Monster in my bed

April 22nd, 2012 · 130 comments

Writes our submitter in Virginia: “One of my (two) roommates is convinced that someone is sleeping in her bed when she is not here. Even though NO ONE has slept in her bed, angry text messages have been exchanged about these mystery sleepover guests, but (like everything else) she has never confronted us face to face. The other night, I stumbled across this gem on her pillows when I dared to enter her room to turn off the light she leaves on for days upon days.”

Do NOT sleep in my bed. I will be able to tell, and I will be PISSED. I respect your stuff, so please respect mine. And if you think this note is weird, I think it's even weirder that you're in here reading it. :)

related: Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close Quarters

FILED UNDER: roommates · sleeping · smiley · Virginia

130 responses so far ↓

  • #1   WHAT!

    Umm… stay out of her room?

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:21 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.1   Rei

      If they all pay for the electricity, her housemates have every right to go in and turn the light off that no one is using.

      Apr 22, 2012 at 10:25 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.2   WHAT!

      So long as she pays her share of the electric bill she should be able to use whatever electricity she wants. This person is home using electricity when she’s not even there.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 12:00 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.3   leludallas

      um, seriously @WHAT!? she’s not home, why does she leave the light on?!?!?! that makes no sense, and i don’t blame the roommate for turning it off (since he or she is actually home and functioning).

      Apr 23, 2012 at 12:38 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.4   WHAT!

      If she pays her rent and pays her bills it’s her business what goes on (or off) in HER room. Whoever it is should stay the out of it. Seriously.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 12:45 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.5   csmithy

      If she leaves the lights on and raises the electric bill that they all pay an equal share of, then she’s costing them money. Even if it’s probably negligible.

      (That said, OP shouldn’t have been in there long enough to take this photo. Flip the light off and get out.)

      Apr 23, 2012 at 1:11 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.6   DS

      Someone pointed out to me just the other day how it was funny the commenters on Passive-Aggressive Notes always side with the lunatic note writers – even, apparently, when the notes are the product of a paranoid imagination.

      Of course the house mates are right to turn off the light, incidentally. No one has the right to pointlessly waste electricity. It’s not about whether you pay some share of the bill, it’s about common sense.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 4:25 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.7   leludallas

      the other roommates are paying for her wastefullness, so it is their business… i agree with DS, it is all about common sense!

      Apr 23, 2012 at 1:15 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.8   Dr.Chalkwitheringlicktacklefeff

      Actually, WHAT! (if that IS your real name), paying your share doesn’t entitle you to use more overall. If are profligate and wasteful, and use electricity unneccessarily, you push EVERYONE’s share up, not just your own, because you increase the total bill.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 3:30 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.9   TheInfamousJ

      I have a roommate who leaves her light on all the time. What happens is for every $1 of electricity from her light being left on all the time, I have to pay $0.50 even though I am not the one leaving the light on all the time.

      If, somehow, electricity statements could say which room electricity came from then yeah, let her pay the full $1 for her light, but so long as her wastefulness charges ME … aw hell no!

      (Aside: I’ve also caught her sleeping in my bed on random nights that I’m not at home. She’s a weird one, she is.)

      Apr 23, 2012 at 6:48 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.10   Jill

      Popping the room for a minute to shut the light (and take pics of crazy notes) is different from sleeping in someone’s bed (why would you even want to?).

      Apr 24, 2012 at 10:23 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.11   unsatisfied

      if only common sense were indeed common.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 11:41 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.12   Jill

      I think it’s funny that so many people take the PA note writer’s side, when she is clearly a nutcase. We’ve all run into these types of people. Why blame the submitter? If she were going in there, she wouldn’t find the notes to stay out so funny, would she?

      Apr 24, 2012 at 12:10 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #2   Siaci

    How about a lock on her door and a therapist?

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:22 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #3   Micah

    stay out of her room long enough to find another roommate!

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:26 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.1   Vulpis

      That’s close to the advice I’d give to the note-writer, actually. I mean, we literally have photographic evidence that the writer’s housemates, while not using her bed as such, obviously *don’t* have any qualms about invading her room and her privacy when she’s not around.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:16 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #4   kate

    She took a picture of the arrangement of the stuffed animals, and she will compare it when she comes back. Also, at least one of the blankets is taped to the bed frame.

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:26 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #4.1   Vulpis

      Not to mention that she left the light on on purpose–when she comes back and the light’s turned off, she’ll know for certain that someone else was in her room while she was gone. The OP obviously isn’t too bright to have missed that..

