This cereal is now yours to control.

August 30th, 2012 · 92 comments

Samantha‘s note about her Kindle seems to have hit a nerve with many of you. As commenter ae wrote, “The ‘it’s MY Kindle you know’ line would have gotten me the “Oh, did you pay for it with your own money?’ line from my parents.”

Well, Lea in Los Angeles seems to come from that same school of parenting. When she and her husband found this demand stuck to the cereal box this morning, they decided to teach their daughter, Chela, a little lesson.

This cereal is now yours to control.

related: My evil Mom

FILED UNDER: cereal · kids · Moms & Dads · money · most popular notes of 2012 · oh snap · rebuttals · smiley

92 responses so far ↓

  • #1   Kim

    YES!! Taking back control!!

    Aug 30, 2012 at 6:33 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #2   Who passed out the Haterade?

    I hear that she built it.

    Aug 30, 2012 at 6:48 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #3   Michele

    When I was growing up, my brother would quickly scarf done all of the ‘good’ cereal within a day or two leaving me with the Corn Chex. or worse the Bran Chex, so I can understand being a little possessive.

    Aug 30, 2012 at 6:53 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.1   H for Toy

      I never understood why anyone bought the wheat or bran Chex. Do people actually like that stuff?

      Aug 30, 2012 at 7:19 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.2   Chewy Ika

      Wheat Chex is without a doubt the best Chex! Not everybody likes Chocolate Frosted Sugar Bombs for breakfast.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 7:25 pm   rating: 91  small thumbs up

    • #3.3   deprogrammed

      Rice Chex. FTW.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 7:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.4   jillterwilliger

      The corn chex is awesome!

      My husband eats the wheat chex – after he sugar bombs it.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 7:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.5   H for Toy

      I don’t know. I like the rice and the corn, and I’ll even eat plain shredded wheat, but the wheat Chex always tasted like cardboard poop to me.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 7:52 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.6   H for Toy

      But I will give you a thumb for the Calvin and Hobbes reference ;)

      Aug 30, 2012 at 7:53 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.7   Sheri

      Oh man, I kind of forgot about Wheat Chex. They were far superior to all the Chex, because they stayed crunchy for SO LONG (I’m lookin’ at you, Rice Chex… or should I say, Rice Puree).

      Wheat Chex with about 4 tablespoons of sugar on top… ah, I’ve missed you, childhood.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 9:08 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.8   aliceblue

      Bran Chex and all those fiber cereals are dangerous. Also, as co-workers get to a certain age NEVER assume that a muffin is pumpkin or banana – unless you want to spend your workday in a very different cubicle.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 11:47 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.9   The Elf

      What’s this “good cereal” of which you speak? My mother didn’t ever buy “kid food”. So our cereal was whatever THEY wanted. Hello, Bran Chex! It’s a step up from Museli! Also, since I didn’t like to drink milk, Mom always gave me yogurt. Real yogurt – with the active bacteria.

      On the plus side, I have never had any sort of chronic digestive issue in my entire life.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 6:49 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.10   eCharleen

      As a child, I went for the Product 19, believe it or not. It was my favorite.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 10:48 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.11   Vulpis

      Bah. Honey Nut Chex for the win. And if you’re a health-loonie, it’s even ‘Gluten Free’!

      Sep 3, 2012 at 4:04 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.12   JK

      Team Count Chocula.

      Sep 3, 2012 at 11:29 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.13   L

      I used to beg for plain cheerios as a kid.

      Sep 15, 2012 at 10:26 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #4   Molly Musaka

    Well, at least the note said “please.” A far cry from the demanding little snot we last heard from!

    Aug 30, 2012 at 6:55 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #4.1   aliceblue

      Plus they named the poor kid “Chela” so they owe her at LEAST a box of two of cereal.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 11:49 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #4.2   xMariex

      I know the trolls will pounce on me for this… but I agree with aliceblue because I looked at the photo before reading the description and I assumed “chela” was some insult in some foreign language…. seeing as it is so close to chola…. So I am not sure if I should be more embarrassed for me or the kid or the parents….

