Enjoy the holidays (without me)

December 27th, 2012 · 29 comments

While at his parents’ house in Indiana for Christmas, Jay says his mother passed this card around to everyone, saying, “Can you believe this?!” The awkward part: Terry (not that Terry) is their next-door neighbor.

Sorry we have lost touch- I guess I have to accept you not wanting to be friends anyomore. Enjoy the holidays-  Janet and Lee, Wishing you jolly holidays and a great new year! Have a wonderful season and all the best in the New Year.  -Terry

related: Happy Holidays! So glad we’re not together!

 

FILED UNDER: Christmas · holiday spirit · Indiana · neighbors


29 responses so far ↓

  • #1   Roto13

    Hmm, I wonder why someone wouldn’t want to be friends with Terry.

    Dec 27, 2012 at 5:51 pm   rating: 36  small thumbs up

     
  • #2   Deb Katz

    Jay’s mother passed the card around? Maybe Terry and Jay’s mother kinda wanna keep the drama going….

    Dec 27, 2012 at 6:01 pm   rating: 19  small thumbs up

     
  • #3   nunavut guy

    HOCKEY SEASON HAS BEEN CANCELLED.

    A sad myopic Canadian

    Dec 27, 2012 at 6:10 pm   rating: 17  small thumbs up

    • #3.1   redheadwglasses

      Sorry, nunavut guy. : ( The Minnesota Wild were going to have a hell of a season, too, so we were really looking forward to it.

      I hate the NHL owners.

      Dec 28, 2012 at 10:59 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.2   t-rex

      I miss hockey.

      Dec 28, 2012 at 3:11 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.3   t-rex

      Fret not Janet! This means you’ll never be asked to pet/house sit!

      Dec 28, 2012 at 3:14 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.4   nunavut guy

      R.W;

      I wish I could make some disparaging remark about the Wild,really trash the team.Run amok with deep cutting insults,crow about how my team would make minced caribou pie out of yours,but,sigh………..I’m a Leafs fan.

      Dec 28, 2012 at 5:50 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.5   Isa

      My condolences, nunavut guy. ;)

      Dec 29, 2012 at 2:49 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #4   kermit

    As tempted as I am to poke fun at Terry, I think he may have a point. Perhaps Jay’s family are one of those people who happily tell you they’d just love to hang out but they’re just sooo “busy” and never follow through.

    It’s fine if they’re not interested in friendship; it’s not fine if they’re leading the person on instead of having the guts to simply say, “no”.

    Dec 27, 2012 at 7:04 pm   rating: 20  small thumbs up

    • #4.1   redheadwglasses

      But to write that in a card is rather immature and ridiculous. It says a lot about Terry’s lousy personality.

      Dec 28, 2012 at 10:59 am   rating: 31  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.2   kermit

      You’re right; it is immature and ridiculous. But it’s also equally jerky to lead a person on and passive aggressively pretend to be their (non-committal) friend.

      In other words, there is something to be said for jerks who do have the guts to say to someone they don’t like, “I don’t like you enough to be friends.” Instead of spinelessly pretending that they do like you.

      Dec 29, 2012 at 6:59 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.3   Winkie

      There’s something to be said against someone who repeatedly ignores polite social cues. You shouldn’t have to tell someone, “hey buddy, fuckoff, I don’t like you!” to get your point across that you aren’t really interested in a friendship.

      Jan 7, 2013 at 4:00 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #5   Ely North

    Terry should stop being such a whiny bitch and just walk next door, ring the bell, and say, “Hey neighbor! Wanna barbecue some burgers and talk about the local sports team?” It takes two to lose touch, Terry.

    Dec 27, 2012 at 7:54 pm   rating: 41  small thumbs up

    • #5.1   kermit

      Nah, it just takes one.

      Dec 27, 2012 at 8:25 pm   rating: 36  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #6   Ace of Space

    I wonder if Terry mailed the card or just dropped it in their mailbox? Mailing the card would be super-douchey.

    Dec 27, 2012 at 8:49 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

    • #6.1   sockpuppet

      no, mailing the card would be funny as hell

      Dec 27, 2012 at 10:52 pm   rating: 38  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #7   Lobster

    Gonna point out that we stopped talking to our neighbors when both of us got very sick, and it never really picked back up except for an occasional, “How are you/your dad?”

