Grandma, this is not your house!

October 2nd, 2013 · 78 comments

Precious in Texas says that whenever her mother comes over to visit, “all she wants to do is clean my messy house.” One day, Precious says, her daughter, Allison — along with Allison’s 5-year-old cousin — decided to take matters into their own hands, writing this warning and handing it to their grandma “fast mail.” As for Grandma’s response, says Precious, “I had to read it to her because she was laughing so hard.”

Dear grandma this is not your house so stop cleaning it or else we will lock you in a safe and open it the day after. Did you like my [choice] of fast mail? P.S. Send the envelope back I don't have many

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FILED UNDER: cleaning · family · Grandma · kids · not-so-veiled threats · p.s.


78 responses so far ↓

  • #1   sunshynegrll

    One is never too young for threats.

    Oct 2, 2013 at 7:28 pm   rating: 16  small thumbs up

     
  • #2   Qua

    Run Grandma Run !!

    Oct 2, 2013 at 8:04 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

     
  • #3   Susan

    Who named these people? How is Breiydyn even pronounced? Braden? Breyeden?

    Oct 2, 2013 at 8:04 pm   rating: 33  small thumbs up

    • #3.1   JK

      It’s “By: Bredyn and Allison.” Not Breiydyn. Condemn her parents for naming her something that looks like it ought to be pronounced “breadin’” but let’s spell it right. I’m guessing it’s an equivalent of Braden with an effort to feminize it. Maybe Allison misspelled it, but I’ll give her some credit for knowing how to spell her cousin’s name. Not a shock that if grandma named one kid Precious that her granddaughter would be named something ridiculous.

      Oct 2, 2013 at 9:31 pm   rating: 43  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.2   r

      Actually I think Allison misspelled her cousin’s name. If you look up in the right hand corner it’s “Breidyn.” Which would make it bray-den or maybe even bree-den. Personally I think with the “i” it’s a very pretty name. Visually, at least.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 12:03 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.3   The Elf

      Needs a few more “Y”s, a number, internalized capitalization, or a misplaced apostrophe to truly be uneek and cr8tve. I’m also disappointed in Precious, who needs to take a few lessons here from Breidyn’s Mom. Shouldn’t it be “Alysin” or “Alliesynne” or at least “AlliSon”. I mean, get with the program! You don’t want your kid to go through life without having to constantly correct the spelling and pronunciation of her name! And imagine – what if there was someone in the tri-state area with the same name as your precious snowflake? Oh, the horror! It would take away from her uniqueness! It’s not too late to change it! She isn’t 18; she can’t object!

      Oct 3, 2013 at 9:36 am   rating: 32  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.4   Jdaniel

      HOWEVER you spell it, it rhymes with Shaniqua.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 5:08 pm   rating: 50  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.5   clarf

      Are you kidding me?? “HOWEVER you spell it, it rhymes with Shaniqua.” got SEVENTEEN upvotes? Gross, y’all. Unless there’s some layer of sarcasm that’s flown over my head.

      Oct 5, 2013 at 1:34 pm   rating: 14  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.6   Jdaniel

      Clarf (if that is your real name)…

      That was my Aggressive politically incorrect (API) sarcastic side that spoke without the express prior written consent of my Passive politically correct (PPC) side. Please accept my apologies if you were offended.

      My API side says welcome to Realville and to feel free to laugh and p*ss off.

      Oct 5, 2013 at 3:08 pm   rating: 16  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #4   1deprogrammed1

    I wouldn’t even bother giving these two ingrates a lump of coal for Christmas.

    Oct 2, 2013 at 8:33 pm   rating: 16  small thumbs up

    • #4.1   Goldie

      What’s your address? I want to stop by for a quick inspection. I’m going to come in unannounced, rearrange everything in your house to my liking, clean everything because you didn’t do it well enough, sigh, roll my eyes at your lack of housekeeping skills, and come back the next day to do it again.

      Oct 2, 2013 at 9:46 pm   rating: 77  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.2   Wench

      @Goldie: When you’re done with 1deprogrammed1 can you stop by my house and do an inspection/deep clean? I’ll put up with (read: ignore) any amount of sighing and eye rolling in exchange for a break from housework
      :-)

      Oct 2, 2013 at 10:19 pm   rating: 53  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.3   1deprogrammed1

      @goldie, if their mother isn’t bitching, little kids be damned. Then again, goofy mom actually forwarded this letter so the true passive/aggressive person is the mother. My kids never disrespect their grandparents and call it funny or cute.

