Comments on: A belated birthday/thank you card

By: jimbotheclown

jimbotheclown — Sun, 09 Sep 2012 06:52:01 +0000

I tried the cop solution once. They ended up spending three hours banging on the doors. (The people spent a long time refusing to open the door, and the cops wouldn’t enter without a warrant.) The nightstick against the metal door was far worse than the party had been.

By: Lillith

Lillith — Tue, 24 Jul 2012 02:16:51 +0000

My ten cents:
Write out the nice card, without so much passive-aggressive malarky.
Get up twenty minutes earlier than you need to to get to work, go over and POUND on the door and doorbell until you get her up to wish her a happy birthday and give her the card. Blithely make a remark about “oh, I’m sorry- did I get you up? You were still going hard at two/three/whenever, so I figured you’d still be winding down about now!”
Extra points for heating up some potent-smelling canned soup as a gift as well.
Later in the week, leave a polite note about how you realize it was her birthday, but the neighborhood has noise ordinances and in future, to turn down the bass at nine.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 15 May 2012 07:01:03 +0000

I had to go out at 5am the other night because they were having a party and the music was impossible to sleep through… I knew they were having a party, so I stayed out as late as I could and then came home to watch films as I knew I wouldn’t be able to sleep. At around 4:30am, it became clear they weren’t going to stop, so I sent a polite text to one of my neighbours, requesting they turn the music down. As a result, the music got even louder and I had no choice but to leave the house. I ended up walking around the city for several hours, exhausted and upset. When I returned home, my housemate told me they hadn’t stopped until 7am.

People who genuinely believe it is their right to play music and make as much noise as they want, regardless of who they’re affecting, are generally quite passive aggressive people themselves…

By: Anna

Anna — Mon, 14 May 2012 23:28:39 +0000

Seriously.

I have a feeling that all the people who are rushing to defend “Ashley” are also loud azz people with zero accountability for their own obnoxious acts.

By: Anna

Anna — Mon, 14 May 2012 23:01:13 +0000

For a number of years, I lived in an area that had a large student population. I called the police on my super-loud neighbors, but they wouldn’t come. In the unlikely event that they did come, it was hours after I called and then they would ring my door to be let in, not the loud neighbor’s door.

The best solution tends to be Benadryl and earplugs.

By: Poltergeist

Poltergeist — Mon, 14 May 2012 08:37:26 +0000

I honestly wouldn’t expect you to know about the blooming onion. It’s something Americans joke about when referencing Australia since it’s the signature appetizer of the (disgusting) US restaurant chain Outback Steakhouse.

As for noise, the majority of people who have a cent wort of sense would know when they’re too loud. It’s just that some people don’t really care. But thank you for the information about Australia. I know where I’m going the next time I want to get violently drunk, dance to pulsing music, and scream at the top of my lungs.

By: Dr_Know

Dr_Know — Sun, 13 May 2012 12:28:07 +0000

Onions? Where did that come from?

Yeah I work and study, so I understand that it would be annoying if it was all the time. One night every now and then I could, and have, managed.

What I’m saying is that life happens and yeah I don’t think it’s rude to make a little bit of noise on occasion. Especially since this neighbour didn’t say anything at the time – how is Ashley supposed to know that he/she was being TOO loud?

Also be practical – where should this person go? Can you not think of all the things that would prevent you from going to those places e.g. cost, ability to get safely home, number of people etc ?

By: Tarn

Tarn — Thu, 10 May 2012 15:13:49 +0000

Word!
I’ve been in the same position. In the end I started phoning them so at least I didn’t have to get up. But they mostly ignored the phone, once they realised it was usually me!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 10 May 2012 14:31:35 +0000

I can’t believe no one has pointed out the fact that Laura could well have talked to Ashley several times before sending this card, hence the amount of passive aggressiveness in the note. These people are often repeat offenders.

I’ve had noisy neighbours for years in several locations. Each time I’ve gone to talk to them, been very polite and requested they consider my feelings. Has it helped? Not. One. Bit. The guys who live next door to me now told me I have to come round and tell them whenever they’re making too much noise. Considering they play loud music at various times of the day and night on a regular basis, how is it fair that the onus is on me to put a stop to it EVEN AFTER I’ve told them it’s a problem? If it’s 4.30am, I would like to stay asleep, not get dressed and go and try and find them among a whole crowd of party-goers!

By: Poltergeist

Poltergeist — Wed, 09 May 2012 06:09:40 +0000

Are you 16 and stupid? You sound like you’re 16 and stupid. Please tell me where you live. My next vacation is going to consist of me bugging the ever-loving shit out of you 24/7 (and you have no idea the magnitude of my powers of annoyance). You can’t complain either since I’ll be having fun.

By: Jimmah

Jimmah — Wed, 09 May 2012 05:01:14 +0000

sometimes, yes, fun means more than running around like a loon. In fact, often. Butt sometimes fun means fucking off and not giving a shit unless somebody else does. we are entitled to not be so civilized all the time as humans are listed under the animal category, not just wage slaves.

By: The Elf

The Elf — Tue, 08 May 2012 12:45:59 +0000

The University actually sends out notices reminding students to be respectful to their neighbors? I don’t know whether to cheer the University’s proactive attitude or recoil in horror that the problem is THAT bad!

By: Poltergeist

Poltergeist — Tue, 08 May 2012 12:43:26 +0000

It’s not a cultural divide. Unless all of you Aussies are too busy frying bloomin’ onions and swinging from eucalyptus trees to work, you should understand. As I’ve said before, I’d let it go once in awhile since I’m just that wonderful of a person, but that still doesn’t excuse you from being so completely inconsiderate as to think that for even one night, everybody should simply have to put up with your noisy fiesta when there are plenty of other ways/places to go to have late-night fun.

By: Dr_Know

Dr_Know — Tue, 08 May 2012 12:32:08 +0000

I have the feeling that there is a massive cultural divide on this note.

It may just be me but in Australian culture it’s pretty acceptable to be noisy occasionally, especially when celebrating! So long as it is not a constant thing then I don’t think it should be that big of a deal. Sure it sucks to be tired but if it is actually keeping you up the entire night I would definitely talk to the people involved. Being bitchy about it later solves nothing.

I’m not terribly impressed with the ageism going on here either :/