No more dipping into the day care baby dippers

August 4th, 2010 · 113 comments

“Typically, the people at my son’s day care just tell me when he’s running low on diapers or they write a note on his daily progress report,” says Lindsey in Peoria, Illinois. “Last time I forgot, and he had to use a few of theirs. I guess this was his teacher’s passive-aggressive [Ed. note: AND TOTALLY CREEPY] way of ensuring that I’d remember this time.”

(It worked.)

NEED MORE

related: Is your babysitter trying to get in your kid’s pants?

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113 responses so far ↓

  • #1   Chelle

    This isn’t creepy, it’s smart. They were shaming you for being lazy. No other parent should have to pay to diaper your kids

    Aug 4, 2010 at 10:54 pm   rating: 73  small thumbs up

    • #1.1   Jonathan

      You’re so bitter and indignant. Maybe more toddler penis in your life would improve your disposition.

      Aug 4, 2010 at 10:58 pm   rating: 28  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.2   Grunties

      Shaming? To punish an adult?

      I would rather they said up front “We are going to have to ask you to bring diapers to replace the ones you used in addition to your diapers.” Everyone has something they can’t remember even after being reminded. Other parents shouldn’t have to pay for it, true.

      Calling the submitter lazy just shows a bitterness I can’t fathom.

      Aug 4, 2010 at 11:00 pm   rating: 85  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.3   Rillion

      Agree. It’s not remotely creepy. If anything, posting a photo on the internet of your kid’s diapered crotch is what’s creepy.

      Aug 4, 2010 at 11:00 pm   rating: 63  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.4   Wench bang

      Aw c’mon you gotta hand it to the daycare to leave a note that wouldnt get ‘lost’ or that the parents couldnt possibly fail to read at some stage. Team Daycare!!

      Aug 5, 2010 at 1:20 am   rating: 60  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.5   shesajem

      Agreed Chelle – diapers are expensive!!

      Aug 5, 2010 at 1:45 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.6   knitchick bang

      I don’t carry cash any more, just little bits of paper in my wallet that say “need more”. Jesus, I think maybe the fact that it’s a different diaper (most likely) is kind of a hint.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 5:44 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.7   FeRD bang

      I suspect that’s giving busy and (apparently) forgetful parents a bit too much credit for on-the-ball observational skills, knitchick. :)

      Aug 5, 2010 at 5:54 am   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.8   Lindsey

      I wasn’t expecting other parents to pay for my son’s diapers and I was not too poor to afford them. I simply left them at home and he had to use some from the general supply at the day care. I did give them extra diapers, more than he had used the previous day, to replenish their extras pile. I was just forgetful. I didn’t forget again though. :)

      Aug 5, 2010 at 1:11 pm   rating: 45  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.9   Meg

      @Grunties I’m sure the parent had been told/reminded/left a note, etc etc about diapers. I know it takes the parents at my daycare a good 3 times to remember pretty important stuff like lunches, diapers and sunscreen.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 9:03 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.10   Joy

      Obviously you aren’t a parent. It is so incredibly easy to forget things when you have a million and one things to remember. Diapers are certainly one of them and not a way for the parent to be cheap.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 2:04 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.11   Canthz_B bang

      Of all the things I forgot while my children were small, their needs are not among them. That’s called “parenting”.
      I forgot letters I was supposed to mail, I forgot to stop at the store, I even forgot my wife’s birthday!…but when taking my children out, I never once forgot to provide for their needs.
      You’re taking the baby out, you take the diaper bag with diapers, wipes, any ointments or powders you use, a bottle, rattle(s), pacifier(s), etc. Rocket science it’s not.
      It should become second nature, like putting on your clothes. Ever forget to do that?
      Just think of your child’s bag as her/his handbag, how often do you leave yours home, “Mom”?

      To suggest that that’s OK (not putting your child’s needs at the very top of your to-do list) is to excuse poor priority setting…and even worse parenting and coping skills.
      We’ve had several “forgetful” parents in my area this summer. Also several children left to die inside of cars in over 100° weather.
      Just mistakes though, because they had something more important on their minds and “forgot” to take the baby out of the car.

      Just my opinion, since you all seem to have one!