      May 23, 2012 at 1:18 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #5   David Long

    How old is this person… there are a lot of stuffed animals….

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.1   The Elf

      The stuffed animals was the warning sign for you? I thought it was the all-knowing paranoia (I will be able to tell….) in the notes.

      I’m in my 30s and still have my childhood stuffed animals. They’re on a bookshelf in my office. I don’t put any on my bed, but that’s because I have real live animals there.

      Since she’s trying to discourage use of her bed, putting the toys there makes sense. What doesn’t make sense is insistence that someone using her bed despite repeated claims to the contrary. And the lights – that doesn’t make sense either.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 7:21 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.2   Venus of Iceburg

      They are really old and dirty — like she still “needs” them to cope. Ick! Talk about issues.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 6:21 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.3   Seanette

      My boss is in her 60s (I do in-home support care), and she has a collection of stuffed animals on her bed. She’s fussy enough about what goes where that I found it helpful to take a reference photo with my phone. :)

      Apr 23, 2012 at 7:17 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.4   yeah

      Don’t make fun of stuffed animals!

      Apr 23, 2012 at 10:13 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #6   Andrew Price

    Sounds like the beginning of an awesome horror story.

    Ruffled bed sheets and hair on the pillow tell Janice that someone has been sleeping her bed. In a desperate attempt, she accuses her room mates but they deny it. Her fears grow as she finds more and more evidence of a mysterious presence in her room. She spirals into a mental break down. Her room mates move out, leaving her to face her biggest nightmare alone.
    SPOILER ALERT: The unwelcome visitor is her imagination.

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:35 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #6.1   DaveGI

      We just finished the trace on the phone call and … oh my god! … Not only is the caller in your house, HE’S IN YOUR BED!!!

      Apr 23, 2012 at 1:52 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #6.2   Cranky Old Fart

      This reminds me of a show called “Dark Possession” (original broadcast: February 15, 1954) that is part of a wonderful “Studio One Anthology” DVD collection, from the Golden Age of Television.

      “An anonymous letter writer creates fear and havoc in the lives of three sisters. A young doctor tries to help. With Helen Auerbach, Geraldine Fitzgerald, Barbara O’Neill, Leslie Nielsen, Bramwell Fletcher. Written especially for “Studio One” by Gore Vidal. Directed by Franklin Schaffner.”

      You’ll never guess how it ends. It was great.

      Apr 25, 2012 at 1:02 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #7   ourania walker

    Her roommates should kidnap all her stuffed animals and hold them for ransom …

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:46 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.1   Vulpis

      Her roomates should respect her wishes and her property and stay out of her room in the first place. This kind of thing would definitely encourage *me* to either get locks or better yet, new roommates who can understand the concept of ‘Stay out of my room.’

      May 23, 2012 at 1:20 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.2   Furubafan74

      Vulpis, the roommates going in to this idiot’s room one time to turn off her light, since apparently she’s doesn’t understand that concept, does not mean that they go in all the time. Nor does it mean that they’re the passive aggressive ones. The photo only proves that they went in one (1) time, not that they go in all the time, as you claim.

      Jul 12, 2015 at 7:53 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #8   James

    She has a Lambchop doll. This means you must do her bidding.

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:49 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #9   Madrias

    To solve the light problem, I’d just disconnect the wire from the switch.

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:50 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #10   aaa bang

    You know the roommate is just baiting Jordan and the other roomie. Leaving the light on for days on end is the perfect thing to draw somebody into the room. The continual stream of batshit paranoia is just to throw them off guard. It’s only a matter of time until she teaches them the true meaning of respect…

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:55 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #11   joshua

    The light is on because she cheapped out on her security camera and its not for night vision.

    Apr 22, 2012 at 10:59 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #12   Susan

    In elder care, we call this “phantom boarder syndrome,” the conviction that people have been in the house even tho they’re never seen….

    Apr 22, 2012 at 11:04 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #13   Julia

    The little smiley at the end gives it that perfect crazy touch :)

    Apr 22, 2012 at 11:34 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.1   Paige

      Hell, if I ever become a serial killer, I’m leaving PANs at the scenes of my crimes, complete with smileys. I will also dispose of the body in a lake, leaving only stolen office furniture.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 2:00 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.2   juju_skittles

      I look forward to reading them here!

      Apr 23, 2012 at 11:21 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.3   The Elf

      Writes our submitter in Virginia: “I found this note next to a severed, dried hand that I found while hiking around the lake. It was tacked to an office chair that had seen better days and a pristine file cabinet. The police later said the furniture was stolen from a nearby Staples. It’s the smileys I find most disturbing.”

