we have time to parent when no one has yet developed an easy to use application that updates our status, moods and tweets all at once?!

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:21 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.6   Snippy

      Get a vibrator that makes bird sounds.

      There must be a “Rockin’ Robin”, “Buzzy Buzzard”, or “Humming Bird” model out there.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 2:23 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.7   RP

      “but then I raised my children right”

      Well then that means Grandma #1 didn’t and it’s still her fault.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 9:12 am   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #13   GhostWriter bang

    A $5 gift for a 6-year-old? What can she get with that; five iTunes? Thanks a pantload, Gamma- I got a free card from a Lucky Charms cereal box for the same thing!

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:53 am   rating: 17  small thumbs up

     
  • #14   Flaboy2425

    Hey, daughter five bucks is five bucks. I don’t know what the exchange rate is now, but take it to your local bank and get your own Canadian money. There is none down here in the US. The six-year-old can’t write yet, so do it for her.

    Didn’t I teach you that the thought counts more than the gift, you selfish little snot?

    Jul 8, 2009 at 8:59 am   rating: 10  small thumbs up

    • #14.1   MAMARILLA2 bang

      Hey, Granparents money presents are not covered by inflationaly standards..My Dad has been sending 20 per grandkid for the last 28 yrs..It won’t change with the great-grandkid either.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:17 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #14.2   Wordtinker doesnt smith bang

      And when you consider the cost of postage from Canada to the US ($3.50 for an Xmas card!?!), there was nothing left of the 5 with which the child could purchase writing utensils.

      Grandma needs to shelve Emily Post and pick up a copy of Internet for Dummies. Then she’d get photos of recipient and gift along with the email.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:35 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

       
    • #14.3   MAMARILLA2 bang

      Grandma is still reading and quoting Dr Spock.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:03 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #14.4   Jamie

      A little less than $6 CDN. And you don’t even have to go to a bank — most retailers will honour US money but you’ll get Canadian change back (shouldn’t be an issue in this case) and the exchange rate is worse.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:30 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #15   oi!

    there is a striking difference between hand wrings of two notes. (I could not get it was “thank you” until I read comments) That follows one observation. When you become grandma you sprinkle PAness everywhere. It’s inherent trait of old ladies. It does not matter if you are a stiff old lady with gold plated cane or little old lady reeking of urine. you have to let people know how ungrateful they are.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:02 am   rating: 19  small thumbs up

    • #15.1   MAMARILLA2 bang

      I prefer to use the self-suffering, sad little smile, works much better on the older ones.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:02 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.2   Woman on the Verge bang

      What about the stiff old ladies with gold plated canes who reek of urine and wear self-suffering sad little smiles?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:15 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #16   Bob Loblaw

    god fucking damn it Indy grandma, it’s fucking accommodation, not accomodation.

    btw, i’d leave your sorry ass with two teens for a dirty w/e with the wife at the Indy 500. you might have been invited in place of da wife if you hadnt been such a beee-otch.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:08 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

    • #16.1   Snippy

      You’d invite your own grandma for a dirty weekend at the Fucking Accommodation hotel?

      What would your mother say?

      [Yes, claw, I know: She'd say "Why didn't you invite me?"]

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:41 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.2   NewMoon

      You have heard of GILFs?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:14 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.3   Snippy

      Yeah, but only in reference to governors after Sarah Palin started winkin’ on the national stage.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:31 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.4   NewMoon

      I thought the Palins had their own category: PILFs

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:45 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.5   Snippy

      I think they might fall into several categories — and the sooner, the better.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:53 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.6   park rose

      Those who are followers of, or who subscribe to, the philosophy of PILF are categorized as Pilferers. Naturally enough.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 6:00 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #17   oi bang

    What’s up with second note in some booth? for all public to see?
    i know it’s a grand scheme from her. She put note there so obviously the daughter is going to be angry. She won’t thank her probably confront her. yes now comes brilliancy of the scheme in the light. Grandma will yet put another note showing how she baby set her grandkids and in turn she got spat from her daughter and not the thank you. How pitiful her life is and how ungrateful is her daughter!
    Bravo!

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:12 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

    • #17.1   toni

      Yes, the note was in a flea market booth facing the aisle for everyone to see.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 8:44 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #18   GhostWriter bang

    You know you’re a big girl when Grandma’s birthday gift becomes a holy card promising that a Novena will be prayed in your honor by the St. Ann Sisters of Perpetual Gratuity.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:14 am   rating: 16  small thumbs up

    • #18.1   MAMARILLA2 bang

      Oh. I get those now from my mom..at Christmas and my birthday.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:32 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #19   T imo® bang

    Ah the sweet sweet embrace of family that chokes the desire to be around each other right out of you.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:20 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

     
  • #20   subito

    “No” is still part of the language Grandma….quit your bitching, you did it to yourself.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:28 am   rating: 9  small thumbs up

     
  • #21   Neeners

    I bet Grandma still sends more gifts and/or dollars in birthday cards after this, so why get her granny panties in a wad. Either you love the kids or not. Quit sending or doing things if they know it won’t be reciprocated or appreciated.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:47 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

     
  • #22   MAMARILLA2 bang

    The word Grandma does not mean Automatic Babysitter. If granny had put her foot down when the sweethearts were tiny, she wouldn’t be having to watch two angsty teenagers now.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:47 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

    • #22.1   mamason bang

      I love, love, love my grandchildren and I refuse to babysit. My job is to love them and give them cookies while making their parents feel inadequate about their parenting skills or lack thereof.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 3:03 pm   rating: 16  small thumbs up

       
    • #22.2   NewMoon

      I would love to babysit, but that is my spa night.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:16 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #23   Neeners

    Second grandma is ready to pop a blood vessel at the next family picnic or Christmas dinner.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:52 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

    • #23.1   Wordtinker doesnt smith bang

      Haven’t you heard? Ma, Pa, and the chitluns are spending the holidays in Vale this year. But don’t worry, they’ve picked out a nice, comfy geropsych unit to host Grandma for the duration.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:24 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #24   Wordtinker doesnt smith bang

    Praises be! I’m a grandparentless wretch and now I know why I’m so happy!

