Alex and his wife, Kathy, have an 18-month-old son who, among other his hobbies, enjoys pulling off his socks and shoes at any opportunity. (Perhaps he’s a future marathon-running superathlete. Or, you know, a normal 18-month-old.)
Recently, Kathy took her son with her on a trip to the store in their hometown of Las Vegas (temperature: a bone-chilling 64 degrees). When she came back to the car, she found this helpful bit of parenting advice waiting on her windshield.
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#1
justtrollin'
THOSE SOCKS WERE FUCKING DELICIOUS!
Feb 15, 2010 at 8:44 pm rating: 90
#2
Tolling
Lady, it dont matter if it’s winter in Vegas. If 64 degrees is too cold to not wear shoes, then I should get frost bite everytime I walk out onto my deck, since it’s usually 40-ish degrees at night.
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:01 pm rating: 90
#3
Mindy
Perhaps the notewriter is an overzealous and semi-insane Baby Gap manager?
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:04 pm rating: 90
#4
stacey
Seriously, this woman has never had a child. Neither have I, but I have a three year old niece who hates ALL clothes. Thank god her mother keeps the house at 70 degrees, or I’m sure this nincompoop would show up and “tut-tut” my sister-in-law.
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:06 pm rating: 91
#5
farcical aquatic ceremony
my brain did a leap from “lazy ass” to “lazy eye”, which (of course) made me wonder what a mom with a wandering ‘tock would look like… (could she EVER find the pair of jeans that fit right??)
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:19 pm rating: 90
#6
G
I’m told that, at that age, I often stripped off ALL my clothes…wherever I happened to be…randomly and without warning.
This mom’s doing well just to have the kid out sans shoes/socks.
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:22 pm rating: 90
#7
crumplet
Stop being a lazy ass and learn some punctuation bitch!!! It’s “IT’S not summer”, not “ITS not summer”!!
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:24 pm rating: 90
#8
Bemused
Meh. I see plenty of parents with half-dressed kids and yet mom and/or dad manage to be bundled up. At some point you really have to quit whining “It’s because they’re kids!” and man up and dress your child appropriately and responsibly. “He’s one!” Well, what are you going to do when he’s ten and totally unmanageable because you didn’t crack down on him now??? Oh, I’m a parent, BTW….
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:25 pm rating: 90
#9
0falcon8
How can you write a passive-aggressive note punctuated with only exclamation marks!! It looks really foolish!!! I see other notes and they have apostrophies and periods!! Stop being a lazy ass punctuator!!!
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:30 pm rating: 90
#10
snatchbeast
babies shouldn’t get a pass on the shirts and shoes required signs. because babies suck.
team note writer
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:31 pm rating: 90
#11
Melle
I agree with @bemused. I have never seen any of my family members send their babies out into the street sans shoes and socks unless it was summer and they were wearing sandals. Sometimes I think it really is some parents just being lazy and not bothering to get their kids into good habits early.
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:32 pm rating: 90
#12
oi
I too hate socks. and full sleeves. and burkha. and unitards.
Team baby.
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:34 pm rating: 90
#13
mykidsmomx4
Wow! I didn’t even know my ex had been to Las Vagas!
He alsways has lame comments like that for me. Like the one night when our baby was 7 mo old and I came home (my house, he was long gone) from my moms at 9:45 on a Friday night. He stood in the street and yelled “New Rule! She must be in by 9:00 every night!” (He was totally serious.)
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:39 pm rating: 90
#14
0falcon8
I see this situation going awry when Junior comes down with a raging case of ringworm of toe-herpes. Remember, kids: when you walk barefoot on a floor, your feet are having sex with all the other bare feet that walked there before you!
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:42 pm rating: 90
#15
Caitlyn
I would put my baby in socks, but not shoes, unless he is allowed to walk around. If kept in the cart, shoes are unnecessary, and actually harmful to the development of the baby foot.
Feb 15, 2010 at 9:48 pm rating: 90
#16
sonicmega
Way to sock it to ‘em, I guess!
Feb 15, 2010 at 10:04 pm rating: 90
#17
Morgaine
Probably the same people who yelled at me when I left my dogs in the car when it was 55 degrees out.
I left them in the car, in the shade for ten minutes. And it was 55 degrees out. Do people really think they need to be the common sense for others? I know that there are people who do stupid things, but give people some credit. We all aren’t crazy.
Feb 15, 2010 at 10:09 pm rating: 90
#18
Canthz_B
64°F. is cold as hell when you’re used to 109°F. average during the summer.
