Exes and Ohs

July 29th, 2010 · 111 comments

It all started when Erin in Toronto sent her uncle a Christmas card. Actually, scratch that — it all started three years ago, at Erin’s wedding, the last time Erin actually saw her uncle in person.

Before the wedding, Erin explains, “Linda (my uncle’s girlfriend) RSVP’d that she’d attend, and then then didn’t bother to show up, meaning we had to pay for her meal anyway.” (Not that she’s bitter about that or anything!) “Since then,” Erin says, “I assumed they had broken up and have addressed the annual Christmas card to just my uncle and cousin.”

Now, while that might sound a bit hasty (or even, dare I say…passive-aggressive),  in Erin’s defense, the Christmas cards she received were only signed by her uncle and cousin — this year’s included. And yet, in what appears to be a last-minute back-of-the-envelope calculation, “Linda chose this year to remind me that she was still kicking around,” Erin says.

Hi Erin! In case you weren't aware I live here as well (13 years). Thanks! Linda

On the flip side of things, receiving mail addressed to one’s ex can be a disturbing experience as well. I’d say this intercepted message speaks for itself.

Nancy cheated on her husband while he was deployed to Iraq and no longer lives at this address. Return to sender.

related: There are NO pre-paid legal executives (OR FEMALES!) living here!

FILED UNDER: Christmas · ex drama · family · going postal · Oops? · Texas · Toronto · weddings and bridezillas


111 responses so far ↓

  • #1   Party in my pants

    Too bad you don’t have the cheaters new address and could forward all her junk mail with this message!!

    Jul 29, 2010 at 4:50 pm   rating: 11  small thumbs up

     
  • #2   Kat

    Dude…the story behind that second one is so sad that I can’t even really laugh at it :(

    Jul 29, 2010 at 4:52 pm   rating: 41  small thumbs up

    • #2.1   Nack

      Those and letters to dead people. That’s even worse, because it’d take them two seconds with the SSDI to find out the person was deceased.

      Jul 29, 2010 at 5:51 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.2   Bunnee

      My Mom once received an optical shop ad addressed to her dog.

      I deadpanned, “I didn’t know he wore glasses!”

      Jul 29, 2010 at 6:30 pm   rating: 25  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.3   Na

      Hey Nack, it’d take three times as much work for a person to check the status of EVERY SINGLE PERSON ON THEIR DATABASE before they send out mail. I’m not saying that it’s not sad when a person gets a letter for their deceased husband/wife, but what do you expect? It’d different if they’ve already notified the company in question that their spouse/family member is deceased and they still are being sent mail, which does happen.

      Jul 29, 2010 at 7:33 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.4   RunForTheRoses

      about to go postal…?

      Jul 29, 2010 at 8:34 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.5   Xenobiologista

      I’m not laughing at the story, I’m laughing at Mr. Ex-Nancy’s PA need to air his dirty laundry in public. If you’re the kind of person who thinks whining about your problems to strangers makes for good catharsis, you might be part of the problem to start with…

      Jul 29, 2010 at 8:36 pm   rating: 29  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.6   Risha

      Nack, the SSDI database isn’t all that accurate anyway – people often take a long time to show up on the list, and sometimes they never get on the death list at all when no one reports it to them.

      Not to mention that checking that list versus your mailing list is sometimes (often) (almost always) a nightmare. Do you have any idea how many name variations the average person uses, never mind the rest of their identifying info (address, etc.)? I’ve spent weeks cleaning data on just 25,000 or 50,000 people.

      Jul 29, 2010 at 10:39 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.7   pedro

      Yes, it’s quite sad that you’ve been cheated while in Iraq.
      You go in a war. You killed hundreds of innocent people and kids using methods declared illegal by UN.
      Then you came back.
      And oh, your wife meanwhile decided someone else was more worthy than you.
      How sad…

      Jul 30, 2010 at 1:30 am   rating: 29  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.8   T

      My stepmom recently got a letter addressed to her mother, who died 30 years ago. From a company that never existed when she was alive :S

      Jul 30, 2010 at 5:13 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.9   The ELF

      Uncalled for, Pedro. Really.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 6:22 am   rating: 88  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.10   HappyNat

      Stick a sock in it, Pedro. Target your angst at the government and leaders and not the poor peons who have to fight in the misguided war.

      Also, if everyone deployed in Iraq killed hundreds of innocent people there wouldn’t be any country left to fight over.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 7:29 am   rating: 70  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.11   at2002

      Yes, it’s quite sad that you’ve been cheated while in Iraq.
      You go in a war. You do your duty and legal obligation as a soldier to perform your job to the best of your ability. Regardless of your personal convictions, you at least fight for the soldier standing next to you.
      Then you came back.
      And oh, your wife meanwhile decided that cashing those checks for your hazard pay and f*#!ing someone else in your bed was somehow OK.
      How sad…
      I salute you, Nancy’s ex, and your move to return this to a Congressperson with a note; maybe someday they’ll really understand the full impact their decisions have on everyday people.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 7:34 am   rating: 60  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.12   PFJ-WA

      at2002′s understanding of soldiers’ vulnerability to the decisions made by idiots, whether it’s elected idiots or idiots like Nancy? Bullseye.

      pedro’s understanding? Even lower than the average troll.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 7:54 am   rating: 39  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.13   GhostWriter bang

      Maybe the pics had something to do with it.

      If I opened up Time magazine and saw snapshots of my ex building a pyramid of nude male prisoners, parading them around on dog leashes, and rounding up a few German Shepherds to poke at them, I might start to doubt our heterosexual marital bond.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 9:42 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.14   Woman on the Verge bang

      I worked in a doctor’s office where the manager was ranting about a “deadbeat” not paying her bill. It was my sister’s mother in law. And she was dead.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 10:27 am   rating: 22  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.15   mamason bang

      Pedro, it’s your fault that AZ wants to enforce immigration laws.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 1:30 pm   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.16   FeRD bang

      Aaand, 3 wrongs make a left turn!

