I love you, Mommy. Your sandwiches? Not so much.

August 16th, 2012 · 36 comments

Rita in Utah was on the phone when her daughter handed her this note (less than a month into the school year). Says Rita: “I love how she tries to ‘soften the blow!’”

Dear Mommy, I Love You...but I want to buy school lunch tomoroe [sic]. thank you!

Gold star, kiddo. There are some adults who could take some note-writing pointers from you.

related: When kids “punish” their parents with the silent treatment

FILED UNDER: food · kids · Mother-daughter notes · not so much passive-aggressive · Utah

36 responses so far ↓

  • #1   Ren

    I get this…my mom made me delicious lunches, but I was one of the few kids in my entire school with a lunchbox. School lunches are horrible but way more mainstream.

    Aug 16, 2012 at 11:03 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.1   The Elf

      My school was the same way, except I made my own lunches. Mom prepped the stuff when I was little, but I was responsible for assembling it from early on. I think 1st or 2nd grade. She worked.

      Aug 27, 2012 at 2:52 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #2   meri

    a born diplomat, that child!

    Aug 16, 2012 at 11:59 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #3   Silence

    Dear Mommy,
    Lunchables taste like ass. I would rather have spaghetti that comes in a 5 gallon bucket.
    The Kid.

    Aug 17, 2012 at 12:10 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #4   Meg

    I got this from my daughter during her kindergarten year. Turns out that she liked what I packed just fine, she just felt more comfortable getting a school lunch like her classmates. I was fine with that, since around here the school gets their veggies and fruit from a farmers market and the rest of the food is quite healthy. Guess it’s about fitting in, that’s all.

    Aug 17, 2012 at 12:21 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #5   kermit

    This is cute when you’re in kindergarten so long as it doesn’t become a habit.

    I was friends in college with a guy who still lived at home. His mom still made him lunch and he used to complain if she put avocado in it. Never have I wanted to bludgeon a person with their own sandwich so badly.

    Aug 17, 2012 at 12:54 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.1   Holy guacamole

      I know it isn’t easy being green, but not everyone loves the same foods as you.

      Aug 18, 2012 at 9:10 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.2   kermit

      It wasn’t about the avocado. If you’re a grown man and your mom does your laundry, irons your clothes and makes you lunch every day, you don’t get to complain if she puts something you don’t like in your lunch.

      Don’t like avocado? Great, make your own lunch without avocado in it. Or buy it from someplace. But whatever you do, don’t complain if your mom doesn’t care to remember if you like avocado. She’s your mom, not your lunch lady.

      Aug 18, 2012 at 9:22 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.3   lee

      Meh, I’ve got little sympathy for the mum. She made her bed (and his), so she can lie in it.

      If she doesn’t want him complaining about avocado, the fix is pretty simple. Don’t make him lunch.

      Aug 18, 2012 at 10:29 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.4   kermit

      I have no idea if he complained to her. I know that he complained to me when we ate lunch together. And needless to say it changed my impression of an otherwise pretty nice, smart guy.

      Aug 18, 2012 at 11:04 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.5   notolaf

      Smoosh, smoosh, smoosh, smoosh.

      Thank you so much for the mental image!

      Aug 23, 2012 at 11:19 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #6   Adriana

    I never wanted to buy school lunches. I was such a neurotic kid that I’d get anxiety about getting to the cafeteria late and waiting in line, missing most of my lunch hour or not getting any food at all. It helped that my mom made bangin’ lunches.

    Aug 17, 2012 at 1:40 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #6.1   kermit

      I was the same way, but I think it helped that none of the stuff they served regularly looked particularly appetizing. Spring/summer barbecues were good, but I think they only had them once or twice a year.

      I didn’t like the sandwiches my mom made, so I learned to make my own thing. Or sometimes I used to have a really big breakfast that would last me until 4 when my day was done.

      Aug 17, 2012 at 2:19 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #6.2   Jami

      I didn’t like school lunches either. Bringing food from home was cheaper and tasted way better. My friends who did buy school lunches were often jealous, actually.

      Aug 17, 2012 at 3:07 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #7   KJS

    Growing up, I wasn’t allowed to directly criticize my mother’s less-than-stellar cooking. “Interesting” became the byword amongst my siblings for meals we didn’t especially enjoy.

    I guess we hit our quota on interestings because I started packing my own lunch in grade 2 . . .

    Maybe I should have tried this kid’s approach.

    Aug 17, 2012 at 2:05 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #8   SeeYouInTea

    My mother never made me lunches. I feel unloved. :(

    Aug 17, 2012 at 2:58 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #8.1   FeatherBlade

      Our school didn’t serve lunches, although some Fridays they would order in food from local fast food places, and anyone who wanted fast food just had to bring money in the morning and hand it to their teacher when they took orders in the morning.

      My mom made us lunches until we started complaining about what she put in them. I think she figured that if we were old enough to complain about the food, we were old enough to decide for our selves what went into them.

      So I made my own lunch from about 2nd grade on. It worked out just fine, even though (in 5th and 6th grades) my classmates gave me strange looks when I insisted on having cream of wheat for lunch everytime I got my braces tightened.

