Comments on: Sorry to break it to you

By: Canthz_B

Canthz_B — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 06:26:29 +0000

15 minutes…and two drinks later.
Don’t flatter yourself.

She got laid that night!!

By: arby

arby — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 06:09:06 +0000

He can spell, but he can’t use paragraph breaks.

Definitely always a sign of a nutcase

By: tuna

tuna — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 15:25:11 +0000

I think your comment is pretty fucking stupid.

All the best.
-Tuna

By: zomboid

zomboid — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 10:19:09 +0000

amazing

By: zomboid

zomboid — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 10:10:03 +0000

i had a real classy guy approach me as i weaved my drunken way home at 5 am one night and hassle me to go home with him, then as i was walking away he says “you’re not even that good-looking anyway!”
that’s me told….

By: zomboid

zomboid — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 10:02:03 +0000

it’s not that uncommon a name actually, in fact it happens to be my name. it’s pronounced finoola.

PS: fionnuala was one of the children of lir who got turned into swans for 900 years by the king’s evil third wife and had all sorts of wacky misfortunes

By: totalreadr

totalreadr — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 18:07:59 +0000

“if one ever did try anything I was usually shocked, bewildered, angry and you know, sometimes full of the old self-chastisement at my own stupidity.”

When I first realized some women have this attitude I was really surprised. I’m like Splint Chesthair: I’m incapable of being romantically interested in someone I’ve just met. If I asked out a friend, it would not be because I “was only acting like her friend because I wanted to get in her pants” — it would be because I *was* her friend, and now, having got to know her better, I realized we might be compatible enough that I’d like to try dating. You know?

I’m pretty lucky I’ve never had this problem — I’m still with my second girlfriend (now partner — marriage is too patriarchal for us). With each of them, we were friends and then she decided she’d like it to be more. My reaction was always, “This is my friend. Since I care about my friend, I don’t want her heart to be broken. We may as well give it a try and then, if it doesn’t work out, at least we’ll both know we gave it a shot.” The first time it didn’t work out. The second time…after 12 years together her parents finally acknowledge us as partners.

What I’m saying is — I have no reason to be bitter about this common miscommunication, but I can see why a lot of guys are. Some of these guys who get identified as Nice Guys(tm) really were always entitled assholes — but I’m pretty sure a lot of others are just people who, like SC and me, are innately incapable of being romantically interested in someone they’ve just met.

And like every other young person, they assumed everyone was like them. So when other young people (who assumed everyone was like *them*) felt betrayed by their friend’s interest and rejected them with hostility — they didn’t understand. And there the sexist culture was, ready to coopt them.

@Splint Chesthair: Heh, I’m always getting “let down easy” by women I never had any interest in. I think they mistake my enthusiasm for the conversational topic for interest in them. It does get frustrating.

By: TippingCows

TippingCows — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 03:35:12 +0000

Oh there are plenty of insecure people out there that can take the smallest comment and turn it into something that hurts their fragile little ego. Most of these people are men – at least the letter writers are. Women deal with it in other ways – evil ways!

By: notolaf

notolaf — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 19:27:31 +0000

That’s what I thought, too. And I didn’t even get close to understanding a good half of what he said anyway. Was he drunk AGAIN?

By: Maas

Maas — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 22:22:48 +0000

Ah yes, that makes more sense. As it happens, I’ve never been to confession, I’m just using the older meanings of words in an attempt to travel back in time. I must needs continue willy-nilly lest I be trapped in these rather dismal times.

By: Kat

Kat — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 03:50:49 +0000

Oh lord, Dmitri.
http://theshermanfoundation.blogspot.com/2008/06/some-loser-douchbags-phone-messages-to.html

It was the first thing I thought of, to be honest.

By: park rose

park rose — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 00:41:17 +0000

But then, why bring sexual reputation into it?

By: park rose

park rose — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 00:38:07 +0000

It’s Celtic, I assume, oi. Different language from English.

By: park rose

park rose — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 00:34:23 +0000

I have plenty of male friends and always have had. Hardly a one of them has ever made a pass at me, mostly because we were friends, and so much so that if one ever did try anything I was usually shocked, bewildered, angry and you know, sometimes full of the old self-chastisement at my own stupidity. Helped that I was absolutely frigid (not pleasant for anyone), of course. I think the guys somehow cottoned on, cut their losses, and so friendships developed and were maintained.