      Aug 31, 2012 at 3:07 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #4.3   Dr_Know

      Well I personally like Chela…especially when compared to the kind of names that showed up in STFU Parents post today (e.g. Akeelies, Aleesies, Rebluntay, Shay’lenn)

      Aug 31, 2012 at 5:52 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #4.4   DeeDee

      What if Chela is short for something, like Michela?

      Aug 31, 2012 at 9:51 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #4.5   TeryGent

      And I thought it was a whackadoo spelling of “Sheila”

      Aug 31, 2012 at 11:10 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #4.6   Jitty

      Chela is a beautiful and sweet Spanish name! Root meaning is “comfort” or “consolation”, btw.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 2:03 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #4.7   niki

      Chela means beer in Peruvian Spanish. :)

      Me gusta tomar muchas chelas!

      Sep 2, 2012 at 10:17 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #5   deprogrammed

    These parents should talk to Mr. and Mrs. Pushover addressed in the earlier note.

    Aug 30, 2012 at 7:27 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #6   dot

    I’m torn on this one. I grew up as one of 5 kids, so I can totally understand the feeling of everyone getting to the good cereal before you and being left with Fiber Bran. As a 9 year old it was less than amusing. And she did say please, which counts for something.

    Though technically her parents are right, I feel for her. Especially with the name Chela.

    Aug 30, 2012 at 7:59 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #7   havingfitz

    Team Mama and Dada on this one. The primary job of any parent, be it human or animal, is to raise your offspring to be able to survive on their own. That means sometimes teaching them some hard lessons. A friend of mine used to respond to “I hate you!” with “Good! I means I’m doing something right!”

    Aug 30, 2012 at 8:22 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.1   KimH bang

      When my daughter was a teenager and started to whine or complain or ask why I’d made a decision she didn’t like, I’d often say, “It’s my job to make your life miserable.”

      Thankfully, we were both only goofing off one day when I said it because that was the day when she replied, “And you’re doing a VERY good job of it!”

      Mission accomplished!

      Aug 30, 2012 at 8:40 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.2   havingfitz

      It means doing what you know as an adult needs to be done verses what the kid wants. There will be plenty of time to be friends once the kid is grown, but when they’re young what they need is parents.I think you have to love them enough to be okay with the fact that they won’t always love you.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 8:43 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.3   Brain

      Good point, havingfitz. There is plenty of time to be friends once they’ve grown up. And if you do a good job before then, you’re more likely to enjoy their friendship because they’ll be pleasant adults.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 9:42 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.4   juju_skittles

      I knew I was a tough parent the day my little four year old tapped me on the arm and said “I’m sorry, Mummy, but my real parents, the King and the Queen, are coming to get me soon”. It had been a really challenging day, and I can’t tell you how hard I had to bite my lip to stop myself from offering to pack her bags….But we are really close now, and she’s a great kid. Especially for a 14 year old! Boundaries – they work.

      Sep 2, 2012 at 10:02 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #8   Poltergeist bang

    After coupon clipping, the cereal actually only cost $0.50. Mama and Dada made a profit.

    Aug 30, 2012 at 8:42 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #8.1   meri

      there are no coupons for Trader Joe’s products.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 12:18 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #8.2   Poltergeist

      I was not aware that this was from Trader Joe’s. I did not recognize the typeface at first glance.

      It is still completely possible to get discounts by doing other things, though. Steamy, naughty things in the back room. My lack of dignity has saved me many a dollar.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 3:21 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #8.3   The Elf

      I sense a money-making scheme! Pay the kid $2 in allowance. Buy “bad” cereal and one lone box of “good” cereal. Eat the good stuff. Watch child grow horrified as her stash depletes, knowing that the next grocery store run is a week away. Kid posts note. Deduct $3 from piggy bank. Cereal only cost $0.50 because of Poltergeist’s money saving “tips and tricks”. Net profit = $0.50. Do this every week, adds up to $26. Soon that Birthday money from Grandma will be all yours! Bwa ha ha ha ha!

