Paranoid much?

April 3rd, 2013 · 89 comments

Our submitter in Texas said she found the first note “while trying to rearrange a kitchen cabinet that is completely dominated by my roommate’s freakishly large collection of stale old teas.” (A coffee person herself, she’s never “borrowed” any.) But the best part, she says? “This lead me to poke around the apartment and uncover several similar notes. Cheers, roomie!”

Like LITERALLY ALL OF MY FOOD, this, too is not for sharing. Ask first!

Buy your own rice, for f-ck's sake!

You have no reason to be in this drawer. buy your own eye serum; we talked about this.

related: My duh-runk roommate

FILED UNDER: roommates · stealing · Texas

89 responses so far ↓

  • #1   PinkPlaidRibbon

    The last note kind of proves the note-writer’s point. The OP *was* snooping/poking around in her roommates stuff. Also, “we talked about this” drives the point home.

    However, what’s up with the psychedelic colored rice container? Lol

    Apr 3, 2013 at 4:31 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.1   Sarah TX

      Maybe the warning sign should go on the outside of the drawer/box/canister if the roommate doesn’t want anyone to look inside?

      Look, if I’m paying rent somewhere, and I find an unlabeled box, Imma look inside it to see what it is. That is just how I roll. I suspect most people are like this.

      Apr 3, 2013 at 6:29 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.2   PinkPlaidRibbon

      Well the last one says “drawer”, and the stuff looks like bathroom/beauty items, so I would imagine this would be in the roommates’ bathroom or at least an assigned drawer in their shared bathroom? Either way sounds like a personal space.

      As for the rice, it’s probably in the kitchen, and as we’ve seen on many threads on PAN, if you didn’t put it there you know its not yours. And it may well be labeled outside. The OP admits to “poking around”.

      Apr 3, 2013 at 8:35 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.3   Bee

      Maybe not; I seriously know more than one person like this: (though I guess it’s not fair to assume the roommate is crazy, just trying to give another perspective) some people are so paranoid, so POSITIVE that everyone wants their stuff- which is usually worthless in the eyes of everyone else & invaluable to them- that they assume everyone is taking from them, or snooping on them.
      Also, poking around doesn’t mean violating personal space persay: a rice container, a kitchen drawer, a bathroom drawer (IF shared space)-those are common areas usually, & the OP would know the tea was old & stale if the same containers had been up in there for months, kwim? (I know the comment I’m replying to didn’t bring all these observations up; I’m kind of replying to a couple of comments ;). )
      Now the “We talked about this” note: that could be directed toward someone else, or that could be something the OP did use in the past and was asked not to; that doesn’t necessarily mean the OP’s behavior warrants paranoid notes in every box of food, lol. Of course, it may! I’m a note leaver too- if I *really* don’t want someone in something of mine, I will leave a note just to try & keep anyone from getting in it to begin with: not directed as specific people, just…well passive aggressive I guess!
      The sad part is, I don’t even have a roommate. I have kids that leave my favorite turkey unsealed, a husband that will leave the peanut butter unsealed- and crazy occasional guests & extended family that have no problem using my mascara (EEEEEK!), helping themselves to my prescriptions, etc. So, next time they come, they may find a “only trash can convince themselves stealing medication from an uninsured person who they know to live with severe chronic pain is okay. If you touch my medicine I will piss in your bottle of foundation.” So, another guest might would see that and be like “uhhhh what?” though it wasn’t really directed at their past behavior. LOL

      Apr 4, 2013 at 5:25 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.4   Bee

      Although, the note would be rolled up IN the pill bottle, so maybe they deserve to see it even if it isn’t directed at them, LOL!
      I just wanted to point out that I basically just wrote a huge comment starting with how crazy paranoid people will do this, then explained how I tend to do it too. Excellent.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 5:32 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.5   Sarah TX

      Maybe this is why I hated having roommates and got my own place ASAP. I’m not allowed to even open drawers in a shared room?? Is the eye serum shy? Is it where she hides her weed?