      Sounds like you have mother-out-law issues.

      Oct 2, 2013 at 10:44 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.4   Tom

      Sometimes I wonder if the only way some kids won’t be found disrespectful by adults here is if they are completely silent, stand completely still, and eat anything that is handed to them silently. After all, proper children do not have emotions and can always control themselves 100% of the time. Robot children are the new gold standard.

      Oct 2, 2013 at 11:16 pm   rating: 73  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.5   Nicole

      i LOVE PA on PA Notes! i’m with you, though. damn, i think this is hilarious. i also find it funny when my 4yo tells me to “get over it,” not in context, or calls people in other cars bad drivers because she hears me mutter in traffic, or calls the barkfest next door “StupidDog,” like it’s the devil dog’s given name. she’s also super-polite and aware of manners and when people don’t have them. kids repeat and take to heart what they hear from mom and dad…i’d bitch about my mom if she cleaned my house all the time, too; it’s my job. in the kid’s eye, it comes from a place of truth and honesty, and Grandma NEEDS to know this. fortunately, Grandma seems to have a decent sense of humor.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 12:15 am   rating: 24  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.6   Nola

      Where I come from children (attempt to) listen to parents, not write down demands. Personally it wouldn’t have even crossed my mind to write and leave notes like this, that tells grown-ups how to live their life. I find it so odd.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 6:38 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.7   Tesselara

      Robot children have always been the gold standard! There’s some sort of psychological phenomenon that affects people (possibly after they hit a certain age) wherein their entire childhood gets totally re-cast by golden-haired angels.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 12:59 pm   rating: 20  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.8   Raichu

      Nola, you have a point except for the part where it wasn’t Grandma’s house she was cleaning.

      Deprogrammed, I have to say I think you’re overreacting quite a bit. 0_0

      Goldie, can I be next in line after Wench? You can even bitch at me for how bad my housekeeping is!

      Oct 3, 2013 at 2:03 pm   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #4.9   sw

      I was wondering how the humourless commenters would choose to be offended by this cute, funny, harmless note. I was hoping someone would call the kids sociopaths for threatening to lock grandma in a safe, but I guess we’re just going with “disrespectful to grandma”? A little weak.

      Bonus points to Nola though, for bragging about having superior manners to a five year old.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 5:21 pm   rating: 34  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #5   Bitchy The Dwarf

    grandma needs to adopt ME- my house always needs a good cleaning!

    Oct 2, 2013 at 9:08 pm   rating: 28  small thumbs up

    • #5.1   The Elf

      This. Exactly. Grandma, if you want to clean so badly, I’ve got a few rooms that need a good once-over…….

      Oct 3, 2013 at 9:37 am   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #6   Cartwright

    Sounds like mom has been talking smack about grandma in front of her children. And we wonder why kids are so disrespectful.

    Oct 2, 2013 at 9:34 pm   rating: 18  small thumbs up

    • #6.1   H for Toy

      Maybe they’re just tired of grandma always being too busy cleaning to spend time with them. My kids think the sole purpose of grandparents is to play with their grand kids. No idea who put that idea into their heads…

      Oct 2, 2013 at 10:31 pm   rating: 40  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.2   Rachel

      I don’t wonder why kids are so disrespectful. It’s because they copy what they see. So I’m guessing they learned it from Mum, who learned it from Grandma.
      I would have assumed that this came from seeing their mother follow their grandmother around asking her to stop cleaning and put her feet up and relax because it’s not her house so she doesn’t have to do anything. Like I used to do with my mother. Now she has taken me at my work and does nothing when she comes to visit. Lazy git.

      Oct 2, 2013 at 10:49 pm   rating: 23  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.3   Tom

      I wouldn’t be surprised if grandma “cleaned” their rooms. Some people’s idea of cleaning involves throwing things out without asking you first. Other people’s idea involves rearranging things without your permission.

      I’d be ticked off at stuff like that too. We don’t know what Grandma did, but the whole story is never told in these notes. It’s possible they actually have a reason to be a little upset.

      Oct 2, 2013 at 11:20 pm   rating: 44  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.4   Seanette

      And grandma’s invasions of privacy and fault-finding aren’t disrespectful to mom?

      Oct 3, 2013 at 6:11 am   rating: 23  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.5   H for Toy

      Maybe Tom is right. Maybe grandma cleaned, and that’s where all her envelopes went.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 6:37 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #6.6   Redheadwglasses

      ITA shanette. Grandma deserved to get called out.