      Aug 31, 2012 at 6:54 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #9   Old timer

    We never had two boxes of cereal open at once. We had to finish one before we could start the new one. My siblings and I had to negotiate what kind to get in the grocery store, usually based on whose turn it was to get the toy (if there was one). Who are all these people fighting over the “good” cereal?

    Aug 30, 2012 at 9:02 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.1   aliceblue

      Same here – 1 box of sugary stuff a week and then Cheerios or Rice Crispies.

      Aug 30, 2012 at 11:52 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.2   zomboid

      man, you had it good. me and my brother got a choice of cereal once a year on our birthdays (it was always crunchy nut cornflakes), the rest of the year it was a choice of porridge or dry hay-like wheat-based cereal

      Sep 2, 2012 at 5:07 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.3   Jessela

      Guess I’m the mean mom, we get one “good cereal” once a month & it’s bagles, oatmeal, or yogurts & bannana the rest of the time. :) but every time I get a box he always says thank you! :)

      Sep 3, 2012 at 11:54 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #10   Jami

    I agree with the parents for the most part, but I want to know if the girl is an only child or has a sibling. There’s a chance this might’ve been meant for them. Some siblings are jerks and will eat things their other siblings like just to deny it to them.

    Aug 30, 2012 at 11:17 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #10.1   Jordie

      Having no siblings myself, I think this note SCREAMS of being an only child! I always thought of myself as a little adult – someone to be taken seriously at all times.

      And oh, how it infuriated me how the “tall adults” blew me off at dinner parties!

      Aug 31, 2012 at 12:37 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #10.2   kermit

      Is the “CC” thing at the top a doodle or is that the sibling to whom the note is addressed, though?

      If it’s a doodle, then parents have a point; otherwise, sorry but I’m on the kid’s side here because it looks like there are many cereal boxes there.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 3:31 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #10.3   The Elf

      She carbon copied Child Protective Services. That’ll learn ‘em.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 6:56 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #10.4   Jami

      @Jordie – You could be right. I’m just thinking it from my POV.

      I’m not ashamed to admit I live with my parents – between mom being handicapped so needing extra help and the economy it just makes sense. One of my 3 older brothers also lives here. He’s 43, a recovered alcoholic with really bad credit, been jobless for over a year. And for some reason he likes to eat things he knows I like that he claims he hates. Like the time I bought a medium cheese pizza for mom and I to share when my car broke down. After AAA fixed it we went home, had some, then I saved the rest for my dinner. What did my brother do? Ate my pizza even though he hates cheese pizza, claims it’s “boring.”

      One Valentine’s mom gave us all a special Valentine’s Hersey’s bar. I broke off part of mine and put the rest in the freezer. My brother gave his to some random girl in a restaurant that he thought was beautiful. What happened when I went to get the rest of my candy later that week? My brother had eaten it. Gave his away, ate the rest of mine.

      And that’s just a couple of examples. So that’s why I wonder if she has siblings. If so and they pull the kind of crap my very childish brother does, then she has every right to write that note. But if it’s to her parents, right on mom and dad!

      Aug 31, 2012 at 10:34 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #10.5   Poltergeist

      I want to kick your brother’s ass, and I don’t even know him.

      Sep 1, 2012 at 8:10 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #10.6   H for Toy

      And the sad thing is, the random beautiful girl in the restaurant probably didn’t even eat hers. I wouldn’t eat any food given to me by a stranger! Unless I was PMSing, then I’d consider the chocolate.

      Then after Poltergeist’s ass-kicking, we’ll get him a job, some food stamps and one of those $50/week rooms where you have to share the bathroom with 15 other guys.