    Btw – the note was set up by the daughter, not Gramma#2, her DT’s are too bad for legibility – obvious fish for fellow vendors to check in over the weekend and make sure Gramma hasn’t harmed the children so Mom & Dad won’t have to deal with a protracted DCFS investigation when they return. ;-)

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:59 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

     
  • #25   lolsuz

    Count me on Team Grandma #1 too. Kids aren’t taught to write thank you notes in school; that’s the jurisdiction of their PARENTS. So this is a double dig- one on the grand child but also one on the parent. I’m grateful that my mother cared enough about my upbringing to make sure that I learned to thank someone for a gift or favor- no matter how small. Gratitude and perspective are greater gifts than anything you can wrap in paper.

    Oh, and Neeners, teaching your child to send thank you notes isn’t just about making sure the giver was thanked, it’s mostly about teaching your child to have the CHARACTER to do the right thing.

    PS: what child can’t draw a picture and write the words “thank you” by the time they’re six? The child who is raised by the television, that’s who.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 9:59 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

    • #25.1   oi bang

      Hi there grandma! I am not gonna go there how you missed the whole point. It’s getting old yaar!
      Anyway FYI, you can submit your own written notes too. Kerry has published them in past.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:18 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #25.2   aaa

      *sigh*

      Please gigglebrax your posts blah threat of The Unitard blah blah semen blah blah blah….

      *sigh*

      Do I really still have to say it?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:47 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #25.3   Snippy

      Yes.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:44 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #25.4   aaa

      :O

      Jul 8, 2009 at 2:02 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #25.5   Michelle S.

      I hate any sort of “etiquette” that allows another person to decide what you should be expected to do for them and when. There are people that think they should be able to choose what sort of initial favor to dump in your lap in order to create a debt. Then they think they get to choose what is owed to clear the debt up. I had a neighbor who would sneak over to my property while I was at work and mow my lawn or shovel my walk, then within a few weeks call me up asking me for a specific favor – since I “owed” him. Really?

      Birthday gifts should be given for one reason only. A sweet thought for someone you like on their special day. It’s not a way to build credit, pass guilt, absolve or create debts. It’s not a way to make a point, show your superiority, insert yourself. It is the thought that counts. Period. The gifter should keep that in mind and not expect something in return. Including acknowledgment. The giftee has the option to send a thank you, and will if they have good manners. Expecting a thank you is needy. Demanding a thank you is rude. If you really just want to know if it arrived safely, send it registered mail and get over your damn self.

      Etiquette should deem if you ask for a gift, you’re obligated to thank the gifter. Wedding invitations, graduation announcements, etc., are all implicit “gimme gift” requests. Birthdays? Nope.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 3:44 am   rating: 26  small thumbs up

       
    • #25.6   GK bang

      What if you sent an event reminder about your birthday to everyone on Facebook; does this count? Inquiring minds want to know!

      Jul 9, 2009 at 5:53 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #25.7   RP

      “There are people that think they should be able to choose what sort of initial favor to dump in your lap in order to create a debt.”

      That is a main component of being passive aggressive.

      The stupid thing is that Grandma #1 probably thinks that she’s “only trying to help”.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 9:21 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #26   snerd

    @Claw: I like Cake.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 10:04 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

    • #26.1   Girl Friday

      @snerd: wow! Look at these handy little links that say “reply to this comment”

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:16 am   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
    • #26.2   GK bang

      Those handy little links were giggly braxlicious.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:36 am   rating: 18  small thumbs up

       
    • #26.3   MAMARILLA2 bang

      ooooh , so close.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:04 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #26.4   Bunnee

      Snerd, are you sure you weren’t sitting behind me at the Cake concert about 8 years ago? If you were, I need to tell you: please quit yelling “I like Cake!!” throughout the whole concert. The first 2 or 3 times it was funny, but then you got annoying and I felt all stabby towards you. ;)

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:09 am   rating: 16  small thumbs up

       
    • #26.5   Woman on the Verge bang

      The @ sign is for those too lazy or politically correct to gigglebrax.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:19 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #26.6   park rose

      @ WotV @ 26.5; love me an @ sign ;)

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:50 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #27   Wordtinker doesnt smith bang

    Dearest Grandma,

    I am so sorry you did not receive the thank you note I sent. To be sure I got your mailing address correct, I cut it off your envelope and carefully pasted it on the front of the note I sent. The postal service just returned it as undeliverable with a notice that no one could read your handwriting. I’ll try, try again.

    Love,

    Your only grandchild

    Jul 8, 2009 at 10:18 am   rating: 16  small thumbs up

     
  • #28   chrissmari

    i love how angry people are getting about thank you notes as if it’s 1923.

    i can not wait until thank you note culture is bred out of us.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 10:23 am   rating: 21  small thumbs up

    • #28.1   aaa

      So chrissmari, I take it you’ve never visited Etiquette Hell. :D

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:50 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #29   Julie B.

