This is why I’ve never attended any wedding I was invited to.

If the reception dinner is costing the bride and groom $30 to $50 per plate, unless you give at least that much, you aren’t giving a gift at all…you’re costing them money.

These people rolled in four-deep with shallow pockets and had the nerve to be saddened by something?

I totally agree that the note is definitely PA and inappropriate, but some of us are poor! Also, from cousins-in-law (not immediate family), who presumably have two children draining their bank accounts, it’s definitely an appropriate amount to give.

I think that the key to recognizing how PA the note sounds is the focus on the ‘P’- Of COURSE they’re happy, just, they would have been happier… which means, basically, “You have displeased us.” Nice.

Why do “you people” always characterize people in such a negative light if they don’t happen to share your belief in invisible super-beings?
You don’t sound much like a joy to be around. Nowhere near like Christ-like in your attitudes towards people. Try reading that Good Book again, like so many of “us” have.

I didn’t read the note (the first time) to mean that the blessings had a double meaning. Just that they wished the couple had married in the church with the family’s pastor. But, I could be wrong.

Seriously, it is grossly inappropriate to tell a supposed loved family member that their marriage made them sad. In the card whose sole purpose is to congratulate them on their marriage.

I do agree that there are always family members that are weird or annoying, but again, big difference between creepy Uncle Bob who saves nail clippings in a jar, and holier than thou so and so that sends rude cards. There is no excuse for this kind of lapse in basic etiquette, and when it takes a stab at those life choices in the way that it has, then it’s really not even worth accepting the present. They are not celebrating the wedding. They are criticizing it and tearing it down, and if someone had done something like this to them, they would react in similar or worse manner. Let’s put it this way, if they are sending cards like this, the things they must be saying behind this couple’s back must be incredibly… interesting.

Not having people like this in one’s life makes for increased life joy. So yes, we are probably a joy to be around because we don’t surround ourselves with negativity.

Most people would not send a card like this if they had even an ounce of respect for the person receiving the card. As an atheist, I wouldn’t dream of saying something along this line to a religious person, and if I am invited to a church wedding and care about the people getting married enough to go, I suck it up and go to the church. It is not my place to criticize their choices any more than it is the religious person to criticize mine.

This card was in horribly bad taste. I would return the card and the gift had I received it as Antigirl would have. Self righteous people like this have no place in a normal person’s life.