      Sep 1, 2012 at 2:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #11   Smokey

    On good days- Fiber One….On bad days- Resee’s Peanut Butter Puffs!

    Aug 31, 2012 at 7:11 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #12   ddk23

    danm $3.00 for cereal? Either the parents are price gouging, or they have no sense to stock up when it’s cheap.

    lol, totally back team parents either way

    Aug 31, 2012 at 7:18 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #12.1   Mitziginger

      I dream of spending $3 on cereal. Up here the cost is consistently in the $6-$7 range. Forget about the kids, us adults can’t afford to be particular!

      Sep 5, 2012 at 5:30 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #13   Nope

    I disagree with this method of parenting. What’s the point of buying anything you’re not legally required to for your child if you’re just going to taunt and mock them about it? Don’t be a dick. Let’s use an example. Say your neighbor made you a some cookies and you took them to work with you, not a whole lot, just enough for one person. Now let’s say someone else goes and eats them without even asking you or talking to you about it. Wouldn’t you be pissed off? Duh, of course you would. So don’t do it to other people then.

    Aug 31, 2012 at 7:29 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.1   M L


      Oh, whatever. I guarantee you that, if this is the cereal the kid likes, there is an *unending supply* of it. They probably buy it every damn week.

      If they run out by Friday and the kid has to eat toast for two days before they stock up it’s not a tragedy.

      Also: who said the cereal was a gift? I think the whole point of the note is that the parents buy it because the kid likes it, but it was never intended to be “just for her”. Kids gotta learn to share.

      Also also: let’s fix your analogy a bit.

      Let’s use an example. Say your neighbour made you a some cookies. You’re really close, LIKE FAMILY. Now let’s say that same neighbour stops by the next day, sees the cookies that HE made for you, and eats one. Would you be pissed off?

      If your answer is “yes,” you’re kind of a dick.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 8:43 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.2   Skin Man

      ahhhhhh ….no.

      This is communal food, not a gift. How old are you?

      Aug 31, 2012 at 8:49 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.3   Gwada

      Nope, I agree. As far as I can tell, the kid was nice about it and she probably has a reason. The parents could have gone about this in a much more proactive way and actually talked to their kid. Of course, we don’t see the whole story, but to me it isn’t shining glory on the parent’s side. I’d bet someone was eating all the good cereal and the kid wasn’t getting a fair chance – and it would not surprise me if it was mom or dad who ate it all first, claiming their righteous title of “parent” as the reason they get to do anything they want without consequence (that’s how it looks to kids, anyway).

      Sep 3, 2012 at 4:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.4   Rattus

      This kind of cereal is borderline candy and is not a legal requirement of child rearing, so I’m go ahead, taunt away. At least that kid’s getting a bit of a sense of what life is actually like, and that’s good child rearing.

      Sep 3, 2012 at 7:54 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #14   sleeps

    These parents are a lot nicer than I am. I would just move the box to the highest shelf in the top cupboard. Who needs permission now, short stack?

    Aug 31, 2012 at 9:50 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #14.1   Teff7

      Love it!!

      Sep 1, 2012 at 7:42 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #14.2   Rainne

      LOL! I was thinking I’d just sit down and empty the entire box. (And then put the box back, so when she went for it, she’d get a nasty surprise.)

      But this is part of why I don’t have kids.

      Sep 1, 2012 at 11:05 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #14.3   Karen C

      how about empty the box and refill with shredded wheat. hee hee. This child may have been claiming ownership to other items as well so parents had to deal with it. When I left home at 18, I was not allowed to take ‘my’ bike, Dad claimed it was his as he paid for it. I had no problem with that. Parents are dictators even the nice fair ones, and kids obey.

      Sep 5, 2012 at 9:04 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #15   Andrew

    If they were just goofing around and left the note as a joke, then whatever.

