K, so Court in Michigan met this guy out at a bar. He seemed harmless enough, but Court knew right he wasn’t her type. Still, she didn’t have the heart to give him a flat-out “no” when he asked for her number. (She couldn’t give him a fake one, either, ’cause he the did the “dial his number into the phone and call” thing.)
Says Court: “The first time he called, I talked to him and decided right then I definitely wasn’t interested.” By the end of the conversation, she figured he’d gotten the message…but then he kept calling. And then, texting. When she didn’t respond, Court says, “I assumed he’d take the hint…but I’m not too sure he did.” Um, yeah, you could say that.
related: Not a match
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#1
petra
Wow, and to think she let this prize catch slip through her fingers!
Aug 12, 2009 at 10:41 pm rating: 98
#2
The Shiny One...
Sweet monkey Moses. I’ve had guys like that. Hopefully she doesn’t return to the bar too soon – dude’s not PA, just all A (…hole.)
Aug 12, 2009 at 10:41 pm rating: 24
#3
Canthz_B
Just high-tech love taps, Court.
Jason is really your knight in shining armor trying to make you his Joan of Arc!
Step up to the challenge!!
Aug 12, 2009 at 10:54 pm rating: 5
#4
Watchtower
Written proof that chivalry isn’t dead.
Aug 12, 2009 at 10:58 pm rating: 27
#5
ClearlyDemented
You also can’t be president if people have digital proof you’re a sexist asshat.
Aug 12, 2009 at 11:00 pm rating: 101
#6
Canthz_B
I’ll bet he wouldn’t have talked to Margaret Thatcher that way!!
Aug 12, 2009 at 11:07 pm rating: 23
#7
Canthz_B
Complete personality change in less than eight hours?
Or was the something he wanted to do a boxing match?
“Jab, bitch! Jab!!”
Aug 12, 2009 at 11:25 pm rating: 9
#8
C.S. Harmonikah
The sad thing is d-bags like that really ruin it for the rest of us.
Aug 12, 2009 at 11:27 pm rating: 11
#9
Girl Friday
I can solve the mystery! It was Girl Friday in the Conservatory with a Pipe Wrench!
Aug 12, 2009 at 11:28 pm rating: 4
#10
Dee Motivated
http://despair.com/persistence.html
Aug 12, 2009 at 11:34 pm rating: 5
#11
Natalie
and men wonder why women don’t like to give out their numbers…there’s a chance that we could wind up with a creeper like this. this guy is a misogynistic asshole!
Aug 12, 2009 at 11:40 pm rating: 67
#12
lightspeed
I betting that the next message from him will say something like:
“I shoulda known u were a lesbo.”
If a girl doesn’t like a winner like this, then she is clearly a lesbian.
Aug 12, 2009 at 11:57 pm rating: 93
#13
Kevin
Why am I getting the feeling of deja vu?
http://www.penny-arcade.com/2009/8/10/
http://www.lovesystems.com/
Aug 13, 2009 at 12:07 am rating: 2
#14
gothicmonkey
Ok, scary. Same name as my most recent Ex and same attitude.
*shudders*
Aug 13, 2009 at 12:45 am rating: 4
#15
ts
it’s DBs like this who end up shooting up an aerobics class full of women. guys like these are dangerous and psychotic – there should be a hotline to report them!
Aug 13, 2009 at 1:42 am rating: 45
#16
Oh Really
Dammit, so it’s my refusal to go out with anger management issue dickheads that’s stopping me from becoming president? I knew turning down that douchebag in college was going to come back to haunt me.
Aug 13, 2009 at 2:49 am rating: 42
#17
button
Oh my lord the seemingly newly-acceptable approach of guys wanting numbers that they then immediately put in their phones then dial annoys me. This seems to be the new standard.
‘Cause nothing spells dating potential like testing me on the spot! All this says to me is the guy is potentially a possessive freak that I should flee from.
It’s also completely destroyed my technique of switching my last two digits. Damn.
Aug 13, 2009 at 4:55 am rating: 51
#18
OhLaDiDa
Okay, he’s stupid.
BUT, I have to say, I hate it when people handle it the way she did. By not replying. Better send a short text and say: “Listen, it was fun talking to you, but I’m not interested and don’t want to meet up again.” I’d rather get a clear message like that than the chicken-out silence treatment.
I say: Thumbs down for both!
Aug 13, 2009 at 5:20 am rating: 29
#19
Reibear
This is hilarious and terrible.