      Aug 6, 2010 at 2:42 am   rating: 26  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.12   H for Toy

      Not to disagree with you, CB, because I don’t, but I actually did walk out of the house with no shirt on earlier this week. I didn’t get farther than 3 steps out the door, but sometimes I do get that frazzled. :)

      Aug 6, 2010 at 8:14 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.13   Noelegy

      Canthz_B, that’s kind of a soapbox issue for me. EVERY SINGLE SUMMER, you read about kids being “forgotten” in hot cars or kids who just slipped away for a moment and drown in unprotected pools. No, I’m not a parent, but I have helped care for small children, and having lived in Texas all my life, I know that you don’t leave so much as a pint of ice cream in a hot car. But yet somehow, despite all the media attention, it still keeps happening. I don’t get it.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 8:33 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.14   sara56

      This exact same happened to me once. I had a great laugh. I bought the diapers, took them to the sitter and apologised profusely for them having to write the note.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 9:12 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #2   FeRD bang

    Funny… I still write the same thing on the front of all my underwear. Sadly, “resource allocations” in that area remain unchanged.

    Aug 4, 2010 at 10:58 pm   rating: 127  small thumbs up

    • #2.1   Mo® bang

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      Aug 5, 2010 at 10:47 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #2.2   FeRD bang

      I’m rather shocked, myself, at the legs it’s shown. I didn’t even know the thumbs went to 100! I promise you all that I shall try not to let them go to my head — or sit around with them up my arse. :)

      Aug 18, 2010 at 12:37 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #3   Anne

    Wow could you be anymore self righteous Chelle? Have you never forgotten anything?

    I don’t think she’s suggesting other parents ‘should have to pay to diaper (their) kids.’ She is simply commenting on the delivery of the message, which quite frankly is weird.

    Aug 4, 2010 at 10:59 pm   rating: 53  small thumbs up

    • #3.1   MAMARILLA2 bang

      Wierder still would be the request for more diapers written across the body of the child in sharpie marker…with a smily face next to the Thx.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 1:46 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.2   Woman on the Verge bang

      Is that a smiley face? I thought it was graffiti of an undiapered penis… y’know, as a threat that he’d be going commando if he didn’t bring his own dipes.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 7:24 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.3   Mo® bang

      I prefer to carve it in with a bowie knife.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 10:50 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #4   Kiki

    Totally inappropriate to use a child to get a message to a parent in any situation. What was done is bizarre. This is totally creepy and I think a new sitter should be on your to-do list.

    Aug 4, 2010 at 11:02 pm   rating: 35  small thumbs up

    • #4.1   Time Cop

      When I worked in elementary school we would safety pin notes to Kindergartners’ shirts to be sure the note got to the parent and not lost in a backpack. I am pretty sure that counts as “using a child to get a message to a parent.” However, that was the only way to be sure some parents would actually get important information. The child was never harmed and the notes were received. This is a very similar situation.

      I’d much rather get a quick note on the diaper, that the daycare worker took 15 seconds to write, and I would be sure to see and remember, than they spend 5 minutes trying to find all the materials needed to write a formal letter that I may or may not find in my child’s bag. That is another 4 minutes and 45 seconds they can spend taking care of my child.

      Team Daycare!

      Aug 5, 2010 at 8:19 am   rating: 28  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.2   Canthz_B bang

      When I’d been bad in kindergarten and the teacher pinned a note to my sleeve on the same day, it always (somehow, someway) found its way into a sewer opening.
      Far be it from me to be the bearer of bad news.

      Kids today have so much to learn! :-P

      Aug 5, 2010 at 8:55 am   rating: 19  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.3   Z

      Woooooah calm down.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 4:49 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.4   Canthz_B bang

      Whoa.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 7:22 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.5   Nic

      Canthz – Your parents didn’t pick you up from kindergarten? Who lets their four-year-old walk home alone??? The note you stuffed down the sewer was probably about stranger danger.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 12:11 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.6   Canthz_B bang

      Nic, it was 1966/67. Times were a bit different. There were no after school programs to babysit for us, and we weren’t treated like babies. The school had the afternoon kindergarten to deal with. None of us walked alone, we walked with other kids going the same way we were (about 100 of us got out at noon, not many perverts want that many witnesses). Call it “socialization”, as we formed friendships that sometimes lasted through high school.
      We didn’t need stupid rhymes like “stranger danger” to remember not to talk to strangers back then (we learned the mantra “The policeman is your friend”, there were crossing guards, and where there were none we knew how to look both ways..DUH!)…it wasn’t very far, I was five years-old most of the school year, and believe it or not, back then we actually knew our neighbors by name and they’d make sure your kid got down the street and safely into the house (usually the same old battle-axes who told your mom you’d done something wrong or said a bad word while outside playing…Fuck You, Mrs. Perkins!, Fuck You, Mrs. Sims!, Fuck You, Mrs. Robinson–that wasn’t me on the roof of your garage, Mrs. Robinson, but thanks for the spanking you caused me, Bitch!!!!!, and a special FUCK YOU for Mrs. Milligan…where’s my frisbee, mother fucker?! Now, run tell that!! ).
      The trick was to stash the note after you’d gotten out of sight of the school, but before you turned down your home street! For me that meant somewhere along the top of Grove Place, or on New Street. Thank you.
      Call me “CB”, since calling me 2/3 of a question just sounds silly.