    If they really did steal money from their own daughter, then they’re disgusting monsters and there is absolutely no excuse. That’s going to cause trust issues that could last for yours or decades. Kids who are expected to share everything and/or think their property could be stolen are likely to hide and hoard things, be generally distrustful of others and this often leads to stealing and worse. It’s (unfortunately) common in orphanage and foster-home type situations.

    Aug 31, 2012 at 10:14 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.1   Poltergeist bang

      Disgusting monsters? What’s the hell is matter with you? All they did was teach her a lighthearted lesson – that she doesn’t get to make the rules about the food in the house unless she buys the food with her own money. If you really want control over your favorite cereal, that’s perfectly fine. We’ll take $3, and now you’ve bought it for yourself. The money wasn’t stolen; it was exchanged for the cereal.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 11:27 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.2   ClearlyDemented

      Seriously, Andrew, maybe you could be Jami’s therapist. She seems to have some deep-seeded issues about nothing (or is 14) and you seem to have some, let’s just say indulgent diagnoses. I would totally do this to my daughter; if she decided she wanted the $3 back, no problem, but then you don’t get to ‘own’ the cereal.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 3:18 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.3   Yep

      Expecting your kid to share cereal with the rest of the household really is out of line. That’s how those extreme couponers get started; the constant fear of not having enough cereal at such a young age leads later in life to the compulsion to buy enough cereal for the whole neighborhood, just in case.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 3:20 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.4   M Rich

      The sense of entitlement expressed in the note, and in Andrew’s response, is common among those where I work. I work in a prison.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 4:55 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.5   Dr_Know

      Wow ClearlyDemented, lay off of Jami! She’s not the topic of this post and doesn’t deserve to be personally attacked.

      Sep 1, 2012 at 1:32 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #16   Henry

    I think her parents already taught her a lesson by naming her Chela…good God, what is this world coming to?

    Aug 31, 2012 at 1:33 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #17   M Rich

    Doesn’t “Chela” mean student, or disciple?

    Aug 31, 2012 at 4:57 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #18   Dot

    If the parents really charged her $3, they probably made a profit off this. Considering Chela probably put the note on the box because she noticed it was going fast, there likely isn’t a whole box of cereal left. I’d be upset if I was charged $3 for a quarter of a box of cereal.

    Aug 31, 2012 at 6:22 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #19   james

    These parents are assholes. I hope they added the note on purpose for this site and not to actually show their kid, because punishing a presumptuous note by stealing from your kid is HORRIBLE. $3 is a LOT of money for a child! Tell the kid “no, you don’t get to decide who eats this cereal, we share food” — that would be decent parenting. Passive-aggressively stealing from your kid to punish them for a NOTE is massively shitty ‘parenting.’ These people clearly have zero conflict resolution skills and care more about control than anything else.

    Aug 31, 2012 at 6:40 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #19.1   Poltergeist

      The wackadoo parenting police are out in droves tonight!

      Aug 31, 2012 at 9:20 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #19.2   lalalady

      Seriously?? You REALLY believe they took the $3?? I’m sure they didn’t and they were just trying to make a point. A point I remember being made all the time on The Cosby Show.

      Get over yourself.

      Aug 31, 2012 at 9:44 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #19.3   Trainer

      Everyone knows EXACTLY how children should be raised, especially when they don’t have any of their own.

      As for me, passive-aggressive notes are the only way I plan to communicate with my kids – I’ll have used up all my patience and positive reinforcement skills with my clients and their dogs. And I’ll have gotten paid for that, so $3 here and there from my kid is a fair trade.

      Sep 1, 2012 at 10:36 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #19.4   Vulpis

      @Poltergeist… You mean the police for wackadoo parents, or the the parent police that are wackadoo? Kinda seeing both cases around here…

      I can see both sides here. The parent’s side is obvious. The kid..has ‘learned’ that just saying ‘please’ doesn’t do a thing on the ‘important’ (to a kid) things, and the if the adults can simply *order* her to do things, she should be able to do the same thing back, right? (Kid logic–they haven’t yet been slapped in the face that the world is loaded on the side of the adults or otherwise more powerful who make the rules..)