      Aug 1, 2010 at 8:21 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #3   Baubo bang

    Dear Linda,
    I’m sorry I did not put your name on the front of the card, I ran out of ink. Please don’t unfriend me from facebook! I wanted to wish you Merry Christmas on your Wall, but there is no app to remind me. Oh, and by the way, please send me $15.00 for the meal I paid for you. Cash or money order is preferred; no personal checks.
    Thanks!
    Erin

    Jul 29, 2010 at 4:59 pm   rating: 40  small thumbs up

     
  • #4   Baubo bang

    I agree with Kat. I really have nothing to say about the ex’s junk mail. She deserves every bit of misery that befalls her. I have a brother who had a similar situation. He was in Iraq and his young wife sent him official separation papers, stating she “needed more space.” They divorced shortly after.

    Jul 29, 2010 at 5:05 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

    • #4.1   PFJ-WA

      That’s sad, but it could be a lot worse. A coworker of mine (“A”) married another coworker (“B”) shortly before he was deployed to Iraq.

      “B”, whose behavior was never exemplary to begin with, got more and more erratic until she finally abruptly stopped showing up altogether. After a few days, the mystery resolved itself when “A” returned earlier than expected. “A” had gotten wind of the fact “B” was happily addicted to meth, had given his car to her new boyfriend, maxed out the credit cards, drained his bank account, etc. “A” was lucky enough to be allowed leave to come back and try to deal with the situation, and “B” split when she got wind of it.

      The consequences of treating love as an all-important emotional high, rather than a commitment to protect and cherish the person you love, aren’t very pretty when taken to their logical conclusion.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 7:33 am   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.2   H for Toy bang

      Geez… your husband is in another country across an ocean thousands of miles away. How much more space do you need? Horrible.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 12:19 pm   rating: 12  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.3   mamason bang

      When is that moon colony going to be finished?

      Jul 30, 2010 at 1:32 pm   rating: 13  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.4   Z

      I don’t think most girls really know what they are getting into when they marry someone in the military. It’s harder than anything I’m willing to do, especially if you were to have kids. I guess reality hits them, and for some that means whore it up. To bad they don’t think about what that does to the man. They would be better off with no wife rather than a shitty one…

      Jul 30, 2010 at 5:46 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.5   H for Toy

      Mamason, I believe the correct spelling is “cologna” ;)

      Aug 1, 2010 at 8:24 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.6   infant tyrone bang

      Will the New Lunar People’s Temple serve a
      “killer colognese sauce” instead of the traditional KoolAid ?

      Aug 1, 2010 at 9:03 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.7   glad

      I do have to comment though Z, as a female veteran who was married during my service…men are the exact same way. It’s not always the wife who decides that she doesn’t want to be married to a servicemember, just remember that.

      Aug 3, 2010 at 5:43 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #5   Nack

    Aunty, oh wait, you’re just the girlfriend….

    Sorry if you have your feelings hurt, but I sort of have trouble remembering my uncle’s booty-calls… even if they have lasted 13 years….

    Jul 29, 2010 at 5:52 pm   rating: 48  small thumbs up

     
  • #6   shaniatwainHAY

    The second one is like the opposite of a ‘Dear John Letter’. A John Deer Letter!!! HAHAHA

    Jul 29, 2010 at 6:25 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

     
  • #7   Canthz_B bang

    ♫ One less constituent to answer,
    One less chance to lie.
    One less vote to go chase after,
    I should be happy. ♫

    Jul 29, 2010 at 9:04 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

     
  • #8   surrahsurrah bang

    Apparently Linda is the only one who knows she lives there. Poor thing has to sneak to the mailbox to write that little cry for help.

    Jul 29, 2010 at 10:27 pm   rating: 39  small thumbs up

    • #8.1   Canthz_B bang

      A classic case of “The Color Purple” syndrome.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 1:03 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.2   PFJ-WA

      There might be more truth to that than is obvious on first glance. Linda’s need to “prove” her place in the uncle’s life isn’t a good sign.

      Look at all the babies that are conceived just before a divorce or breakup, for example. Or for a much clearer example, look at the fact that tattoo artists generally refuse to tattoo customers with their lover’s name – because almost every one of them is back in six months wanting to know how to cover it up or take it off.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 7:40 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.3   Canthz_B bang

      Ha! You’d think they’d look forward to the repeat business! ;-)

      Jul 30, 2010 at 8:25 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #9   Silence

    Dear Linda,

    Your meal from the wedding is still sitting on the table, cold and unwanted.

    Now you know how it feels.

    Kisses,
    Erin

    Jul 29, 2010 at 11:24 pm   rating: 48  small thumbs up

     
  • #10   Canthz_B bang

    Personally, as someone with a wedding coming up soon, I don’t care if our RSVPs show their faces or not…as long as their checks show up and clear the bank, it’s all good! ;-)

    Jul 30, 2010 at 1:08 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

     
  • #11   wright1

    So Linda has taken three years to scrape together the courage to let Erin know she’s still part of Unc’s household? And even then she can’t put that tidbit on the card but has to put it on the back of the envelope? Love to know the reasoning there…

    Maybe something like: “I need to let my common-law niece-in-law know I still exist! My telepathic homeopathic aromatherapy message-transference seems to have failed… I have it! I’ll actually write a note to her on our Christmas card… no wait, that’s no good; silly girl might think I’m being frivolous… But if I put it on the back of the envelope, the sheer passive-aggressiveness will sear her little soul forever! How cunning I am!”

    Jul 30, 2010 at 1:11 am   rating: 18  small thumbs up

    • #11.1   Canthz_B bang

      Maybe this particular year Unc left this piece of secret correspondence on the kitchen table and it was discovered by Linda…
      His subconscious guilt finally having gotten the better of him, he inwardly hoped this would be the inevitable outcome and his soul would be freed.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 1:20 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #12   LS

    Sorry, but if she wants to become a part of the family, she should become one. Pretending to be married, for whatever time it lasts, is not the real thing.

    Jul 30, 2010 at 1:38 am   rating: 17  small thumbs up

    • #12.1   park rose

      LS, you’re full of shit.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 2:15 am   rating: 37  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.2   HappyNat

      Yup, until I see the official notarized marriage license I don’t even talk girl coming with my brother to Thanksgiving every year.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 7:32 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.3   PFJ-WA

      You know what a piece of paper proves about a relationship’s survivability? Absolutely nothing.

