So, Tiffany left her boyfriend Nate a cute little note one morning when she left early for work…
This is how Nate responded:
Well, that took an unexpected turn
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If he’s being sarcastic, that’s really funny.
Oct 16, 2012 at 6:46 pm rating: 76
That would be the end of the relationship for me. What a jerk.
Oct 16, 2012 at 6:46 pm rating: 113
I don’t think using a Post-It note to say “I love you” is a waste at all. For that response, I’d have written it on EVERY SINGLE ONE IN THE PACK.
Oct 17, 2012 at 5:11 am rating: 61
Good idea, except write I HATE YOU on every one!
Oct 17, 2012 at 7:03 am rating: 23
I take it that he’s not dating you for your sense of humour.
Oct 17, 2012 at 7:30 am rating: 28
Well the fact that he wasted another Post-it to write his note demonstrates he is just being a smartass. It probably made her laugh, which is the reason she says she loves him. Some people take things way too seriously.
Oct 17, 2012 at 4:02 pm rating: 36
She submitted it here! I think he was being serious.
Oct 26, 2012 at 1:27 pm rating: 2
Wow……Nate sounds like someone who wants to be single. Perhaps he’ll soon get his wish.
Oct 16, 2012 at 6:47 pm rating: 55
maybe he has Asbergers
Oct 16, 2012 at 6:51 pm rating: 8
more like ASSbergers!! amIrite??!??
Oct 16, 2012 at 6:57 pm rating: 50
No, it’s ASS BURGERS. Jeeeeez, the spelling I see here… (shakes head).
Oct 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm rating: 28
have it your way. cooking up one piping hot ASS BURGER just for you, grammar nazi. don’t worry, it’ll be well done.
Oct 16, 2012 at 7:16 pm rating: 19
Oct 16, 2012 at 7:33 pm rating: 18
Oct 16, 2012 at 8:45 pm rating: 64
That’s no excuse. My husband has Asperger’s and he would never respond like that. Just because someone is socially awkward doesn’t excuse them from common courtesy.
**steps off soapbox**
Oct 17, 2012 at 9:58 am rating: 36
Anyone who attributes the response post-it note to Asperger’s Syndrome is a complete and utter moron and doesn’t actually have someone close to them with the syndrome. Jezus, I’m sick of people using “Asperger’s” to explain away bad behavior. That’s just now how it works.
Oct 17, 2012 at 12:06 pm rating: 40
as my sgt. hulka once told me in boot camp, “lighten up, francis.”
Oct 18, 2012 at 9:11 pm rating: 2
Actually, my big brother has Asperger’s and I lived with him for 16 years. That was the first thing I thought when I saw this note because that is very much something he would have done without a second thought.
Oct 31, 2012 at 10:19 pm rating: 3
She’s wasting way more than just post-it notes on this guy…
Oct 16, 2012 at 6:55 pm rating: 96
The guy ‘s a douche-if he’s not joking…
Oct 16, 2012 at 6:59 pm rating: 19
H for Toy
Nate, Shall I compare thee to a summer’s eve…
Oct 17, 2012 at 8:58 am rating: 48
I’m with Hillary: I’m going to HopeHopeHope that he’s just a really funny sarcastic guy. Oh, Nate…
Oct 16, 2012 at 6:59 pm rating: 17
He’s probably introverted and feels like his privacy has been invaded to communicate something that didn’t need to be said in the first place.
Oct 16, 2012 at 7:00 pm rating: 0
Sounds unappreciative to me…
Oct 16, 2012 at 8:36 pm rating: 15
Sounds like someone who doesn’t really belong in a relationship if that’s the case…
Oct 16, 2012 at 9:13 pm rating: 22
Introverted doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate this kind of note. I’m pretty introverted, but a note like this would melt my heart. A note like the one from Nate would make me seriously consider why I’m with the guy. Sounds like he doesn’t appreciate her.
Oct 16, 2012 at 11:10 pm rating: 41
Ah, no. Introverted does not mean asshole. (Though like Hillary, I’m pulling for sarcasm that didn’t translate well.)
In fact, an introverted person would be more likely to prefer a written “I love you” than a spoken one, because it is something they can absorb and respond to at their own pace.
This introvert would love a surprise post-it in the morning.