      Now I will agree that clearly these particular roommmates are having a serious breakdown in communication that leads to mutual passive-aggressive actions like writing notes or photographing and posting said notes to the internet.

      Apr 5, 2013 at 1:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.6   Jo

      Bee, if your guests are using your mascara and medication, your notes are warranted.

      Apr 6, 2013 at 7:45 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.7   kelllly

      Not necessarily, I lived with someone who arbitrarily laid claim to the best (i.e largest, most convenient and reachable) drawers, shelves and other storage areas in shared spaces, and told people off for using “her” space. This drawer full of crap was probably in a communal bathroom taking up space so that nobody else can use it. “You have no reason to be in this drawer” is bs unless said drawer is in the note writer’s room.

      Apr 24, 2013 at 7:18 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #2   Mitzi

    What I want to know is how the submitter knows that the tea is stale without having snuck a cup or two.

    Apr 3, 2013 at 4:49 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #2.1   Bee Good

      Opened unsealed tea is only fresh for a couple of months then it goes bad… like tobacco or weed.

      Apr 3, 2013 at 4:56 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #2.2   Tom

      Black tea doesn’t go bad over time as long as it’s stored properly. It ages like wine or cheese. Green tea on the other hand, does go stale since it is a fresh, unoxidized plant leaf.

      Apr 3, 2013 at 6:30 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #2.3   Bee

      They probably have observed that the same tea tins have been collecting a layer of dust for 6 months, lol. I have tea here that I ended up not liking that is STILL here. If I had a roommate, they wouldn’t be wrong to assume it’s funky without sampling it first. Or…”Fresh by” date stamps? Lots of ways to know it’s stale without stealing a bag. Gonna go chunk my old tea now while I’m thinking about it.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 5:34 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #2.4   Jami

      I don’t know, I’ve had tea that’s been around for years that’s still good. Either stuff I stocked up on at Big Lots because once they’re out, they’re out for good. Or stuff like the Traditional Medicines that I only use when sick.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 7:35 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #2.5   Beatus Mongous

      I love Traditional Medicinals. That stuff is great. I use Breathe Easy whenever I get a head cold, sinus infection, or chest congestion.

      Apr 5, 2013 at 12:31 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #2.6   NikNak

      It could be what everyone else said, or she was just mad and wanted to insult her roommate’s tea.

      Apr 29, 2013 at 3:10 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #3   Bee Good

    I’m not saying literally; but just kinda like literally…

    Apr 3, 2013 at 4:52 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.1   Judith

      I think she meant it as in, “Like all of my food, this too is not for sharing,” and stuck the “literally” in there for emphasis. So actually, it makes sense.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 9:52 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.2   The Elf

      Using “literally” for emphasis is one of my pet peeves. It should literally only be used for occassions when the subject must be described without exaggeration or inaccuracy.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 10:10 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.3   Renee

      It’s still correct. She means literally, all of it. Not figuratively. The “all” is the part she means to be taken in a literal sense.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 2:51 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #4   valerie


    Apr 3, 2013 at 5:04 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #5   lorfdof

    eye… serum…?

    Apr 3, 2013 at 5:35 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.1   Stuffin'

      I thought it said eye scrum.

      Apr 3, 2013 at 6:38 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.2   SeeYouInTea

      Anti-aging serum, I presume.

      Apr 3, 2013 at 6:45 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.3   Kwyjor

      Aye, serum.

      High comedy, right there.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 11:08 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.4   pooham

      How old are these roommates? Tea, rice, eye serum?

      Apr 4, 2013 at 5:40 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #5.5   Bee

      I have some eye serum- (I had a moment where going to a makeup party made sense. Then they convinced me my eyes were going to sag to my chin. Then I spent a disturbing amount on this jar the size of a sample lip balm..)
      They always say keep it in the fridge because it feels so much better when you apply it: I wonder if hers was in the fridge or the makeup drawer?
      If she had it in the fridge, she should just shut up, but really, if she’s this controlling about who touches her items in what amounts to shared spaces (in my opinion, even bathrooms are shared space: guests use mine all the time. that’s why I do NOT leave anything I place a high personal value on out; if it’s in your makeup bag under the cabinet or something, of course you should expect it to be left alone, but then again, I recently saw a poll where like 90% of people admit to opening the medicine cabinet when using someone’s bathroom they’re visiting- I couldn’t believe that many people do that!!)