I think I’d curl up and die if I had to experience anything below 39° now, let alone standing at a windy bus stop in 13° in NJ like I used to.
Let your kid pull his shoes and socks off in the car…put them back on before you take him into the store.
We call that being dressed.
Feb 15, 2010 at 10:30 pm rating: 90
#19
Molly
If I see a child without shoes or socks I usually assume that the child took them off, unless the kid is dirty and raggedy, then I assume neglect.
This is when footie pajamas or tights come in handy
Feb 15, 2010 at 10:33 pm rating: 90
#20
Canthz_B
Barefoot toddlers outdoors give me the creeps.
The only thing that creeps me out more is that these are the children of the very same people who don’t clean up after their pets, which happen to relieve themselves on the same lawns their children run barefoot on.
Farking iceholes.
Feb 15, 2010 at 10:50 pm rating: 90
#21
Canthz_B
More parents should let their little ones go barefoot.
According to the 2000 census, there has been a steep decline in the number of Hillbillies in the U.S.
Right after we get those dogs callused up, we can shove a stalk of straw between their little developing teeth and size them for a custom made straw hat.
Nothing but the best, yes?
Feb 15, 2010 at 11:22 pm rating: 90
#22
Fifi LaRoux
As someone who now and, as a child, loathed socks and shoes… Okay, yeah, fine. I don’t see the big deal. Keep the socks on, maybe, blah blah blah.
HOWEVER; what is messed up was the kid I saw at the bus stop earlier this week. It was windy, around 30 degrees (considerably less with the wind chill) and the three-year-old and his little infant sister had on NO HAT. NO GLOVES. Jackets, but no hoods.
THAT, my friends, is severely screwed up.
Feb 15, 2010 at 11:26 pm rating: 90
#23
anglophile
It’s 64°F in my house right now. I have wool socks and slippers on. It’s fricking cold.
And I wish these damn kids would get off my lawn.
*shakes cane at them from her porch*
Feb 15, 2010 at 11:46 pm rating: 90
#24
Rob
Im from Buffalo, NY and 64 Degrees is NOT cold!
Feb 16, 2010 at 1:01 am rating: 90
#25
Katie
Why the hell would a baby have/need shoes before it can walk? Waste of money and resources.
And 64? That’s like indoor temperature!
Lol. I bet my dog is trained better than all your babies! Bwhahaha!
Who trains babies?
I hate babies.
Feb 16, 2010 at 1:46 am rating: 90
#26
Nimo
A mother went shopping and left her infant in the car alone. Socks and shoes are beside the point. Gross, shitty mom.
Feb 16, 2010 at 2:16 am rating: 90
#27
Sam
If you’re going to have a go at someone’s parenting at least have the guts to do it to their face! But then again if everyone did that we wouldn’t have anything to laugh at then.
Feb 16, 2010 at 4:34 am rating: 90
#28
kts63
When my 2nd son was a toddler, he could take off boots and socks, no matter what I did, in seconds flat. I tried everything to keep them on. One time, he sent everything flying while we were walking down the street and by the time I noticed, I couldn’t find his one boot. I stuffed my mitt over his sock, pulled down his snow pants and started looking for stores to find a boot substitute. Of all the people who chased me down the street to tell me that my kid didn’t have a boot (there I was pushing his stroller staring right at his feet) the best was the woman who tripped over the HOMELESS GUY in order to snottily tell me. The 2ndbest was the woman who followed me into a store and yelled at me as my hands were obviously holding a pair of boots.
Feb 16, 2010 at 5:44 am rating: 90
#29
hygenic
In the note-writer’s defense… it really isn’t sanitary for the kid to be out in public without socks and shoes.
Feb 16, 2010 at 7:42 am rating: 90
#30
Gavin
God, it’s cheap to hit-and-run with PANs at least give an address for them to respond >_< clearly an amateur…
Feb 16, 2010 at 8:08 am rating: 90
#31
Swiss
A healthy human baby must wear socks and shoes in sixty degree weather? Congratulations, you’re a control freak.
Feb 16, 2010 at 8:20 am rating: 90
#32
bonnies
Man, if that lady went to Michigan, she wouldn’t last 10 minutes.