    As for Grandma #2, my mom died before her six grandchildren were born, which broke all of our hearts, hers included. So maybe Grandma #2 should stop bitching and start being thankful she lived long enough to know her grandchildren, even if right now they are cranky teenagers.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 10:26 am   rating: 10  small thumbs up

    • #29.1   Mishee™ bang

      When my 14 year old nephew came up to visit my mother and myself (who we both raised for the first 9 years since his dad (my brother) was a fuckup), by the time he left 5 days later, he had gone from being “My Baby”, to “Cameron”, to “That Boy”, to “YOUR Nephew”…

      Its amazing how quickly you realize that suicide is understandable once you spend a few hours with a teenager.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:41 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.2   Olivia

      Of course, Mishee. That’s cause suicide is painless. It brings on many changes. And I can take or leave it if I please.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:49 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.3   Mishee™ bang

      A brave man once requested me
      to answer questions that are key
      ‘is it to be or not to be’
      and I replied ‘oh why ask me?’

      (Of course, that “Brave Man” was probably talking to a teenager, hence the apathetic response…)

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:52 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.4   se

      Mishee, I prefer the term “post-natal abortion”.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 10:56 am   rating: 12  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.5   MAMARILLA2 bang

      @29.3 Actually, he was. Mike Altman was 14 when he wrote the lyrics. Can’t get more angsty and apathetic than that.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:08 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.6   claw71 bang

      Six grandkids, Julie? That’s quite a brood. And given your self-righteous tone I bet their all charmers too. No chance that your mom faked her death and moved to France. No chance at all.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:44 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.7   mamason bang

      I just don’t like the attitude that Nana is free daycare or nightcare whenever needed. It aint happenin’ so get over yourself. You had the kids, now figure it out. I did.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 3:08 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.8   KatieMB

      Hey Grammie #2 had every chance to say no to taking the 2 bratty teenagers… so I wonder why she didn’t? Maybe the parents have something on Grammie that they use to their advantage? Maybe Grammie’s gambling Grandpa’s retirement savings, or that she buys her “homemade” lasagna is at Costco…

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:22 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.9   Olivia

      @MAMARILLA2 He totally wrote it when Mommy and Daddy Altman were at Indy 500 and he was brooding at Grandma’s.

      Regardless, I’ll take that song over the angsty teenage stuff today (saying that gives me the urge to yell at some kids to get off my lawn).

      Jul 9, 2009 at 12:56 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.10   MAMARILLA2 bang

      What I find most amusing in the whole Suicide is Painless story, is that he made more money on the song than his Daddy made for the movie.

      Jul 18, 2009 at 12:04 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #30   Robert Synnott

    Note that granny’s notepaper depicts an illegal activity.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 10:54 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

     
  • #31   mel

    Dear Grandma,
    I don’t like writing ‘thank you’ notes. Please don’t send any more presents until the ‘thank you’ note policy changes.

    Respectfully,
    little timmy

    Jul 8, 2009 at 11:23 am   rating: 24  small thumbs up

     
  • #32   lolli

    Grammy #2 attached her PA note to a cookie sheet with unhappy face magnets (indicative of the types of notes she usually displays?). Perhaps she should bake for the little darlings.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 11:30 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

    • #32.1   claw71 bang

      I think there’s a good chance those rich spoiled brats will handle the baking on their own. Waking and baking.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:19 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #33   aaa

    How horrible and rambunctious are these grandkids if they’re teenagers and can’t be left alone for a weekend? :O

    Jul 8, 2009 at 11:38 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

    • #33.1   claw71 bang

      They’re teenagers, is there any limit to how horrible and rambunctious they can be? Especially if left alone for a weekend.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:18 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

       
    • #33.2   aaa

      I never did any really stupid shit as a teenager that would’ve gotten me in trouble with the rents. But then again, I am a zombie robot hermaphrodite, so I might’ve been just a bit broken….

      Jul 8, 2009 at 2:04 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #34   Jamie

    My niece could write at 6. It wasn’t much, but she could write basic kid sentences like “I love you”. She could write anything with instruction, like if someone were to spell out, oh, I don’t know, “Thank you grammy.”

    If nothing else, why didn’t stepmom (who was quick to point out the “step” part) pick up the phone and help her call?

    Jul 8, 2009 at 11:42 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

    • #34.1   claw71 bang

      Well isn’t your neice just soooo special. She could read. Bully for you and your brainiac family. Well my neice could pole dance at the age of 5. I showed her how. My worry wart sister and her pushy husband filed an order of protection and moved to Illinois but in a few more years my niece will be 14, the age of consent in Mississippi, and we’ll be together. Oh yes, we will.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:17 pm   rating: 16  small thumbs up

       
    • #34.2   Pishposh

      The parent could be a step-father. The grandmother could be the biological mother of a daughter, and the daughter married a man with a daughter.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 1:29 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #34.3   park rose

      With the first note, kerry’s opening gambit is: writes our anonymous submitter.
      The majority of the responses have assumed that it is the mother, or step-mother of the grand daughter ( I at first assumed it was one of the in-laws), but the sex of the submitter is not specified.

      It’s interesting also that the majority of the comments assume that it is also the mother’s job (not the father’s job) to drum the etiquette of thank you note-writing into their hapless six year old offspring, or step-offspring.

      (a spring in your step?)

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:54 pm   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #34.4   RP

      Does it matter?

      Does anything excuse sending a pissy little note to a six year old?

      Jul 9, 2009 at 9:24 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #34.5   park rose bang

      RP – no. I don’t think that my post indicated that it did, either.

