Comments on: Please don’t take this the wrong way, but mind your own damn business.

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By: Speaking Up

Speaking Up — Fri, 21 May 2010 06:21:35 +0000

Or you know, the ones that can’t actually ever lose the weight because of a slew of medical reasons and are sick and tired of nearly everyone assuming that their weight is due to them being lazy and eating around the clock (and possibly the clock too).

*touchy subject for this particular 24-year-old female*

I’ve been trying to lose weight since I was 5. I have never been happy with my size. I was bullied about my weight through primary and high school. I have been severely depressed since age 15. In the last three years I haven’t wanted to go out in public because I’m so aware of my weight and how people will look at me and judge me without even knowing whether or not I can help how I am.

I would have reported this note to management for harassment. Let my boss find out who it was.

By: LittleSprout

LittleSprout — Fri, 21 May 2010 05:04:14 +0000

Now, who would like a shoe in her vagina???

By: Shannon

Shannon — Fri, 21 May 2010 01:33:43 +0000

That person is so retarded. Also WW doesn’t allow pregnant women cause you’re SUPPOSED to eat. But I think this person needs to break work dress code and wear a “baby in the oven” sort of shirt.

By: ArmyOfAardvarks

ArmyOfAardvarks — Fri, 21 May 2010 01:20:52 +0000

Whoever wrote that note is my hero. I hate fatties.

By: Thebe

Thebe — Tue, 18 May 2010 15:47:38 +0000

All you people are hilarious. I’d put the note up at my desk, in plain sight. You’ll probably be telling people soon anyway. I love the suggestion to put a printout of the ultrasound next to it.

By: BurstingAtTheSeams

BurstingAtTheSeams — Tue, 18 May 2010 07:16:41 +0000

Heh, I lost 50 pounds over the past year. Like you, it was weight that I needed to lose. I have a small frame and am now well within my ideal weight range, but MAN are my coworkers horrible. ‘You need to eat more food’ and ‘You’re getting way to thin’ and ‘Are you still trying to lose weight? What size do you wear anyways?’ Even my mom has asked me if I’m anorexic and still having my periods! (And yes, I really do fit into the ideal weight category for my height… everybody was just that used to me being chunky, I guess.)

You’d think a former chubby chick would appreciate the “thin girl” comments, but they really hurt.

Lesson learned – lay off the weight comments. Big girl and small girl comments both hurt =(

By: Xenobiologista

Xenobiologista — Mon, 17 May 2010 11:35:11 +0000

I learned a while ago about a condition nicknamed “pregorexia” where women are so freaked out by the idea that they’re gaining weight, even though it’s due to the fact that they’re carrying and later feeding a child they WANT, that they starve themselves. That is truly frightening vanity.

By: Xenobiologista

Xenobiologista — Mon, 17 May 2010 11:22:17 +0000

Well, no to Weight Watchers per se, but yes to trying to be healthier, because 160lbs at that height is well in the “obese” range.

By: VZG

VZG — Mon, 17 May 2010 08:39:08 +0000

“Don’t take this the wrong way, but I hate your goddamn ugly face.”

By: VZG

VZG — Mon, 17 May 2010 08:36:24 +0000

Most fat people aren’t “proud” of the way they look and never claim to be. Many of them try to be happy, though, with the way they are, because long-term changing is very difficult and easier to accomplish when you aren’t feeling like shit already. Or maybe they don’t want to change, because losing any significant amount of weight includes adjustments that would be more detrimental to their happiness than being fat is.

And more importantly, there are very few people who just “bring up” being overweight who aren’t doctors (though even many of those can’t manage not being patronizing about it) or overweight themselves. Most of the time when it is “brought up” it’s unnecessarily. I mean oh, no, I HADN’T noticed that I’m fifty pounds overweight, thank you for telling me! Gosh, if someone hadn’t pointed it out, I would never have noticed how big my thighs and stomach are!

By: VZG

VZG — Mon, 17 May 2010 08:28:20 +0000

…fifteen pounds isn’t any place to start worrying, and “help” in any form — even polite notes — is more likely to irritate or depress than actually help. Help expressed with this much thinly-disguised disgust will probably do both. I’m a fatty myself, and only when motivated by my own self have I lost any weight. (Also, when I sunk into a particularly bad depression.) No amount of being judged by other people, even if they claim it’s for “health” reasons (hint: it usually isn’t) ever motivated me to change, it just motivated me to stay away from them.