Ah, the warmth of the holiday season

January 27th, 2015 · 56 comments

Writes Taylor in Ontario: “My parents are divorced, and I live with my mom. My dad’s parents can definitely afford to buy more appropriate cards, but they went with this one.”

Feeling the warmth of the holiday season

related: The Happiest Place on Earth

FILED UNDER: family · heartwarming compassion · holiday spirit · Ontario


56 responses so far ↓

  • #1   aaaa

    wish i could read their retarded handwriting

    Jan 27, 2015 at 10:06 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #1.1   LittleBirdy

      Context clues, bud. The note was submitted by Taylor and is addressed to her. She says it’s from her dad’s parents, i.e. “Grandma & Grandpa.” The handwriting isn’t even that bad… I’m guessing you have trouble with cursive? Using a slur was totally unnecessary.

      Jan 27, 2015 at 10:37 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.2   Kat

      I wish someone had told you that the “R” word is outdated and offensive before you decided to show off your ignorance.

      Jan 27, 2015 at 10:40 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.3   Nic

      To be honest, I think you can probably get the point as long as you can read the typed text and the words that have been crossed out.

      But hey, don’t let me stop you from being casually ableist just because you can’t read the name of the submitter (Taylor, as noted in the note’s description) and the fact that the card’s from Grandma & Grandpa (again, as noted in the description).

      Jan 27, 2015 at 1:44 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.4   underwatervulcan

      You should of said “tard”, then the retard police won’t know what you are talking about because only retarded people don’t use the word retard. Duh. If you want proof just look at the animals’ comments above. Instead of responding to the actual slight in the example at the top, the two only commented on a comment about the poor penmanship Grandma has. Nevermind how Grandma acts in reality, the perceived slight to some imaginary anonymous subject is of the highest order and must be dealt with first over reality.

      ‘I wish I could read their extra chromosome writing’

      Jan 27, 2015 at 4:23 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.5   Kat

      I wish you understood the difference between “of” and “have.”

      Jan 29, 2015 at 11:56 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.6   heymoe

      Please consider not using the r-word.
      To use one person’s diagnosis to insult another is clearly tasteless.

      Feb 1, 2015 at 10:19 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.7   underwatervulcan

      Earth to you – Nobody is diagnosed as retarded. If your doctor says someone has a case of the retards – RUN!
      The attempt of policing language is degenerative, anti-communicative and propaganda. Coding above content and trying to keep language static shows some real small mindedness. Penny wise, Pound foolish.

      Feb 2, 2015 at 7:06 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #1.8   The Elf

      I prefer the Christopher Titus definition of “retarded”. It shouldn’t refer to someone with a medical condition. No, it should refer to people who should know better, but keep doing dumb ass stuff anyway. The example he gives: “But if you have everything working perfectly, you have all your facilities about you but you wind up addicted to crystal meth and living under a bridge? You’re fucking retarded.”

      I can get behind that re-definition.

      Feb 3, 2015 at 7:22 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #2   janellionaire

    Yeah man, it’s totally gay to use that word.

    Jan 27, 2015 at 11:07 am   rating: 91  small thumbs up

     
  • #3   kermit

    I don’t have any snide comments about the handwriting, but family members who don’t sign their real name to what’s supposed to be an honest and gracious gesture are aholes.

    Jan 27, 2015 at 11:51 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #3.1   SilentPsycho

      They signed it ‘Grandma and Grandpa’. What’s so wrong about that?

      Jan 27, 2015 at 12:38 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.2   okay...

      Why would they sign the card with their first names when I’m sure she calls them Grandma and Grandpa? That hardly qualifies them as “assholes.”

      Jan 27, 2015 at 2:05 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.3   kermit

      Unless Kyle was of virgin birth, he has two sets of grandparents. Grandpa X and Grandpa Y not only distinguishes them, it is also the courteous, normal thing to do when they’re signing correspondence.

      If you have a sibling, do you call them up and say “Hey sibling, it’s your sibling calling”? Or do you say “Hey Tom, it’s your brother Jerry calling”?

      Jan 27, 2015 at 2:33 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.4   kermit

      ^Taylor, not Kyle.

      Jan 27, 2015 at 2:52 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.5   poopypants

      I’m pretty sure my grandpa signed his letters to me “Grandpa” I knew who they were from because they came in an envelope with an address and everything. I never thought he was a jerk for doing so. He was my grandpa, even when I was in university.

      Jan 27, 2015 at 6:48 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.6   poopypants

      Also, is it just me or does my avatar look like a pixelated penis?