      PS, I didn’t have “parents”, Nic. I had a Mom (divorced). She had a job (retired for nearly 20 years now with a great pension) where she “picked up” money to buy food to feed us and clothing for us to wear, but no car (because she didn’t drive) or free time to pick us up from school. Not a problem, since we didn’t start school before we learned to walk.
      We also had fewer kids with weight problems. Coincidence?
      Good luck raising yet another generation of dependent, self-important wimps. :-)

      Aug 6, 2010 at 1:03 am   rating: 23  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.7   anglophile bang

      I walked a mile and a half to kindergarten. I was supposed to use the buddy system and go with Stevie Bierman down the street, but he kept stopping to look at worms and caterpillars. My kindergarten teacher sent home a note that I was consistently late (I was a good girl and kept it pinned to my shirt), and so my mom dealt with the situation. She told me to leave Stevie behind and stop dawdling.

      Strangely, I’m still alive and was never once abducted or even offered candy.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 5:57 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.8   Canthz_B bang

      Candy is over-rated, ‘Glo. Now, a chance to see a puppy…God how I wanted that!!
      Unfortunately, I only had to walk a few blocks.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 8:43 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.9   Mo® bang

      I too walked to school and home. Being on the edge of the city the only real danger we faced then was in spring when the rattlesnakes were out sunning themselves on the pavement in the morning. But that was a rare thing. Normally we had to go tramping about on the edge of the cottonfield to find them. :razz: The stupid or slow kids were the ones that got hurt. It was natural selection. Reading the papers I can see that the current herd didn’t get thinned out properly.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 8:53 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #5   FeRD bang

    I think Mom should embrace the awkward creepiness of the situation, and treat this as the first salvo in what could easily develop into a hilariously inappropriate note-war.

    Send the little tyke back tomorrow emblazoned with a message like, “WAIT FOR PUBERTY” — From then on, the diaper-slogan tête-à-tête will probably take on a twisted, twisted life of its own.

    Aug 4, 2010 at 11:11 pm   rating: 44  small thumbs up

    • #5.1   JetJackson

      Or “Last night we fed him beans and Vindaloo… have fun!”

      Aug 4, 2010 at 11:25 pm   rating: 58  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.2   Guy

      Or some stationery with poop smears on it. “I thought you might be out of this stuff. Sorry about the stains.”

      Aug 4, 2010 at 11:27 pm   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #6   Jon White

    “Need more.” Words to prepare him for adult life.

    Aug 4, 2010 at 11:26 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

     
  • #7   Canthz_B bang

    This is how it all starts.
    By the time he’s 28 years-old he’ll be a walking billboard for a flesh parlor in the red light district of town.

    Aug 4, 2010 at 11:30 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

    • #7.1   Woman on the Verge bang

      Why am I imagining this image attached to email spam for viagra?

      Aug 5, 2010 at 7:27 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.2   Canthz_B bang

      Or Extenze?

      Aug 5, 2010 at 8:23 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #8   Punkypower

    Daycares do this more often than you think. I’ve only seen it done for parents who seem to miss the notes that are sent home though. They never miss diaper notes. I don’t see what’s PA about it though. You need to send more diapers to school and they told you. The end.

    Aug 4, 2010 at 11:42 pm   rating: 34  small thumbs up

    • #8.1   Maas

      The initial exposition suggests that the parent usually does respond to the spoken diaper status updates, or notes on the daily reports. If that claim is false, then one would expect this parent to be less surprised by this sort of thing, as it would be nothing new. As it is, it appears to be a passive aggressive escalation against an imagined slight, where a quick face to face reminder would be as effective and more civil.
      I recommend that the parent stir the pot by bringing in enough diapers to last the child through its remaining infancy.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 9:58 am   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.2   Z

      You assume she will see this parent and remember to tell her. I have been to the day care….it’s insane.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 4:52 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.3   Meg

      I don’t know how many times a day I have to say the same thing to a parent….it’s constant. They think all we do is play with kids all day. They are at work (or more likely taking the day off/going to the gym/shopping/tanning/etc) and can’t be bothered to pick them up with they are running a fever and throwing up, or be sure they have shoes so they can play outside…I’m super tired of holding parent’s hands when it comes to their kids. I am not there to raise them.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 9:08 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #9   A. R.