      Oct 4, 2013 at 12:29 am   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #7   petty bee

    some of you really need to run out tho the store & buy a sense of humor

    Oct 2, 2013 at 10:00 pm   rating: 35  small thumbs up

    • #7.1   Troll

      Their sense of humor was fucking delicious.

      Oct 2, 2013 at 10:35 pm   rating: 17  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.2   kat

      did it taste like chicken^

      Oct 2, 2013 at 10:39 pm   rating: 1  small thumbs up

       
    • #7.3   H for Toy

      No, it tasted like Outback bread.

      Oct 5, 2013 at 5:17 pm   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #8   sockpuppet

    maybe Grandma sucks at cleaning…my mother likes to show up and start cleaning my kitchen right when she walks in the door—I end up with half-dirty dishes in my cupboards that I have to redo, and they are all in the wrong place. Also, she’s ruined colored shirts when she throws them in with the whites when she decides to help me with my laundry. Oh yeah, and I can’t ind bills or other things like keys because she shoves them into random cabinets. So, I don’t blame this family for wanting the lady to keep her hands off

    Oct 2, 2013 at 10:44 pm   rating: 32  small thumbs up

    • #8.1   Jeanette

      True! I absolutely adore my Step-mom; she’s really like a best friend in a lot of ways. But she cannot stop herself from cleaning. Every time she visits I spend days searching for random things because she’s decided the egg timer should go in the food pantry for some bizarre reason. It’s been a good-natured family joke for years. If Grandma is laughing at this note, then I’m sure this has been a joke between them for years and they just didn’t realize that the kids would take it so seriously.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 6:28 am   rating: 20  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.2   JoDa

      The moving things bit always bothered me, but nothing quite tops my mom on this one. I used to be blind as a bat (yay LASIK), so I always kept my glasses close at hand when I took them off – to shower or sleep. My mom would come into my room “to see if I was up yet” (from the time I started wearing them at 7 through adulthood, whether I was visiting her or vice versa), see my glasses within striking distance of my hand, and “move them to a safe location” (never the same “safe location” twice). Here’s the thing, mom…I CAN’T FIND MY GLASSES WITHOUT MY GLASSES. She also had a tendency to do this first thing in the morning (early riser her versus late sleeper me), and then leave the house for a walk or to run errands or whatever. So I was stuck sitting in bed yelling “mom, mom, where are my glasses!” until she returned. The one time I attempted to find them myself, I tripped over something on the floor and banged my head on the dresser. Even that didn’t stop her. I know mom, glasses are expensive, but so is treatment for a concussion!

      Oct 3, 2013 at 12:39 pm   rating: 37  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.3   Tom

      JoDa, that is just….shockingly self-absorbed of her. I’m sorry. Maybe you don’t feel SO bad about it, but I’m saying the “I’m sorry” anyway.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 1:26 pm   rating: 10  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.4   Raichu

      Yeah, I have to agree with Tom on this. That’s actually pretty bad behavior.

      Sockpuppet, that sucks. I’d be mad too. It used to annoy me when my ex-roommate (she graduated last year and moved out) washed my dishes because I’d find bits of food on them and have to re-wash them. This year I told my roommate that I prefer to take care of my own stuff.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 2:08 pm   rating: 4  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.5   JoDa

      The serious blindness didn’t kick in until I was a teenager, and I’ll admit that I was careless with glasses before that and broke a few pair. However, yes, in my adulthood, it was infuriating. She also wears glasses, but was never as blind as me (it took *2* rounds of LASIK to get me to 20/40), so she always set hers aside away from her. I understand that she was trying to keep me from breaking them. But I do agree that, especially when I was an adult, sleeping with them in the same place I sleep with them the 360 days a year she’s not visiting me, she should have left well enough alone. And that the time she found me crying on my OWN bedroom floor with a nice goose egg should have been a wake up call that I *NEEDED* them to be that close. Seriously, I couldn’t even read a book without them, even though I was nearsighted.

      And here I am buying her 2% when she visits because she hates skim…

      Oct 3, 2013 at 3:42 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.6   K

      When I was a little kidlet (by which I mean up until the end of high school), my dad would throw out any “clutter” left outside of our rooms. Including glasses, homework, prescriptions- ugh. Wasn’t until I had my own place for a long time that I actually felt comfortable leaving anything outside of my bedroom.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 11:52 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.7   Raichu

      You like a different kind of milk from your mom?

      I honestly find this really curious. People are very specific in their tastes, and everyone I’ve talked to about this prefers whatever milk they were raised with.

