Yes, Lorraine, admits, she works long hours at her job. And no, her mother hasn’t been over to her house in a while…but neither has anybody else. Nice of her Mum to refrain from DRAMA[!!!] about it though, right? (Krystle Gale, I’m guessing you can relate.)
related: So, Mom, what you’re telling me is to cover up with a latex catsuit?
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#1
Sonyabegonya
Did she insert a 3×5 card into the bday card?
Dec 4, 2012 at 12:21 pm rating: 5
#2
redheadwglasses
MOm’s “No drama!” at the end is like saying something mean about someone in the South, then adding “bless his heart.” I.E., you get to say whatever mean thing you want about someone, so long as you end with “no drama!”, “bless his heart,” or “no offense intended.”
Dec 4, 2012 at 12:31 pm rating: 28
#3
t-rex
If a mom is afraid of drama because she sent a card to her daughter’s work to be nice, then the daughter MUST be a drama queen.
So how old did the recipient turn? 10?
Dec 4, 2012 at 12:47 pm rating: 8
#4
H for Toy
I like how she had to send an extra sheet of paper to include the sarcasm and “no drama,” so that if Lorraine decided to display her birthday card, no one would read it and think badly of Mum.
Dec 4, 2012 at 1:48 pm rating: 36
#5
Macca
Buy mum a blank address book, pre-filled-in with your address in the appropriate category. Problem solved – she can’t guilt trip you through that angle. No Drama!!!
(Then again, if she didn’t know your address, she couldn’t find her way to your house. Maybe that is exactly as intended!)
Dec 4, 2012 at 2:00 pm rating: 15
#6
C
But 2 Live Crew specifically instructed me to “save the drama for [my] mama.” Now I am confused.
Dec 4, 2012 at 3:29 pm rating: 34
#7
Mitte
Call me a stone cold b*tch, but I say: dump that mum and find yourself a new one.
Ok, I’m far from having all the facts here on passiveaggressivenotes so I’ll go on and extrapolate from the little I know by saying: a mum who can’t show empathy to a daughter who works so much that she practically doesn’t have time for a social life doesn’t get my vote.
And on a more serious note, this case reminds me of my husband’s mom who never knew that in the last two years, he’s been through psychological harassment at work and huge depression BECAUSE SHE NEVER BOTHERED TO ASK how he was doing and DOESN’T LISTEN to anything he says to her.
All she could ever think and talk about was her own damned self. So now when her number shows up, we don’t answer the phone anymore.
Dec 4, 2012 at 3:42 pm rating: 18
#8
Bex
I agree with T-Rex. I didn’t read anything into that note but if the daughter read it like that then it’s her own inner struggle.
Dec 5, 2012 at 9:54 am rating: 4
#9
kbee
I read it like the daughter did. The emphasis stresses sarcasm, like so: “I had to go out of my way to send this to your work. I’ve been to your house SOOOOO MANY TIIIIIMES I don’t know the number. LAWL just playing, don’t hate.”
Whether or not you read it the same, she felt it was PA. And I agree with her. It wasn’t neccessary, not in a birthday card.
My own mother pulled the same sort of BS on me recently when I emailed her (we are across the globe from one another) to check on the family phone numbers for my new phone. She just replied with a list of numbers; no names, nothing. I asked which number belonged to whom so I could add them to my address book, and when she came to my step-father’s number, she said (and I quote): “That number belongs to the man I’ve been married to FOR 20+ YEARS.” Emphasis hers.
Though I didn’t respond in kind, I wish I had said: “My bad!Didn’t realise he also possessed THE SAME NUMBER for 20+ YEARS and I should have RECOGNISED IT ON SIGHT AS HIS.” (Which he hasn’t.)
In both of these cases, a simple name (or in the OP’s case, a birthday greeting) would have sufficed.
Dec 5, 2012 at 6:55 pm rating: 8
#10
juju_skittles
See, this is where Hallmark is missing out. Why not just make a line of passive-aggressive cards to suit birthdays, Christmases, Easter, New Year’s. Imagine what they could come up with on Mother’s Day! Obviously, there’s a market…
Dec 5, 2012 at 9:13 pm rating: 12
#11
Brian
I must be the only Catholic (or Jewish) person here. Clearly there is a guilt trip intended; but it’s not over much. Just the proper application of maternal guilt towards her children. Mom found a ‘clever’ way of saying “I wish you would call me more, but don’t want to feel like a burden”.
Nothing to get worked up about.
Dec 6, 2012 at 8:38 am rating: 5
#12
v
I have to agree that the card seems fine to me.
Dec 12, 2012 at 12:38 pm rating: 0
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