      Apr 24, 2012 at 7:31 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #14   chrys

    I would move stuff around just a little.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 12:01 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #15   deb katz

    Actually, bulbs are cheap. The small amount of money it costs to run the light is worth the girl’s peace of mind. She may be looney-tunes, but obviously, she’s getting zero respect from her room mates repeatedly. Just stay out of her room and leave her alone. Quit messing with her. Look how far it’s gone-complete strangers are now poking fun at her. Sure it’s funny, but the reality is, you’re in her room. You’ve crossed a boundary, so no wonder she’s a little paranoid. Respect her space, when her lease is up, get a new room mate.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 12:03 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.1   Paige

      I agree completely, except I think they have every right to turn the light off (but nothing more). Although, given her issues with her room, they should ask her to do it, you know, make it clear that it’s become an issue, and let her know that they’ll be turning it off themselves if she doesn’t. That way, she might even get some peace of mind knowing why they’ve been in her room, rather than thinking it’s evidence of them sleeping in her bed.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 2:08 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.2   DS

      Erm climate change? If this is the attitude all Americans have no wonder we’re all going to die very soon.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 5:07 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.3   The Elf

      Generally, light switches are located immediately to the side of the door. If you know where the switch is, you could actually slide your hand in and turn it off without invading her privacy.

      And I agree with the others – stay out of her room, except to turn off the light when you know she won’t be back for days. And you need to bring up that issue with her at some point so hopefully she’ll take care of it herself. If energy costs are shared equally, as they typically are in roommate situations, then the other roommates have a stake in her energy use.

      The Note Writer should look into solo housing, if at all affordable. Clearly, she doesn’t do well in a roommate scenario. I don’t either (for different reasons), so I understand. Some people just don’t take well to that kind of living arrangement.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 10:38 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.4   Fluffy

      @DS: Um, sorry, but it’s American me who turns off all the lights and unplugs unnecessary charging stations because my British husband doesn’t do it.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 2:00 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.5   cuffling

      @the elf, from the photo it looks like it’s a bedside lamp that’s been left on, which wouldn’t have a switch by the door.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 1:57 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.6   Poltergeist

      For all we know, her roommates may have never even once entered her room before she started accusing them of sleeping in her bed (which is a bit more strange than accusing somebody of snooping around.) If you’re repeatedly getting blamed for something you’ve never done, why not have a little fun and actually start doing it? But that’s just me and maybe I’m an asshole, but I’m a fun-loving asshole.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 4:35 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.7   The Elf

      Cuffling, it depends on how the room is wired. Still, you have a point – if the lamp providing the light wasn’t hooked up to the wall switch, the roommates would have to physically enter the room to turn it off. While this is an invasion of privacy, if talking to the roommate about the problem has failed, then I see no problem with that quick and purposeful intrusion once it is apparant that the light has been left on and the roommate isn’t expected home for a long time.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 7:35 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.8   quatfaux

      Has no one heard of this thing called a “circuit breaker”? It often lives in the basement, and it can be quite handy for cutting off electricity to certain rooms.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 2:56 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #16   NYPB Blue?

    What the hell is up with thoses sheets? Purple & green? Just seeing that I can guarantee that no one has slept there other than the note writer in a loooong time

    Apr 23, 2012 at 12:23 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #16.1   Lucy

      Also, the stuffed animals. Please, no.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 1:11 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #16.2   Aliceblue

      Was just thinking similar thoughts. How could anyone get to sleep on something that loud?

      Apr 25, 2012 at 7:43 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #17   lozerette bang

    I would probably tuck all of the stuffed animals in, just to give an explanation for who was sleeping in the bed…

    Apr 23, 2012 at 2:49 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #17.1   Mgb

      I was going to suggest planting cracker crumbs in the bed, but that is much better.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 12:40 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #17.2   quatfaux

      Another fun-loving asshole! Tuck them in and give them bottles! (Milk, beer, what have you…)

      Apr 24, 2012 at 2:58 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #18   Voice of Rhizome

    Unfortunately, it sounds like she is having schizophrenic paranoia episodes. I lived with a room mate with undiagnosed schizophrenia who would write long, accusatory notes that I had been wearing her new T-shirts.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 4:13 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #18.1   PastaMasta

      That’s a possibility. Schiziphrenia is not as uncommon as people think (1% of the population here in the UK!). Instead of posting it on PA, maybe try to talk to the girl to find out if there’s more to it?