      Aug 17, 2012 at 10:06 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #9   Clumber

    My Dad would make awesome lunches for me – cutting my sandwich in bizarre ways and best of all : He’d include a note with an installment of some awesome but odd story he made up. I recall one involved a detective leaping out of a plane and parachuting into Montevideo in search of Big Mean Green… He started also incorporating characters from people at school, so even though most of the kids ate school lunches, I didn’t lose any small amount of “cool” I had hoarded. Everyone wanted to sit where I did and listen to the story.

    These days if I am really lucky, my beloved ♥spouse♥ will make me a lunch for work. I know, I don’t deserve her!

    Aug 17, 2012 at 5:07 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.1   Soop

      But does she write you a story?

      We didn’t have a cafeteria at our school, so everyone brought lunches. It wasn’t until high school that I had the option to buy lunch.

      Aug 17, 2012 at 8:22 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.2   dizit

      That’s so cute!
      I wrote installments of stories I made up on each kids lunch bag, complete with colored-in rubber stamps of the characters. Each kid (3, in all) had their own story line.
      I started this in kindergarten and when they got to middle-school age gave them the option of my stopping (I didn’t want them to be embarrassed in front of their friends), but all 3 elected to continue the series through high school!

      Aug 17, 2012 at 11:44 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.3   kermit

      You’ve set an unfortunate precedent, Dizit. If/when your kids get married their spouses are probably going to curse you to high heave for doing that.

      Aug 17, 2012 at 8:49 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.4   VZG

      That’s awesome, and a great idea for if/when I have school-aged children. Then I won’t have to feel so awful about the way it looks.

      Aug 22, 2012 at 3:27 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #10   Smokey

    My school’s lunches look like prison food. Tiny foil containers, barely heated. Don’t forget ketchup is a vegetable. I feel bad for the kids that eat them.

    Aug 17, 2012 at 8:01 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #10.1   aliceblue

      Did you go to school in FL? As a picky eater I was horrified to see “pizza” in a foil pan. Given that it was only about 1/4 inch thick it looked more like the burned on remains of a tomato & cheese casserole.

      Aug 19, 2012 at 2:02 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #11   havingfitz

    This is cute until you realize that Rita’s daughter is 28 and a 3rd grade teacher…

    Aug 17, 2012 at 9:27 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #12   QBall

    My mom made our lunch everyday, pbj monday, bologne tuesday, pbj wed, bologne thurs and on friday i got to buy school lunch, would rather have had a pbj and bologne sammy

    Aug 17, 2012 at 9:32 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #13   Chalie

    In grade school, I walked home every day for lunch. I suppose that’s an unthinkable practice these days. But my friend Bob, who loved one block north of me, and my friend Jim who lived one block south all walked together. Bob and I envied Jim because he was allowed to stop at Ray’s grocery on the corner and pick out a treat to go along with his lunch every day. A Twinkie or such thing.

    Aug 17, 2012 at 11:51 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #14   Louisvillain

    I’m going to let you finish… but Beyonce makes one of the best sandwiches of all time!

    Aug 17, 2012 at 12:58 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #15   Lita

    I never minded school lunches, but if I did take a packed lunch, I’d pack it myself. My mum worked in a school kitchen and her packed lunches were…well. School lunch in a bag.

    Besides, my lunch ladies always gave me extra food because I was so wee.

    Aug 17, 2012 at 1:02 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #16   We Shall Speak Anon

    Over 20 comments, and not one about school lunch being f*cking delicious?

    I call that progress!

    Aug 17, 2012 at 5:32 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #17   OHSue

    My son is a food snob and never bought a lunch after first grade, the lunches provided at school were just reheated frozen foods. He ate much healthier with my lunches which had fresh veggies, yogurt and ww bread. Even as an older teen he is a much healthier eater than his friends (and me).

    Aug 17, 2012 at 9:56 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #17.1   csmithy

      veggies is such a terrible word, just say vegetable gottdang

      Aug 18, 2012 at 3:39 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #17.2   Ruth

      children shouldn’t eat wholegrains, especially if they eat a lot of vegetables. a low-calorie, high-fibre diet is only suitable for (some) adults. also your kid was not a “food snob”, you passed your weird neuroses about food onto him and now you’re bragging about it, that’s awful.

      Aug 19, 2012 at 6:59 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #17.3   Tesselara

      What the heck?! Let’s keep the parenting judgmental-ness down to a dull roar, k?

      Aug 19, 2012 at 3:11 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #17.4   Lisa

      Wow, Ruth…try not to pull a hammy jumping to conclusions, OK?

      And to add to wht Tesselara said, how about you make sure you’re not talking out of your ass before taking such a judgemental stance? “Children shouldn’t eat whole grains.” Says who? You? Some medical conditions and allergies require not eating whole grains, or wheat in any form, but most healthy school-age children could benefit greatly from more fiber in their diet. Get over youself.

      Aug 19, 2012 at 3:46 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #18   redheadwglasses

    “children shouldn’t eat wholegrains,”

    Prove it.

    That’s what I thought.

    Aug 27, 2012 at 11:48 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up


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