But also, I don’t really like this ignoring-behavior thing, here. The guy’s reaction was totally horrible and all, but I think it would have been better to just straight out tell the truth to avoid this kind of thing. Then again, I don’t do this kind of stuff, so I wouldn’t know.
Aug 13, 2009 at 5:21 am rating: 3
#20
anglophile
“Women are never in power”? Oh look at him! Isn’t he cute, flailing his tiny little fists around in impotent rage!
Aug 13, 2009 at 6:19 am rating: 76
#21
park rose
…and then he went out and bought a hockey mask.
Aug 13, 2009 at 7:13 am rating: 16
#22
Geez Louise
2 pathetic 2 realize she doesn’t like u and move on? that’s why women get restraining orders.
Aug 13, 2009 at 8:49 am rating: 25
#23
Spencer
This note is particularly hilarious if you read it imagining the messages were sent in reverse (that is to say, the topmost message came first)
Aug 13, 2009 at 9:00 am rating: 31
#24
GhostWriter
The Police Investigator noted that time-of-death was estimated to be between 10:05:46 pm and 10:37:39 pm.
Her bruised forearms and broken fingernails suggested that she was, indeed, too weak to defend herself.
Aug 13, 2009 at 9:03 am rating: 14
#25
Erin
aaaaaaaaa: “not everyone carries the phone with them.” I agree! I often leave mine in my purse set to “vibrate” and find texts and voicemail at the end of the day.
Imagine if I liked a guy and found this on my phone! In that case, his texts of escalating rage would have saved me from a bad date, therapy and a restraining order. Thanks for laying your crazy cards on the table so early in the game, Jason!
Aug 13, 2009 at 9:50 am rating: 59
#26
Miss Silver
wow. talk about being a sore loser. some people just can’t handle rejection without going bat shit bonkers.
Aug 13, 2009 at 9:58 am rating: 4
#27
Plain_Speaking
Damn, i hate psycho text people. Why is it that after you give your number to someone slightly suspect ,you then have to avoid you phone for a month or two.
Aug 13, 2009 at 10:13 am rating: 6
#28
Devika
Holy crap that’s stalker-esquely frightening.
Aug 13, 2009 at 10:19 am rating: 3
#29
MAMARILLA2
The real regret is that cretins like this will somehow find a way to propagate.
Aug 13, 2009 at 10:35 am rating: 8
#30
Woman on the Verge
Is there an online course called “Text Stalking 101: Show Her You Really Really Care”?
Aug 13, 2009 at 10:44 am rating: 18
#31
SpellingBee
Sounds exactly like my ex, except for the fact that I did respond several times saying, “Please stop texting me, we are no longer dating and I’m no longer interested in you.” (He’s the one that broke up with me) Then the real fun started when he texted me such genius words such as, “LOSER” “No wonder no one likes you” “I HATE YOU”.
And to think I actually liked this asshat!
Aug 13, 2009 at 10:47 am rating: 13
#32
Wordtinker doesnt smith
Friend request denied.
Aug 13, 2009 at 10:48 am rating: 5
#33
Wendy
It would have been hilarious if she had written back to the last text (whether true or not), “I forgot my cell at home today and just got back from a late night at work/night out with the girls/a movie to see all these messages. I was interested in seeing you again until I saw those. Please never text or call again.”
Aug 13, 2009 at 11:05 am rating: 74
#34
oi
2 stupid 2 get a clue? That’s why you are living in mom’s basement.
And men like you always wonder why hands are their only hope.
fine be A**h*** then
would you mind not texting me and be gentleman?
Aug 13, 2009 at 11:07 am rating: 3
#35
ABF
This is why I never give out my number anymore to people I’m not into. It could lead to that. Some just don’t pick up on the “hints” that we think are so obvious, and then there’s some like this guy who also obviously are scary-aggressive.
Aug 13, 2009 at 11:12 am rating: 4
#36
aaa
Lemme guess, he probably considers himself to be a “nice guy”, too.
Aug 13, 2009 at 11:38 am rating: 25
#37
Rio Gringa
I was disappointed when I realized you’re supposed to read the messages from the bottom up. It’s much funnier from the top down.
Aug 13, 2009 at 11:58 am rating: 3
#38
Dude
I completely agree that the guy is a douchebag. However, being a dense man, often when women are hinting at something I just don’t get it. Just give it to me straight. Not sure it would have helped with that guy though.