      Apr 23, 2012 at 8:30 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #18.2   The Elf

      One of the weird things about that kind of schizophrenia is that sometimes the person doesn’t accept that it might be mental illness. So talking to her might be useless; now you’re part of the conspiracy too.

      That’s one reason the illness is so hard to treat.

      I am not convinced this is serious mental illness. It may be; certainly this sort of thing has a tendency to pop up in the college and young adult years. But it may just be that she’s just garden variety nuts.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 10:44 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #18.3   Vulpis

      Indeed. Of course denying this while actually wearing one of her shirts, or at the least one that looks very much like one of her shirts, isn’t going to help your case in the slightest.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:23 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #19   Blah

    The worst thing about the note for me is the “w/” instead of “with” at the end. I’m beginning to see a real link between PA notes and desperate attempts to abbreviate as many words as humanly possible for no reason whatsoever. (Poorly Worded Rant over and back to the snark)

    Apr 23, 2012 at 7:43 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #20   Macaroon

    If she really thinks someone is sleeping in her bed, she should leave an assortment of sex toys under the quilt to give them a good startle when they go to climb in :)

    Apr 23, 2012 at 9:01 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #20.1   Amy in Toronto

      @ Macaroon – I’d like your suggestion if this wasn’t someone who decorated her bed with stuffed animals, and perhaps sleeps with them (or maybe they’re there to guard her room in her absence, who knows?). The pairing of stuffed animals on top of the bed and sex toys under the covers presents a disturbing dichotomy to me.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 9:20 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #20.2   Poltergeist

      I would also “stain” her bedding a little to suggest the recent presence of a very satisfied male. Nothing permanent obviously – just place a few small yet conspicuous puddles of water here and there on the sheets right before she comes home.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 4:23 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #21   Harmy G

    Turning off lights that others have left on is my favorite form of passive-aggressiveness.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 10:30 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.1   DS

      Yes!!! I love these kinds of move. Washing up their dirty dishes in another favourite.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 11:02 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.2   Jolly

      I would think washing other peoples’ dishes would just reinforce their ridiculous behavior. At least, that is how it seems to be with my coworkers, who seem to think there is nothing wrong with piling the break room sink (right next to the dishwasher) with dirty dishes. At this point I’m almost as irritated by the people who actually DO wash the sink full of dirty dishes that they haven’t contributed to, because by cleaning up other’s peoples disgusting messes they are basically telling those people it is fine to be a lazy dickhead at your coworkers’ expense, and the problem continues.

      Apr 23, 2012 at 6:19 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.3   DS


      I do it to try and encourage them to wash my dishes once in a while. I think it is really stingy when someone does all their washing up but leaves your dirty mug or whatever to one side because it’s not theirs. When you are washing up you should just do whatever is there.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 6:41 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.4   Julesagain

      I used to throw everything in the sink away (it was usually the same couple of people over and over leaving stuff). One of them would use a half a pack of Sweet n Low, and then leave the rest of the pack on the counter, scattering the stuff everywhere. I never could catch who was doing it, but I made a little tiny crime scene with tape once and it stopped. But not the dirty mugs, spoons, microwave meal plates (who DOES that??) etc. in the tiny sink. This wasn’t even a break room, just a counter, a coffee machine, and a sink. So after a couple of warnings, I started tossing stuff. It worked, but not without some uproar.

      May 1, 2012 at 7:41 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #22   Debbie Dodge

    She just needs to purchase a lock with a key..but than again these roomates would probably use the credit card trick to get in anyways. My guess is her roomates are going in her room and now will do it even more…

    Apr 23, 2012 at 11:07 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #22.1   quatfaux

      You’re as nuts as she is.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 3:00 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #22.2   HoopyFrood

      Interesting personality profiles you just made up for her roommates based on nothing but your imagination.

      Here’s the thing: they haven’t been sleeping in her bed. That’s what makes this a particularly interesting PAN. She’s being PARANOID, and you’re doing roughly the same by assuming all sorts of nasty things that you have no basis for.

      Apr 25, 2012 at 5:22 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #22.3   Vulpis

      Hoopy..we literally have photographic evidence that the roomates have no problem with invading her room and her privacy. Mind you–I wouldn’t say that they’ve been sleeping in her bed, but they *have*, obviously, been going in her room.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:26 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #23   KHandcock

    I had a roommate in university who was like this…she famously left a nasty note on her door telling us not to go in her room when she went away for a long weekend. This was prompted by the fact that she used to leave for class for six to eight hours with her stereo on…on single track repeat…on things like the dance remix of “My Heart Will Go On”. You could hear it through the whole house. Strangely enough, we did feel that we had the right to go in and turn it off.