    I do this at the day care, sometimes I forget to tell the parents that they need diapers but if it’s written on the diaper, I know the parents will see it. I write it on before the diaper is placed on the child. I don’t see why it’s creepy; to me it’s smart and effective, diapers are brought in the next day.

    Aug 4, 2010 at 11:44 pm   rating: 48  small thumbs up

    • #9.1   Noelegy

      That was my first thought: who’s to say this was written on the diaper after the diaper was placed on the child? It may be that the note was penned in what would be a visible and hard-to-miss place, and THEN put on the kid.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 8:35 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #10   Kay

    The daycare policy sucks. They should just charge (at a premium) for use of their supplies. This method of communication is just — dare I say it — yes, I will — childish.

    Aug 4, 2010 at 11:48 pm   rating: 15  small thumbs up

     
  • #11   holly

    this is pretty funny….however i dont think it’s passive aressive. i work at a daycare. I understand parents are busy and foretful–it’s okay, but we do this sometimes, just as some people write themselves sticky notes or tie a string on the finger. it wasn’t a hostile note, just a reminder out of the norm, to make it a bit easier to remember.
    …..however…it’d be funny if you wrote “not unless you say please” on the morning diaper–as we are contantly trying to instill manners in our daycare kids. haha

    Aug 4, 2010 at 11:51 pm   rating: 20  small thumbs up

    • #11.1   Natalie

      I think they should write “what’s the magic word?”

      Do people still use that one?

      Aug 5, 2010 at 8:17 am   rating: 12  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #12   ClearlyDemented

    Now, let’s address the real issue here: If this mother was staying home and raising her kid herself, like the Good Book says, she wouldn’t be havin’ her no kinda diaper problems. ;)

    Aug 5, 2010 at 12:08 am   rating: 21  small thumbs up

    • #12.1   knitchick bang

      I mean, of course momma wouldn’t have to worry about diapers at home. Hell, she has to mop eventually.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 5:47 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #13   jessi

    so maybe this daycare’s attendance is waning and they need more kids… what a perfect way to suggest to your current clientele that they need to get busy in order to keep the daycare in business! :-)
    were it my child, i’d definitely start a note war as previously mentioned. tomorrow’s diaper “we’ll clone him, then you can have more”

    p.s. hi neighbor, from Galesburg :-)

    Aug 5, 2010 at 12:08 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

     
  • #14   Canthz_B bang

    Kids are very perceptive. He’ll probably always wonder now if he’s well enough endowed, but the real damage was done by the “Go Packers!” written on the back.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 12:35 am   rating: 10  small thumbs up

     
  • #15   significant

    Are we sure the caretaker isn’t suggesting the kid needs more pubic hair? I’m assuming the scribble doodle below “needs more” is an “after shot” of pube potential.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 12:42 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

     
  • #16   YDI

    I was a preschool teacher, and we did this to parents that were repeat offenders and/or didn’t read their child’s daily progress report. There’s nothing hostile about it. Parents get busy, and the teacher just wants to be sure that the kid has clean diapers. It’s not the school’s responsibility to diaper your children, and the classroom supply of emergency diapers is limited. We’d rather spend that money on the food, toys, books, cleaning supplies, etc. that we use to take care of your child every day.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 1:36 am   rating: 16  small thumbs up

     
  • #17   Alice

    The note is fine; what’s creepy is the little doodle underneath. WTF?

    Aug 5, 2010 at 3:15 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

     
  • #18   Kou

    They couldn’t think of anything less vague or disturbing to write on a small child’s crotch than “NEED MORE?”

    Aug 5, 2010 at 4:25 am   rating: 10  small thumbs up

    • #18.1   ctc

      Erhm… taking a photo of it and posting on the internet?

      Aug 5, 2010 at 9:32 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #19   Jamie

    I’ve seen centres where when they get the lot of parent’s diapers in, they write this on the bottom few. Since they only have 2-3 out at a time, this way they know when what they have on-hand is all they actually have.

    Not passive agressive, not creepy, just people reading too much into people doing their job who probably have to handle 20 kids and their Stuff on a daily basis

    Aug 5, 2010 at 5:33 am   rating: 16  small thumbs up

    • #19.1   FeRD bang

      And, apparently, day-care workers too stupid to realize they could achieve the same effect, without the MORBID creepiness, simply by making a small, discreet mark in a certain color ink (say, purple, or orange, or frickin’ chartreuse!) somewhere OTHER THAN directly over the wee one’s crotchal area?