      I think that the sooner we stop expecting women to adhere to mores arbitrarily written by Emily Post or someone else the sooner snarky grandma notes like the above will hopefully fade into oblivion.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 9:30 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #34.6   Lizzy

      claw, WHAT THE HELL IS UP WITH YOU??!!!

      Jul 10, 2009 at 10:22 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #34.7   GK bang

      Good idea, Lizzy; draw attention to yourself, why not? Especially after posting your age in that other comment.

      ~realsmart~

      Jul 10, 2009 at 10:29 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #35   aaa

    P.S.

    Do they teach people how to wish me a happy fucking birthday in school?

    ;D

    Jul 8, 2009 at 11:43 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

    • #35.1   Snippy

      OK, fine, I think you’ll act embarrassed, but we’ll come to your school and sing “Happy Fucking Birthday” in front of your classmates.

      Even with such a big hint, I doubt that your teacher will give you a Letourneau-style present.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:37 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #35.2   park rose

      Happy fucking birthday, aaa.
      I think that’s within the strict guidelines laid down by Ms. Emily Post. Or is it Miss. Or Mrs.?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:01 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #36   xs

    “XOXO grandma.”

    Gossip Girl is a senior citizen??!!?

    Jul 8, 2009 at 12:02 pm   rating: 12  small thumbs up

     
  • #37   Missy

    First off, love the stationary.

    Second, I TRY to write thank you notes, I try.

    Third, it makes me think of my dear Grandma. She lived far away from me and when I was 6ish I asked (in all new handwriting excitement), “How come you do note write me letters?”. Her response: “Well, if you expect to get letters you should send out letters yourself!”

    Jul 8, 2009 at 12:04 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

    • #37.1   mamason bang

      My mother’s parents lived about 500 miles from us, so most of our interaction consisted of cards and letters. On one of our rare visits, my grandmother asked me why I hadn’t sent her a thank you for the b-day card she had sent. I asked her why, in the 12 years that I had been alive, she had never taken the time to learn how to spell my name correctly. I don’t think I heard much from her after that. She never did learn to spell my name. She was a school teacher. I wonder if she took the time to spell her student’s names correctly. She’s dead now. Bitch.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 3:19 pm   rating: 19  small thumbs up

       
    • #37.2   park rose

      @ Missy: Maybe it’s because your notepaper was always motionless?
      Oh, and mama, as a teacher, which teacher learns their students’ names let alone how to spell them??? I kid, I kid… I know them all, and if I don’t, I just use the most common name and hope for a response. Used to be great in the Middle East. You’d just call out ‘Mohammed’ or ‘Mariam’, and half the class would raise their hand ;)

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:02 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #38   claw71 bang

    It’s got to be a Cleveland thing because most mothers would be pretty damned happy if their daughter married a fancy-pants big wig who gets the VIP treatment when he travels. Granted nobody likes to get saddled with the responsibility of watching teenagers (unless they happen to girls in which case I’ll happily volunteer), but what’s with the bitter resentment? Is grandma pissed because her Polish Catholic daughter married that rich Jewish boy from Beechwood rather than that Koslowski kid with the good union job at the machine shop over on West 85th?

    Jul 8, 2009 at 12:12 pm   rating: 11  small thumbs up

    • #38.1   situational lefty bang

      I agree 100%. The first thing that entered my mind after reading the note from Gram #2 is “shouldn’t she be happy her son-in-law is so successful and he and her daughter are living a great life?” My husband gets a lot of perks in his job, and I have never once heard any resentment from either my parents or in-laws when they’ve helped us out. Sorry, but Gram #2 is a total bitch.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:44 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #39   saffronlee

    I’m for Team Grandma, too.

    If the kid is 6, she’s probably been sending gifts for at least 5 years now — obviously with no response.

    The parent (and step-parent) ought to know better.

    Plus Grandma likely sent gifts the whole time that parent was growing up too — so that’s at least another 18 years of gift giving for that kid.

    So all together that’s 20+ years of giving — without a thank you note.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 12:13 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

    • #39.1   MAMARILLA2 bang

      At least grandma remembers the kid’s name…My dad called my oldest girl ,”little girl” for 20 yrs, He finally had to learn her name because I have 2 daughters.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:52 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #39.2   RP

      “Plus Grandma likely sent gifts the whole time that parent was growing up ”

      Um, WHAT? Grandma is a grandma only to the grandchild. Grandma is the parent’s Mom.

      Why would you assume she had to “send” gifts to her child? It’s not like the OP said anything about their spouse being from a broken home or anything to indicate Grandma didn’t raise her kid. I don’t care what anyone thinks, you don’t have to send a note to someone you see in person every freaking day.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 10:20 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #40   Stephanie

    Yeah, using American money in Canada is usually not a problem, and if it is it’s easily exchanged at any bank.

    As for thank-you notes, I am not speaking for Canada as a whole, but in my whole life I have never written, receieved or even seen a thank-you note for a birthday present. We just either thank in person or on the phone. The only exception I’ve seen to this is weddings and funerals.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 12:17 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

    • #40.1   claw71 bang

      Dear Grandma:

      Thanks for dying! Eh.

      Love,

      Stephanie

      Yeah, Canada is all class.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 12:40 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #40.2   aaa

      Why the fuck wouldn’t it be, claw? That’s where William Shatner comes from.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 2:06 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #40.3   MAMARILLA2 bang

      They have apologized for Bryan Adams already.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 3:37 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #40.4   TP

      What about Alan Thicke? I’m still waiting for that one. Hrmph.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 4:41 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #40.5   T imo® bang

      What about Celine Dion? They have a lot to answer for.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 10:02 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #40.6   Heroin

      We may breed them in Canada, but it’s America that makes them famous. Eh.