      It proves that each has the legal right to speak for the other, and is ~presumed~ to be looking after their best interests. It also proves that it’s going to be a lot nastier to end it when someone decides the grass is greener elsewhere. And finally, it proves that the relationship has the official moral approval of politicians who think others’ relationships are their business.

      But other than that, in modern American society it doesn’t mean a g–d—ed thing.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 7:48 am   rating: 12  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.4   GhostWriter bang

      HappyNat, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but you know that girl coming with your brother to Thanksgiving every year?

      Nobody sees her but you.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 9:46 am   rating: 35  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.5   mamason bang

      I think it’s totally inappropriate for your brother and his girlfriend to be engaging in such behavior in front of Thanksgiving dinner guests. I’m sure everyone understands that they’re passionate for each other but they should wait until they’re ensured privacy especially because semen ruins the taste of cranberry sauce.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 1:41 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.6   Sirius¤ bang

      … for some people …

      Jul 30, 2010 at 2:17 pm   rating: 12  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.7   LS

      Whatever. Playing pretend isn’t marriage. And if it’s just a “piece of paper,” then what’s the big deal? People want all of the legal protections and benefits of marriage, not to mention the gifts and familial acceptance, but when they are too chickenshit to actually take the plunge and make the commitment, they think all of that should be given to them anyway. Sorry, they won’t be. An aunt I would send a card to. A pretend wife who isn’t interested enough to marry him? Not so much.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 3:04 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.8   Z

      Yeah, that “adopted” cousin can kiss my ass as well!

      Jul 30, 2010 at 5:49 pm   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.9   TheOldSchool

      LS,

      I’m guessing that marriage is something you’ve desperately wanted, but not something you’ve experienced. I suspect that you’ve had nibbles, but the lucky fools always wise up before you can get them into your dinghy where they can sign on your dotty line.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 9:13 pm   rating: 15  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.10   park rose bang

      So when the pretend baby comes along, LS, do you throw it out with the pretend bath water?

      Jul 30, 2010 at 9:21 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.11   HappyNat

      Ghost,

      That explains why she never wears any clothes . . .and doesn’t eat any turkey.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 9:25 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.12   LS

      I’ve been married for 8 years, theOldSchool, but thanks for playing.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 11:00 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #12.13   lownote

      Aw, there you are LS you have put me (and Linda) in our places. Us pretend wives will just slink off into a corner and never offend your delicate sensibilities again.

      Aug 1, 2010 at 3:07 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #13   JW

    Since when did being a soldier in Iraq make you immune to cheating and divorce? Happens to half of all marriages. Just saying…

    Jul 30, 2010 at 2:43 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

    • #13.1   The Elf

      It’s kicking a man when he’s down. It’s not like he could come back and work on the marriage.

      Not that kicking someone when they’re down can’t be it’s own brand of fun……

      Jul 30, 2010 at 6:23 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #14   Party in my pants

    Cheaters are cheaters no matter where the spouse is located. It’s just sad that a soldier who is defending our country cannot trust his wife.

    Jul 30, 2010 at 7:25 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

    • #14.1   Neeners

      True dat, but why don’t we ever hear about the soldiers who knock up women over seas and then take off. Oh it’s always the women who are whores we pick on. Never the man whores!!

      Aug 1, 2010 at 1:13 am   rating: 12  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #15   Ponytail

    Team Erin, deffo. After six years of never receiving a birthday card from my father-in-law, I decided to stop signing the one my husband sent to his father. Within DAYS, he’d rung up my husband, wanting to know why I hadn’t signed it. Not me, you notice, because in ten years, he’s never once rung me.
    And he seemed genuinely shocked that I was pissed off about never having received a birthday card – “but I never send any of my daughters-in-law a birthday card” so really, why should I be hurt.
    If the not-yet-an-aunt hasn’t communicated with Erin for three years and didn’t attend an important event without sending an apology, she deserves to be forgotten.

    There, glad I’ve gotten that off my chest.

    Jul 30, 2010 at 7:29 am   rating: 45  small thumbs up

    • #15.1   It's just a piece of cardboard

      Bitches and their G.D. cards! Dayum.

      Jul 31, 2010 at 10:29 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.2   AnonEMouse

      Dave, is this you??

      Aug 2, 2010 at 11:02 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #16   bees

    the people here making fun of the soldier…you are sick. you have NO IDEA what its like to be in the military, or be part of such a family. the military defends your f*cking right to sit here and spew your brain sewage all over the internet. they protect a womans right to go out in public without a veil, to not be forced into marriage, they protect your right to choose your own religion without fear of being stoned to death, they protect your right to watch what you want on tv, to be able to criticize your government, and so much more. you have to be a pretty gigantic moron if you think that all a soldier does is kill people, and innocent ones at that. you live in a free country because of the people who have STOOD UP FOR THEIR COUNTRY AND DIED for your right to be an ungrateful prick. you dont know what its like to have your spouse, your father, your child, on the other side of the world for months, a year or more, no friends or family or vacation or calling in sick. you dont know the lonliness, the heartache, and to come home and find out that your wh*re of a wife has been sitting at home, spending your hard earned money, and banging another dude, lying to you about it, while you’ve been patiently waiting for her on the other side of the world for what feels like an eternity? do you have any idea what that must be like? i doubt it. why dont you go eat some more pizza rolls and drink some mountain dew and go play world of warcraft, trolls? its probably the only thing you are good at. if you want to criticize the military, that’s your right, but you ought to learn what the hell you are talking about before you start talking about it.

    Jul 30, 2010 at 11:19 am   rating: 17  small thumbs up

    • #16.1   nelle

      they also defend my right to say, “chillax, dude, it’s just P-A Notes”

      Jul 30, 2010 at 11:35 am   rating: 38  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.2   Sirius¤ bang

      bees: Thanks for putting yourself in harm’s way to defend our country.

      pedro: Eat me

      Jul 30, 2010 at 11:42 am   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.3   park rose

      It’s not an enviable job, anyone would admit, and I think that countries do need armed forces. Loss of life is a tragic thing, but how is the U.S.’ (and its allies’) involvement in Iraq defense?