Aug 13, 2009 at 12:00 pm rating: 2
#39
mamason
It’s unfortunate that young women aren’t taught by their parents to tactfully yet definitely say, thanks but no thanks, to would be suitors. It’s also unfortunate that young men aren’t taught that a woman saying no thanks, doesn’t make her a lezzie bitch.
Aug 13, 2009 at 12:21 pm rating: 30
#40
GhostWriter
Now, had Jason rejected Court (instead of the other way around) the texts would have gone a completely different way:
2:58:29 pm – So, would u like 2 come over and spoon (platonically?)
8:47:16 pm – Fine, seriously, it’s no big deal. I thought you’d enjoy my companionship- I understand that you must have other priorities higher than me.
10:05:46 pm – What is it with guys like you, anyway? I gave you my number; the least you could do is return my texts. I went out of my way preparing for your visit today (put the cats in the garage, lit dozens of candles, crazy music-box music playing, his-and-her’s Raggedy Ann/Andy outfits for us to wear…) and You Never Called! I thought you were the Right One, but you are like All The Rest!!
10:37:39 pm – I can’t believe that you finally came over five hours late, and you still had the gall to drink the wine I had set out. Of course you passed out- what guys doesn’t? If you are reading this text, you must have woke up in my garage. Because that’s where I chained you, Jason. That’s where my pet bobcats will tear you apart. …and because of the relaxants I put in your wine, you probably can’t stand up yet, or even yell for help.
Whatzamatter, Jason? 2 weak 2 defend urself?
Aug 13, 2009 at 12:42 pm rating: 25
#41
Sara
Well had she actually taken an adult approach and said she wasn’t interested than we wouldn’t have this gem to giggle about, now would we.
Men are not mind readers ladies. Next time let a guy know up front if your not interested. My educated guess is he wast irritated that you gave him your number only to ignore him and lashed out as a result.
It doesn’t excuse his behavior but how would she have reacted if the situation was reversed.
Aug 13, 2009 at 12:42 pm rating: 5
#42
TiffanyB
Usually I would think the silence method was an incredibly immature way to deal with things, BUT, in this situation I think she was right to ignore. This isn’t your normal guy. This type of guy takes any acknowledgement of his existance as proof that he owns you. Even if you’re telling him no. If she would have sent him a text back, no matter what it said, it would have just kept him going. It can get really frightening. I know that from personal experience, it’s why I don’t give my IM contact info on websites anymore.
Aug 13, 2009 at 2:28 pm rating: 19
#43
Tessa
Seriously? I had something like this happen once. When the guy crossed the line from being annoying to being verbally abusive, I texted back and said I hadn’t had my phone with me for a couple hours, and that after the last couple messages I received I certainly was not interested in dating him.
Aug 13, 2009 at 3:00 pm rating: 27
#44
Rappenwolf
Reminds of a guy who I met at the video store. First time he called, day before 4th of July, wanted to know if I would like to come to his apartment’s pool party next day. Told him I had already made plans and declined. Next thing, he’s calling me over and over to tell me what a manipulative bitch I was. ???
Aug 13, 2009 at 3:02 pm rating: 15
#45
RoxyBlue
Some women are too polite for their own good especially when younger. “I didn’t want to be blunt and hurt his feelings.” I am sure in the future she will avoid hints and will always be brutally blunt.
Some men mistake politeness for interest. “No thank you I don’t want a drink, no thanks I don’t want to dance, no thanks, no thanks,… listen buddy you’re too short to ride this ride find another!” Anyway, I figure she was in a no win situation. This guy’s behaviour is nicely condemned in the follow link.
http://attack-laurel.livejournal.com/137681.html
Aug 13, 2009 at 3:44 pm rating: 4
#46
diana
these texts are great. they can be read top to bottom or bottom to top and still be funny. i personally prefer the top to bottom form, it makes the guy seem like even more of a loser.
Aug 13, 2009 at 4:16 pm rating: 3
#47
Jules
It’s so much more hilarious when you read it in reverse chronological order (top to bottom).
And seriously, I’ve had guys give me the hint by not replying to my texts and anyone above age 12 should be able to understand what’s going on without resorting to childish name-calling. There’s something seriously wrong with this man that makes him so angry. Good thing she didn’t go out with him.
Aug 13, 2009 at 6:22 pm rating: 6
#48
anglophile
Hey! Did anyone else read it top to bottom? It’s so much more funny that way.
Aug 13, 2009 at 6:48 pm rating: 13
#49
oi!
gf!
