Shortly after he moved out, our submitter in Canada discovered that her ex-roommate had glued a memo for the room’s future occupant inside his bedroom closet — “his final passive-aggressive attempt to get under my skin.”
related: You’re not as bad as everyone warned me you’d be!
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#1
Lulz
LOL @ how she ripped it up in a fiery rage after seeing it!
Oct 18, 2012 at 9:08 pm rating: 90
#2
Team roommate.
I’m with the ex-roommate on this one.
Oct 18, 2012 at 9:19 pm rating: 90
#3
Kara
But seriously- who the hell leaves clean dishes in the sink??
Oct 18, 2012 at 9:23 pm rating: 90
#4
DNH
“…like boxing a glacier”
What a great metaphor…on so many levels.
Oct 18, 2012 at 9:37 pm rating: 90
#5
Kitty
Team ex-room mate. The submitter sounds like a frustrating person to live with. I think we’re just seeing the tip of the iceberg of the crazy that occurred between these two.
Oct 18, 2012 at 9:37 pm rating: 90
#6
Grammar Popo
I don’t know. She sounds kinda awesome to me.
Oct 18, 2012 at 10:51 pm rating: 90
#7
Dean Treadway
Wow…five uses of the word “annoying.” I think of that word as something that connotes stuff that bothers me, but that I can live with.
Oct 18, 2012 at 10:55 pm rating: 90
#8
shwo!
“She has so little self-awareness that she will submit this note about herself to a Web site without pausing to consider the fact that it paints her in a bad light.”
Oct 18, 2012 at 11:10 pm rating: 90
#9
NEYNEY
no body makes this shit up…i vote for the moved outer. i would be outty in 2 secs flat if i saw that note, no explanations
Oct 18, 2012 at 11:44 pm rating: 90
#10
sduck
The fact that the ex-roomie would glue a bitchy note to the closet in the first place kind of diminishes his credibility. Maybe the woman should send a note along to his future roommate, warning about he lies around the apartment in stinky socks and leaves his hair clogging the shower drain.
Oct 19, 2012 at 12:28 am rating: 90
#11
Sir Puke
This is not a good sign (accidental pun).
Oct 19, 2012 at 12:46 am rating: 90
#12
Aaron
Too many pronouns. I spent about five minutes trying to parse the sentence assuming that “our submitter” was the “he” in the “shortly before her moved out”. But then, who’s the “her”?
I don’t know whether that’s a dangling modifier or what you call it, but it hurt my head.
Oct 19, 2012 at 2:35 am rating: 90
#13
starspring
She yells at her dog all the time. That pretty much tells you what you need to know about the person you are moving in with-nearly everything on the list sounds like rational beefs you could have within an small apartment-even if the dog is not the problem it sounds pretty clear from what else is written that the roommate doesn’t know or care whether her voice carries. If you have ever lived in mixed housing or in dorm rooms you know there are always some assholes whose mommy spoiled them into thinking they were the center of the universe and whatever comes out of their mouth is spun gold-you can hear them across a courtyard-and they are always the MOST butthurt when someone tells them to keep it down and the least gifted at modulating their voices in public/private spaces. Having lived with one or two over the years, they make horrible roommates-which is probably the very good reason the roommate was so fed up with her he finally moved out. Who wants a roommate that yells all the time, even if that’s just at the TV? a home should be someplace you can relax, not be perpetually shaken by someone loudly disciplining their dog. I love dogs but lazy pet owners blow-and they make terrible roommates.
Oct 19, 2012 at 4:13 am rating: 90
#14
Strawberry Creme
It seems to me that he didn’t write this for the next occupant of the room. He wrote it specifically so that she would see it after he was safely far away. That seems more important to me than the contents of the note, which may or may not be true or exaggerated. Looks like an excuse to call her ‘annoying’.
Oct 19, 2012 at 6:37 am rating: 90
#15
The Elf
Sounds like the roommate is rather easily annoyed.
“She has an annoying voice”. Really? This is your complaint?
“She never turns on the heat”. Oh, the great thermostat wars. Well, you can put more clothes on but you can’t take more off. Point to the person who likes it cold.
“She washes dishes but doesn’t take them out of the sink.” But she washes them, right? That puts her well above some of the other roommate wars we’ve seen here!