    The card is a pretty dick move; why not head on over and just ask what’s up? It might actually be something.

    Of course it helps to have things in common with them. Our neighbors are mostly young couples now with small children. I’m a single college grad with an elderly father. Still, some have been around since we moved in over twenty years ago.

    Dec 28, 2012 at 2:33 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

    • #7.1   kermit

      As just an observer, if one of my neighbors told me they were sick, I’d leave them alone to deal with it, and assume that they’d reach out once they’re better. If you did reach out and still got not nothing, that is a dick move on their part.

      Dec 29, 2012 at 7:04 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.2   Lobster

      That’s interesting! It’s not a response I’d considered. No, we chat and stuff at times. I used to babysit some of the kids before I went off to school, and yes, this was while I was sick. After I went to school I didn’t see them as much, though I still buy the kids gifts when I go places! Unfortunately, both of us are chronically ill so I don’t know how much “better” we’ll be, exactly. I’m less bad, I can quantify that.

      Dec 30, 2012 at 8:14 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.3   kermit

      For me, it depends on how close the relationship was beforehand. If it was more than just the casual “hello”, and they told me that they broke their leg or something, I’d try to help them with household chores (if they agreed, obviously).

      If they’re practically strangers and they told me that they now have a chronic condition, I’d leave them alone. If it was me, I would want to be left alone to deal it with it among my close friends instead of some stranger who suddenly has taken an interest in my health out of pity or something.

      Dec 30, 2012 at 1:16 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #8   The Elf

    There’s some drug ad running on this site now. I categorically ignore advertisements, but the scrolling text of side effects caught my eye. As they rolled by, getting progressively more serious, all I could think of was “Who knew PANs were so bad for you?”

    Dec 28, 2012 at 6:19 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

     
  • #9   Dane Zeller

    Maybe Janet and Lee got tired of your terminal vagueness, Terry. You’re wishing them a Jolly Holiday? Which one is that? Kwanza? St. Swithens day? Columbus Day?

    Dec 28, 2012 at 8:24 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

     
  • #10   Audax

    Nothing like a hot mess of awkward warm from the oven of Drama

    Dec 28, 2012 at 10:26 am   rating: 14  small thumbs up

     
  • #11   redheadwglasses

    Terry just made it perfectly clear to the rest of us why/how she has lost friends: She’s a clueless dipshit. She’s the person who responds to “how are you” with a litany of oversharing.

    Dec 28, 2012 at 10:56 am   rating: 11  small thumbs up

     
  • #12   shepd

    It’s okay, after the idiotic multiple hour fight (including mid-conversation hangups!) I had with my parents because they didn’t get xmas day with my family (instead they got the 27th) I’ve decided I’m not having Christmas with them ever again (especially after they told me “We only give presents if we get them”).

    I guarantee I’ll get a card similar to this and I’ll scan it in just for PAN. :D

    Don’t worry, I’ll still have them over for New Years. Unless they decide to guilt trip that up too.

    Dec 28, 2012 at 3:11 pm   rating: 7  small thumbs up

    • #12.1   Tesselara

      Ain’t the holidays grand?

      Dec 28, 2012 at 5:43 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #13   LaughedAboutIt

    I have actually received a Christmas Card that I had to SIGN for, as it was thought that I missed telling someone Thank you for a previous one. Of course, I didn’t find out the reason by the giver, but by EVERYONE else related, whom the giver complained too. Oh, and I had the email that had the Thank you for the previous one. Relatives….

    Dec 28, 2012 at 6:36 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

     
  • #14   anotherfool

    I don’t like Terry either, and I just now met her: (I heard her sigh in there), “I guess I just have to accept that you…,” is PA in the extreme. If you indeed have to accept it, you whiny git, accept it quietly and move on. Adults do in fact accept changes in closeness every day, and if we don’t like the change, the card we write says “I miss you. Please call after the holiday rush is over.” If they never do, well, they never do and it’s time to find a friend you don’t screw up with so badly.

    Dec 29, 2012 at 1:26 pm   rating: 9  small thumbs up

     
  • #15   anoano

    Terry needs to get a life

    Dec 30, 2012 at 2:32 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

     

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