Feb 16, 2010 at 8:46 am rating: 90
#33
JMonkey78
Does anyone else come to the conclusion of “Bat Shit Crazy”…
Feb 16, 2010 at 8:49 am rating: 90
#34
aaa
a) Uh, didn’t the ‘rents know that you’re supposed to stable the socks and shoes to your kid if they won’t keep them on? Jesus, what the fuck is this world coming to?!?!
b) How can you leave a note and not bitch at people directly like a real adult? Stop being a lazy ass stranger!!!
c) Shoes and socks are for pussies.
d) I just flossed my teeth and found a wad of ick shaped like Jesus.
e) There is no e.
Feb 16, 2010 at 9:12 am rating: 90
#35
Woman on the Verge
As a mother, and clearly an authority on all things labeled “parenting”, I have to tell you people something. When you have kids, you absolutely must pick your battles. Some things are worth the fight (no eating worms) and some are not (you must keep your shoes on). I have three boys. BOYS. One could divest himself of boots, socks, hat, mittens, and coat all while strapped into his carseat in about 3 minutes. Keeping your child clothed can be a challenge if they are embracing their inner nudist.
While I would not allow them to traipse around shoeless in stores, I would sometimes prefer to carry them shoeless in and out rather than return an hour later to find the expensive shoes that they managed to wriggle out of in the store.
Please, trolls, I know I’m not the parenting authority. Really. Get a grip.
Feb 16, 2010 at 9:18 am rating: 90
#36
Wow
Wow, some people are getting a little emotional, aren’t they? I have two kids – I never had any issues with the first taking off her shoes and socks. She tried it a couple times, I told her no, and voila, no more problems. Wasn’t I just the perfect parent?
Then my son came along, and the socks and shoes are off all the time. If he takes them off in the car, and it’s 64 degrees, I probably won’t bother putting them back on, especially if we won’t be outside for longer than a walk into a building. Now if it’s 20 degrees the shoes are going back on.
Of course, I’m a bad parent because my one year old is in diapers, and I (gasp!) actually carry him instead of letting him crawl through the parking lot. I know, I know, better call child services on me!
Pick your battles people! Every kid is different so what works for one kid won’t work for every other kid.
Feb 16, 2010 at 10:18 am rating: 90
#37
Laura
There’s nothing more vicious and cruel than a group of judgmental moms undermining one another. We truly are our own worst enemy. It’s too bad more women can’t rise above this undermining behavior and support one another – we’re all in it together, y’know?
Feb 16, 2010 at 11:09 am rating: 90
#38
Chris
Although I wouldn’t leave a note, what the hell is wrong with this mother justifying having the kid barefoot in 64 degrees? First of all 64 degrees to a child used to 90 is freakin’ cold. Second of all, she obviously LEFT the car with the kid barefoot so even if she didn’t leave the house that way, put the damn socks back on before you take the baby out of the car. Obviously mom didn’t bother.
I agree, she’s lazy and now wants to whine to justify her laziness. Nope..she didn’t put them back on before she took the kid out of the car seat (I hope he WAS in a car seat) and now she’s working on justification. Didn’t work with all of us. Keep your kids feet covered.
Feb 16, 2010 at 11:09 am rating: 90
#39
tilywinn
So Kathy did get married to Alex after all? I heard she got cold feet.
Feb 16, 2010 at 11:10 am rating: 90
#40
brie
How can anyone take a note where “lazy ass” isn’t properly hyphenated?
Feb 16, 2010 at 11:12 am rating: 90
#41
thursday
I am so glad I saw this before I had children. Now I am prepared to dress them with super glue and/or duct tape.
Feb 16, 2010 at 11:46 am rating: 90
#42
KelBel
As an import to the SW from the midwest, they have absolutely no sense of the proper temperature to justify putting on extra clothes. It’s currently 70 degrees in tempe and I guarantee you I will see someone in a scarf and coat on in the next ten minutes because it is “not summer.” This mom should get a medal for not raising her kid to be a regular SW person who can only handle temperatures above 85.
Feb 16, 2010 at 12:21 pm rating: 90
#43
matty-wat
I’m surprised that the note writer didn’t approach the mom and tell her in person. Usually those buttinsky types have no problem telling you what they think you are doing wrong to your face.
Feb 16, 2010 at 12:27 pm rating: 90
#44
Angela
They really should start giving out PhD’s for stating the obvious.
Feb 16, 2010 at 12:30 pm rating: 90
#45
CDjr
Who asks questions with exclamation marks!!