    The funniest part of the note was that she put a strip of tape across the door frame at knee level–very visible, very obvious tape. We all joked that we should step over the tape to go in and throw stuff around, then feign ignorance when she found it–what? The tape is intact, so CLEARLY none of us were in there!

    The thing is, these issues with her room were only the beginning. The blind in the kitchen had to be raised to an exact point. If you did it wrong, she would come out of her room immediately and change it. Another example? When we moved in together and split up chores, she had agreed to cook. She stopped when she broke up with her boyfriend three months in. I took over cooking, and used to ask whether she wanted any of what I was making (but stopped when I got tired of her swearing at me for asking). We also used to ask her whether she needed us to get her anything at the grocery store, but the answer was always no. We found out six months later that she had told the landlord that we were trying to starve her by not bringing her food.

    So, I guess what I’m getting at is give the roommates who submitted this the benefit of the doubt. If they’re stuck in the same position we were, with a one-year lease that couldn’t be broken, they may have no choice but to try to see the humour in this until they can get the heck out of there.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 11:12 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #23.1   Vulpis

      I’m not going to give these roommates the benefit of the doubt. Your ex-roomate, on the other hand–unlike the poster’s roomate who was just leaving a light on in their room, *yours* was doing things hostile to the others in the house (and then lying about it). The OP’s roommate actually has to a reason to be concerned that people are in her room when she’s absent, as the OP’s own evidence shows. *Your’s* had a personal problem indeed.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:30 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #24   ged

    maybe the reason she thinks someone is using her bedroom is because her light keeps getting turned off…?

    Apr 23, 2012 at 12:32 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #24.1   Vulpis

      Probably. Not to mention her roomates seem to have no problem coming in and taking pictures of the place…

      May 23, 2012 at 1:31 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #25   Fozzy Bear

    Not sure if someone else mentioned this, but I would move stuff around on the bed and move the pillow and stuff to REALLY freak her out!

    Apr 23, 2012 at 12:47 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #26   Matilda

    Not that I would do this to anyone I suspected of having a legitimate mental problem but I would SO have fun with this roommate if she was just being a douche.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 2:10 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #27   DaveGI

    “And please stop eating my porridge! I know it’s not too hot and not too cold, but it’s MINE!”

    She doesn’t have three bears in among those stuffed animals, does she? They should alert the neighborhood watch to keep an eye out for a young blond female in the area.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 2:13 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #28   weaselby

    Adult+extensive collection of stuffed animals=obvious social/emotional/mental issues.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 2:37 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #28.1   HoopyFrood

      Not always.
      Some people collect stuffed animals because they think they’re cute, or they have them left over as reminders of their childhood.

      Having a few childish things doesn’t automatically make an adult somehow unstable. Sometimes, it just means they have a healthy inner child.
      It’s actually more healthy than rejecting all things childish based purely on a “what would others think/how would it make me look” mindset.

      Apr 25, 2012 at 5:27 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #28.2   john

      That’s why weaselby said “extensive”. A few is different… just holding onto a few things that are meaningful from childhood. Keeping tons of stuffed animals as an adult? And prominently displaying them? Weird. Very weird. Or Asian.

      May 7, 2012 at 3:39 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #28.3   Vulpis

      Right–and that shelf of models, toys, and/or video games isn’t ‘indicative’ of something similar. ;-)

      May 23, 2012 at 1:32 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #29   Mira

    …That is the ugliest sheet set I have ever seen.

    As for roommates– note writer needs to chill out or move out.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 3:01 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #29.1   Vulpis

      I’d suggest the move out option, myself–the note writer obviously can’t trust her housemates to, you know, stay out of her room–as the photo itself demonstrates.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:33 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #30   Dr.Chalkwitheringlicktacklefeff

    Went in there to turn off the light, you say? The submitter has thought of all the neccessary excuses, hasn’t she. She certainly managed to pre-emptively answer my query.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 3:27 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #31   deprogrammed

    Once upon a time, I lived with my sister. Who had a teenage daughter who should have been named Miss Destructo. I did not let her use my computer and kept my door locked. Well, I would come home and KNOW someone had been in the room. Miss D would swear no one had, but how to prove it….Turns out she and her friends would take the screen off the window and come in through there, thus leaving the door locked. I moved sooner rather than later.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 4:01 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #32   Jolly