      Jul 10, 2009 at 10:43 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #40.7   MAMARILLA2 bang

      Yeah, just look at Superman.

      Jul 18, 2009 at 12:14 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #41   OhSnap!

    the important thing to remember: grandmas are people too… bitter, hateful, old people.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 12:58 pm   rating: 17  small thumbs up

     
  • #42   xs

    No they don’t teach thank-you notes in school, Grandma, but please keep sending money so I can afford to go to my dream school Thank-You Notes University when I turn 18.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 1:38 pm   rating: 15  small thumbs up

     
  • #43   Melodie

    My grandma on my mom’s side had a zero tolerance policy about thank-you notes/phone calls. If you fucked her over on that one time, no matter how old you were, you never got a gift from her again.

    My grandma on my dad’s side never expressed an opinion about it either way, but she did once beat my dad unconscious with a ukulele for missing curfew, so maybe she figured you wouldn’t need telling on the “thank-you notes” score.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 1:57 pm   rating: 9  small thumbs up

    • #43.1   park rose

      Was he strung out before or after the beating?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:07 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #44   T.U.M.

    Sure, it’s rude to not acknowledge a gift (note or phone call) but it’s ten times ruder to point out that you haven’t gotten a thank-you note. If nothing else, isn’t that just sinking to the ingrate’s level?

    I agree that the note’s really meant for Mom – if the kid knew to write a note, she probably would have. So, it should have been sent to Mom. How messed-up is it to make a six-year-old feel guilty for something she probably didn’t know she was supposed to do?

    Grandma #2 obviously thinks she should have been invited along.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 2:08 pm   rating: 19  small thumbs up

     
  • #45   LoveShoes

    The first one reminds me of my now dead Grandmother when she had stage one Alzhiemers. Sad. The second one reminds of my mother.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 2:08 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #46   gamergf

    A pun could be made about Grandmas and loonies…

    Jul 8, 2009 at 2:35 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

    • #46.1   mamason bang

      well…

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:42 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #46.2   GK bang

      Evidently gamergf is one of those disaffected Generation Xers who feels it’s unnecessary and tiresome to actually make a joke; the thing all the cool kids do is just to make reference to the fact that a joke could exist, if only she could get over her enthralling existential ennui. *dramatic sigh* Life, eh?

      Jul 9, 2009 at 2:59 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #47   anglophile bang

    Hi. I’m anglophile and I don’t write thank-you notes.

    A thank-you call or e-mail is sufficient.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 2:58 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

    • #47.1   park rose

      How about thank you giggle-braxes?

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:57 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #47.2   Snippy

      I’ve never heard gigglebraxes say “Thank you” — ungrateful little bastards.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:59 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #47.3   park rose

      Maybe you’re thinking of giggle-minxes.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:09 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #48   queeenbeee

    The parents should teach this child the common courtest of saying Thank you! Go Grandma!

    Jul 8, 2009 at 3:48 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #49   farcical aquatic ceremony involving 'taking care of' Caroline...

    They taught me how to write thank you notes in school. They were fuckin’ delicious.

    (really???? I was the first to fucking enjoy fucking deliciousness today???)
    ; )

    Jul 8, 2009 at 4:41 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #49.1   NewMoon

      supercalifragilfuckingliciousness

      Jul 8, 2009 at 5:20 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #49.2   park rose

      It was alluded to @ 26.2

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:10 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #49.3   Snippy

      Come on, rose, stop living in a world of allusions.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 7:23 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #50   rachel

    I live in Lakewood so I’m pretty pumped about the last one. :)

    Jul 8, 2009 at 6:45 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #50.1   Snippy

      It’s impolite to brag about your sex life. Besides, maybe you were only pumped because you’re pretty.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 6:54 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #50.2   GK bang

      Maybe “rachel” is actually what he’s going to call himself post-op, and he’s talking about one of those dubious extra-inches-guaranteed pumps?

      Jul 9, 2009 at 9:53 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #51   Jesse and the Rippers bang

    Grandma #1: I approve. That little girl needs to learn her manners, since apparently her parents aren’t teaching her.

    Grandma #2: Get down off the cross, Granny. Unless your daughter dropped the kids off without warning in the dead of night, you agreed.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 7:24 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #51.1   mamason bang

      Shit! Even if she did drop the kids off in the dead of night without warning… that’s what the cops and CPS are for.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:45 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #51.2   RP

      Yes, she should know that she is a horrible, horrible person for not doing something she didn’t even know she should do!

      Jul 9, 2009 at 10:23 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #52   fluffy8u

    Advice to Grandma #2:

    Just beat those teens with an extension cord. That’ll make them shut up (and if you beat them extra hard, you can get them to do stuff for you like make you a margarita and clean your bunions).

    Jul 8, 2009 at 7:29 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

     
  • #53   Goldie

    As a mother of a 13yo and a 16yo, I really wonder – What the fvck is so hard about watching (?) teenagers?? how tough can it be to spend three days under the same roof with two people who can stay home alone, buy and cook their own food, run errands around the neighborhood, mow the lawn, do household work, and won’t bother you if you just give them some privacy and an Xbox”??? C’mon Lakewood Grandma, fess up – you’re only mad because you were looking forward to a dirty weekend in Hilton with your hawt son-in-law. You naughty cougar, you.
    Oh, and. I’d rather scratch my eyes out with a hospitality-suite spork than go to a car race.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 11:13 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

     
  • #54   Goldie

    Am I the only one who imagines Evelyn Harper from “Two and a Half Men” when reading the first note? I can seriously hear her voice saying these words. “Do they teach thank-you notes in school, Jake?”