Plus leaving a secret note is both passive-aggressive and way too late to be of use. Easily Annoyed Former Roommate needed to stalk the entrance to grab prospective roommates before they sign up for anything.
Oct 19, 2012 at 7:28 am rating: 90
#16
je
“Quite the peculiar roommate”? I don’t think anything that the note writer wrote makes the roommate peculiar. Assuming everything is true, it could make them insensitive to others, annoying, frustrating, but peculiar? I have a feeling that this person hasn’t had too many roommates. Or a Mom that told them to suck it up….especially about the heat.
Oct 19, 2012 at 7:46 am rating: 90
#17
QBall
I would have made copies and glued them in all the conspicuous places, under toilet seat, in bin lid, on top of stereo in the bottom of the sink under the clean dishes.. then get therapy
Oct 19, 2012 at 9:20 am rating: 90
#18
Spooky
No one else sees what’s so obvious to me?
It’s unrequited love.
Oct 19, 2012 at 9:59 am rating: 90
#19
Speedy
She sounds like my old roomie, except my roomie never cleaned her own dishes.
Oct 19, 2012 at 10:04 am rating: 90
#20
Mrs.Scrooge
It’s much more uncomfortable to be too hot than too cold, so for that particular point, I side with peculiar roommate. I find it hard to breathe when someone cranks the heat up too high.
And to those of you whining about how cold 60F is – PUH-LEASE! You’ve obviously never had to foot the bill for an oil heated home in New England. My ‘stat is programmed for 59F from 11 pm – 6 am and we survive every night just fine. I do bump it up to 62 or 63 during daytime, inhabited hours and still we manage not to die off of hypothermia. Put a freaking sweater on! That’s what wool socks and electric blankets are made for.
Oct 19, 2012 at 1:21 pm rating: 90
#21
Earl
This site has recently alerted me to two behaviors so bizarre I never considered them possible: people who leave cabinet doors open and people who leave clean dishes in the sink. Effing bizarre.
Oct 19, 2012 at 3:22 pm rating: 90
#22
Roomie
“Firstly, my pup is a smelly beast, but I love her.
I played loud music and talked on Skype but asked him if it bothered him or if I was keeping him up and he said it was fine, that he was a heavy sleeper and it wasn’t disturbing.
Yeah, I have a high body temperature, and I did suggest if he were cold a space heater might be the way to go. Apparently that was not considerate and a compromise, but annoying.
The arguing thing is probably the only accurate point.
I do not yell at my dog.
My voice is what it is. He mumbles and says stupid things. I found that annoying, but didn’t make a list of all of the reasons he was the worst roommate on the planet.
I sanitize one side of the sink and put my clean dishes in there so they can dry. Apparently that’s more annoying than someone who never does his dishes?
I may be peculiar. This made me laugh.”
Oct 19, 2012 at 6:59 pm rating: 90
#23
kermit
Even if that’s true, it’s still scummy to reveal their identity without their permission, Someone.
Oct 19, 2012 at 8:13 pm rating: 90
#24
The Peculiar Roommate
Firstly, I just want to say that I did not submit this. Someone saw it on my Facebook and posted it here (I did not know that this website existed until someone told me this was here, today).
Secondly, I did not tear the paper in a fit of rage. In fact, I laughed when I found the paper because, having lived with this guy for a month and a half, this was not at all a surprise. He never once mentioned these things to me while living here, and I wouldn’t have even known he planned to move but for the fact that he flew off the handle one morning and yelled it at me in his own ‘fit of rage’.
Thirdly, the heat thing was a huge contention. I suggested he get a space heater, because when I turn the heat on to 65 downstairs, it becomes 80 upstairs (way too hot for sleeping), so I prefer to keep it off at night. His complaint was that it was too cold for him to sleep; I was willing to pay for the additional energy consumption of his space heater, but he would rather walk around in his underwear (true story) complaining about how cold it was.
As for my voice, my new roommate said I have a lovely voice. Also, my job entails making phone calls, and I didn’t get the job because I have a horrible voice (I’m often complimented on my ‘perfect tone’). This guy mumbled and you could never understand a word he said, and he would come home talking loudly on his phone while I was working. Very inconsiderate.
And to ‘Someonewhoknows’ – very classy putting my identity on here. Just so you know, it doesn’t bother me, because I’ve nothing to hide. The whole situation was rather amusing, really. And I’m happy with my new roommate, so all’s well that ends well.