      I prefer skim but 1% is fine. Can’t stand 2% – tastes super nasty. My mom raised me on 1% and even as a child I hated 2%.

      Oct 5, 2013 at 9:01 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.8   JoDa

      Interesting, Raichu, though I will say (and have said elsewhere here) that my mom is like a toddler when it comes to food…there’s about 10 things she will eat, and they’re all pretty bland/stereotypical of picky eaters.

      I was raised on whole, but it was only ever with school meals (where my mom got to select my milk) or on cereal. So I didn’t consume much milk after elementary school until I “rediscovered” it late in college. I went straight to skim, but I think my transition was helped by deciding that conventionally-produced beef products were a no-go (hormones, ick, only reinforced by my brief stint working at USDA), so I went straight to *organic* skim, which is so much better (yes, it tastes better). These days I buy raw (organic), and my mom insists that the 2% she uses at her doctor’s insistence tastes like whole in my house (duh…there’s flavor when animals and their food product are raised well and processed only as necessary).

      Oct 6, 2013 at 9:22 pm   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #9   kelly

    The best part is ‘send the envelope back, I don’t have many’.

    Oct 2, 2013 at 10:46 pm   rating: 53  small thumbs up

     
  • #10   Eliavy

    I’m always happy when my mom visits and cleans while she’s here. Free cleaning!

    Oct 3, 2013 at 12:42 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

    • #10.1   Raichu

      As long as she’s respectful of your stuff, doesn’t change your decorating scheme, and does a good job…then yeah! I’d be happy too :D

      Oct 3, 2013 at 2:16 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #11   Kim

    I thought this note was adorable. But hey, if you are so angry at the world and your life that you need to pick it apart, call the kids spoiled, the mom a piece of crap, or even get to the point where you have to criticize the way their names are spelled, well enjoy that stick and judge away.

    The rest of us are smiling a little at how fun kids can be.

    Oct 3, 2013 at 3:22 am   rating: 43  small thumbs up

    • #11.1   Redheadwglasses

      I agree!

      Oct 4, 2013 at 12:31 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #12   Gladystopia

    Personally, right about now I’m wishing I had kids so they could tell their grandma to leave their momma’s stuff alone and stop picking her to pieces. Because having that convo MYSELF with my mom? Total nonstarter. I would prefer not to be killed, evicted, or locked in the Millipede Bathroom (the one in the basement.)

    Oct 3, 2013 at 5:21 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

    • #12.1   Kupo

      My initial thought when I read “Millipede Bathroom” was a bathroom decorated with these: http://www.whatisblik.com/shop/explore/centipede

      I was jealous. And then I realized what a bathroom in a basement called the Millipede Bathroom would most likely be. Not so jealous.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 8:50 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #13   Nola

    Maybe she wrote this because she heard her mom complain about it over and over again. Not very nice.

    Oct 3, 2013 at 5:54 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

     
  • #14   madrugada

    Whatever Allison’s cousin’s name is – Breidyn, Bredyn, Braaaaaydhan – she will be cursing her parents in years to come for giving her a yoo-nique spelling of Braden. But what can one expect from a family who has a female human named Precious?

    To the point, though, I don’t give a whit about Grandma’s cleaning. The kids? I’m sure (I hope) they were only kidding, and I doubt the house has a safe large enough to fit Grandma. But it is disrespectful to threaten to lock her in the safe and not let her out till the next day.

    Kids, if you really want Grandma to relax (as opposed to your just being annoyed by her cleaning), try something like, “if you don’t stop cleaning, we will make you sit on the couch, put your feet up and watch movies with us. No cleaning!” Lame, but at least it’s not so nasty.

    Oct 3, 2013 at 6:14 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

    • #14.1   The Elf

      What I find most funny about your post is the assumption that “Braden” is just fine.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 9:47 am   rating: 17  small thumbs up

       
    • #14.2   Lil'

      Whenever I hear the name/nickname Precious, my mind always goes to the pet whale in Ice Age: Continental Drift. I really need to watch more grown up films.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 10:46 am   rating: 5  small thumbs up

       
    • #14.3   Raichu

      You’re right, Madrugada. Normal families only name their male humans “precious”.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 2:21 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #15   Lil'

    I think they were just trying to be funny. Grandma probably doesn’t know how to relax and they wanted her to put down the Swiffer and play with them. She had a sense of humor about it. If they had left out the “This is not your house” part, it wouldn’t have sounded so sharp. I don’t think it’s a big deal. My five-year-old thinks his grandparents’ only job is to play with him when they come to our house, and I would rather them do that than clean. Fortunately for us, my mother feels the same way and my mother-in-law is coming around, although she is still the one most likely to scrub a bathroom,wash my dishes, or start my dinner. They both know all his favorite super heroes and interests and play with him for hours. The kids just wanted her attention. That doesn’t make them out of control brats.