      I would have asked this question of any Australian forces formerly deployed in Iraq, too, and of the forces still in Afghanistan, and of the methods which are used. I am not there, though, and so obviously I do not know what it is like to be so far from home in an obviously frightening situation for everyone involved, except perhaps for those controlling drones and making decisions from offices.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 12:15 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.4   Sirius¤ bang

      Rose, I suspect that you and I are mostly in agreement when it comes to where the military should be, and what we should be doing.

      The problem is, we (military) don’t get to decide that; the voters do.

      Servicemen & women swear to support and defend the Constitution, and to obey the orders of those appointed over us. If the voters put retarded cowboys in charge, we have a duty to go where the cowboy sends us.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 12:25 pm   rating: 20  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.5   park rose

      Hey, Sirius. Fodder for oil, possibly. It is sad, and I can’t imagine how horrible it is to come home to a broken relationship after being in that situation.

      There are many I admire in the military such as Major Mori, for adhering to the guidelines laid out for them, despite what all the cowboys and talking heads want them to do. I know so many of the servicemen and women are caught between a rock and a hard place, or someone who looks like a rock, and whose brain is made of the same (talking government, business).

      Thank you for putting up a more nuanced point of view. And I also think that voters sometimes put someone in office who they hope might change things ;)

      Jul 30, 2010 at 12:32 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.6   Kat

      @ Sirius: THIS

      I may not agree with our government’s foreign policy or the actions of the military at large, but I will NEVER insult or blame a member of the military simply because they were serving under poor leadership.

      Those in the military stand up and volunteer to do work that I hope I am never called on to do, and most do it because they sincerely believe in protecting and serving their country. It’s not their fault that some assholes in Washington decided that oil was more important that human life.

      I’m not saying that individuals in the military can’t be jerks, but that people shouldn’t automatically blame the guy in the uniform for something beyond his/her control.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 1:18 pm   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.7   Baubo bang

      Umm, as much I agree with Bees to some extent., I do wish folks would stop generalizing that those of us who eat pizza rolls, drink Mountain Dew, and play World of Warcraft are somehow disgruntled and are out of touch with reality. I love pizza rolls (out of the oven, not the microwave, soggy much) Mt. Dew allows me to keep up with my children, and World of Warcraft is AWESOME! Oh, and I’m a paramedic whose husband is paramedic, who also has 3 siblings in Iraq as I typed this with 3 sister in laws at home praying for thier safe return.
      I guess I’m trying to say PIZZA ROLLS RULE DUDE!

      Jul 30, 2010 at 1:46 pm   rating: 21  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.8   Baubo bang

      Oh, does anyone else find it funny that as I am discussing World of Warcraft and it’s beauty, I scroll down and low and behold… A WoW ad… =D

      Jul 30, 2010 at 1:48 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.9   GhostWriter bang

      Geeze- it’s as if you all expect our poor Nancy to stay home waiting for a beatdown by her abusive PTSD-scarred tunnel rat, simply because he did a tour in Fallujah. This guy took on a hazardous job, probably didn’t gather her opinion on the matter prior to deployment, and now he gets to demand wifely obedience? I thought that the right to break our marital vows without a beheading was one of those high-minded freedoms we were fighting for.

      …and for that matter, why in Hell is anybody taking that scribbling on the letter at face value? You can damn sure bet that this soldier-bozo was playing the field all the way around the military base.

      Ya know, they used to tell us that being deployed in Iraq was only about as dangerous as being an inner-city black male resident of Detroit. Funny how I never heard anybody screaming for justice when Crackman Andre came home early to find a john in the sack with his prime Ho. Apples to APPLES!

      Jul 30, 2010 at 2:36 pm   rating: 15  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.10   TheOldSchool bang

      bees,

      I certainly hope that you’re not on active duty. You seem to be too mentally unbalanced to be entrusted with a loaded firearm.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 9:37 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.11   Conrad

      Alright, I’m the guy who submitted that second picture… apparently, I’m the baby-killer who was “playing the field all the way around the military base?”

      First off, I’m not even sure why I’m bothering to defend it against people who are going to make their own assumptions anyway, have already made up their minds, and will likely try to pick apart any response I make because of the discomfort caused by the cognitive dissonance of hearing something contrary to what they’ve already convinced themselves of. Oh yeah, I am pretty well educated, by the way. Surprised?

      For the person who thought that I signed up and left and left her with a raw deal without her input: she met me while I was already in the military. She married me after I received orders to deploy. Also, having deployed once herself while in the reserves, she knew what deployments were like and fully understood what she was getting into.

      For the person who thought that this sort of passive-aggressiveness contributed to it: this is the only thing I’ve done that could be construed as passive-aggressive behavior since the marriage dissolved. The back story, and where I thought the humor ultimately can be found here, is that the letter was about the congressman’s efforts to push through legislation that would help families of service members deployed overseas. I know because I got the same letter. That was why it was so ironic and what caused me to write that message and have it returned. You have to admit, that’s pretty fucking funny. I wrote that when I submitted the picture, but none of that got printed. I think it lost some of its comedic value without it.

      For whoever thought that I was “playing the field” in Iraq: that might be possible for the support personnel who have a normal work schedule and never leave the FOB. I was a scout platoon leader and spent the majority of my 15 months on patrol and QRF at outlying Iraqi Army outposts. I never cheated; I never would have even had time. All I did was pay the bills (which kept getting higher and higher) and diligently write and call whenever i could.

      And for whoever thought that all we do is kill innocent women and children: I killed one person the entire time I was over there, and he was shooting at me when I did. I didn’t instigate it; HE ambushed MY patrol and I have no doubt that it was him or me (or one of my Soldiers). Even as black and white as that is for me, I still have nightmares and trouble sleeping. Your assumption that all Soldiers are a bunch of prisoner-abusing baby killers based off of the actions of a few misguided psychopaths in a prison is even further off-base and more unfair than the assumption about the “WoW-playing nerds” not being any sort of contribution to society.