Aug 13, 2009 at 7:26 pm rating: 0
#50
Brainsmmm...nevermind
Jason’s next text:
I’m a man who discovered the wheel and built the Eiffel Tower out of metal and brawn. That’s what kind of man I am. You’re just a woman with a small brain. With a brain a third the size of us. It’s science.
Aug 14, 2009 at 1:45 am rating: 10
#51
lauren
YOU WONT FUCK ME, YOU CAN NEVER BE PRESIDENT
Presidents don’t even answer their own phones. Other people do it for them, and I hear they’re often busy, too.
Aug 14, 2009 at 9:33 am rating: 23
#52
AlekNovy
I got a question for you guys…
How many of these stories involve “I was hoping he’d get the hint”.
Anyone notice how its every single one of them… and then notice how they involve at least a dozen communications involving “hope he gets the hint”.
To make it simple for you. To create a story like this takes 2 idiots.
Aug 14, 2009 at 12:18 pm rating: 1
#53
AlekNovy
“”No, no it doesn’t. It takes one “Nice Guy” who feels entitled to whatever woman he wants.”"
No canaduck, it takes one idiot “nice guy” who feels entitled to direct communication and not being lead on.
And one woman who has no problem leading him on.
You have excuses for her behaviour.
I have excuses for neither of them.
I don’t care what coulda, shoulda, woulda happened. And I know how often women get nasty responses to rejecting a man–
1) In most of these cases they’re hostile, abrupt in the way they deliver their rejection
2) His “hypothetically possible behaviour” is no excuse for leading him
Aug 14, 2009 at 1:14 pm rating: 1
#54
Anonymous Public
He makes some fair points in the latter messages
Aug 14, 2009 at 1:26 pm rating: 0
#55
aging hipster
That’s it – I’m done with the words “douchebag” “A-hole” and “wingnut.”
From now on, they’re all AssHats.
Asshat (I just enjoy saying it).
Asshat. Asshat.
Aug 14, 2009 at 1:39 pm rating: 3
#56
MAMARILLA2
♫ Imagine me and you, I do
I think about you day and night
It’s only right
To think about the girl you love
And hold her tight
So happy together
If I should call you up
Invest a dime
And you say you belong to me
And ease my mind
Imagine how the world could be
So very fine
So happy together
Aug 14, 2009 at 2:41 pm rating: 0
#57
trixel
I was always impressed with people who offered me their number rather than pester me for mine. Much cooler.
Aug 14, 2009 at 6:23 pm rating: 7
#58
Seanette
SO glad I’m no longer dealing with the dating scene!
Aug 14, 2009 at 7:01 pm rating: 0
#59
Chinchillazilla
Wow, what a psycho. I often (usually) forget to change my phone from silent or to turn it back on after class or a movie or something. I don’t remember until I need to call someone, open it, and see like twenty messages. I guess that would get me hacked apart by this guy.
Aug 17, 2009 at 1:20 pm rating: 2
#60
Cordelia
That’s not fair to say she handled it poorly. What’s better? Diplomatically avoiding a scene with a psychopath by giving him your number or telling him flat out you’re not interested so he can go nuts right there in person? If there’s someone she really dislikes she should have given that person’s number – otherwise she did the best she could.
Aug 17, 2009 at 11:41 pm rating: 4
#61
penfold
clearly he is psycho and sexist, that is why she is too scared to respond. Dumb too
Aug 18, 2009 at 12:16 am rating: 2
#62
meh
And so marched the surprisingly attractive and downright sexually magnetic PAN feminists, leaving a trail of snide remarks and immasculating any asshat who laid in their wake. After that day, the woman’s burden of phone numbers was no more.
Aug 18, 2009 at 11:23 pm rating: 2
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Aug 25, 2009 at 10:49 pm rating: 0
#64
Lauren
I’m saying this mostly in response to the comments on this post. When men have shown an interest in me and I wasn’t interested in them, I’ve both hinted my lack of interest and also flat out said I wasn’t interested. With both methods, I’ve had men get more insistent and/or flat out angry. I’ve been called a bitch. Why bother asking if I’m only allowed to say yes? Skip the whole pesky asking part and just forcibly carry me somewhere. Or rape me, you stupid assholes. Why not? It’s scary, the thin veneer of normalcy that instantly fades after you dare to say no. Whenever that happens I’m thankful the red flag waved so early.
Aug 29, 2009 at 11:49 am rating: 24
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