Oct 17, 2012 at 7:52 am rating: 35
I’m hoping that my husband drops by to read this site, as he sometimes does. So let me repeat:
THIS INTROVERT WOULD LOVE A SURPRISE POST-IT IN THE MORNING. ALSO PANCAKES AND EGGS.
Oct 17, 2012 at 11:11 am rating: 80
The Elf's Husband
Then the introvert should get up earlier…just kidding We’re still cool, right? Honey?
Oct 17, 2012 at 11:30 am rating: 47
Introverts aren’t necessarily shy and unable to process information face-to-face. The most basic definition simply has that introverts need alone time to recharge their batteries, whereas extroverts get energized by being around others.
Oct 17, 2012 at 12:08 pm rating: 15
Oct 17, 2012 at 1:29 pm rating: 9
Please tell me he did not just use a whole post-it note to say that.
Oct 16, 2012 at 7:17 pm rating: 51
It sort of begs for a meta post-it note, don’t you think?
“Please don’t waste post-its on notes telling me not to waste post-its.”
Oct 17, 2012 at 7:53 am rating: 35
This is the first passive aggressive note that’s made me laugh in ages! Love it.
Oct 16, 2012 at 7:27 pm rating: 7
I’m sure he was serious, based upon his use of an entire additional Post-It to communicate his irritation regarding Post-It notes *and* the note his girlfriend left indicating that he jokes a lot. Wait…
Oct 16, 2012 at 7:31 pm rating: 47
Either he is joking, in which case mission accomplished because that is an awesome joke, or this is totally fake and it is kind of pathetic. Leaning towards the second one, since both got linked and his twitter name is jackbastard77.
Oct 16, 2012 at 7:43 pm rating: 9
Actually, the first post-it note is so cheesy it makes me cringe, i’m with Nate.
Oct 16, 2012 at 8:43 pm rating: 16
H for Toy
No booting in the sink, no cheesy love notes. Nola, you are a gem.
Oct 17, 2012 at 9:02 am rating: 9
Ace of Space
Oh, come on, people. Of course he is joking! He wasted a post it note just to say ” don’t waste a post it note”!
That Nate. Such a kidder.
Oct 16, 2012 at 9:27 pm rating: 35
We shall speak anon
True, Nate’s probably kidding. Too bad. I had a great image of Tiffany engaging in a clandestine affair with Nate’s best friend, wearing nothing but post-it notes.
Oct 16, 2012 at 11:10 pm rating: 42
You know, I don’t know if he’s kidding or not, but if I was his girlfriend even if he was joking, I’d be incredibly hurt. Some things aren’t really all that funny.
Oct 17, 2012 at 12:22 am rating: 34
I’m surprised at how many people found this note offensive. I guess Nate and I share a similar sense of humor. I think his response was hilarious. One of my very favorite memories of dating my husband was the first night he tasted my cooking. He surprised me with a visit one night, and I had just cooked a southwestern recipe. He kept insisting that he taste it, and after much hesitation I finally gave up and served him. He took a few bites and said, “It really has an authentic maíz flavor.” With my limited Spanish vocabulary, I had to ask what maíz is. He replied, “Cardboard.” We looked at each other and erupted in laughter. Fifteen years later and he still likes that dish – and if he doesn’t, he does a good job of pretending. I love a sense of humor, and I’d appreciate a response like this so much more than a mushy declaration of love.
Oct 17, 2012 at 9:01 am rating: 40
It’s too bad he didn’t know the actual spanish word for cardboard. Maiz means corn. Very confusing.
Oct 17, 2012 at 9:40 am rating: 12
sleeps, he knows it means corn, which is why he used it to describe the flavor of my southwestern dish. He wasn’t expecting me to ask for a definition, and he just used the opportunity to lighten the mood since he knew I was nervous about cooking for him. After we laughed, he said it really means corn. And my gosh, now it’s even more clear that living with someone with no sense of humor would be painfully exhausting.
Oct 17, 2012 at 9:53 am rating: 59
Verbal jokes are one thing. Most the time it sounds like actual joking. But the written word, unless you put some sort form of “I’m just kidding” on there it’s hard to tell.
Oct 17, 2012 at 10:27 am rating: 5
We’re also missing the context of the relationship. Couples develop their own little ways of making each other laugh that might come off as strange to others.