    Yeah, these people both seem shitty. Girl one may be paranoid and dumb and worth getting out of a lease with if possible, but going into someone’s room and then taking a picture of their stuff to show off her paranoia on a popular website and get mocked? Sorry, but you’re just as shitty of a roommate, if not worse, than the notewriter. Sounds like you should both live alone, for the benefit of those around you.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 6:25 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #32.1   Lil'

      You seriously came on this site to read the note then you turn around and insult the submitter for submitting it. Do you need a nap? You sound a little cranky.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 7:47 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #32.2   Jolly

      Didn’t realize that disapproving of someone not only invading their roommates privacy, but then posting their invasion on the internet, made me cranky. I just assumed that was, you know, encouraging people to be decent human beings.

      Apr 27, 2012 at 3:33 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #32.3   Vulpis

      I agree with Jolly, myself. I mean, the entire point of this posting seems to be to provide physical proof that the note writer is *right* to be paranoid about her housemates being in her room when she’s not home–because they *are*.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:35 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #33   Rita

    I can understand going into the room to turn the light off. I used to have to do that with my old housemate because she -never- turned off the light or the fans but would then bitch about the powerbill *rolls eyes* I even had to go in and clean her room once (the smell from her room was permiating the rest of the house and we were about to have a guest come stay). I asked her numerous times over a week to clean her room and she didn’t – sooo freaking gross (including used pads and condoms shoved under the bed). Glad I had gloves (was VERY annoying since all the furniture etc she was using belonged to me and she was not respecting my stuff at all -.-)

    Apr 23, 2012 at 6:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #33.1   AlfaCowboy

      Holy jesus, that’s really, really disgusting. Who in all the cold hells stuffs used condoms and pads under the bed? You’re a lot more patient than me, kid.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 8:43 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #33.2   The Elf

      The soiled prophylactic was under the bed with a fresh one, the black suit jacket, black suit pants, one hat (black), one pair sunglasses, and $23.07.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 10:37 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #33.3   DLW

      My sister used to be that nasty. My parents had to clean out the trailer she was “renting” from them and removed 60 bags of trash, including used tampons and pads from under the bed and in the dresser. W. T. F. D:

      Apr 24, 2012 at 3:03 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #34   kermit

    Maybe the roomie would feel better if the others left a picture of George Clooney and a note scolding her for not turning off the light.

    But other than having to turn off the light or close a window or put out a fire hazard, it’s mean and rude to go into someone else’s room without their permission. Chances are you wouldn’t be okay with someone snooping in your room either.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 9:33 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #34.1   Vulpis

      In other words, respond to being passive-agressive by being passive-agressive yourself, instead of *talking* to them and saying something along the lines of ‘Hey, you keep leaving your light on when you leave and it’s running up the light bill for all of us–could you turn it off when you leave, please?’

      May 23, 2012 at 1:37 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #35   goobler

    Having had to deal with clients suffering from paranoia, delusions, dementia etc my advice would be to move out now. Like any other damaged environment, these people have tipping points — don’t want to be there if she decides to “protect” her room with boobytraps. Housemates do have the right to have electrical anythings turned off when not in use if they share the bill … if that room is a separate cicuit, the light can be shut off by unscrewing the fuse or flipping the breaker, without going in her room.

    Apr 23, 2012 at 11:29 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #35.1   Vulpis

      Especially since the very photo used for this post demonstrates that the writer actually has good reason to be paranoid? I know I’d be tempted to set traps (likely ones using dye and similar deterrents). It might teach her housemates to, you know, stay out of other people’s rooms, instead of going in there and taking pictures to make fun of them about being upset about people going into their room?

      May 23, 2012 at 1:41 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #36   Canthz_B bang

    Goldilocks is busted again.

    Wait until Roomie sees what’s been done to her porridge and her rocking chair.

    Apr 24, 2012 at 3:01 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #37   Canthz_B bang

    Blame the parents. When she lived at home mom and dad turned off her electricity wasting lights for her and said squat, causing this problem in the first place.

    Can you imagine the post-its she left them!?

    Apr 24, 2012 at 3:12 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #38   Grant

    I think she’s monster baiting.

    Apr 24, 2012 at 4:33 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #39   Steve

    I had a roommate once who was an alcholic and would leave her lights on for DAYS. One month we got a Electric and gas bill of $560! Finally we left a note on her bed, either put your light on a timer, pay the electricity bill in full or move out. She angrily confronted us shouting ” This was NEVER a problem when I lived at home, you guys are heartless!” we totally busted up-we thought she was joking-lots of children like this, when they get out into the real world they fall down the dark dark hole having to be nice and considerate to others and they don’t like it one bit.