      Regardless, I guess when you’re sharing a home with other people who all pay equal amounts to share the home, there has to be stronger boundaries to keep fights from breaking out. So even though a guest might snoop, I suppose you should be able to trust the person you share space with will respect you more than that…

      Apr 4, 2013 at 5:45 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #6   Jolly

    Maybe someday she will learn to pull the thumb out. If the idea of someone looking at your stuff is this horrifying to you, live alone.

    Apr 3, 2013 at 6:07 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #7   H for Toy

    “We talked about this” would make me want to punch her in the throat. I’m not in kindergarten.

    Apr 3, 2013 at 6:49 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.1   thneed

      I think these are actually old notes, originally left by LW’s roomie for the previous roomie (who was either horrible, or really glad to escape, hard to say).

      Apr 4, 2013 at 10:11 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.2   Paloma

      if you don’t know not to use other peoples bath/body products, then you might just be in kindergarten.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 1:29 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.3   Tom

      Yeah, if they talked to you about it, and then you went and did exactly what they asked you not to do, that makes you sound a lot like a 5 year old kid…just sayin’. If someone acts like a stupid child, I’ll treat them like a stupid child and talk to them like a stupid child.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 9:53 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.4   bug

      There are no stupid children, only ignorant children due to poor leadership. Referring to a child as stupid only reinforces the notion that they cannot think for themselves, which makes them all the more likely to never attempt to think critically about others’ or their own behavior.

      Aside from that, full agreement. Act like a child, you deserve to be spoken to like one; it’s often downright necessary.

      Apr 6, 2013 at 5:52 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #7.5   The Elf

      No, there are stupid children. “Stupid” is a derogatory term for someone of below average intelligence. In order for there to be an average, there has to be someone below it (and above it).

      Apr 6, 2013 at 9:47 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #8   Mushroom

    What if they didn’t talk about this, and the submitter is comfortable with how their eyes look?

    If there’s no history of TAKING the roomie’s things, why does this pre-emptive strike sound like a reaction to previous incidences?

    Apr 3, 2013 at 7:05 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #9   Lisa

    I never considered my own tea collection to be “freakishly large.” But the one in the photo is microscopic by comparison. And while I’m confessing… I have a few kinds of coffee too. And maybe a few coffee makers (regular brewing, single serve, espresso – you get the picture.)
    I’m going to go clean out my tea cupboard now…

    Apr 3, 2013 at 7:22 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.1   Lil'

      I’m a Luzianne girl whose suddenly feeling very uncultured.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 12:57 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.2   Marie

      Whatever tastes good, man. I drink Lipton “special brew iced tea” hot in winter, cold in summer. I was recently introduced to Luzianne by an East VA friend. Culture shock.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 3:04 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #9.3   Beatus Mongous

      I don’t think that picture contains the entire collection.

      Apr 5, 2013 at 1:04 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #10   juju_skittles

    Oh, that’s ok roomie. I didn’t want to take any of it… just spit in it. Didn’t we talk about that?

    Apr 3, 2013 at 8:33 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #11   Brian H

    I guess I was really lucky with the roommates I had. I never had a roommate that ate all my food but I never begrudged them using some of my stuff to make a sandwich. Never had problems with the toilet paper, we would steal from the college library equally. I was an only child too but I shared to a reasonable degree.

    The last beer rule applied and was observed. I did have an army buddy go in my fridge and grab my last pudding snack and eat it in front of me. “Not cool dude, you can’t eat the last one.”

    The note in the rice would have pissed me off. First the language and second, rice is that expensive? If there is enough to spare, you can share. It’s not like it’s a $12 steak you planned to have for dinner.