      Or, hell, it doesn’t even have to be a small, discreet mark. Dye the whole damn diaper puce, FFS — anything’s preferable to defacing the crotch with a giant slogan, trucker-hat style!

      Aug 5, 2010 at 5:38 am   rating: 16  small thumbs up

       
    • #19.2   Z

      That’s right. When mom has her hands full of shit she is checking the diaper all over for a small discreet mark to tell her to get more. And if that is a slogan to you, then you must be the guy that designs his own small business fliers, because those damn graphic artists were tryin to rip you off! anyone can draw up some purdy pictures on that there Macintosh and print em out!

      Aug 5, 2010 at 4:58 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #19.3   Meg

      oh thank you! And parents wonder when I ask them to please stop bringing toys everyday….I can’t keep track of 20 happy meal toys/balls/tiny cars/etc everyday. I especially love the mother who said “well how am I supposed to get him in the car?”. I don’t know woman, pick his ass up and put him in the car? You’re 30..he’s 3.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 9:10 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

       
    • #19.4   Noelegy

      Z, you just made me think of something an instructor said to me in a computer graphics class years ago. He said that when desktop publishing software first became widely available, at first graphic designers were worried that their profession would become obsolete. Soon they realized that they were wrong because of one basic truth: you can’t box up talent and buy it. All the nifty whiz-bang tools in the world won’t give you a sense of composition, aesthetics, and design.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 8:39 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #19.5   FeRD bang

      Er, Z, I was actually suggesting that the day-care workers use some discreet mark as a signal to themselves that it’s time to let the parents know about the supply issue, using a more traditional written-note approach.

      Said note can be written in fire in letters thirty feet high on the far side of the Quentulus Quazgar Mountains in the land of Sevorbeupstry on the planet of Preliumtarn, which orbits the star Zarss, which is located in the Grey Binding Fiefdoms of Saxaquine — if they really feel that’s necessary. Plenty of options. But IMHO (the “H” stands for Horrified, in this case), the only writing found on a diaper should be the wearer’s own original sphincter-paintings!

      Aug 18, 2010 at 12:51 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #20   AgentC

    When I take my son to day care, I double check his diaper bag to make sure that he has diapers, wipes, extra change of clothes every single time. From what it seems, mom there had been reminded while he was low on diapers [and just forgot, bc why else would he be using a few of their diapers already?!]…so I’m on team day care for this one!

    Aug 5, 2010 at 6:06 am   rating: 18  small thumbs up

    • #20.1   HappyNat

      You check all his supplies every single day?!?! Are you OCD or anal? I’m lucky if I check to see if his socks match. I did check his socks this morning but got to work and noticed I’m wearing one blue sock and one black one.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 10:02 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

       
    • #20.2   AgentC

      Maybe a bit of both :p
      But really, I always make sure he has what he needs.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 9:41 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #21   blue-eyes

    I was a daycare director, and we used to do this when we asked the parent OVER AND OVER again for diapers. Why should the other parents have to chip in because she couldn’t take 5 minutes to go to the store and grab a pack for her own kid? It’s not creepy…at least she won’t forget next time!

    Aug 5, 2010 at 6:21 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

     
  • #22   dcww

    I think this is hilarious!

    Also, don’t get the inappropriate comments. The daycare workers are looking after your child are entrusted with cleaning all sorts of fluids off your kid’s bodies. They’re just sending a relevant note home, on a relevant document. It’s brilliant. You really think the kid gives a shit?

    Aug 5, 2010 at 7:03 am   rating: 22  small thumbs up

    • #22.1   Woman on the Verge bang

      If he does give a shit, he will have no diaper to catch it.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 7:27 am   rating: 24  small thumbs up

       
    • #22.2   Mo® bang

      I hope you have enough for everybody…

      Aug 5, 2010 at 1:40 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #23   Amyhix

    I think the note is perfectly fine. Why is it inappropriate? The kid doesn’t know its there. I worked at a daycare for a long time, and we only did this when we had REPEATEDLY asked a parent for dipers, and they never got around to seeing the HUGE, increasingly aggressive notes we wrote on daily sheets. Here’s a note we KNEW they would see and couldn’t deny!

    Aug 5, 2010 at 7:44 am   rating: 9  small thumbs up

     
  • #24   Angela

    My kids once in a while would have a note like that and believe it or not, we appreciated that note. We figured the daycare knew we were busy, distracted working parents and we would see the note when we were reaching for more diapers, making it a good time to set some aside for daycare. Nothing passive-aggressive or creepy about it, try realistic.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 8:06 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

    • #24.1   maggie

      totally agree – it’s makes a funny pa, but in real life, it’s actually pretty thoughtful.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 6:23 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #24.2   Sanity

      The really disturbing thing were the kids who came back to our center in the same diaper they left in the previous day.