    And sorry but leaving lights on all the time, particularly in old houses is not safe. if they are not properly grounded or there is a spark, the over head light or anything on that circuit can explode-showering a room in sparks and causing combustion. Unless she is assuming a far greater portion of the utilities, they have every right to turn the light off

    Apr 24, 2012 at 7:09 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #39.1   Reepicheep-chan

      560 from lights? The hell kind of lights was she using? I could leave every light on in my house 24/7 all month and my bill would not be that high…

      I agree though, turn them suckers off.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 12:10 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #40   Nahhh bang

    I’d cut the breaker to her room, and only turn her power on when she’s home. After she’s had to go to the breaker-box to turn it back on a few times, she may learn to use the switch(es) in her room.

    Apr 24, 2012 at 7:35 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #41   KJS

    Maybe she knows that people have been sleeping in her bed because her stuffed animals told her so. (Considering the note, this is an entirely plausible theory.)

    Apr 24, 2012 at 7:59 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #42   Adriana

    I wonder how this all started. Did her roommates go into her room to turn off her light, bump into her bed, knock over a stuffed animal or ruffle the comforter, leading her to conclude that someone was sleeping in her bed? Is this paranoia grounded in anything real at all?

    Stop going into her room for any reason. You are adding fuel to the fire. If you don’t like the lights being left on, tell her that you will have to start going in there, much to your chagrin, or that she’ll have to pay more than her share of the utility bill until she stops. Rather than letting yourself in, talk to her about why you’re going in there. I’m not saying she’s reasonable or that she’s a good person, but doing anything at all that lets her know you were in her room is only encouraging the strange behavior. Stop it. Have a talk about why you entered and why it’ll happen again if she doesn’t turn out the lights.

    Apr 24, 2012 at 10:31 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #42.1   Vulpis

      But that would require the OP to actually do something sane and responsible, instead of being passive-agressive themselves! We can’t have *that*, now can we?!?!?

      …pardon me while I get a mop, since I’ve dripped sarcasm all over the floor.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:43 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #43   ffffffrabbbit

    Nice stuffed animals … mature much?

    Apr 24, 2012 at 10:34 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #43.1   Vulpis

      Nice models/toys/video games/whatever. People do collect all kinds of things, or pick them up because they look nice, you know.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:44 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #44   Beatus Mongous

    @OP, you need to take a picture of her stuff, short-sheet her bed, and then put everything back EXACTLY how it was.

    Apr 24, 2012 at 11:35 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #45   Reepicheep-chan

    Why is everyone hating on stuffed animals? Srsly, I do not understand why you have to throw out all your decorations when you turn 18 or else you are mentally deranged or something; that makes no sense!

    Apr 24, 2012 at 12:15 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #45.1   The Elf

      I know! Have we learned nothing from Toy Story?

      Apr 24, 2012 at 12:47 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #45.2   Poltergeist

      I don’t believe anybody said you have to throw them out. I still have my old stuffed animals. It’s just that this girl has multiple stuffed animals arranged on her bed that she might still sleep with. Add to that the paranoia, and you can’t help but feel something is a little off here.

      Apr 24, 2012 at 1:16 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #45.3   HoopyFrood

      A few people have said (explicitly or through implication) that an adult with stuffed animals is mentally damaged (one person above said so outright) or immature.

      Apr 25, 2012 at 5:32 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #45.4   john

      That person said “with extensive stuffed animals”. Big difference…

      May 7, 2012 at 3:44 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #45.5   Vulpis

      Indeed. Of course, what they have on their *own* shelves, whether it be plastic models, toys of some sort, video games, cartoons, comic books, figurines/dolls/action figures, books meant for a younger audience, *those* are all obviously fine, while stuffed animals are a sign of immaturity.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:47 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #45.6   Vulpis

      @Poltergeist Alternatively, she might just display them there when she’s not using the bed. Not to mention, it’s likely that finding that display had been messed with might have been one of the reasons for her ‘Someone’s been using my bed’ paranoia in the first place (granted, it *may* have just been her roomates *just* coming in her room and playing with the plushies, not actually using the bed itself–still inconsiderate behavior by the rest of the roomates, though). At this point, I’m figuring that both they and the light are being used as indicators for whether someone’s been in her room or not.