    Apr 3, 2013 at 9:04 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #11.1   Ash

      I think I’ve been pretty lucky with my roommates so far too. Not that we haven’t had minor problems, but it was nothing we couldn’t work out.

      I’ve never had a problem with sharing things. Mostly we keep our food separate and labeled, but when we do decide to share food we use the “first, last, half” rule- if you didn’t buy it or make it, don’t take the first of whatever it is (meaning, don’t open up a brand new box/bag/etc and start munching on it when the owner isn’t there and didn’t say you could), don’t eat the last of it, and don’t take more than half. It’s worked wonderfully.

      Clear boundaries are a great thing when you’re living with another person. It tends to work better when you actually talk about it, though, instead of just hiding notes all over the house and hoping your message gets through.

      Apr 8, 2013 at 2:32 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #12   depro

    Time for a new roomie. The notewriter needs to live alone.

    Apr 3, 2013 at 9:58 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #13   mo

    If it were my house I would now have a new pastime…finding more notes.

    Apr 3, 2013 at 10:23 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.1   Marie

      …and replacing them with funny pictures?

      Apr 4, 2013 at 3:07 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.2   Jenn50

      And leaving new ones in different places!

      Apr 4, 2013 at 3:08 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #13.3   pooham

      What’s this paper in my pillow case? … “Get your own fuckin pillow!”

      Apr 4, 2013 at 5:46 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #14   TXJ

    I have been the note leaver before. I’ll admit it. My college roommate was nosy as hell. To verify my suspicions, I left a letter on my desk in my bedroom, but tucked the flap in a certain way. Sure enough, by week’s end, she had opened it. So, I left a couple notes in a couple places (that she had no business looking) that just said, “Hi, (roommate)!” I was so glad to move out of there.

    Apr 4, 2013 at 1:18 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #14.1   Brian

      A friend of mine had a roommate who would regularly read his mail, claiming he didn’t look at the name before opening it. (But swearing once he realized it wasn’t his he stopped reading.)

      So we mocked up a letter from a non-existant law firm, confirming that the roomate was in violation of postal law; and recommending reporting it to the postmaster general immediately to protect my friend’s right to pursue civil remedies.

      The roommate freaked the hell out. He stole the letter, my friend found the envelope in the bathroom trash. The roommate ended up moving out a month later, but didn’t open any more mail in the meantime.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 11:57 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #15   Cheryl

    Back when I had roommates, it never occurred to me to go poking around in their stuff. Not cool.

    The tea collection is a perfectly reasonable size—to a tea drinker.

    Team Tea Drinker

    Apr 4, 2013 at 3:57 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.1   Splint Chesthair

      Yeah, I would never do that either. Maybe a lot of people who think everyone should share and it’s not a big deal never had the bad kind of roommate that takes and takes and never replaces. You can only go for something to find it gone or empty so many times before you want to punch someone in the face.

      One time I went for a beer in the fridge and found that my roommate and his friend drank the entire six pack I bought, then I was going to get more but saw my roommate had taken my bike. If he had been there at the time, he would have received a serious beating.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 7:45 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.2   H for Toy

      I wouldn’t normally go poking around my roommate’s things, but I might search in common areas for more notes, if I inadvertently found one.

      Dude… everyone knows you don’t take someone else’s alcohol without permission, you never take the last beer without replacing it, and you don’t share a 6-pack that isn’t yours with someone else. You had every right to punch him in the face.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 8:07 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.3   nikki

      These don’t look like super private places. Kitchen cabinets and what looks like a bathroom drawer? When I shared space with my roommates we had designated drawers and shelves in the pantry and we didn’t go using each others stuff without asking, but no one expected completely private space in the shared kitchen or bathroom. If she was digging around in her bedroom I might feel differently but as someone said above, if you’re that weird about people looking in your stuff you should probably get a cheaper/smaller place and live alone.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 9:07 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #15.4   Jami

      It sounds like it just started with her wanting to move stuff around to make room for more items. And only turned into poking around because of the note on the tea.