    Jul 8, 2009 at 11:19 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

    • #54.1   mamason bang

      Yep. You’re the only one.

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:46 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #54.2   Goldie

      wow. you sure told me! and you were even nice enough to leave out the part about how i’m ugly and i have no friends and none of the regulars want to sit at the lunch table with me.

      sheesh.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 6:56 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #54.3   Lizzy

      uh, wtf?

      Jul 10, 2009 at 10:12 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #55   agatha christie

    Note number one reminds me of my living grandma, the one who consistently tells me that “it would be nice to get a phone call from you sometimes” and yet hasn’t called me on purpose in the last six months. Sure, she’ll call me on accident because my name is next to my aunt’s in her phone (or she means to call my mom, even though our names don’t start with the same letter), but call me with the express purpose to talking to me? Yeah right.

    She’s also one of those gift-givers who always demanded a thank-you letter in return. I feel like yes, a thank-you letter is only right and proper, but to demand one after giving a gift is bad form.

    Jul 8, 2009 at 11:37 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

    • #55.1   mamason bang

      OMG! I have a friend like that! She’ll bitch and moan about how I never call her… while we’re on the phone… BECAUSE I CALLED HER. And she wonders why the calls are coming less frequently. :roll:

      Jul 8, 2009 at 11:48 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #55.2   fluffy8u

      My sister does something similar. Every time I see her, she always says, “why don’t you ever call me?!” To which I always reply, “why do I have to call you when you sleep in the next room?!” Just because we live together doesn’t mean I have to call her too.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 1:32 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #56   fluffy8u

    That last notes sounds like “My daughter and her husband went to Indy 500, VIP style, and all I got was a long weekend with their two bratty teenagers.”

    Jul 9, 2009 at 1:35 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

     
  • #57   April

    Kinda have to agree with the grandma. I hate when I send people presents and they never even let me know it got there so I wonder if the post office screwed me and lost it. My mom taught me to always write thank you notes and I do get a little pissed when I don’t get them. The great thing about thank you notes is the more you write the more stuff people want to give you, true story because they feel appreciated.

    So I guess I am going to be that grandma in 25 years because if my sons can’t teach my grandkids to write thank you notes, I am going to teach them. Probably in a less passive aggressive way though.

    Jul 9, 2009 at 6:12 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #57.1   GK bang

      Doesn’t your country’s post office offer a recorded delivery service? If you’re sending valuable items through the post, it’s not just a good idea; it’s… well, probably not the law. But you get the idea.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 6:45 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #58   April

    I sent something like Note 1 to my sister in law. Except it wasn’t passive. I outright told her off because I have sent super nice presents to my nieces for 3 years and never got a verbal thank you, a phone call thank you, an email thank you or a written thank you. The witch could not even return my phone call when I called and left a voicemail asking if the present got there. So I was always wondering if they even got it, if they liked the gift, etc.

    The last straw was when I finally mailed the gift with return receipt when she had to sign for it, so at least I would KNOW she got the gift this time. Oh but that witch got me again. She missed the initial delivery and then REFUSED to go pick the gift up at the post office. It sat there for two months till I finally had them send it back to me. How ungrateful can you get?

    So I emailed her and told her off and said her kids are never being invited to my kids’ awesome birthday parties anymore and I will never send her kids a gift again because I can only take so much abuse before I crack. She would always chunk 20 dollars in a card last minute as gifts for my 2 year olds…..yeah what 2 year old knows what 20 dollars is? So while their cousins opened up super cool toys from me, they sat there holding a 20 dollar bill and wondering why their toy was so unfun….

    Jul 9, 2009 at 6:39 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

    • #58.1   GK bang

      April, I have terrible news.

      Your brother married a bitch.

      Sorry.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 6:51 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.2   park rose bang

      April, you’re obviously not in favour of giving cash as a present, or fairly ‘unfun’ presents such as writing paper, so I find it strange that you side with grandma one.

      I guess you also wrote thank you notes for receiving the $20.00, as it is only good manners. According to your theory above @ 57

      The great thing about thank you notes is the more you write the more stuff people want to give you, true story because they feel appreciated.

      The gifts just should have started getting better after the thank you note you penned. Though of course, siding with grandma one, it should have been your two year olds who expressed their gratitude in writing. Did they?

      And what 2 year old can conceptualise their cousins opening presents while they open up a card which will probably double as drawing paper in a little while, anyway? It’s no wonder your sister-in-law didn’t pick up the presents. I would not have wanted to have dealt with the holier-than-thou, better-than-the-Jones schtick, either.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 7:51 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.3   anglophile bang

      Well, thank goodness you put your foot down, April, and banned those ill-mannered, uncouth brats from your children’s parties. Who knows what sort of horrible things those little jerks might have taught your Special Snowflakes next? Spitting contests, or maybe even jumping in mud puddles! No, I’m sure you were completely justified in putting as much distance between cousins as you can. Ungrateful snot-nosed little shits.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 7:55 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.4   GK bang

      Park rose makes an interesting point regarding the drawing-paper potential of a birthday card, but doesn’t go far enough, I feel. A banknote provides an excellent doodling surface (admittedly, they already have little pictures all over them, but that’s nothing a good scribblin’ can’t deal with).