      I’m not bitter. I obviously have a great sense of humor. I saw something very funny here due to the obvious irony and I wanted to share that humor with other people. This isn’t meant to spark some sort of debate on war, relationships, killing, etc. Trust me; I am very well-read and very introspective. There is nothing that some anonymous person on the internet is going to do or say to make me question anything that I’ve done. If you see the irony and it puts a smile on your face, that’s great. To everyone else who wants to put some sort of spin on it, that’s ok too, because I know that the only way you have enough balls to say anything is through the anonymity of the internet. I guarantee that none of you have the courage to look me in the eye while you spout out any of your bullshit.

      Jul 30, 2010 at 10:21 pm   rating: 58  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.12   April Grill bang

      I don’t know how to log in under my real name: PAN is giving me issues

      Kudos to you Conrad. Your situation blows no matter how you look at it. It’s a “Damned if you do” situation. I wish the legislative issue would have made it to the PAN info; that would have made it even funnier. I was trying to decipher who the propaganda was from, but blowing it up made the pixilation worse. I have two brothers stationed at Ft. Hood and was going to ask them about it. Wouldn’t it be funny….

      Anywho, thank you for doing all that you do for me out there. I would say ‘us’ but obviously someone might get butt hurt over me generalizing thier appreciation for your thankless efforts. After all, you are a baby killing man-whore! *wink* I’d stand to salute you, but I threw my back out lifting a 500lb patient who obviously ate to many pizza rolls (drool), drank too many Mt. Dews, and played way too many hours of WoW.

      Truly in your debt,
      April Grill

      Jul 31, 2010 at 12:39 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.13   Having Fitz

      *applauds* Well said. I have friends who serve and I get so sick of the comments from people who don’t understand the sacrifice people like you make or what those of us at home go through worrying and praying for their safety. I’m sorry your girl wasn’t worth it and I hope you find someone who is.

      Jul 31, 2010 at 12:39 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.14   Canthz_B bang

      Well, Conrad, while I do have to point out that ours is a voluntary military and everyone knows all of the possible risks (personal and physical) when signing up, thanks for your service.

      Personally, I think it should be international law that the people who decide to wage wars (politicians) should fight the first tour of duty.

      There are far too many “Never been there, never done thats” deciding where we should go and what we should do there.

      …and fuck her. if she couldn’t honor her vows to you, she is without honor and not worthy of having you by her side. She’d rather have a thief who would steal another man’s wife? Then you’re better off learning of her true nature now, because she’d have done it later even if you’d never gone overseas.

      Damn! I should have read all you said before I posted.

      You have some anger issues that still need to be addressed…seek help, know we support you, but DAMN, not everyone is a fucking home-front hippie!

      Jul 31, 2010 at 1:06 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.15   Canthz_B bang

      @Kat…there’s no oil in Afghanistan, but our heroin connection is now secure. :-)
      Don’t believe the propaganda.
      The vast majority of our service personnel joined to get money for college, not for love of country alone. Not to say that all have…just the majority. You don’t see a lot of death notices for kids (yeah, 27 years old is a kid) from affluent neighborhoods at the end of the 6 o’clock news.

      Jul 31, 2010 at 1:40 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.16   Canthz_B bang

      Bees, while I respect and am grateful for what our military protects, much of what you say the military protects are things that the Courts protect by way of the Constitution. Example, Little Rock, AK, 1957…the courts protected the right of black students to attend Central High School, the Executive Branch deployed the Military to enforce the Court’s order.
      The military protects the nation’s sovereignty, and then only when called upon by The People through the auspices of the Executive and Legislative Branches of our government to do so.

      Civics class…go there.
      Your contempt for the people you say are being fought FOR is all too apparent…you’ve dropped your penny and shown how superior you think the soldier is to the civilian. So much for the equality the soldier fights to protect, eh?
      Please examine yourself to find where and when you lost the plot on this one.

      Bottom line? The Military is the arm of the Government which protects the Government.That’s why the Military is not an actual Branch of the Government and is not bound by Civilian law…but wisely, given the larger potential issues, under Civilian control through the Executive branch.
      Governments are like large corporations, the corporation must survive…even at the expense of a number of its people.
      In bad economic times, corporations lay people off. In warfare, the survival of the State is more important than the individual, or individual rights.
      Suspension of Habeas Corpus, anyone?

      Ask Japan, ask Germany, ask Great Britain, ask the US. Governments reserve the right to put the civil rights of the people on the back burner…and they use the Military to enforce that right.

      You’ll stop seeing the Military as protector of your rights the next time Martial Law is declared and some young soldier gives you a direction with which you’d rather not comply.

      Maybe if we’d stop convincing our soldiers that they are in some way superior to civilians, fewer of them would commit suicide or otherwise self-destruct once they are out of uniform. The numbers are tragically rising.

      No wonder we’re so fucked up. Didn’t anyone pay attention in class?!?!

      I’m all for a Gung Ho (haha) American, but for God’s sake, please learn how and why it all works before you spout off a bunch of patriotic, gift-wrapped in blood and the flag clap-trap!!

      Jul 31, 2010 at 1:49 am   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.17   Mike

      Thank you for your service, Conrad. Sorry that you had to go through a bad relationship in addition to the intense stress of combat. Good luck in your continuing road to recovery.

      Jul 31, 2010 at 1:54 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.18   mamason bang

      I ♥ Conrad!

      Jul 31, 2010 at 11:54 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.19   anglophile bang

      What irritates me is the strange expectation that someone who voluntarily takes on a dangerous job like soldier, police officer, etc, should somehow be exempt from having to deal with things that are part of life. Married people of all walks of life get cheated on. It’s just as tragic if it happens to a bus driver as it is when it happens to a soldier.

      I’d be less irritated if Conrad hadn’t submitted his own PA note. Ha ha. Clever.

      Jul 31, 2010 at 6:32 pm   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.20   infant tyrone bang

      To: CB
      From: CR (In a new place with internet so funked up that only George Clinton could handle it.)

      Best wishes for the upcoming nuptials.