      If the tea drinker would just either make it easier to put more stuff in the communal kitchen cupboard and not leave stupid, childish notes, then there wouldn’t be any poking.

      Team submitter.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 10:11 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #16   Wench

    I know this is childish, but…. I would HAVE to start leaving little reply notes.

    Apr 4, 2013 at 6:47 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #16.1   The Elf

      Everywhere. In the medicine cabinet, on every single fork (and only the forks), inside the washing machine, on the mattress…… It would be the Perfect Post-It Paradise of Passive-Aggressiveness.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 12:32 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #17   Captain Hampton

    I’m amusing myself by imagining the roommate is an easily agitated and possessive cyclops, which demonstrates the import of the eye serum.

    Apr 4, 2013 at 9:02 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #17.1   pooham

      Have you ever laughed so hard you had tears rolling down your face and then felt like you couldn’t breathe? That’s what I’m recovering from.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 5:52 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #18   ZeaBunny

    I had a crazy roommate who insisted that we label EVERYTHING with our first initial… This included my dining table (a gift from my parents), my desk (also a gift, from my parents), and a chair that I built in a studio art class… she labeled her very ratty recliner, a coffee table, and the TV stand… Because clearly I would forget that I spent 3 weeks building a cantilevered chair and take her ratty recliner when I moved out.

    Apr 4, 2013 at 9:48 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #18.1   H for Toy

      Label it how exactly? Because if someone took a Sharpie to my nice, handcrafted furniture, I’d have to be really, really upset.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 11:19 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #18.2   Lil'

      You should have told her to kiss your backside and then written your initial on it so she would know which one was yours.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 3:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #19   Me

    FYI: It was “talked about” in that we agreed months ago not to share our stuff; the issue itself was never verbally discussed. And the bathroom is shared!

    Apr 4, 2013 at 10:58 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #19.1   H for Toy

      Ah, the submitter! Then you can answer our questions. What kind of container does she keep her rice in? And did she pee on the corner of that note? Are you stealing her eye serum on the sly?

      Apr 4, 2013 at 11:26 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #19.2   Me

      The rice is in a painted tupperware, and I have never used her eye serum! The title of the post is quite accurate.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 12:32 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #19.3   The Elf

      Oh, I hope she didn’t pee on that note! Everyone knows you pee in someone else’s cornflakes, not your own rice. Get with it, roomie!

      Apr 4, 2013 at 12:35 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #19.4   pooham

      And is she an easily agitated and possessive cyclops?
      (Oh no, I’m doing it again!)

      Apr 4, 2013 at 5:55 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #19.5   Iwill FindU

      So you already talked and agreed not to share your stuff/food, and you haven’t been sneaking/ stealing her stuff. So why on earth is she leaving preemptive notes all over the place? Is she crazy? Maybe she has black out and doesn’t know that she’s the one using her own stuff and thinks it’s you? Quickly take her to a doctor!

      Apr 6, 2013 at 7:26 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #20   Lil'

    She says her food is not for sharing, but then says ask first. There is no tea worth the drama, lecture, etc. that would come along with requesting a single, measly cup. Can you just hear the sigh and the “I’ll give it to you this time, but you are gonna have to buy your own from now on. I’m not going to be supplying you..yada, yada, yada” crap that she’s going to be spewing out. I would never, ever ask this chick for anything. I would just make sure my food supply is always much better than hers.

    Apr 4, 2013 at 11:05 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #21   Tard

    Anyone surprised by this has clearly never had a roommate.

    Apr 4, 2013 at 1:45 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.1   Vee

      I actully sympathise with the note-writer. Deciding what you’re going to make for dinner then coming home and finding it gone is not cool. I suggest a safe and a lockable fridge!!

      Apr 4, 2013 at 2:48 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.2   Kay

      Vee, it doesn’t sound like there’s any real-life history of the note-writers stuff being taken?