Oct 17, 2012 at 11:06 am rating: 29
H for Toy
It’s true, Jami. How many fights have there been here on the PAN comments because we lack a sarcasm font and an I’m-just-teasing-you font?
Oct 17, 2012 at 11:10 am rating: 9
The “I’m just kidding” of the post-it pics is that his “don’t waste post-it’s” reply is wasting a post-it.
Oct 17, 2012 at 12:11 pm rating: 10
Indeed, it is actual irony and it’s funny.
I am, as always, stunned by how exceedingly sensitive people are. I had a boss, whom I got along with just fine, come in one morning and say “Jones, you look like shit”. I laughed because (a) I did indeed look like shit; and (b) what a card, actually saying that to an employee. People I related this tale to, however, clutched their pearls, fanned their pursed-lipped faces, and sniffed their disapproval to the high heavens. Get a goddamned grip, people. The higher the level of offense you feel, the sooner that ulcer will kill you.
Oct 17, 2012 at 2:35 pm rating: 20
I’m pretty sure it was a joke. Looking at The Nate and Tiff Show they seem like they’re a solid, comedy couple.
Oct 17, 2012 at 1:14 am rating: 9
He’s emphasizing the fact he makes her laugh every day. Come on, people!
Oct 17, 2012 at 1:52 am rating: 7
How many of us clicked the links and read at least a bit of their blogs?
This may be the most creative (and successful) bid for free advertising I’ve ever seen.
Oct 17, 2012 at 2:00 am rating: 17
Can’t you people take a joke? Obviously she likes a guy with a sense of humor! Quit taking yourselves so seriously.
Oct 17, 2012 at 6:35 am rating: 4
She even said in her note “Thanks for making me laugh every day”. So I’d take it he was being funny.
The article title is misleading.
Oct 17, 2012 at 8:27 am rating: 1
As Star Wars nerds, the common response my wife and I use when one tells the other “I love you” is “I know.”
I suppose if some stranger saw it without knowing us, it would make the respondent look like as much of a dick as Nate does when we look at it without context.
Oct 17, 2012 at 9:24 am rating: 21
Oh, god, we do that too!
Oct 17, 2012 at 10:25 am rating: 2
As you wish.
Oct 17, 2012 at 11:06 am rating: 9
Oct 17, 2012 at 2:36 pm rating: 0
Back in the early days of my marriage, when we were still cute and in love, we did that too.
Now my usual reply when my husband says “I love you” is “Don’t you lie to me, boy.” We’re a bit on the weird side, too…
Oct 17, 2012 at 7:25 pm rating: 10
Why hate on Nate? He said “Please” and “Thanks”. (Btw, I’m pretty sure he responded in jest, which is why she laughs everyday)
Oct 17, 2012 at 10:14 am rating: 7
Wow – such a minimal grasp of humor here at PAN today. I’d marry Nate for his sense of humor alone!
Oct 17, 2012 at 11:40 am rating: 7
We used to take the big post-it notes and fold them into mini garbage cans. I can see Tiff making one, crumpling up his note and shoving it in there, and then leaving another note indicating that she threw it out.
Nate would then respond with a tirade about the destruction of rainforests and how thousands of horses are killed every year to make the adhesive.
Oct 17, 2012 at 1:21 pm rating: 6
2 exclamation marks in one note- that is a form of abuse. Nate’s note is a perfectly valid response. Just look at his signature, he is really struggling to cope and I’d hazard a guess that he hadn’t had a coffee yet.
Oct 17, 2012 at 4:28 pm rating: 2
I’m in the Nate-has-a-dry-sense-of-humor camp. It doesn’t always go over well.
Oct 17, 2012 at 4:33 pm rating: 2
Nate sounds like a douche. Team Tiffany.
Oct 24, 2012 at 6:43 pm rating: 2
I honestly had to check the link to make sure this was not my ex, also named Nate. Same handwriting, same douchey ‘territoriality’ of objects declared his … However, if these had been my post-it notes, he would have had no problem writing on them- or taking them as his own, for no one else to use. — So, yes, Tiff’s Nate may be joking- but people do exist that are the very definition of this post-it note exchange.
Oct 28, 2012 at 9:36 am rating: 3
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