      Aug 10, 2010 at 10:45 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #25   Shannon

    Maybe it’s time to potty train.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 8:11 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

    • #25.1   GhostWriter bang

      Yeah, right- the kid looks like he’s about four years old!

      Aug 5, 2010 at 9:35 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #25.2   Lindsey

      LOL he was 2 and a few months when this was taken. And he is starting to potty train. ;)

      Aug 5, 2010 at 1:06 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #26   Sandra

    I have had this happen to me and i took off the boy’s pants and saw the note. I dont think i ever laughed so hard at a diaper change. I never thought of writing one back to her! lol
    I will have to do that next time!

    Aug 5, 2010 at 8:34 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

    • #26.1   GhostWriter bang

      I wonder if your maniacal laughter scarred your child- did he grow up to be one of those circus clowns who drop their pants for a laugh?

      Aug 5, 2010 at 9:38 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #26.2   Canthz_B bang

      A sad clown = a blue moon.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 1:24 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #27   Canthz_B bang

    Pampers® could take a lesson from this. Just like in your box of bank checks there’s a reminder when to reorder, there should be a diaper near the bottom of the pack which reads “NEED MORE”.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 8:47 am   rating: 18  small thumbs up

     
  • #28   Canthz_B bang

    This message gets across with as much subtlety as fingering “wash me” into the dirt on an automobile.

    Definitely PA.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 9:03 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

     
  • #29   GhostWriter bang

    Why is there a vibe going on here that somehow the other parents would have to pick up the slack if one parent forgets to buy diapers? The place is a day-care; do they not have any spare supplies just in case a parent forgets? If not, then this is a pretty shoestring-run daycare. I wouldn’t count on them having ipecac, or sanitizing soap, or sunscreen, or even bandages. “Yes, your little Jacob does seem a little flushed and sleepy today- apparently you brought him in this morning with a bit of jam still on his hands, and I guess he got himself into an anthill while he was roaming around the yard. You might want to get those bites around his eyelids checked out.
    Work it like a car rental place, dudes; “Ma’am, you returned your toddler without filling the diaper bag, so we’ve charged you our customer rate of $7.99 per diaper.” How hard is that? The guys at Avis don’t brand my neck with a “Doesn’t Fill Up” tattoo when I turn in their G6 dry, they simply laugh all the way to the bank.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 9:55 am   rating: 15  small thumbs up

    • #29.1   teamdaycare

      GhostWriter, Ipecac is no longer recommended for first aid as it usually cause more harm than good. As far as sunscreen, that is something parents MUST provide as many children are allergic to different brands of lotions. Soap and latex-free bandages of course must be provided by the center. However, I do get your point. They should have backup diapers purchased by the center in case someone forgets them, it’s just common sense.

      I also agree that the daycare should start adding it to parents’ bill when they forget diapers and have to use the center’s diapers.

      Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with this note, but it would not be my preferred method, more like a last resort.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 11:29 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #29.2   GhostWriter bang

      Peoria, IL: Five daycare workers and two parents are in jail today as a result of a police raid at the Happy Baby Daycare Center. The charges include terrorism, possession of toxic materials, corruption of a minor and child pornography. According to police affidavits, daycare workers and parents were allegedly passing notes back and forth, written on toddlers’ diapers, and were also taking pictures of the children in various states of undress. The notes seemed to suggest that the parents were to provide more supplies to the daycare, possibly in the form of the vile toxic substances found in the toddler’s diapers.

      Acting solely upon an anonymous tip from a person known as “Ghostwriter”, police stormed the daycare and placed the workers and parents in custody. In addition, the daycare itself has been shut down, due to lack of any sort of emergency supplies, including Ipecac, sunscreen, sanitizing wash, and bandages (which are all still on the books in Peoria as daycare necessities, along with Dr. Spock’s Baby Book, and cod liver oil.)

      Aug 5, 2010 at 12:08 pm   rating: 13  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #30   Lindsey

    To those who think I was stealing from the day care, I wasn’t. I gave them the same amount of diapers that he used that day back, plus a few more for good measure. I did feel bad about it and now we laugh about it.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 9:56 am   rating: 13  small thumbs up

    • #30.1   mamason bang

      Lindsey,

      I just want to ease your mind in case you’re not all that familiar with this site. You and the daycare are both in for a hard time and some of us will try to be as vile as possible, but it’s all good clean fun. Well, a lot of the “fun” won’t be good or clean, but please don’t be offended.

