“My husband and I eloped in Maui last week because we thought it’d be more fun that way,” says Sarah in Seattle.At least one of her husband’s coworkers — apparently — took this as a snub. (But, you know, in a “Hahahahaha, JUST KIDDING!” clenched-teeth sort of way.)
related: Aaand…the honeymoon’s over.
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#1
L
Same thing happened when I eloped. My boss took it as some sort of personal offense that I didn’t let her know in advance because she would have thrown a party. I mean, she still could have afterwards but apparently she didn’t want to unless she was on the shortlist of people who knew in advance.
Oct 7, 2014 at 2:42 pm rating: 90
#2
CLE_Cardenas
I had a huge wedding and didn’t invite any co-workers. No one was offended.
Oct 7, 2014 at 3:01 pm rating: 90
#3
FeRD
Meanwhile, if Sarah and her fiancee had invited everyone to their Maui wedding, they would’ve been buried under a torrent of bitching about the expense. Sometimes you just can’t win.
Oct 7, 2014 at 3:05 pm rating: 90
#4
kermit
I also don’t understand why people are apparently offended if you elope. You don’t have to buy the couple presents so you’re saving money. (Parents I can understand because all(?) dads presumably look forward to walking their kid down the aisle.)
Unless you’ve viewing the party as a way to get free food and booze, I don’t understand why it’s so upsetting.
Oct 7, 2014 at 3:09 pm rating: 90
#5
Quite Contrary
Personally, I would thank Paul and his fiancee for saving me from another office wedding.
Oct 7, 2014 at 3:11 pm rating: 90
#6
Jami
Who in their right mind wants to go to a coworker’s wedding anyway?
Oct 7, 2014 at 7:11 pm rating: 90
#7
Rachel
This is why people elope.
Oct 7, 2014 at 9:07 pm rating: 90
#8
Roto13
I didn’t tell anyone I worked with that I was getting married which made it really weird when they changed my schedule at the last minute to have me working on my wedding day.
Oct 7, 2014 at 11:18 pm rating: 90
#9
Lita
To me, that comes off as coworker implying something less than savory. “So apparently you married Paul.” As opposed to someone else…?
I’m half-asleep and have been dealing with cats all day, though.
Oct 7, 2014 at 11:45 pm rating: 90
#10
Ana
here I was thinking the person just didn’t like marriage but felt the need to write the conventional congrats (or was told to write it). I see I am alone in this thought.
Oct 8, 2014 at 2:17 am rating: 90
#11
RMM0278
Question. What’s up with the offense people take about not knowing/being invited? My ex boss got super offended that I didn’t say anything about getting married. Mind you, this was all behind my back to everyone else but me, which is fine because I didn’t have to defend myself.
“I’ll never get over this.” — said behind my back nearly every workday until I quit
WTF? I’m usually relieved because I rarely know the person that well and I don’t have to shell out for a gift.
(The reason I kept mum about the whole thing is because I didn’t invite everyone from the office and I didn’t want all the fanfare I was forced to participate in. It’s super rude to expect everyone to pony up for an event that not everyone is invited to.)
Oct 8, 2014 at 8:51 am rating: 90
#12
phoenix
Some people just get nasty whenever anything happens and they aren’t informed. I had a boss who couldn’t get over that my coworker installed hardwood floors without talking to him first. He’d done it once, and “could have saved her a bundle when she hired a guy.”
Despite the fact that her husband installed them, the boss never let it go. He acted genuinely upset.
He acted the same way when I got engaged, when his boss decided to retire, and when a coworker of mine got pregnant. I guess he just thought he was the center of the universe and all info must pass through him, the god of info.
Oct 8, 2014 at 8:53 am rating: 90
#13
buni
One of my coworkers eloped last year. When she returned from her honeymoon, we celebrated with mimosas in the office.
Oct 8, 2014 at 10:31 am rating: 90
#14
Dane Zeller
My wife and I were married twenty-five years ago in Las Vegas. No one was invited. In fact, we didn’t tell anyone about it. The question “when are you guys going to get married?” is hardly asked any more. I recommend this method. No one has been pissed off with us in our family and circle of friends.
Do you think we should tell our children?
Oct 9, 2014 at 12:29 pm rating: 90
#15
labdude
A former co-worker eloped. She was Irish-Catholic, he was Iranian-American.
They figured a wedding might be a little – tense.
Oct 9, 2014 at 3:22 pm rating: 90
#16
John Sandy
Its good idea, We have to enjoy our life not stay at home and just performed rountine work, We have to perform in social activities and fun
Oct 9, 2014 at 4:05 pm rating: 90
#17
Wigwam
I think people are misinterpreting this – surely it’s just a little joke about how no-one knew about the wedding? I.e. not “I’m angry that you didn’t tell me/invite me”, more “You randomly went and got married in secret so, um, congratulations I guess?”
Oct 12, 2014 at 11:05 pm rating: 90
#18
Hyacinth
FYI… in case you missed it, the couple in question eloped. To me that says, we flew to Hawaii on vacation and decided to get married. Perhaps no one was invited.
Oct 27, 2014 at 2:11 pm rating: 90
#19
Kiki
See…I interpreted it completely different. I saw someone who is reacting to the huge amount of tacky decorations on the cube right next door seeking attention.
Nov 14, 2014 at 4:16 pm rating: 91
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