      Yes, to all that you said.
      But for those ill-disposed to civics class,
      I recommend the short tract linked to below.

      Remember though, it’s not my writing or yours…
      it’s a Marine General’s writing,
      the writing of a proud nationalist and patriot.

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/War_Is_a_Racket

      Jul 31, 2010 at 7:17 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.21   Kimmypie

      @ CB 16.15 ~
      Some people join for the college $, yes.

      However, that doesn’t explain why every male in my family for the past 3 generations {Dad, 2 brothers, 2 nephews} (on Pop’s side) has served as have 2 of my step-brothers, and step-dad and some of my cousins (both male & female) in each branch of our Armed Forces. We are not part of the affluent neighborhoods of which you speak, unless you consider middle class as affluent.

      I didn’t serve because I’m not good with authority, though I’ve been told I would have made a great drill sargent…

      Back to my point, some people serve because it’s what their family does for our country. I’m pretty sure I heard sometime or another, quite possibly at a holiday dinner, that since our ancestors chose to move to this country we should defend it. I’m not sure that’s exactly what was said because I was arguing with my brother, the chaplain from the 82nd Airborne, about the existence of God.

      I’m just sayin…

      Jul 31, 2010 at 10:19 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.22   Canthz_B bang

      Ty, the General beat Ike’s “Military-Industrial Complex” warning by 25 years or so! ;-)

      Kimmypie, I never said there aren’t folks willing to serve out of a sense of duty.
      I said that the majority serve for other reasons…among them money for college. Many serve because it’s the “way out” of impoverished locales, both urban and rural.
      Go back a few generations, and most can point to a family member who served, and proudly, because they were drafted.
      I’m not putting down anyone’s service, no matter why they served…just pointing out that military personnel are no more equal than those who have not served the country in a military capacity, so they need to get off their high horses and not think of everyone else as lazy, WoW nerds of some sort.

      And let’s face it, take the monetary incentives away from the recruiters’ bag of tricks, and see how fast enlistment drops.

      BTW, my Uncle Fred is buried at Arlington National Cemetery (career military man, worked at the Pentagon), my father served in the Navy during the Korean War, my Step-Father served in the Navy during WWII (Pacific theater, not shoveling shit in Louisiana), and I have several cousins who served in Viet Nam. And my family didn’t “choose” to come to this country. We’ve been here since before this country existed, our ancestors having been brought here as slaves. Some us fought and died for it to be created. Five civilians died in the Boston Massacre…Crispus Attucks was one of them. 20% of the dead that day was African-American.

      Welcome to the USA, you immigrants have done us proud! Thanks for coming and contributing…others have been here a long time and contributed much as well. JFGI. ;-)

      Jul 31, 2010 at 11:32 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.23   Neeners

      Of course we appreciate the service men and women who protect us and lay their lives on the line. The point is -the human condition- soldier or no, women or men, people can’t stay committed very well can they?

      Aug 1, 2010 at 1:18 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.24   Canthz_B bang

      Depends upon the security of the facility! LOL

      Aug 1, 2010 at 1:29 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.25   Conrad

      Well, curiosity killed the cat. I didn’t plan to come back here, but thought I’d swing by just to check it out on my day off. I’m glad to see that my clarification has reduced a lot of the negative comments and hopefully, now that many see the back story behind the picture, it has become much funnier for them.

      To clarify: I do not expect any special recognition or extra sympathy just because I got cheated on while I was deployed. Obviously, it happens everywhere and can happen to anyone. I don’t write this message on every piece of mail that mistakenly gets delivered to my house; I only wrote it because of the message the letter was delivering. I hope you can see the difference between looking for extra sympathy and taking an opportunity to point out something very ironic.

      Additionally, if you look back, I believe I actually defended the “WoW players” by saying that the labels some people give soldiers are just as unfair as the labels many people give them.

      I do not look for and do not ask for special treatment. I do not ask for military discounts. I am embarrassed when someone thanks me for my service; I’m just doing my job and I have no romantic notions about what it entails. Contrary to popular belief, most soldiers feel the same way. I will differ on one point, however. Not all soldiers joined for “easy money, etc.” There is no easy money in the Army. While the salary comparisons between the military and civilian sectors have evened over the past couple of decades when you factor in all the additional benefits (housing, insurance, etc), it doesn’t take into account the hours dedicated. I don’t keep regular hours; in fact, in the past month and a half, as my unit prepares to deploy again, I have worked 14 hours a day and have come in to continue working a few hours a day on the weekends. I have been woken up in the middle of the night to take care of soldier issues on multiple occassions. While deployed, I work 7 days a week for 10-24 hours a day (no, that’s not a typo) for a continuous 12-15 months (with 15 days of mid-tour leave somewhere in the middle). This is all on salary. I don’t get overtime and neither do my soldiers. We calculated our hourly wage once while sitting around bullshitting once but decided that even our conservative estimate was so paltry, we didn’t even want to calculate a more realistic number.

      Lastly, and this might catch me more flak than anything else, but what I am more than anything is honest. As humbly as I can possibly say this, because like I said, I really don’t want any special recognition, but at the same time, I like to keep the record straight: I can/could do just about any job out there; not everyone can do mine. Unlike the stereotypes being thrown out around here, I come from upper-middle class; I went to a private high school; my English teachers wanted me to be a writer; my math teachers wanted me to be an engineer or economist; my science teachers wanted me to become a doctor or physicist. I chose to become a soldier. That’s something that not everyone can do. One half of one percent of the US population has deployed to a combat zone and of those, only 20% are true combat soldiers. In a time when people refuse to go grocery shopping when it’s over 100 degrees and opt to have their cars towed rather than change their own flat tire, my soldiers have the mental fortitude to endure the most austere and uncomfortable conditions, the intellect to juggle ridiculously convoluted rules of engagement written by lawyers and politicians who have never felt a bullet fly past their ear or the concussion of an IED going off next to their vehicle, and the physical toughness to carry huge amounts of weight for hours on end and stay healthy enough to do it for months at a time. This is even more impressive when you consider that half the country can’t do any of these things simply by virtue of being too fat.