      I hope you enjoy the ride! :-)

      Aug 5, 2010 at 1:11 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #30.2   Woman on the Verge bang

      I’m with mama. Oh, on what she said and in every other way possible :twisted: . Anyway, we will be vile. Don’t take it personally.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 2:02 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #30.3   Lindsey

      good to know! thanks for letting me know. :)

      Aug 5, 2010 at 2:36 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #31   maesie

    i worked in a very nice daycare for years, and we would often write “need more diapers” on the child before sending them home.. especially if the family had forgotten and we were using our “extra” supply. sometimes parents forget to pick up the childs info slip at the end of the day. problem solved with diaper notes!
    the parents never freaked out about it – it was a good reminder to them and they appreciated us using a creative method to get the point across. we also sometimes drew pictures on the kids diapers (you might notice that the kid in the picture scribbled on the diaper too).

    (to put an end to the other argument – it’s no big deal to use the “extra” supply – we just took however many diapers the kid used and put them back in the emergency supply box)

    Aug 5, 2010 at 11:42 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

     
  • #32   knitchick

    I’m dying to know what daycares you all have been to that charge the OTHER parents for your forgetfullness? What kind of bullcrap is that?

    Aug 5, 2010 at 12:10 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

     
  • #33   infant tyrone bang

    This is clearly not your average kid.
    Checking the registration records of Peoria daycare facilities would definitely turn up the name of one enrollee named John Holmes III.

    Grandkids of legends just seem to find out early…

    Aug 5, 2010 at 12:11 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #34   missfancypants

    why cant the daycare just charge a diaper fee and provide diapers as needed? if the parent wants a specific brand, they can bring in their own.

    i get that this method is effective, but it still seems kinda weird. cant they include a diaper reminder on the monthly/weekly bill for care?

    Aug 5, 2010 at 12:27 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

    • #34.1   Sarah B

      Brands ARE an issue for most families, as well as size. I believe diapers come in 4 sizes.

      Aug 5, 2010 at 5:18 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #34.2   mamason bang

      6

      Aug 5, 2010 at 6:11 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #35   Matt

    Peoria!? Such passive-aggressiveness so close to home. It’s heart warming.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 12:40 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

    • #35.1   Lindsey

      You <3 peoria too?

      Aug 5, 2010 at 1:08 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #36   Flip-Flappin'

    I’ve seen this done before, and don’t really have a problem with it as a creepy or PA thing, and as a very visual person, it would help me remember better than a verbal reminder.

    But where I think it falls down is if it takes the place of a verbal reminder at the end of the day, when parents could then stop off and pick up a new pack on their way home. With a “note in the pants,” they could easily not see it for hours, and then find it’s too late to go out and get more dipes. And it’s the butler’s night off.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 1:17 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #37   claw71 bang

    I wonder, Lindsey from Peoria, if this is an overzealous day care worker or if you’re just an inconsiderate twit who consistently forgets to pack an appropriate supply of diapers. You did mention that they “normally” address this directly or jot a note on the progress report so I’m inclined to think that this is a recurring problem.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 1:23 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

     
  • #38   Tim Peterson

    They probably wrote this on the last diaper in your stack when you brought them in. Sometimes the passive aggressive part is the submission to this site.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 3:45 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

     
  • #39   claw71 bang

    Of course there are other questions that need to be answered:

    Why is this very young (I can tell by the soft fleshy thighs) baby in day care? Is Lindsey a single mother?

    If so, Lindsey, have you lost the pregger pounds? I bet you have. I bet you like to stay in shape–you’re in a hurry to get to the gym before work and that’s why you always forget to stock up on diapers —and thanks to the miracle of lactation, your breasts have never looked better. I bet you’re hot, and thanks to your baby, you just don’t seem to get the play you’re used to–the play that got you in this mess. Guys hit on you but the minute they find out you’re a momma, they move along. No sausage for you. You so horny but nobody will hit it.

    I don’t mind a shrieking baby in the other room. I don’t mind a leaky mammory gland every now and then. I’ll hit it. Hard. Oh yes, Lindsey, I could take you back to those good times before you entrusted the next 18 years of your life to a bathroom vending machine condom and some guy named Kenyon with his douchey, Friday-night faux hawk and his ridiculous popped collar.