Feb 16, 2010 at 12:42 pm rating: 90
#46
Keelhaulrose
I work with toddlers, and our room is usually a graveyard of discarded shoes and socks. The biggest challenge is making sure we put the right socks on the right kid. When my daughter was 18 months I got so sick of her taking off her shoes and socks at the zoo I went to the car, got the duct tape, and taped her shoes to her pants. That just meant she had to pull her pants off, too.
Feb 16, 2010 at 12:54 pm rating: 90
#47
sam
oh my god, why do people care so much if a baby has on shoes or socks? maybe if he/she is out in the arctic or walking in snow or something, but i think it’s perfectly fine if they’re being carried and it’s obvious that they are well-cared for.
i never wore shoes or socks as a toddler; i never wore shoes while running around in the woods behind my house when i was a child (idk how i managed that, to be honest); i would always take my high heels off at dances or when i was walking home in college (gross, i know); and when i go snowboarding in 20-30 degree weather, i wear a short-sleeved shirt under my jacket and goggles – no hat, no scarf, no earmuffs. and i’m perfectly fine.
people are so self-righteous it’s unreal. use your anger for REAL tragedies in the world.
Feb 16, 2010 at 1:24 pm rating: 90
#48
jessica
It sort of seems like the main issue with this article is this:
Was the child walking or being carried/in a cart?
64 degrees is not going to give a kid frostbite, no matter what they are used to.
If they are barefoot in public, i have more of an issue with it, just in case they have a cut or something on their foot and some nasty public bacteria gets in it. You never know.
i agree with the above posters who talk about picking their battles. i have two kids who are generally well-behaved (3 years and 1.5 years) and if you HAVE to go out and get something, and they’re taking off all their clothes and you can manage to keep shirt/pants on them, it’s not worth fighting over socks and shoes if they’re not going to be walking.
But like i said, at least for me, the issue is whether or not the kid were barefoot. If there were broken glass on the ground or whatever, that would be one SAD kid getting a tetanus shot.
Feb 16, 2010 at 1:27 pm rating: 90
#49
oi
Screaming toddlers are the open and shut case of failure on the parents’ part. If you don’t know how to shut up your wailing banshees in flights and public places probably you should steer clear from contributing gene pool. kids don’t better but parents? parents should gag their loudspeaker mouths.
there. I said it on behalf of the half the commenters and a note writer.
Feb 16, 2010 at 1:48 pm rating: 90
#50
ERICH ELSTER
64 is really too cold for a baby to be out without at least socks. if the baby kept pulling them off they should have put him in a footie pj or pants with footies. i’ve got to agree with the p.a. person, you’re a lazy ass mom. i have one child, she’ll be 18 years old this month
Feb 16, 2010 at 3:49 pm rating: 90
#51
Heather
That is just ridiculous!!! I live in North Dakota, she doesn’t know what winter is!!! ha ha!! I have a 20 month old and know exactly what everyone’s saying about keeping there shoes on, thankfully mine keeps them on most of the time but as soon as those shoes come off so do the socks. Your doing a good job, goodness when its 64 here it feels like summer for all of us, I would probably be wearing shorts.
Feb 16, 2010 at 9:27 pm rating: 90
#52
kathy THE MOTHER
I’m the Mom.. the Kathy who did this and I’d like to clear a few things up. First of all the baby was not walking. Are you kidding me? Who lets an 18-month old walk through the parking lot or grocery store. Second of all, who thinks 64-degrees is cold? His feet weren’t cold, we were running into the store for 5-minutes. If I put the socks and shoes on they end of scattered around the store and I lose them. I’m not an idiot. I’m not raking my kid to the park without shoes. I have two kids and I work from home so I can be with them and teach them to be wonderful people. If he doesn’t wear socks into a store while I’m carrying him it’s the least of our problems in the world.
Feb 16, 2010 at 11:06 pm rating: 90
#53
Kathleen Kaufman
Anyone who would leave this note obviously has NO experience with toddlers. They don’t care about the cold, they pull their socks off anyway.
The only time I choose to fight this battle and make my two year old wear his socks and shoes is when he’s going to be walking – I wouldn’t fight it on a grocery store run.
And 64 degrees is not cold, especially to a kid.
Feb 16, 2010 at 11:32 pm rating: 90
#54
aaaaaaa
C_B is really on a one-person crusade today. Parenting only works if you do it HER way and have babies running marathons at 10 months!
No shoes? Parents are LAZY
Feb 17, 2010 at 5:47 am rating: 90
#55
Canthz_B
Maybe you decided not to read this, r just to be a jackass and act like I never wrote it, but here it is again:
You are free to disagree, but our method of raising our children worked for us.