      Anyway, I hope the source of your resentment has more to do with the people who shower soldiers with praise and gratitude rather than an experience with soldiers who demand it. Most are like me and want no extra attention and I try to impress that quality on all of my soldiers.

      And Cathanz B, as far as the end of my last post, I can see where it seemed a little confrontational, as if I was threatening violence. I assure you that was not my intent. My only point is that most people would never say many of the things they write here because they lack the fortitude for confrontation of any kind. I should be used to it by now, but it still amazes me how ridiculously ignorant, racist, etc people can be in an anonymous environment. And yes, this is my real name, because I believe in accountability for words and actions. Thank you for the kind words; I really am over it and am grateful for what happened. It was exactly what I needed to see all the other injustices I had been putting up with for so long.

      Like I said before, my only intent in submitting this was to share something ironic and humorous with other people. I thought it was hilarious and just wanted to share it with all of you. I really didn’t think my motives, agenda, innocence, etc. would be picked apart and stretched out of proportion so.

      Aug 1, 2010 at 2:40 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.26   PFJ-WA

      Noooo, Conrad – when I first saw the comment I think you’re talking about, I wondered the same thing. But if you go back up and look at their two comments again, I’m almost sure Canthz B was responding **only** to Bees, not to you. You didn’t say anything to merit such a response.

      ~~~~~~

      For whatever it’s worth, you’ll never have my effusive, gushing praise. (Some need it. For people like you who don’t, it’s patronizing.)

      But you absolutely have my respect. And I’d put down pretty good odds that the vast majority here feel the same.

      Aug 1, 2010 at 3:46 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.27   Canthz_B bang

      Conrad, please don’t put words into my mouth.
      I never said military service = “easy money”.

      What I said is that for many (not all) military service is the only way out of a bad situation.
      Two of my best friends joined the Marines in the early 1980′s, not for love of country, but because they couldn’t find jobs. They served admirably.
      To ignore this reality is not worthy of a man of your intelligence.
      I know you are intelligent, because you’ve mentioned it several times, but just because others have chosen not to do the jobs your soldiers do, doesn’t mean that they are incapable of doing them.
      If anything, the training our military affords is testament to the fact that just about anyone can be trained to do just about anything.
      Actually, I and my neighbors do do just about everything when it’s over 100° F…I live in the Phoenix Metro area. ;-)
      Really, the superiority complex is wearing a bit thin, no?

      If money were not a factor, do you really think the government would use money as an inducement to enlist?

      Thanks for making my point to Bees for me. All too often members of the military have a low opinion of the civilian population. If you wonder why some civilians behave the way they do towards you, try reassessing how you may behave towards them.

      Maybe it never occurred to you that many overweight civilians are ex-military, huh?
      Probably not, because someone of your intelligence would not make such an overgeneralized statement…and someone with your military discipline would know when to stop (and spell my name correctly, part of our rules of engagement around here). ;-)

      Aug 1, 2010 at 4:24 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.28   anglophile bang

      Look, Conrad, a self-submitter never gets off easy around here. I’m sure you weren’t actively looking for hero-worship when you sent in your letter, but I’m quite sure you were looking for appreciative laughter and back-slapping. Now that you’re not getting it, you want to imagine the only reason possible is that we’re all raving anti-military types. We’re not (at least not all of us). We just demand a bit higher level of funny.

      And if you couldn’t guess that ahead of time, you either never have read the comments on this site, or you’re not as intelligent as you profess to be.

      Aug 1, 2010 at 10:11 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #16.29   Chris

      Oh Conrad…I wanted to like you, I really did. But throwing around so many mentions of your miraculous, outstanding intelligence and talents and putting down those not in the military (we generally “lack fortitude” i.e. we’re lazy, stupid, and fat) makes me somewhat less sympathetic to your froth-mouthed defense. Bad stuff happened to you, yes. Bad stuff also happens to those NOT in the military. We all face challenges, but they come in different forms; no one can say that one challenge is harder/makes you a better person than another.

      P.S. Tooting your own horn about your intelligence in order to “win” a fight on the internet (something that never happens) is generally regarded as poor form.

      Aug 1, 2010 at 10:28 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #17   Baubo bang

    Back to the topic people.

    Does anybody else find it peculiar that Erin sent the card first THEN then uncle responded with a card. Does that mean she was an afterthought, “Oh CRAP, we forgot Erin AGAIN. Better send her one.” Maybe the uncle’s paramour was not home when he filled out the card?

    Jul 30, 2010 at 1:51 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

     
  • #18   April

    My father and I kept getting letters addressed to his friend who was violently murdered after his death. He lived with my father at one point. The worst part was these letters were from the government who of all people should be able to keep track of who is and is not dead.

    After sending several letters back marked “Return to Sender HL is deceased” and nothing changing I marked one letter “Stop sending letters here. HL was violently murdered and the police did not do their jobs and find the killer or bring him to justice. Stop rubbing our noses in the fact that he is gone forever and society failed him!”

    Sure enough that was the last letter we ever got for him.

    Jul 30, 2010 at 5:07 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

    • #18.1   mamason bang

      Your father’s friend was violently murdered after his death? 8-O

      Jul 31, 2010 at 11:56 am   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #18.2   PFJ-WA

      I’m going to hell for laughing when I saw mamason’s comment, aren’t I?

      Jul 31, 2010 at 1:25 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #18.3   mamason bang

      I certainly hope not. What would the penalty be for the one who wrote?

      Jul 31, 2010 at 5:53 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #18.4   Canthz_B bang

      Murder in the afterlife…film at eleven…

      The soul of the Afterlife Killer received a Life sentence today before a stunned courtroom. Critics warn the sentence may encourage other would-be “return to Earthly existence” rebels…

      Aug 1, 2010 at 1:33 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #19   Kou

    So despite being a part of Uncle’s household for 13 years, Linda can’t be arsed to participate in family events (niece’s wedding) or even sign cards. What exactly does she expect?

    Jul 30, 2010 at 8:38 pm   rating: 17  small thumbs up

     
  • #20   whatthe?

    Everyone, this site is meant to be a joke. Stop taking it so seriously. This site needs thumbs down as well.