    Call me, Lindsey. I can be in Peoria in 7 hours.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 5:05 pm   rating: 12  small thumbs up

     
  • #40   claw71 bang

    I wonder how many trackback hits will be generated once the Catholic Church gets wind of this post.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 5:14 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

     
  • #41   Megnacarta

    I’m a preschool teacher and as PA as it may be I too am guilty of doing this a time or two. Sometimes a teacher has to do this. I just hope the mother was a repeat offender before this happened. A first time offense does not warrant a note like this.

    Aug 5, 2010 at 7:21 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
  • #42   Meg

    There is nothing more annoying than a parent that can’t be bothered to bring in diapers for their child. A daycare usually has a couple of extras around, but if they have run out (because a parent don’t bring in more for days on end) we have to start using other peoples. I don’t think parents really understand how hard daycare is. It’s not all fun and games. And getting a large group of entitled parents to follow rules/directions is a big pain in the ass. I have more problems with parents than I do with children!!!

    Aug 5, 2010 at 9:01 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

     
  • #43   Corin

    So… (apart from a few people,) How many of you have worked in a daycare, and have spent weeks chasing after parents while the supply runs low for other children?

    This is ingenious. :D

    Aug 6, 2010 at 12:43 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

    • #43.1   GhostWriter bang

      If you work in a “daycare” yet you spend weeks chasing after some kid’s parents…
      …you may actually be working in a Haitian orphanage.

      Aug 6, 2010 at 9:40 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #44   Kay

    As a former day care worker, I can’t tell you how much stress we have to put up with because of the parents. Mostly it’s just parents who refuse to discipline their kids so that they will behave, but won’t allow us to do anything to correct the behavior either, but we sure don’t want to have to worry about providing your diapers.

    Stop posting your child’s crotch on the internet please.

    Aug 6, 2010 at 10:35 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

     
  • #45   Kay

    Parents will be told that their kid won’t listen and is riling all the other kids up. In a few seconds a whole classroom will go nuts and be in complete anarchy. The parents do nothing. They don’t discipline and some even laugh when we tell them about the misbehaviors. You know what happens? We have to deal with them every day with no help from parents. If they come in and hear their pwecious wittle pumpkin was in time out then they freak. You have NO idea what daycare workers have to put up with the darn parents every day so bring some freakin diapers at least.

    Oh and of course the workers get blamed for everything regardless *gag*

    Aug 6, 2010 at 10:39 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

     
  • #46   El Jefe

    ‘REALLY CREEPY’ Ed.? Honestly? Do you know what daycare workers do when the diaper needs changing? They handle children’s genitals. Do we really need more neurotic parents?

    I have to say, a daily progress report reeks of a proactive daycare. Team Nannies!

    Aug 6, 2010 at 11:22 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #47   courtney

    I have worked at daycares that range from low-cost to places where I could pay rent for what they charge per week.
    We did this at ALL of the daycares.
    We usually wrote on the bottom diaper in each cubby and if the parents brought in extra (in response to the message board on the door or the daily progress reports for the past week) before the kid ran out, we’d just move the one with the note back to the bottom of the pile. As someone else pointed out, it’s a reminder for the teachers too so we know if it’s really the last or if the parents brought a Costco-sized pack and the rest are stowed in another cabinet.
    @everyone who says this is gross/bizarre/whatever: It’s just the most convenient way to guarantee one of the parents will see the note since many don’t seem to notice any other form of communication and the teacher who last diapered the kid may leave before he/she is picked up.

    Aug 6, 2010 at 10:01 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     
  • #48   Nikki

    At the daycare my daughter went to, they never told me that she needed diapers until she had already “dipped” into their supply. I started buying in bulk and randomly bringing 100+ diapers pre-labeled for her. The last time she ran out of formula, I was in the daycare the evening before talking about purchasing her formula. Did they mention that she had one bottle worth left? No. Did I have to run home during lunch to get her diapers and formula because they “forgot”, YES!!! It’s not just the parents who forget.

    Aug 6, 2010 at 11:35 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

     
  • #49   Max Time bang

    woah they be touchin the baby D: “GET MA SON OUTTA THERE” is what should of been said….

    Aug 11, 2010 at 9:46 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
  • #50   Lori

    As a home daycare provider I would not have write on the diaper, although I did think it was funny, as I am sure they did not write on the diaper when he was wearing it. I charge extra if parents run out of diapers. In my 10 years of providing daycare I have only had to do this once. I usually will let the parents know when I still have half the package left. Gives them some extra time, in case they forget. It in no way makes anyone a bad parent if they forget diapers. The parent saw the humor in it, and it did help her remember.

    Aug 18, 2010 at 1:57 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     

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