      Sep 3, 2012 at 4:24 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #20   Cat

    There were times in my childhood when this would have been a very appropriate note for me to leave for my brother. My brother who would wander downstairs at one in the morning, eat the entire box of “good” cereal and leave a couple squares of shredded wheat for the rest of us.
    I imagine she just wanted to get a chance at actually having a whole bowl of cereal for breakfast.

    Aug 31, 2012 at 6:46 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #21   Lia

    Lol, I’m sure that Chela’s parents will allow her to exchange control of the cereal back for her $3.00 if she decides it’s not a worthy trade. I think this is simply an intelligent way to prove a valid point to your child– not a monstrous injustice.

    Sep 1, 2012 at 3:16 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #22   RavenMcCoy

    1. $3 for a box of cereal is not outrageous, and as a Trader Joe’s fanatic I can tell you it’s about right. And for $3 at TJ’s you are getting a box of cereal with 100% pronounceable ingredients.

    2. Team Parents. They’re not “monsters,” they are gently teaching their little girl (whose handwriting, by the way, makes me think she has to be AT LEAST a 3rd grader) a lesson about money and the real world.

    Cereal costs money. This is how much it costs. Unless you want to pay for it, you don’t get to claim it all for yourself.

    As someone with a Chela-like brother (who is now 23 and still acting like an entitled little shit), I sympathize with the parents. He was and is a picky eater, and would monopolize things the second my mother got home from the store. Orange juice, jars of pickles, Lucky Charms, Milano cookies. He would sit down and consume the entirety of the bottle/jar/package on his own. And if he didn’t, and he saw you partaking, he would FLIP OUT about how it’s HIS and it was purchased for HIM and blah blah.

    When he was younger, he would physically attack me. When he got older he would just attack the food and run off with it.

    Eventually my mom literally stopped buying these things and told him if he wanted to eat 3 jars of pickles and not let anyone else have any, he could buy them himself.

    Sep 1, 2012 at 4:23 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #23   notolaf

    My mom had a friend who would go out and buy a variety of cereals – everything from Fiber Twigs to Chocolate Frosted Sugar Bombs – take them home, dump them all into the same bin, and give it a good stir. She claimed it stopped the fighting, but I wouldn’t have cared to eat cereal there.

    And what IS that picture…thingy…on Chela’s note?

    Sep 1, 2012 at 6:05 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #23.1   L

      Yeeeeck. Man, that would have killed me as a kid. And, erm, now. I have a bit of a compulsion when it comes to food touching that is still… not so much fun. Makes my head jangle.

      Sep 15, 2012 at 10:34 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #24   Badger

    My parents always eat my leftovers. I have to label them as mine or I have no lunch for the next day. -_-

    Sep 2, 2012 at 12:21 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #24.1   Vulpis

      On the one hand, I can definitely see the problem, but on the other…consider it a compliment to your cooking, perhaps? ;-)

      Sep 3, 2012 at 4:27 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #25   TurnOffTheDarnLights

    Team Mama and Dada!

    Absolutely love it- food isn’t free (even when you grow it yourself- seeds, water and such,) and I think this is a great lesson for her to learn.

    Sep 2, 2012 at 11:22 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #25.1   TurnOffTheDarnLights

      Sorry about the double

      Sep 2, 2012 at 1:40 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #26   TurnOffTheDarnLights

    My parents would have done exactly the same thing, unless I bought it myself.

    ‘Well, you didn’t buy the cereal, so Dad and I went in and took $3 from your savings jar. Now you’ve bought the cereal and it’s all yours.’