      Apr 4, 2013 at 2:57 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.3   Lythande bang

      I’ve actually had roommates for he 7 or so years since I left home, and there has never been a note left anywhere, nor a problem with stealing. Maybe I’m just lucky, but I’d like to think most people are rational.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 3:18 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.4   H for Toy

      I’d like to think so too, Lythande, but they make it so difficult sometimes.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 4:19 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.5   Marie

      I had a roommate who refused to turn off the window fan even when I was disgustingly ill. One day two weeks into a cold, I finally just turned it off and she left me a “plz don’t touch my stuff. K? Bye.” note AFTER I left. I don’t know if this lady is a rice klepto or not, but Lord if she isn’t, I feel her pain. That fan almost “accidentally” went out the window.

      Apr 4, 2013 at 7:33 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.6   vanessa

      Oh my god, I had a very similar situation! My freshman year roommate couldn’t sleep without the white noise of a box fan. Fair enough. But does it have to be in an open window when it’s 15 degrees outside?! I was so glad when she tried to dry her clothes with it and it broke. (She got a white noise app on her phone and I could sleep without wearing all the sweaters I own!)

      Apr 4, 2013 at 10:24 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #21.7   Judith

      Uh, not true? I’ve had approximately 30 roommates over the years and none of them left PA notes. Probably because I’ve lived with mature adults.

      Apr 5, 2013 at 8:02 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #22   Writer

    I would put similar notes in her other stuff, forging her handwriting, so when she found them she’d be more likely to realize she’s gone off the deep end.

    Apr 4, 2013 at 2:43 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #23   kbee

    I’m actually just hoping all these notes are aimed at the deranged alternate personalities of the note writer, not the roommate. That would be hilarious.

    Apr 4, 2013 at 3:08 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #24   Ussi

    Maybe that roomie needs to get her own apartment…

    Apr 4, 2013 at 3:20 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #25   depro

    Is that a piss stain on the corner of the note stuck in the rice? How apropos that would be.

    Apr 4, 2013 at 9:10 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #26   Lori

    Being a tea drinker that collection is not freakishly large…if it is than mine is beyond freakishly large :P

    Like so many others posting here I understand the pain of crazy roommates. I made the mistake of moving in with a friend because we got along so well as friends! We got along really well as roommates too…for about the first 5 months.

    Then she started getting weird. It was a two story house, I lived in the basement, she lived on the main floor. I always tried to be super respectful of her space and her stuff, but one day she comes to me telling me how I’m the source of all the stress in her life, and she can feel my ‘tense energy’ through the whole house even when I was just downstairs in my room watching TV. It came down to she basically told me not to come upstairs unless I wanted to use the kitchen or go out the front door (even though most of my furniture was upstairs) and not to talk to her unless she talked to me first.

    Then she got it into her head she wanted the basement so made us swap sections of the house. Only now whenever I walked across the floor I was too loud and kept her up. When I had people over they were in her space and bothered her. When I went out my cat got lonely so I needed to be home more to pay attention to my cat.

    I wasn’t allowed to have kitchen knives because she threatened to kill herself with them if I brought any into the house.

    She liked it freezing cold so even after I moved upstairs she’d come up after me and open all the windows and turn on fans so when I’d get home from work the house would be about 25 degrees inside. I do not exaggerate.

    She never did steal my food though – she was almost obsessive about us sharing food, to the point she’d refuse to eat anything I prepared or bought, even if I’d offer to share. She’d buy duplicates of things just to have her own. What she did steal though was my cat’s food…I buy a better quality, rather expensive food, and I noticed cans disappearing at a rapid rate….she was taking two or three cans a day to feed to her cat because ‘cat food wasn’t on sale and she did’t want to buy her own’ so I had to start hiding cat food in my room so she wouldn’t use it all.

    I could keep going on and on like this, this sort of crap went on for about 6 more months…anyway, I moved out the instant the lease was up and will never, ever move in with a friend EVER again.