    Jul 31, 2010 at 1:57 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #20.1   Canthz_B bang

      Sometimes.

      Even comedians have serious thoughts now and again.

      Though I really hate the support-group types, we here sometimes get serious on some issues…and I’ve learned a great deal here on serious issues over the past few years.
      You might also if….well, never mind. :-P

      Jul 31, 2010 at 3:23 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #21   gladystopia

    Good lord, the SERIOUS!

    Well, fine, then. I’ll play.

    In 2003 I bought a house, after cleaning up the damage my ex-husband had done to my credit. He was a liar and a cheater and a general all-around crapfest, and so I was exceptionally proud of everything I’d accomplished in his absence. I was ESPECIALLY especially happy that he didn’t know where I was, as before we were married, he’d had an unfortunate habit of showing back up in my life just as soon as I’d get over the latest dirt his lying, cheating ass had done me.

    In early 2004, I opened the mail one day and found a course catalog from a college the ex had attended briefly while we were dating. Except it had MY address–my CAREFULLY GUARDED address–but the lying cheater’s name.

    I flipped my shit completely. I called the college and demanded to speak to their mailing coordinator, and told her the whole bit about “if this man has somehow found out my address, I will make sure my lawyer blah blah blah blah blah…” (In my defense, I really was scared; try as I might, I couldn’t figure out for all the world how he might have managed to pull this off, nor what it might signify.) The mailing person was apologetic, and a few weeks later I got a letter (addressed to me this time!), explaining that they’d purchased addresses from an outside group and someone had failed to verify blah, blah blah. Which explained exactly nothing, but by then I’d had a few strong drinks and regained a bit of perspective, and my freakout had quieted to a dull roar.

    In 2007, as I refinanced the house, I happened to look at one of those pages in the loan paperwork, the one where they talk about property taxes, and I discovered something. The guy who had owned the house two people before me? Had the SAME NAME as my lying, cheating ex. Same first name, same middle initial, same last name. (It was a reasonably common name–not quite “John Smith”, but neither was it “Farquhar L. Ravenswing-Adamantine”, either.)

    The moral of this story: don’t marry lying cheating bastards. Also, mail is evil.

    Jul 31, 2010 at 2:27 am   rating: 17  small thumbs up

    • #21.1   Canthz_B bang

      Farquhar L. Ravenswing-Adamantine is my deadbeat dad…any info you may have on his whereabouts would be greatly appreciated…unless this is just a coincidence…

      Jul 31, 2010 at 2:47 am   rating: 10  small thumbs up

       
    • #21.2   mamason bang

      It seems to me that you knew he was a dirty bird before you married him. I think the actual moral of the story should be:

      “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.” Maya Angelou

      Jul 31, 2010 at 12:01 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #21.3   infant tyrone bang

      For Ma-meson
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xd82HxYyHZg

      For CB
      In Greek Mythology, the Titan Cronus castrated
      his father Uranus using an adamant sickle.

      An adamantine sickle or sword was also used by the hero Perseus
      to decapitate the Gorgon Medusa. (How centuries morphed this into Marilyn’s Diamonds Are a Girl’s Best Friend is an open question.)

      Jul 31, 2010 at 7:36 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #21.4   mamason bang

      Perfect illustration, IT.

      Jul 31, 2010 at 7:45 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #22   Lee

    Well, since everyone else is chiming in with an opinion:

    the bride who was torqued about her uncle’s gf RSVPing and then not showing needs to review her bridal etiquette. A wedding is not a contest, a beauty pageant, nor an opportunity to keep careful score of attendance/gift-giving. Maybe something came up at the last moment for that woman, who knows? Did the bride bother to ASK? In any case she should have just let it go. BTW, gifts are never mandatory at weddings. The common belief these days seems to be that the bride and/or couple are owed a great deal. Revisit your Emily Post, bridezillas.

    Jul 31, 2010 at 9:12 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #22.1   twiggy

      I don’t think Erin was upset that she didn’t get a gift. As a matter of fact, there is no mention of wedding or Christmas gifts at all. Erin was upset that she had to pay for a meal for a person who said they would be there and then didn’t show up. At my wedding there were 25 no shows at almost 30 bucks a plate. Over $700 in wasted food costs, and we didn’t even get to take home the extra food :(
      Also, I haven’t read my Emily Post lately, but I believe that if you RSVP and you are expected at an event, be it a dinner party, a wedding, or even a birthday party, it is common courtesy to inform the host if you will not be able to attend.

      Aug 1, 2010 at 4:52 am   rating: 17  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #23   Toya

    The receiverof the 1st note should write back to the sender a note saying “Sorry. Didn’t know you were still around. The only people that seem to acknowledge my existence are Uncle Jim and cousin Terry so what was I suppose to think?”

    And it would have been more concise if the 2nd responder simply wrote “The cheating bitch doesn’t live here anymore. Return to sender.” But that would still be pretty passive-aggressive.

    Jul 31, 2010 at 10:19 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

     
  • #24   Neeners

    Bitch slap to Linda for not staying in touch well enough in 13 years to let Erin know she is still in the picture. There’s this thing called the phone….

    or maybe Erin could ask her uncle….

    just a thought?

    Aug 1, 2010 at 1:20 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

    • #24.1   PFJ-WA

      True – but that would have lost the whole point. He was doing it to snipe at Señor Congresscritter, “Sure, yeah, we really appreciate the support you guys are thinking about giving families to at least minimize how many are destroyed by your decisions! Too bad it’ll be too #$*@ing late for us specifically, but yeah! Great job!”

      Aug 1, 2010 at 7:13 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #25   Zarggg

    That first one warrants a “oh, I thought you broke up because you didn’t attend my wedding with him” counter-passive-aggressive note.

    If someone’s negligence costs you money, all bets are off.

    Aug 2, 2010 at 5:17 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #26   Quick - Xchange Links

    Why Location-Based Social Media Needs to Get “Passive” Aggressive – Mashable!…

    I found your entry interesting thus I’ve added a Trackback to it on my weblog :)…

    Aug 17, 2010 at 6:24 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     

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