    Sep 2, 2012 at 11:50 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #27   anon

    okay. I get that she may have been trying to save some of the good cereal for herself. But come on? Your child expecting that YOU should ask for permission for something YOU bought is ridiculous? I would call their response unfair if she had simply left a note asking that their be some cereal left for her to have in the morning. But thinking everyone in the house should have to ask her for permission for food she hadn’t payed for is ridiculous and their response is entirely reasonable!

    Sep 2, 2012 at 11:47 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #28   Vulpis

    Unfortunately…anyone have odds on whether this lesson ends up being learned as ‘It’s okay for you to take my money and ‘my’ cereal? Okay, then, it must be okay for me to take your stuff and your money too, then!’

    Sep 3, 2012 at 4:30 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #28.1   Erga

      Yeah, unless things are talked over with the kid – we can only assume so…I hope…(I don’t put much stock in parents who reply in note format) – I could see how this would come across more as an abuse of power on the parents side and the kid will learn by example or resent what they’ve done. After all, if her money isn’t her money, why should the parents’ money be the parents’ money? This may lead to trouble without a face to face bargaining of “Cereal or $3.00!”

      Sep 4, 2012 at 1:32 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #29   Katy

    I agree that this changes if the kid has siblings. I grew up with two siblings, and my brother was a real ass about eating literally everything in a box at one sitting. Box of oreos? Gone in one day. Frozen pizza? Good luck. Want toast for breakfast? Hide a few slices of bread. Does it have a name on the box in sharpie because 16-year-old me bought it with money from my summer job? Doesn’t matter, eat it anyway.

    Sep 3, 2012 at 5:33 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #29.1   Karen C

      Buy a bunch of boxes of sugar cereal,oreos,pizza, and watch your brother gain weight. I probably would salt the food a few times just for meanness. Ooh. ick.

      Sep 5, 2012 at 9:17 am   rating: 91  small thumbs up

  • #30   eeepah

    I love my brother. He’s one of my bestest friends now. But that note would have made him eat the entire box 20 years ago. He’s since been blessed with twin boys who are each manifestations of his younger self. Such a nice guy now!

    Sep 6, 2012 at 3:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #31   Nunyo Biz Ness

    And this is how hoarders are made. When kids don’t have the security of ownership, when they feel the world can be taken from them at any moment by the whims of a capricious and selfish parent, once they come of age, they show the world they’ll never be denied or stolen from again. They keep things not because it’s valuable, but because they want to show the world that nobody can deprive them of their rights and goods ever again. They derive immense comfort and even pleasure knowing their house is chock FULL of things parents like these would otherwise control or throw away without considering the kid’s feelings. “Whose cereal is it NOW, assholes?! COME TAKE IT FROM ME NOW, ASSHOLES!”

    If you don’t want your kid to have the damned thing to themselves, DON’T BUY IT FOR THEM or negotiate which things get to belong solely to them and which things they must share. Yes, because kids under 14 are allowed to have jobs and make tons of cash so they can buy whatever they want. *rolls eyes*

    Just remember, she gets to pick their old folks home. *evil grin*

    Sep 7, 2012 at 3:10 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #31.1   notolaf


      That little rant just makes me really long for the good old days when parents owned kids and kids owed parents, not the other way around.

      Sep 15, 2012 at 5:25 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #32   L

    I’m 19. I do buy my own stuff. My mother (who is mildly allergic to peanuts) eats my peanut butter (that I pay for myself) and then NEVER REPLACES IT. And then we don’t have peanut butter for a month until I have spare money to buy more.


    Sep 15, 2012 at 10:24 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #33   daniel

    Wow, lots of folks who know better on here. Whether the note is appropriate depends on contextual factors like age, siblings (if any), whether she has a history of being a bossy/entitled kid, where the piggy bank money came from and whether it was earned with chores, other approaches the parents have tried, etc.

    Since we don’t know any of that, we’ll just have to take the note for what it is: funny.

    Sep 17, 2012 at 10:42 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up


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