    Apr 5, 2013 at 1:44 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #27   Nope

    Awww man, but I REALLY need eye serum and I don’t want to go to the store to buy some and/or don’t have the money for it! -Said no one ever….what is that shit even for?

    Apr 5, 2013 at 10:03 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #27.1   Jami

      Wrinkles, bags, and dark circles under the eyes.

      Apr 5, 2013 at 12:17 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #28   Nadine Lumley

    Complaining roommates
    and the innocent roommates they accuse of things
    need to remember something:

    Your friends come over and do crap behind your back trying to get you in trouble with your roommate.

    Look into that aspect please.

    Not saying I ever did something like that…

    Apr 5, 2013 at 1:42 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #29   Winkie

    I’m so glad I live with a normal, sane roommate who doesn’t get their knickers in a twist about sharing food, least of all FUCKING RICE, for god’s sake.

    Apr 5, 2013 at 3:29 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #30   Raichu

    Tentative team note-writer. I think some information was left out of the submission. The note-writer says they “talked about this” which leads me to believe something happened that the submitter didn’t mention. And after talking about it if my roommate continued to snoop around in my stuff or take my food then I’d be leaving notes too. Not worth the bother of a second useless confrontation and maybe snark would be more likely to do the trick.

    Fortunately, my roommate respects my privacy and property. I can’t imagine how annoying it would be to live with one who doesn’t >_>

    Apr 7, 2013 at 9:10 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #30.1   Jami

      The submitter already cleared that up above in #19.

      Apr 7, 2013 at 9:28 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #31   Megan

    I can sympathize with the note writer here, but I’m not automatically saying that it’s justified. Notes IN food containers is taking things pretty far and I would say should only happen in egregious cases. I personally had lived with a klepto for a year. She took EVERYTHING of mine. EVERY GOSH DARN THING. To this day, more than 15 yrs later, I still find things of mine with my name or initials on it. I was WAY PAST the point of my initials on every single CD I owned… I’m talking every BARRETT!! My HAIR BRUSH had my name on it in 2 places, as did my back up brush. I had to put notes in my medicine drawer saying “I’m Poor TOO, go by your own DAMN ADVIL” after she cleaned me out of a 500 count bottle in ONE WEEKEND!! I put notes in my Kleenex box telling her to get her own Kleenex after I found myself with a bad cold and an empty box where a full box had been… and the box I had stored away was gone too! The absolute last straw was when I went to my parents house for a night at the last minute and came home bone tired dying to get to bed, only to lay down and realize something was very wrong- MY PILLOW!!! She had taken my pillow out of my pillow case and replaced it with her old ratty lumpy piece of crap! I just about LOST MY MIND!!!

    You cannot conceive the full irritation of the kleptomaniac roommate until you’ve had your PILLOW STOLEN RIGHT OUT OF YOUR PILLOW CASE!!

    Apr 12, 2013 at 12:43 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #32   Steven

    Looks like me either that the poster acutally have stolen stuff before or the person that her roomie used to live with does.
    People who thinks this is very paranoid actually looks fine to me. My girlfriend has housemates that takes stuff wihtout asking all the time.
    Can you realise the frustration when you buy a box of rose tea buds and find out after a few days when you want your first try one the tea that there is only 2 buds left?
    or when you bought a wine to celerbrate on your friends birthday only to realise that morning that only the empty bottle is left in the fridge?
    or when you have a very expensive cleanser as a birthday gift and find out it is half empty after a roadtrip away?
    Or bought a new pair of heels and when you wanna wear it to a party the first time to find out it has already been worn many many times?
    My girlfriend now keeps all her belonging in my house because of this
    If you have been in the situation I believe you will be more paranoid than her.

    Apr 18, 2013 at 11:18 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

  • #33   Sarah

    My eye serum is expensive. I’d be pissed if someone kept using it without asking. When I first went to buy it the salesgirl brought me over to $115 container smaller than my lip baum. I looked at it…then asked her for something else. It got so that something that was $45 lo0ked reasonable and that’s the one I got.

    May 1, 2013 at 11:30 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up


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