    Oct 3, 2013 at 8:05 am   rating: 17  small thumbs up

    • #15.1   H for Toy

      No, it just makes them kids. That, and when you get more than one kid together, then tend to think of bigger ideas together than they would on their own.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 8:20 am   rating: 15  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.2   KittenPlaysTheViolin

      ^^^^^ Think big or go home. Personally, I don’t think I would have stopped at lock Grandma up in a safe overnight. See, you have to establish rules. You break a rule, it’s a night in the box. Now that’s conditioning the people around you. But then again, these kids are probably too young to have seen Cool Hand Luke.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 9:44 am   rating: 10  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.3   H for Toy

      *sigh* Paul Newman was beautiful.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 10:46 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

       
    • #15.4   Raichu

      When I was about six my best friend and I would make elaborate plans to get up in the middle of the night and run away together. My parents were never alarmed, and we never implemented our plans.

      The people freaking out over the “threat” to “lock her in a safe” need to remember that these are five-year-old children.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 2:23 pm   rating: 18  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #16   Legally K speaking

    My grandmother, who has sadly passed on, would visit me when I was a young mother. She picked up clutter, did laundry, swept, cooked…it was friggin’ great. She was funny, laughed a lot and would still clean up whenever she came over.

    She couldn’t sit still, not even when she was in her 80′s. She was a wonderful gardener and probably would have been outside planting a vegetable garden in my backyard for me if I had let her. I learned a lot about keeping a house from her. Maybe this family should take a hint….

    Oct 3, 2013 at 8:48 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

    • #16.1   Fritz-the-Cat

      Yeah… but there is a difference between getting help when you want and need it, and getting “help” when you are perfectly fine the way you are.

      And as long as the grandma in THIS story is laughing about the letter, I’m pretty sure THIS grandma would frown upon the people calling her grandchildren “disrespectful” or worse.

      Oct 4, 2013 at 12:01 pm   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #17   My name is Princess!

    I had my mother and two aunts visit me for my Birthday this year. They cleaned the house, watered the garden, fed the chickens and made breakfast all before I managed to roll out of bed.

    I’d have told those girls to zip it unless they want to help clean. 5 year old kids can wash dishes after all.

    Oct 3, 2013 at 9:01 am   rating: 3  small thumbs up

     
  • #18   The Elf

    I understand Grandma’s need to clean if she’s a neat-nick and Mom & co are more casual housekeepers. I’m assuming the place isn’t biohazard level of filthy or Grandma isn’t a compulsive cleaner and a germaphobe who uses cleans everything with bleach, either of which would change the scenario quite a bit. But, Grandma, look the other way and enjoy your grandchildren. It’s a special relationship, one that doesn’t need to be pushed aside for vacuuming.

    Oct 3, 2013 at 9:40 am   rating: 12  small thumbs up

     
  • #19   Ace of Space

    I had this same problem with my mother, but the kicker was that she was a hoarder! I can’t remember all of the arguments we had on the subject of hypocrisy.

    Oct 3, 2013 at 10:33 am   rating: 8  small thumbs up

    • #19.1   H for Toy

      Maybe your house was just simply less overwhelming to clean, and she needed to feel like she accomplished something.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 10:49 am   rating: 16  small thumbs up

       
    • #19.2   FeatherBlade

      There is something about cleaning other people’s houses that is far more satisfying than cleaning your own.

      My mother explained it as having the satisfaction of a well cleaned house and then being able to imagine that it stays that way, because you aren’t around to see it get messed up.

      My house is so much cleaner and nicer to be in after she visits. ^_^

      Oct 3, 2013 at 4:45 pm   rating: 9  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #20   Madrias

    I can kinda understand this one. Dad got in many arguments with my grandmother (mom’s side of the family, at that) because she’d show up, “clean” everything (by throwing everything that looks out of place in a big black garbage bag, including things that were important), then tell us that we needed to clean more often.

    I finally had enough when she kept doing this, even after Mom died from cancer, and finally told her “Grandma, please stop cleaning the house. I can’t find anything after you clean, but I can find it when you leave it alone. Cleaning is not the same as throwing everything away.”