      May 23, 2012 at 1:53 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #46   Bob_awbla

    I had a roommate who would leave the AC on full blast all the time, even though he would be gone approx 16 hours of the day. Sometimes he even had the window open while the AC was running. I turned it off whenever he wasn’t home, but he would tape a note to the thermostat telling me not to turn it off. He was very passive aggressive. I then confronted him about it and told him (rightly so) that I shouldn’t have to pay for half the electric bill because he was using way more electricity by leaving the AC on all the time. He apparently doesn’t understand that air conditioning uses a lot more electricity than lights or a laptop, because he accused me of trying to get out of paying for electricity when he knows that I’m in my room every night using my laptop with my lights on. He even made the argument that he, at least, watches tv (which was every waking non-working moment for him) with the lights off. I didn’t bother arguing with him any more, but I got harassed with pages long text messages every other day until I moved out a few weeks later because, you know, passive aggressive.

    Apr 24, 2012 at 5:00 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #47   Redheadwglasses

    I think roommate sounds mentally ill. But because she’s also being such a bitch about it, you have license to mess with her head.

    Apr 26, 2012 at 12:46 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #47.1   Vulpis

      You mean the one that’s mentally ill enough to think that going into her housemate’s room and taking pictures of her stuff is the right thing to do?

      May 23, 2012 at 1:54 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #48   Me

    It’s not ok for the roommate to go into her room. That would be like a landlord letting himself into your apartment while you were out of town to turn off the lights if he pays the bill. Besides, the cost of leaving a light on doesn’t really increase your bill at all, especially compared to the electricity you’re using to heat the water to shower and do your dishes and wash your clothes that she’s not using while she’s gone.

    Apr 26, 2012 at 9:09 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #48.1   Michelle

      Three people live in my apartment. One of these people always leaves lights on, and the other two of us are always turning the lights off after her. One December, the two of us who turn lights off were out of town for two weeks, meaning that we were not using electricity at all, but without us turning lights off after the third roommate, the electricity bill was $20 higher than the previous highest month. It makes a difference.

      Apr 26, 2012 at 11:41 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #48.2   Vulpis

      I agree with both of you to a degree. The right response, of course, is for the other roommates to approach the one who leaves the lights on and say ‘Hey, would you please not leave your light on all the time when you’re gone? It’s raising the bill for all of us.’ Instead, the OP decides to be PA themselves about it…

      May 23, 2012 at 1:56 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #49   Kathryn

    I had a roommate who had some kind of psychotic break from using energy drinks to stay awake 24 hours a day for ? weeks or so. I was on campus most of the time, but he would work on the computer 24/7 for a while, then go out of town for a week or so, leaving his window open in the winter.

    The wind would blow his papers around the room, and when he returned he insisted I had trashed his room. He kept leaving his window open, his stuff kept blowing around, and he started threatening violence. The police said my only option was to leave everything behind except one suitcase’s worth of necessities.

    I’d lived there five years and had furnished all of the apartment except the roomie’s room, plus I had my hard drives with my research data. They insisted there was no way to protect me unless I walked out and left it all behind.

    Eventually we reached a neutral party who talked to the roommate and convinced him that they would keep me out of his room if he would let them know when he was out of town, so I could get more of my stuff.

    I also had to forfeit my security deposit because the landlord was mad at me for giving her complex a bad name by calling the police when my roommate threatened violence.

    Apr 28, 2012 at 4:06 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #50   Anne

    My roommate really did have random-ass people sleep in my bed when I left.. but we all did, so it was fine lol

    Apr 30, 2012 at 2:11 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #51   notolaf

    Assuming the note was not, in fact, written to the stuffed animals who so rudely climb into her bed whenever she turns her back for just a second, this person is just begging for some practical jokery, a la “The Twits.” Someone should start channeling Roald Dahl immediately.

    May 3, 2012 at 5:31 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #52   Melba

    I’m sorry, but the fact that she has a Lamb Chop plush automatically makes me take her side. ::stares at own Lamb Chop plush and puppet across room::

    May 31, 2012 at 10:17 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #53   asevondsolution

    Hey I have that same stuffed dog from when I was a kid. Its called a Le Mutt. Mine is stored away somewhere though, in the basement I think.

    Jun 1, 2012 at 1:08 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #54   Colorless

    you know, I don’t blame her. I have a friend whose room mate obtained a key to her room somehow and entered when she was in the shower. (bedroom and connected bathroom)

    Jun 19, 2012 at 6:07 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #55   Raye

    Why does she have so many ratty stuffed animals?

    Sep 2, 2012 at 6:31 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up