      Jan 27, 2015 at 6:49 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.7   hbc

      A lot of people have different names for their different sets of grandparents. My kids have a Grammy and Memere, so no confusion. Also, if my husband’s dad had gone by Grandad, my dad could still sign a card “Grandad”, given my kids aren’t expecting mail from the afterlife.

      Jan 27, 2015 at 10:57 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.8   assiveProgressive

      memere???

      Jan 28, 2015 at 2:09 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.9   assiveProgressive

      poopy, it looks like a pierced pixelated phallus

      Jan 28, 2015 at 2:12 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.10   Poltergeist

      I think we can all agree that kermit is weird in his/her own way. Do you concur, kermit?

      Jan 28, 2015 at 2:17 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.11   poopypants

      Well… I suppose if it stays to a SINGLE piercing it’s alright…

      Jan 28, 2015 at 4:52 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.12   kermit

      I dunno, Poltergeist. To me, that signature comes off as impersonal and no different than the holiday cards you get from your dentist or optometrist.

      For what it’s worth, in my family everyone calls each other by their name, not by their relation to you. I had/have somewhat hippie parents who didn’t want me to call them mom and dad, but to use their real names, and in turn they never call me “daughter” when they’re talking to me.

      Jan 28, 2015 at 9:37 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.13   Lita bang

      *blink*

      …waitasec. Kermit, you’re female?

      (I’m another one who would be perfectly fine with just “Grandma” and “Grandpa”, honestly. Though I suppose confusion never came up – never knew my maternal grandmother, and maternal grandfather was “Pops” for some reason…)

      Jan 28, 2015 at 2:14 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.14   kermit

      Erm, I doubt that there are still parents out there who name their children Kermit, or any other muppet names. (At least I hope so, for the sake of the kid.)

      Jan 28, 2015 at 3:00 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.15   Lita bang

      Oh you know what I meant. :P (I hope, anyway. Brain is fried and I may not make any sense to anyone but myself.)

      Jan 28, 2015 at 4:16 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.16   Jami

      All my grandparents are dead. So if I got a card from them I’d be freaked out and not worrying about the signature.

      Jan 28, 2015 at 9:11 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.17   SilentPsycho

      On one side I have Nanny and Grandad, and on the other I had Little Nanny. My grandfather on that side died before I was born, so I never got to give him a name.

      I tend to still call people by their honorifics, even though I’m 27 now, because it’s what I’m used to. It’s part of their personal identity to me.

      Plus I have one uncle who gets embarrassed being called ‘Uncle ‘ by an adult, so I make sure to do it as often as possible when I see him. Revenge for a childhood of teasing is best served cold. >:)

      Jan 29, 2015 at 6:28 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.18   The Elf

      So….. bad idea to name my firstborn Doctorteeth?

      Jan 29, 2015 at 8:24 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.19   kermit

      That depends on where you are. If you’re in France, you can’t name your kid Nutella, so I suppose they also frown upon Doctorteeth.

      Jan 29, 2015 at 9:10 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.20   lily

      My grandparents sign all cards to me with ‘Grandma and Grandad’. They know my other grandparents were called Gran and Pop.

      It’s not a weird thing for people to do this, Kermit. It’s definitely not rude (well, not unless you know your grandkids have the same names for both sets of grandparents, but i find THAT weird!)

      Jan 30, 2015 at 11:26 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.21   L

      (Memere is french, if anyone doesn’t know. I think it’s just the french word for grandmother. Mere is mother, memere is grandmother. I think, it’s been a long time.)

      hbc’s icon looks like hipbones of a skeleton to me, anyone else?

      Also everyone called my grandmother either “Rosen” because before they got divorced, it’s be “Rose and Gord”, or “Auntie Rose” because she baby-sat literally generations of kids and half her town, so her grandkids took after them.

      I called both my grandmothers “Grandma” but we lived in the same city as one, and I rarely saw her (family drama) and the other was halfway across the country so it was pretty easy to figure out which grandmother was :P

      Feb 2, 2015 at 7:08 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.22   buni

      I called both my Grandmothers “Grandma” too. But when talking about them to someone else, if I needed to differentiate, I used their initial, so “Grandma B” and “Grandma S”.

      Feb 3, 2015 at 11:45 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.23   BeeKeepr

      Um, I called one Gramma and the other grandmother. That’s how I knew the difference. Besides, couldn’t someone NOT have a relationship with both sets of grandparents…lime if one set died. Duh.

      Feb 3, 2015 at 9:41 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #3.24   BeeKeepr

      Um, I called one Gramma and the other grandmother. That’s how I knew the difference. Besides, couldn’t someone NOT have a relationship with both sets of grandparents…like if one set died. Duh.