    She got the hint. Specifically because one of the things I couldn’t find was a picture of my mother (small picture and frame) that I had in my room. She died when I was 6, I was only 8 when it went missing. No, I wasn’t fully over it yet, and that didn’t help.

    Being in my 20′s now, we didn’t see much of Grandma after that. Guess she realized that the two surviving males of the family appreciated the calm that comes from not having to tear the house apart (making a bigger mess than it ever was before) before cursing her name in heated rage because we can’t find what we were looking for and we knew it was in that trash bag that she took with her to her house to throw out.

    Oct 3, 2013 at 1:57 pm   rating: 11  small thumbs up

    • #20.1   Raichu

      She put all that stuff in a trash bag and took it away with her to toss?

      She would not be allowed back if it were my house.

      That’s so awful about the pic of your mom.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 2:33 pm   rating: 17  small thumbs up

       
    • #20.2   Madrias

      Oh, the worst part wasn’t when she would clean. It was always worse when family friends would come over to help out, and in the process start cleaning us out of interesting things. After all, Dad and I were the black sheep of the family, we didn’t lie, cheat, steal, or gamble our way to success, so they figured on stealing everything.

      Oct 3, 2013 at 7:33 pm   rating: 3  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #21   Jdaniel

    Mom would show up in my home to “help out with the cleaning”. Then she would find the Hustler and get mad at me.

    Oct 3, 2013 at 5:19 pm   rating: 6  small thumbs up

     
  • #22   Redheadwglasses

    My grandma and aunt would let themselves in to my cousin’s house and clean to “help” his wife. They were 18 and 19 and had a baby and worked full time. I found out that cousin’s wife was furious that they did this. I was young and asked what the problem was, sounded like a good deal to me. Mom said that it was telling the wife that she wasn’t keeping a clean enough home, it was dripping in judgment. Knowing my grandma and aunt (dad’s family), mom was right.

    Oct 4, 2013 at 12:39 am   rating: 14  small thumbs up

     
  • #23   Redheadwglasses

    Alternative: the mom isn’t complaining about grandma to the kids; rather, maybe she says to her mom, in front of the kids, “mom, relax! Stop! I was going to do that later tonight. Just sit down!”

    Oct 4, 2013 at 1:55 am   rating: 7  small thumbs up

    • #23.1   Seanette

      I suspect Grandma is Dad’s mother, and is getting a bit critical of her daughter-in-law.

      Oct 5, 2013 at 3:14 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
    • #23.2   Redheadwglasses

      No, it is the lw’s mom, she says so.

      Oct 5, 2013 at 8:11 am   rating: 2  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #24   gig bang

    Ok, I give in, I’ll post.
    Team Kids all the way.
    When we were on holiday my mother-in law came over and changed the curtains AT me.
    This I translated as her PA way of saying “You are a slut and will never be good enough for my son”!

    Oct 7, 2013 at 1:31 am   rating: 9  small thumbs up

     
  • #25   Coffee

    My mother likes to clean whenever she’s over, and I allow it to an extent. Dishes? Sure, she’s good at them and it’s something we can do together (big kitchen). But organizing ANYTHING? Nope, nada, not happening. Same with her decorating ideas or talk on yard work. I don’t even like talking about that with her.

    Oct 7, 2013 at 8:52 am   rating: 0  small thumbs up

     
  • #26   onlyslightlycraycray

    It also depends who is doing the cleaning. I am giving one child a bath, cleaning supper dishes, helping another child with homework, and cleaning cat puke. My mom: let me help you by folding the load of laundry you threw in the dryer before you left for work. His mom: I ironed and folded the laundry so my precious son and grand kids don’t look like ragamuffins. I noticed you hadn’t scrubbed the kitchen floor properly since I was here last time so I did that. I also hand washed all your dishes and moved the Tupperware to this cabinet because its easier for me to get to.

    Oct 9, 2013 at 10:06 pm   rating: 5  small thumbs up

     
  • #27   Rainne

    Yeah, I’m with the kids on this one. It absolutely ENRAGES me when my mother starts “cleaning” my stuff. She doesn’t know what I have or what my systems are, and more than once has nearly ruined my master’s thesis because she thought my desk was too disorganized.

    Oct 15, 2013 at 2:00 am   rating: 4  small thumbs up

     
  • #28   Tapadance

    In other words, please spend time with the grand kids you might have come here to visit with! Because yes it is insulting to come to another persons home and clean. It’s different if the Mom had asked for help, but just “cleaning” is rude.

    Nov 14, 2013 at 8:05 pm   rating: 0  small thumbs up