      Jul 9, 2009 at 9:47 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.5   RP

      You’re going to keep your nieces away from your kids because you’re mad at their mother? Why? Your sister- in-law won’t care and it’s not the kids’ fault she won’t go pick up packages sent to them.

      And why aren’t you mad at your brother? Why didn’t he return your call or pick up the package? They’re not together anymore?

      If you two don’t get along it’s entirely possible that she doesn’t want her children to get along with you either. If you refuse to see your nieces or let them visit their cousins you’ll be doing EXACTLY what she wants.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 10:33 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.6   Goldie

      Dear April,
      In case you and your SIL do reconcile, please feel free to send me any uncool $20 bills that your children may receive. I promise I will reciprocate immediately with cool dollar-store Barbies. Heck, I won’t even require a thank-you note.

      Jul 9, 2009 at 6:52 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.7   April

      She is not my brother’s wife. I don’t have a brother. She is my husband’s sister. My husband never takes part in any present buying, wrapping, giving so he stays out of it and looks the other way when they act rude to me.

      Actually it breaks my heart that the children have to suffer because their mother is a bitch with no manners. But I just got fed up with SIL’s rudeness and lack of effort. In order to see the kids you have to deal with the mother, and I don’t want to deal with the mother ever again. She also never RSVPS for the parties and when I call asking if they are coming and how many are coming (like is her husband coming too) she also never returns my calls. So yeah…they can suck it.

      Yes, I sent a thank you note for the 20 dollars even though it was last minute of her (she put it in a non Christmas card for a Christmas gift so it must have just been a card lying around the house. She did the same thing for my wedding shower, showing up with money stuffed in a non wedding card). I always sent very nice Thank you notes for her thoughtless gifts for years. But finally when I had kinda had it with her I sent a passive aggressive Thank you note myself. Went something like “Dear T, Thank you for your generous monetary gift and the card. I can tell you put a lot of thought into it. love,A” Wonder if she got the joke?

      Jul 10, 2009 at 6:21 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.8   oi bang

      I am sure she will suck it and suck it hard as she never returns your calls nor accepts gifts. so yeah she will be very sorry to know that you won’t be sending her nicely wrapped gifts anymore she does not care about.
      why do I smell drama queen? If by being rude she can save her ass from the drama then i say she’s got a deal, baby.

      Jul 10, 2009 at 9:39 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.9   Michelle S.

      I’m so glad my SIL (mommy of my super-awesome nieces) is a sweety and not a pinch-faced prig.

      I honestly don’t get people who stew and stress about who gave who what and who isn’t getting appreciated. Why has gift-giving become such a competition?

      Let go of that burden of pettiness cloaked in the name of “manners”! It’s so much fun to send a gift that isn’t wrapped in guilt and expectations. Try it sometime!

      Jul 11, 2009 at 12:05 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.10   April

      Yeah because it is so unreasonable to expect someone to return a phone call when you ask someone if you gift got there. It is also so unreasonable to expect someone to pick up a gift at a post office. SIL thinks it is. I could care less about the thank you note or even getting thanked, I didn’t like it but I dealt with it. But SIL took it to a whole new level Michelle.

      Oi:she will suck it when she has no realtionship with her brother or nephews. If she treats me like crap then she won’t be invited over EVER. They have had financial problems before, and they can suck it if they think we would EVER help them out now. She hasn’t seen her nephews in over a year and she hasn’t seen her brother since Christmas dinner which she showed up 2 and a half hours late for by the way….

      Jul 11, 2009 at 6:14 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.11   Michelle S.

      Oh, nm. You’re one of those. You just said it all when you decided to boast about “helping” them.

      Jul 11, 2009 at 7:00 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #58.12   KatieMB

      Yo April. Getting lousy gifts and no thank you notes is indeed frustrating or at least annoying, but why not just say you simply don’t like your SIL? I can’t see lousy gifts/thank you notes as being the “real” reason your hubby would disassociate himself from his sister. Of course, he doesn’t have to like his sister (hell, I don’t like all my sisters either! ;) ) but be honest regarding the reasons for not seeing each other.

      And if lousy gifts and no thank you notes are where you draw the line in terms of family communications? Then I’d agree that you really are a drama queen. But have fun with it.

      And now, back to our regularly scheduled PAN…

      Jul 11, 2009 at 9:51 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #59   =David

    Pff. I live in Indianapolis. The Stutz museum is nothing to write home about. And if this guy was really a bigwig, he’d be staying at the Conrad, not the Hilton.

    Jul 9, 2009 at 11:06 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

     
  • #60   Chris

    Mom should be slapped for not having her child learn that gifts are to be acknowledged upon receipt. A six year old can write “thanks grandma” or dictate a letter to Mom to write.

    The most interesting part is the mother sends THIS to a web site when she should be humiliated for having grandma remind her to teach her kid some manners. Obviously she feels no shame.

    Way to go…

    Jul 9, 2009 at 2:27 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

    • #60.1   park rose

      How do you know it was the mother?

      Jul 9, 2009 at 7:06 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #61   Mustangcub

    I love where she makes the Hilton sound like they are staying at the Ritz. LOL, “no motels for bigwigs” LMAO

    Jul 10, 2009 at 1:53 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
  • #62   Lizzy

    ok, in the first place, why didn’t the grama give the kid her present IN PERSON!!!??? isn’t that what makes birthdays wonderful, seeing the people who matter most spoiling you to death? also, the grama needs to get over not getting a thank you note. im 14 and i JUST started sending out thank you cards. usually the people who gave me presents were at a birthday party. so, jesus, grama, build a bridge and GET THE HELL OVER IT! gramas get their feelings hurt to much. seriously, they’ve been alive long enough to know that with life comes disappointments. she should just wait until the kid gets older and is actually ABLE to write a thank you note. as for the mom, well, who knows? maybe she had too much going on to write a thank you note? i find the fault in the grama, so im on Team 6 Year Old Kid.
    on the second one: who the FUCK cares about some random persons problems? yeah its funny but why for the love of all that is holy would someone write that down?