I never said it’s the only method that works, just that it worked for our children.
Feb 17, 2010 at 8:12 am rating: 90
#56
April
So if it’s such a big deal for a toddler who as the mother said was not walking to not have socks or shoes, then why is it so acceptable for everyone else to run around in sandles without socks *gasp* . As for Canthz B are you telling me that even in summer your children were not allowed to wear sandles? Cause if they were that means that they could of still gotten those nasty little worms. I am not putting down your parenting, but I’m also not going to take away the fun experiences of mud squishing between their toes, feeling the grass under their feet and all the other great things to do while barefooted.
Feb 17, 2010 at 8:39 am rating: 90
#57
GuavaJoe
I was just at a tourist spot in Florida (near Tampa), where admittedly it has been a little chilly the past week, and a woman shouted at me across the road to put a coat on because it was cold.
I need a giant sign that says ‘YOU’RE NOT MY MOM’ – can anyone help me out? This would work great I think except on my mom.
Feb 17, 2010 at 11:18 am rating: 90
#58
Lauren
Just a little shout out to the person who was complaining about the anti-kid sentiment?
Actually, no. It’s not anti-kid. In general, people are at the very least AMBIVALENT about kids.
It’s the whiny adults who bitch and moan that people aren’t treating their speshul snowflakes right!!!!omG!
This is usually followed by the adult refusing to control their wailing two-year old because little poopsiekins is so cute, and they really just can’t be bothered….
Sorry about that. Lol.
Feb 17, 2010 at 8:16 pm rating: 90
#59
Janey
My nephew spent some of his earlier months without shoes and socks in the backyard because it was summer. There was no need for them.
And then it became winter and the temperatures were far below zero — definitely shoe weather. He would throw a tantrum anytime you tried to put shoes or socks on his feet.
Finally, his parents were able to get through to him that if he wanted to go outside, then the shoes and socks must be on. And trust me, this kid loves the outside. Now he’s about as patient as a 2-year-old can be while they are put on his feet. But the instant he’s inside those things are off!
Feb 18, 2010 at 12:21 pm rating: 90
#60
Jenny
Wow.
My children learned to walk barefoot, inside and outside, as per the recommendation of our pediatrician. They had the chance to develop the muscles in their feet, as children have been doing since children have EXISTED.
Yes, there are places where broken glass, dog feces, etc. are on the ground. Yes, we lived in a major city. No, they didn’t walk barefoot (or at all) where there were hazards. Toddlers, after all, pick up and mouth interesting objects pretty readily. If the only place your child has to walk outside is a Superfund site, I can understand being hardcore about the shoes, I guess.
Feb 21, 2010 at 3:59 am rating: 90
#61
NoAdditives
It’s really not that hard to keep your kid in shoes and socks. We don’t wear shoes in the house and my 16 month old daughter knows this, so she generally takes her shoes (and occasionally socks too) off in the car. But as soon as we get to our destination I put her shoes back on and she never has a problem with that. She knows that if she keeps her shoes on she might get to walk around herself instead of being confined to the shopping cart or stroller.
It’s not that difficult to teach infants and toddlers the rules. Establishing some discipline and boundaries early on works and is highly beneficial for both parents and children.
Mar 1, 2010 at 5:34 pm rating: 90
#62
Renee
I know this is a relatively old note, but I wanted to give everyone the perspective of someone who grew up in warm weather climates (SoCal, TX) and who spent as many hours as possible barefoot while doing so. The result? I got worms, likely from playing barefoot in the creek behind my house. My feet developed some impressive callouses in the summer from running down the sidewalks and across the asphalt (which melts in the Texas heat). Also jumped barefoot onto a glass bottle once, shattering the bottle and leaving me with an impressive scar.
So, as someone who survived childhood RIDDLED WITH WORMS, BLOOD, AND BARE FEET, let me tell you, I wouldn’t have changed it for the world. I’m terribly happy I was able to be a kid. Scars and all. I’m now 35 and pamper my feet with regular pedicures and fabulous shoes. But my 21 month old? I hope she continues to run around as freely as I did.
Mar 2, 2010 at 3:32 pm rating: 90
#63
Uly
Of course, that assumes you think keeping shoes and socks on is a priority. Which you are.
If you think that keeping shoes and socks on is at about the same level as making sure they don’t wear spots with stripes, well, why would you bother?
Mar 10, 2010 at 12:07 pm rating: 90
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