Oct 19, 2012 at 8:58 pm rating: 90
#25
Nunavut Guy
Whatever happened to the times when your roommate just hit the bong with his headphones on and the windows open?
Oct 19, 2012 at 10:32 pm rating: 90
#26
Bluecanary
When I was much younger I rented a room from a woman who seemed perfectly nice and sane. At first. Turned out that she was a paranoid schizophrenic who spent every night stomping around the house talking to invisible people. One night I went on a date and came home to find the locks changed (with all my stuff inside the house) and a HUGE sign taped to the door stating that I was evicted because she’d heard me talking bad about her on the phone in my bedroom. (I did not HAVE a phone in my bedroom.) I had to call the cops to make her let me take my belongings from the house. The cops knew her, and told me that she did the same thing about every three months: advertise for a roommate, get a roommate, kick roommate out in the middle of the night, refuse to give roommate back stuff until the cops come. I asked him why they didn’t do something about her, and his response was “Well, nothing illegal about advertising for a roommate.” Of course I left a note hidden in the closet for the next poor bastard who might find themselves in my situation. I can only hope it prevented them from having to stuff all their worldly possessions into the back of their car at 2am. Or perhaps being murdered in their sleep.
THAT was a situation that required a hidden warning note. This, this is just stupid shit.
Oct 20, 2012 at 9:47 am rating: 90
#27
Tom
Yeah, I was about to say, inside the closet is a decent spot. Roomate herself is not extremely likely to find it, but anyone surveying the apartment to move in will definitely be sticking their head around every corner and would likely spot the note.
Even if only half the stuff on this note was true, I wouldn’t have been able to live with her. Mostly because I found out that I can’t deal with living with anybody else, period (thank god when I got out of college, seriously). And a voice that’s nice sounding to one person can sound awful to another – I know plenty of people who have nice “voices” but their inflection and tone drive me up a wall.
Oct 20, 2012 at 10:44 pm rating: 90
#28
Jonesy
Oh, dear Lord! Enough with the “Team Such-and-such,” already! It’s over. Really.
Oct 21, 2012 at 1:00 pm rating: 90
#29
Wrench
The temperature thing would be a deal-breaker for me. I’m always cold. I have really poor circulation and my hands and feet get very painful if it’s too cold. A space heater seems like kind of a crappy solution unless the roommate was going to get one for every room, or just never leave his room. Extra layers of clothes don’t really help, either, unless you wear boot socks and heavy gloves all the time — again, not very practical.
So… yeah, team ex-roommate.
Oct 21, 2012 at 3:07 pm rating: 90
#30
Rinny
At least this roomie offered the space heater solution. My roommate is extremely spartan with the thermostat, not because of comfort or energy costs, but simply because it’s ‘good for the planet.’ If I change it by one degree, she will flip at me. So I can only imagine how enraged she would be if I had a space heater running in my room.
Oct 22, 2012 at 12:10 am rating: 90
#31
Susie
In response to:
“I sanitize one side of the sink and put my clean dishes in there so they can dry. Apparently that’s more annoying than someone who never does his dishes?”
How is he supposed to do his dishes if the sink is full of clean ones?? I mean who does that!
Oct 22, 2012 at 6:33 am rating: 90
#32
Lisbeth
Why are people weirded out about the dishes? You wash and rinse in one side, air dry in the other. What’s strange about that? It’s not how everyone does it, but it’s far from unusual.
I once had a roommate who woke very early for classes when I worked late nights and slept later. She would listen to the tv at quite a loud volume right next to my room, waking me up. I offered to *give* her a tv to watch in her bedroom just during the very early hours. She refused because she, “didn’t have to bow to my wishes.” Some people just don’t know how to share space.
Oct 22, 2012 at 10:50 pm rating: 90
#33
raichu
Some of the roommate’s behavior sounds obnoxious (like staying up late so Skype loudly enough to bother one’s housemates). Some of it sounds like not that big of a deal (you’re upset that she leaves clean dishes in the sink? What?). Either way, note-writer should have taken up those issues with her, and leaving a PAN in his closet to start off the new roommate relationship with bad relations after he leaves is kind of a dick move.
Oct 24, 2012 at 6:51 pm rating: 90
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