    Jul 10, 2009 at 10:07 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

    • #62.1   Snippy

      Um, “grama”? I presume it rhymes with drama, llama, and mama, but what does it mean?

      P.S. – Please reply soon, because you’ll soon have your hands full of with claw.

      Jul 10, 2009 at 1:15 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #62.2   GK bang

      Really? You think he’ll let her use her hands? I do believe he’s going soft.

      going soft

      Jul 10, 2009 at 1:28 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #62.3   RP

      I think the second grandma got confused and thought she was writing on was an Internet message board.

      Jul 14, 2009 at 4:06 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #63   anon

    What would be even funnier is if the kid’s mom had the forethought to at least call since note writing is out of the kid’s capability. I make my kids call all the time instead of notes. They can at least talk to Grammy that way.

    My Gramgram taught me about thank you notes because my mother never did them. One thing she stressed that was so much more important than the note itself is to NEVER point out someone forgot to send one. A polite call or letter saying “Did you receive my gift? I want to make sure it got to you ok.” is ok but NEVER shove it in someone’s face or heaven forbid, use it as an excuse to be nasty to to gift receiver. That’s just abusing the note giving system.

    Jul 10, 2009 at 1:10 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

     
  • #64   C J

    Sorry why is this just the Mothers fault? People keep saying “the Mom should have done this”

    Why is the Mom usually blamed and why didn’t the Dad teach the kid about thank you notes?

    Jul 23, 2009 at 4:45 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

    • #64.1   crazybeachcat bang

      dontcha know? moms fuck up everything. everything. everything. everything. everything. everything. EVERYTHING!!!

      sorry, that was not-very-funny sarcasm. you make a very good point here…i hadn’t even thought of that, why the hell IS it just mom’s fault? we’re always blamed for everything, dammit.

      Aug 8, 2009 at 9:06 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #65   ethel

    Team Grandma on both counts. And 6-year-olds can write or pick up the phone, can’t they? In my day…

    Jul 27, 2009 at 6:23 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

    • #65.1   park rose bang

      There’s no way that your name is ethel, right? And in your day, if your name really is ethel, you knew how to capitalise proper nouns.

      And in your day when you went to thank grandma you ran down to the telegraph office with your pennys and nickels burning a hole in your gingham pocket and you sent the message, right? It only cost you a penny or two, right? And that was six months pocket money.

      THANKS GRAN STOP FOR THE US DOLLAR STOP AND THE WRITING SET STOP I CANT WRITE STOP BUT THIS KIND MAN IS DOING IT FOR ME STOP.

      Pick up the phone? Come on Ethel, in your day, Alexander Graham Bell was still in diapers. In fact, maybe the telegram was not even invented and you had to send it via Cobb and Co. But you did. Cos’ you were brought up right, good and proper. Bless your heart.

      Jul 27, 2009 at 7:51 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #66   Elaine

    It’s sort of a given that grandparents always give us crappy gifts. Five bucks and writting paper? She got lucky. My grandma once gave me one pair of panties for Christmas. True story.

    Aug 1, 2009 at 1:09 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #67   crazybeachcat bang

    first grandma: annoying, nagging, lonely old lady. jesus christ, reading that note irritated the hell out of me. does she have lots of cats? i hope so, because that’s likely going to be the only companionship she’s gonna have if she keeps this bullshit up. i’m all about manners (i have a 7-year-old and have been making him do his own thank-yous since he learned to write) but that’s just not the norm anymore…for kids and adults. that doesn’t make it right, so i don’t know exactly what my point is. whatever. anyway, she should have said something to a parent first instead of sending a 6-year-old a hardcore guilt note. i bet that poor girl totally hates grandma.

    second grandma: bitter, bitter, bitter, bitter, jealous bitch!!! are you fucking serious? you’d think she’d be happy for her daughter to be able to enjoy something fun like that, guess not though. i bet grandpa left her ass a looooong time ago and she’s all kinds of pissed off that her daughter’s doing cool shit that she never got to do and still married and all that good stuff. and i doubt grandma had a damn gun put to her head and forced to take the grandkids that she obviously can’t stand. she’s that god-awful annoying lady who does shit just so she can whine and get sympathy from other people because poor, poor thing, she’s always so put upon. hell, she probably BEGGED to keep the grandkids just so she could make everyone at bingo feel sorry for her or something.

    Aug 8, 2009 at 9:21 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
  • #68   my condolences on your birthday

    [...] dear grandma — thanks, i guess; how i “did” my [...]

    Sep 16, 2009 at 8:29 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
  • #69   H2Ik

    Dear Grandma,

    There were no lessons about thank you notes in school. They were much too busy teaching us penmanship and proper capitalization.

    Love,
    Grandson

    P.S. Thank you for the present. It was delicious .

    Sep 17, 2009 at 4:11 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #70   mirain

    Haha, those notes remind me of my grandparents and aunt. If they did not receive a thank-you note for their crappy gifts on the first possible day the USPS could have gotten it to them they wrote or called to complain. And then when I did write they criticized my handwriting. Wonder why I didn’t feel more grateful…

    Sep 18, 2009 at 10:34 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     

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