      Feb 3, 2015 at 9:43 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #4   The Beast Among Us

    We hate your mom, because she wouldn’t forgive our son for a fourth time after he slept with another stripper and contracted syphilis.

    Jan 27, 2015 at 1:05 pm   rating: 91  small thumbs up

     
  • #5   Jami

    Bitter much, Grannie & Grampie?

    Jan 27, 2015 at 1:08 pm   rating: 91  small thumbs up

    • #5.1   kaetra

      Curmudgeons are a Christmas tradition.

      Jan 27, 2015 at 1:14 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.2   The Elf

      They make me want to stand on top of mount crumpet, hating the whos.

      Jan 28, 2015 at 7:05 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #5.3   Lita bang

      Don’t knock the power of a good curmudge.

      Jan 28, 2015 at 2:14 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #6   Nic

    To our grandchild, in the spirit not of love, but of familial duty:

    We hope you’re healthy and everything in your life is going well…but we just can’t bring ourselves to accept the idea of any of the people you care about also being healthy and happy. In short, we’re OK with you being happy, but anyone close to you, well, they’d just better be having a rotten time.

    No love or kisses, Grandma and Grandpa!

    Jan 27, 2015 at 1:54 pm   rating: 91  small thumbs up

     
  • #7   pooham

    Nothing like taking your hate out on the kids. No wonder divorce is no big deal to most kids.

    Jan 27, 2015 at 2:00 pm   rating: 91  small thumbs up

     
  • #8   Kasaba

    I have this memory stuck in my head of my maternal grandmother screaming at my dad that he was “a ball of slime” in the driveway of her house, at the time of my parents’ divorce (I was 9). He was nothing of the sort, but I think she was lashing out, because her daughter was going through a lot of pain. Mom didn’t really want to divorce, dad did. When everything had settled, she spoke to him and of him in a kind manner again.

    Maybe grandma and grandpa will come round.

    Jan 27, 2015 at 3:50 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #8.1   The Elf

      Or they’re just aholes and the divorce brought it out.

      Jan 28, 2015 at 7:07 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #8.2   L

      *point at Elf*

      This. My paternal grandmother hated my mother all my life, and didn’t exactly become more respectful after my parents broke up.

      Meanwhile my aunt is fully convinced that my father caused her to go into premature labour (my cousin was born something like 8 weeks early, very severely early), but if I didn’t think he was horrible, she would never speak an unkind word to me about him, even at now that I’m in my 20s.

      Feb 2, 2015 at 7:11 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #9   Ed Decatur

    Taylor,
    I hope you will ask your grandparents why “and yours” is crossed out. Just by asking the question you will force them to think about the affect it might have on you.

    And of course, we would love it if you posted their response.

    Jan 27, 2015 at 7:06 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

     
  • #10   Court

    Guess he should of lived with dad

    Jan 28, 2015 at 1:14 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #10.1   buni

      I know no one likes the grammar police; and the first time I saw this mistake above I was going to let it go. But please, it’s should HAVE, or should’ve.

      Jan 28, 2015 at 11:15 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.2   Amy in Toronto

      Thank you buni! My eyes were starting to itch.

      Jan 28, 2015 at 2:22 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.3   pooham

      I’m gonna admit that shoulda is also ok in my book.

      Jan 28, 2015 at 3:25 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
    • #10.4   L

      It’s like “kinda” or “gonna”. It’s so obviously slang that you can go “okay, we’ll just run with it”.

      Feb 2, 2015 at 7:12 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #11   Arhi

    Not only anyone can afford a more appropriate card, I am 100% sure that they went to a special trouble of finding a card with this particular wording just so they can cross the (ir)relevant parts out.

    The new year is kicked off properly on this site!

    Jan 28, 2015 at 8:25 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #11.1   L

      …if they are so broke they can’t buy the 75% off box of 100 cards in the after-holiday sales, then they can save the money on the ink and wish this person’s entire family a happy holiday, not be rude.

      Feb 2, 2015 at 7:13 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #12   L

    In a funny version of this, my mother gave me a last minute Easter or Valentine’s day or something card last year. I live with her, I’m single with no kids, and I have no siblings.

    She gave me a “happy whatever to you and family” card.

    Feb 2, 2015 at 7:15 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

    • #12.1   buni

      She obviously was including herself in the well wishes.

      Feb 3, 2015 at 11:48 am   rating: 90  small thumbs up

       
     
  • #13   FeRD bang

    I just read all these comments, and the level of passive-aggression on display here trumps most of the notes I’ve seen over the past five years. Well done, you mangy bunch of sniping snots. :P

    Feb 3, 2015 at 10:28 pm   rating: 90  small thumbs up

     

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